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LordAdam16:
Seriously @ the bolded!!!

So the guy doesn't see plenty to choose from out there?

We're at a very awful point when it is acceptable to entertain offers outside because the flame isn't as bright as it was on day 1?

If ladies are so sure they're always going to get guys 10x better than guys they are in a relationship with, what's the point in entering relationships? Statistically, each of us has more than 1 person who is right for us.

So what, guys have to accept that they're just holding the gate until someone else (*10x better*) pops along? No wonder we hear sh*t like, the problem ain't you, I just don't feel it anymore. Then months later, they're back with the usual it was a mistake, I didn't know what got into me.

@Giel, I'm about going ballistic here.

A girl who has to turn guys down isn't doing her guy a favor. She's doing herself a favor 95% of the time. The other 5% has to be sacrifice for what they have together. If she decides what they have together isn't worth preserving, then yeah just call it off. Don't make it sound like a lady in a relationship is managing the guy.

And maybe this just beefs up the reason why guys shouldn't do next level sh*t with or for a lady who they haven't wedded. It's a bloody waste. Imagine the insolence. Even if she has to turn down Buhari's son, that's not on me. She has good reason to, if she doesn't, she can go warm his bed.

-Lord

NemzySeries:
lol.... i no need pastor to tell me

LordAdam16:
Seriously @ the bolded!!!

So the guy doesn't see plenty to choose from out there?

We're at a very awful point when it is acceptable to entertain offers outside because the flame isn't as bright as it was on day 1?

If ladies are so sure they're always going to get guys 10x better than guys they are in a relationship with, what's the point in entering relationships? Statistically, each of us has more than 1 person who is right for us.

So what, guys have to accept that they're just holding the gate until someone else (*10x better*) pops along? No wonder we hear sh*t like, the problem ain't you, I just don't feel it anymore. Then months later, they're back with the usual it was a mistake, I didn't know what got into me.

@Giel, I'm about going ballistic here.

A girl who has to turn guys down isn't doing her guy a favor. She's doing herself a favor 95% of the time. The other 5% has to be sacrifice for what they have together. If she decides what they have together isn't worth preserving, then yeah just call it off. Don't make it sound like a lady in a relationship is managing the guy.

And maybe this just beefs up the reason why guys shouldn't do next level sh*t with or for a lady who they haven't wedded. It's a bloody waste. Imagine the insolence. Even if she has to turn down Buhari's son, that's not on me. She has good reason to, if she doesn't, she can go warm his bed.

-Lord

SonsOfLiverpool:
thank you very much.

I saw her post and I wondered the kind of person she is. just imagine the way she reasons. I was feeling sympathetic to her own story until I saw that post and the next one. shows she is part of her problem.

Trash

Giel:
I get ur point. Every one wants to feel appreciated/celebrated not tolerated, no one wants to get the impression from their partner that the partner is just managing them for whatsoever reason.

I mean telling some one or making someone feel that ur just managing them especially with the added clause of "afterall I can get or there are people better than you" is damaging to the self esteem, and is capable of making some leave.

You won't even tell or make ur friends feel that ur just managing them. Why do that to ur partner.

I agree with u

LordAdam16:
Trust me, 95% of ladies reason exactly like her.

That is the sad reality.

-Lord

samuel051:
Trained her from HND 2 till nysc, though she used to assist me in my ond days wen things were tough for me, because of a little argument,she asked me wat have i ever done for her,this was sum1 her mom said she wont go for HND,told her to go get married,she cried and cried no be small,na so we stay together,buy text books and everything,even bought clothes for her,feeding and everything was on me for more than 4 years because after service we were still together, d day she made that statement, my head spin,she apologised sha,but i lost interest in her till i had to call everything off,we still talk till date but,it has made me to mind the way i help people.

SonsOfLiverpool:
That statement shows she's still a young spoilt brat and probably deserves what she got from her previous relationship.

i guess they can only do that to puccies. not gods like myself.

