knowing how some women brain are wired, she would be thinking of implicating the husband's friend that led him to this discovery.

FEAR WOMEN!

Hey ma'am, its obvious you aren't remorseful on the act. I'm not going to judge you but try put yourself in your husband's shoes, would you be happy if he had done that to you kept it a secret.

Let go of that job and open flat to your man, he might not hear you out the first time but just be persistent come to think of it. I see another flow of real battle from your boss' camp (that's his wife).

It obvious you fall too fast for men outside your marraige, try work on it as soon as possible before this addiction destroys you.

Shallom

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There is no denying the fact that the trust between couples is crucial to the stability of their relationship together. And trust is not only broken when a partner cheats on the other, little things like lying and deception can easily cause a rift between couples. Now if trust is broken in a relationship, how should couples work on recovering it back? Here, check out these helpful guidelines.
Address the issue

The moment you discover your partner’s infidelity, you need to confront him with his crime. Mind you, it’s extremely important you keep your cool and don’t turn your confrontation into a big fight! Listen to his side of the story with your emotions in check, then you evaluate his response if it's remorseful, apologetic or nonchalant as that will determine if you can work on trusting him again.
Answer all questions

The person who broke the trust should be ready to answer every question asked without withholding anything. Even if the questions might be unnecessary to you, you need to give answers to them all without being defensive or accusatory. Bringing all your actions to the limelight is one step towards making your partner come to terms with it.
Take responsibility

Accept your crime without putting up any excuse for your actions. Then, patiently you give your partner as much time as possible to rebuild trust for you, it might take days, months even years (it ain't possible to get your partner’s trust back overnight). Your patience and deep remorse for your actions can go a long way towards bringing back that connection you had with your partner.

Dyt:
Everyone saying quit job


Yes
She has admitted her mistakes
She's pleading
Still pleading
Dunno why it's hard for men to forgive sha
Not like she's still with him sef
Hian
Very selfish set of humans





Y'all should take a chill pill
And stop quoting me


Y'all condemning her
Yes we all make mistakes
This is hers and she's willing to correct

So easy to throw jabs at people looking for hope
Like they haven't made mistakes once or twice in their lifetime

Typical!!!

Cheating women don't knw d implications of what dey are really doin ...a woman is her husbands source of pride ..we men brag about our wives ...our wives are like a brand new Ferrari sports car dat only us drive with care and pleasure ... Nw imagine hw d husband will feel if dsame car he thought was brand new has been wrecked in an accident before by previous users ...women should be careful ...na man go marry Una not women marrying demself so its safe to say its a mans world ...for d Op jus pray to God thr is notin d Lord cannot do

ednut1:
bros imagine rubbish, d boss go dey laugh during d wedding say see my left over. the first place wey i work, i catch my oga nacking our sexy secretary. yet na jesus dp and posts full her whatapp and facebook . hoes everywhere

Lmao... It's serious. Truly hoes everywhere. hian!!

and ure blaming him? it wasn't a fling from his side woman

Yorubest:
Good morning family

I can't sleep and cried all night

I've been married for 3yrs with a son

Before getting married I dated my husband for less than a year and everything was fine.

I don't want to bore you with the details but before getting married, my husband and I agreed to be honest and tell each other everything. I told him about my previous affairs and he didn't have problem with it but I couldn't tell him about the one with my present GM because I still work with him.

Somehow, he got to find out through one his friends who knows my boss. It's not as if he was told the details but he came from a meeting last Friday asking so many questions. It was about my boss and I had to confess to him.

Although what I had with my boss was a fling, he felt I was too cheap as he never asked me out but told me meet him in his house when his wife was away and I did and it happened. Just twice.

My husband keeps saying he doesn't trust me anymore. He's stopped touching me and he rarely talks to me and raises his voice now

He has a good job that pays well and his salary dwarfs mine but I love the job and my career.

What can I do to win him back? I'm confused. Help. No insults please

royalroy

so you bleeped your MARRIED boss abi?
NOW you're married and karma is biting back

Thank GOD!

Somebody must start fucking your husband to in Jesus name

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[quote author=zinachidi post=54222752][/quote]you are talking rubbish. It is your type that encourages marriage breakups. You speak without even considering the enormity of her keeping such a secrete from her husband, until he got to know about it himself. How on earth do u want dat man to ever trust her again? May be to u marriage is not worth sacrificing that's why you are giving her that crapy advice. because if it does, I'm very sure you won't. Big up

[quote author=zinachidi post=54222752][/quote]

AND YOU WILL GIVE HER ANOTHER HUSBAND

I just love the way we Nigerians read in between lines. I thought i was the only one that saw the "JUST" she wrote as offensive.

It would be good if she takes the advice of quitting her job to secure her marriage.

Just ke!

sex is a bond. he f you twice he can still f you again and again marriage doesn't guarantee fidelity.

What can I do to win him back? I'm confused. Help. No insults please

royalroy[/quote]

You have already insulted yourself enough so we understand that.
You have said it all, no brain in your head. Your husband already knew everything but wanted to hear it from your very mouth. You had a fling with ur boss twice ' you love ur job in other words because u love ur boss? Clap for yourself.

Cutehector:
Just twice? Woman! Just twice?



U sounded like twice was a small thing... Adultery is adultery. Don't even matter if penetrative sex was involved... As long as u find urself lusting after a man dats not ur husband, u are already guilty of adultery..


Now to d second part, ur husband doesn't trust u anymore. Dats fatal! Believe me.. Once a man can't trust his wife again then there is absolutely nothing she will do that will make him trust her back..