Merceline:
*clears throat* luckily for me no regrets. we have made Xs out of each other many times. when we provoke each other to the point of no return, we go cool off and come back again to start from where we stopped. we have lasted long but sadly we have no idea what the future holds for us

Pearly255:
Ladies You are a Queen, created for a KING STOP settling for the Joker... I once made a huge mistake too ashamed to talk about it. I just pray he never cross my part cos am gonna take off his eye balls How do one recognize a joker Jokers everywhere Don't misquote me am just saying my mind. How do one differentiate KINGS, GREAT MINDS, REAL MEN from play boyz jokers I don tire I swear! In fact being single is my hobby.

emperormossad:
It holds Nufin.

emperormossad:
It holds Nufin.

LordAdam16:
Trust me, 95% of ladies reason exactly like her.

That is the sad reality.

-Lord

LordAdam16:
N*gga that is brutal.

No small hope sef.

-Lord

Pearly255:
I honestly don't know

Merceline:
his hope is of no consequence whether positive or negative. what makes his assertion funny is his ignorance of the fact

samuel051:
i still help people anytime i can because i am sumone dat feels guilty if i refuse sumone something d person really needs and i have dat thing. just that i am very cautious of the character of d people i am helping,some people only know u exist wen dey need ur help and after getting wat dey want,wen next dem see u, dem go AKON(lock up) so i dey apply wisdom.

samuel051:
Trained her from HND 2 till nysc, though she used to assist me in my ond days wen things were tough for me, because of a little argument,she asked me wat have i ever done for her,this was sum1 her mom said she wont go for HND,told her to go get married,she cried and cried no be small,na so we stay together,buy text books and everything,even bought clothes for her,feeding and everything was on me for more than 4 years because after service we were still together, d day she made that statement, my head spin,she apologised sha,but i lost interest in her till i had to call everything off,we still talk till date but,it has made me to mind the way i help people.

uzoclinton:
On the day we broke up I bought her a plate of rice,, with meat.. even I don't eat with meat... I still regret that day till today.

soso22:
I am still on my first know stress.

ZarZar:
Lol, there's no man that could ever make me lose my sense for good. I always laugh to myself when they think they've "got" me, because feelings to me mean nothing. I can sit & endure the pain of losing someone if it means I can still hold on to the things I value the most. My pride & stubborness won't ever let me be humiliated in the name of love.

cutedharmee:
Always complaining bout d mum nur giving him enof while in skul, sent money to him and had to enter gbese of #100,000. Such won't repeat itself sha o

Olubee22:
exactly ! Am always prepared for the worst .

emperormossad:
If you're humiliated, then it was never love.

ZarZar:
Same here. Not that "the worst" doesn't hurt when it eventually happens. Because it does. A lot. You just have to soldier on. It's not the end of the world.

Hotfreeze:
Congrats bro.

You escaped marrying someone who didn't love you and she missed marrying someone who truly loved her.

Ladies at her age choose swag over class. In a decade, she would see you and be hiding in shame.

My ex left me for a guy in Zenith cos I was a student back then. When I got to my final year on school, he lost his job and couldn't get others so quickly. Then, I was preparing to go to Law School.

When I started working, she started calling me and all. She was crying, begging me to forgive her. This was someone who had already done introduction with the other guy. I told her I accepted, we hung out, had sex a couple of times (na my pension) before I told her off.

Now, I show love to my parents and my siblings' kids and I'm so happy. I remember when I called my mom and told her 'Mommy, I love you', she was crying. She thought I was going to die.

My brother, leave those girls o. In 5 years time, she'll know the difference between swag and class.

Desmo240:
Giving him my virginity then realised hes not worth it Giving him my virginity then realised hes not worth it

ZarZar:
Well, it'd be a challenge for me because it's something new. Even if it happened, I doubt it'd go very far because I don't like too much feelings, particularly when I feel consumed by them. I'd run like the wind!

emperormossad:
It possible for you to adopt a more positive outlook to things. If you really believe good things happen, then you'll put the past where it truly belongs.

Mzsolmi:
I regret nothing.They are all in the past.Already lost hope in r/ship.just live for yaself n make ppl you cherish n love happy (FAM).

emperormossad:
Being prepared for the worst shows good planning. But that shouldn't prevent you from expecting the best. No coin has one side. It will either be good or bad. So why only settle for bad?