I think maybe the first thing u gotta do is to quit ur job if u really mean u are sorry...

u Don marry? she slept with her boss before marriage oo, not after. I agree, she needs to quit her job.


he will trust her again, after she quits her job of course.

kelechi17:
Cheating women don't knw d implications of what dey are really doin ...a woman is her husbands source of pride ..we men brag about our wives ...our wives are like a brand new Ferrari sports car dat only us drive with care and pleasure ... Nw imagine hw d husband will feel if dsame car he thought was brand new has been wrecked in an accident before by previous users ...women should be careful ...na man go marry Una not women marrying demself so its safe to say its a mans world ...for d Op jus pray to God thr is notin d Lord cannot do

Abeg help me ring the bell o,women no dey wan hear word all this feminist clamouring for only God knows what are only deceiving ladies and confusing u all.
A woman/wife cheating on her partner is not the same as the reverse o!!! A man can cheat on his spouse,will get condemned and bashed but will easily get out of the mess soon and also get forgiven soon.This is not the same for women so it's better u don't even try it .

slap1:

LOL kilode?

Your boss f^cked you two good times and you termed it "Just twice"?

Father Lord, please help us the good guys never to have oloshos come nigh us as wives. Amen ooo

Yorubest:
Good morning family

I can't sleep and cried all night

I've been married for 3yrs with a son

Before getting married I dated my husband for less than a year and everything was fine.

I don't want to bore you with the details but before getting married, my husband and I agreed to be honest and tell each other everything. I told him about my previous affairs and he didn't have problem with it but I couldn't tell him about the one with my present GM because I still work with him.

Somehow, he got to find out through one his friends who knows my boss. It's not as if he was told the details but he came from a meeting last Friday asking so many questions. It was about my boss and I had to confess to him.

Although what I had with my boss was a fling, he felt I was too cheap as he never asked me out but told me meet him in his house when his wife was away and I did and it happened. Just twice.

My husband keeps saying he doesn't trust me anymore. He's stopped touching me and he rarely talks to me and raises his voice now

He has a good job that pays well and his salary dwarfs mine but I love the job and my career.

What can I do to win him back? I'm confused. Help. No insults please

royalroy

just 2 times

pweetixandy:
u Don marry? she slept with her boss before marriage oo, not after. I agree, she needs to quit her job.


he will trust her again, after she quits her job of course.

no I am not married and I don't need to get married to profer advice in issues like this... Its silly to think one has to have an experience in a cause before preferring advice... God gives wisdom freely to whomever he wishes.. Its in the bible.. Use it

and you will give her another husband


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Cutehector:
Just twice? Woman! Just twice?



U sounded like twice was a small thing... Adultery is adultery. Don't even matter if penetrative sex was involved... As long as u find urself lusting after a man dats not ur husband, u are already guilty of adultery..


Now to d second part, ur husband doesn't trust u anymore. Dats fatal! Believe me.. Once a man can't trust his wife again then there is absolutely nothing she will do that will make him trust her back..

I think maybe the first thing u gotta do is to quit ur job if u really mean u are sorry...

it happen b4 she got married , if ur boss still make advances on u then u ve to quit,

look for anoda job or u look for anoda husband

enigmaticlion:
Madam stop lying, it's probably more than twice and I'm very sure it's still happening. I hope you didn't Bleep all your staff members too just to get on in life. That's why I don talk am say Olosho for hotel no Sabi work reach the so-called good girls in da hood. You're not fit for marriage till you clear your entire past starting with your yeye boss wey use prick employ you. Can you just imagine, the mumu husband would have danced and danced on your wedding day not knowing that he's marrying a condemned puna. Na wa for you o. Your redemption is at the monastery.

ahahahahahahahahahahahaha

But ur husband try o.. I cnt stand to hear my wife tellin me she had sex wt her boss twice den i stil dy talk to her..
Frm d way ur soundin ur job is evn more important dan ur husband, dats y u gave it to ur boss...
Check ur motives, if d love u got for ur job is greater dan dat of ur hubby den face d job, divorce d man, live happily...
If u love ur hubby is more dan d job den resign...
Provided dat ur boss has collected two times frm u, he will kip on collectin til he retired, u cnt deny him

Eddygourdo:
you are dull, won't bring myself to ur level to exchange words, go and do as I advised and meanwwhile keep ur foolish opinions to urself, stop polluting the enviornment with ur idiocy. People read these threads and shouldn't have to read most of the rubbish you dole out often in the name of posts. Get off my mentions and go get a man. If ur Hot (especilly with the manhood mention) get a cucumber since u can't get a man. A very large one to satisfy the industrial borehole between ur legs. Now Bleep off my mentions. Continue with ur foolery elsewhere

Industrail borehole.. Chia

'what I had with my boss was a fling, he felt I was too cheap as he never asked me out but told me meet him in his house when his wife was away and I did and it happened. Just twice.'

'Just twice' - You never and still don't see anything wrong in the life you lived and probably still live. You have broke the heart and trust of a man who was ready to accept you 'no matter what'. He only requested the truth but you decided to lie, a sign that you probably never believed in him.

As suggested by 'Gbokukueba', get yourself another job and try to rebuild your marriage. Except of course there is more to this story than you would like to tell.

Wish you the best.

...I dont know how folks cant see that the op and 'her' story is as fake as Nicky Minaj's bumbum ....


....and predictably Nairaland males(more than half of who believes cheating by men,married and single is fine)are up in arms with their hypocritical comments..una no get work honestl.y

Choose one option only
A) marriage
B) that particular job.
That all.

The one wey just dey annoying me is that You call twice straffing a fling! Fear women

Just resign and you will have your husband back.