skypeme:


But the money she added is just too much 22,700 - 11,500 = 11,200 naira

skypeme:


My marriage will not crash IJN, I repeat that you bro

zaynie:
I add money all the time.
And I work. And earn just right.
In fact anytime I am pregnant is a money making period for me. I once chopped my antenatal money and didn't register for my second pregnancy on time, my husband had to follow me to the hospital like an errant child to pay by himself. When my kids are about to start eating solid food, haaaaa small small money most pop in.
Even to buy drugs, I add money and dispose receipts. The day my husband found out our brand of cough syrup isn't up to 1000, he came home and started hailing me.



Bro, you need to lighten up.
I bet you were so high strung when you called her. Feeling so righteously angry and judgy.
And you sound so uptight too. You calculate her allowance in %, you call the hospital to confirm the bill, you want to slash her allowance because she was rude. You are her husband and not her father or her boss.
Relax!!
Does she spend anyhow? She probably is keeping all these money somewhere to start a business or do her own thing.

Acidosis:
I don't know how to advise you as I'm not married.

But of a fact, I believe you saw these traits and tendencies while dating so I won't condemn her actions. There is no way you will date a woman in 6 months and not notice her countenance towards money. Some men are totally cool with such actions anyway.

For me, I can't live with a woman that demands or expects monthly salary from me. I can give you my card, pin to withdraw whatever amount you want, but salary?! No, I won't! You might say my position is worse, but then again, I won't even be with a woman I can't trust with my ATM in the first place. That action is wrong and any woman that allows that needs to check herself, something is definitely wrong. You should be with a woman you can trust with your most cherished resources.


Secondly, I cannot marry a student (personal reasons).


As you have seen, my points are irrelevant to you. We share opposing views.

Acidosis:


Why inflate cost, lie and deceive her husband? Why insult and disgrace herself because of a business she couldn't discuss with her husband? Imagine the way she would be addressed the next time she visits the hospital. Of course, she would be viewed as a dishonest wife. I'm sure the Doctor would henceforth direct the invoice abi bill directly to the husband

zaynie:



Sometimes people just do these things.
Don't forget we have only heard his version of the story not hers.


I know of a couple that any small thing the man would say "at least I put money for food down before I leave in the mornings ". The wife will just have this quiet smile. When she put the baby at less than a year in a creche and went to search for work, the husband yari and that was when the bubble burst that it was #200 he put on the table every morning for a breastfeeding mom to eat for breakfast, lunch and dinner.
Back then we used to wonder why she loved noodles so much.

"he said" he gives her 30k monthly. Every month? He has never missed it?
If she comes from a poor family (which might be the case considering he is paying her school fees) and is the eldest, that money can't be enough to cater for their needs. These little monies that come by can be handy.
I'm not justifying what she did.


And the hospital can never look at her like that. Do you know how many women they cover up?
Someone planned fake school receipt for her husband because after school fees he doesn't pay another dime in the school. The extra money was what she used to pay for some extra curricular activities for the kids, buy uniforms and books.

AllforJesus7:




What are the typical needs? Pray tell, perhaps that would make us men appreciate the need to dole out more money as allowances.

The hubby takes care of feeding (both her and the baby), He probably buys clothings for the baby as well, so what precisely does she do with money. Buy clothes monthly? Or what precisely. I would like to know.

Really for an average income family, 30k is fair for a lady (given the circumstance that the hubby even buys food et all). She expectedly sits at home all day, so what consumes all the money?

Well, lets not forget that its not fair to be too much of a burden on a man. She can look for a job or find a means of petty income. Men always have plans. Build a house, buy a car, partake in investments etc. Giving out almost all one's income to a wife (out of love/care )who can't even account for 30k would be a miss hit and bad planning.

skypeme:
I think I made a mistake getting married to someone who is still schooling, I should have married a working class lady

skypeme:


30,100 / 175,000 x 100% = 17.2%
I add 2.5% increment to my wifes salary every Dec

Viking007:
Ok, this is very funny.

mctowel01:

Hahahahahaha. I can't believe my eyes... E remain say make him offer am employment letter as housewife

Pieromania:
I am nt wishing u breakup bro,just telling u that failure to resolve this her insatiable thirst wil definitely lead to the marriage crashing,i knw what i am saying.U aren't earning that much and yet ur wife cannot be satisfied with the little u have,mehn,u need serious prayerv and counselling.u may think am spewing threats or trash,bt i am a man speaking with experience.

sasko:


Is it possible to love someone you don't trust


it's dishonest to forge or inflate prices in order to drain your hubby

If your husband can't trust you who would then trust you
.

Zoharariel:
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Women of nowadays are brain-dead ingrates.

pcguru1:


Wife inflates price, and yet husband must win her trust, am confused do some women ever take responsibility for anything ?

skypeme:


She isn't cheating on me and my marriage will not break IJN

skypeme:


My marriage will not crash IJN, I repeat that you bro

Dyt:


Too much?


She's even moderate

Realhommie:
Considering how much he earns and other expenses he's responsible for, yes it is too much. Besides, almost double the initial sum can't be moderate, lai lai. 40 - 50% would've been ok though it's not right.

skypeme:
I think I made a mistake getting married to someone who is still schooling, I should have married a working class lady

Gold45:


Perfect response.
We all need to be wary of the kind of advices we open ourselves to on social media.
Social media mostly gives us the most rational and logical answer and solution but if you follow these "logical" solution, you might as well kiss your marriage goodbye.

Never forget that the best marriage on earth is the marriage between two fools

I didnt say that you should let your wife ride you, I mean you have to let many things pass.
For this case, I advice you plan your monthly finances, goals you're saving towards, expenses etc with her. Women are good managers but we also love spending other peoples money. But that doesnt mean we would spend our children's future too. I believe that once sh understand the flow of cash, she'll appreciate you and even help you save more.
Pls o, dont cut off her pay for two whole months, thats war. You're the head of the family but soft words will profit you more in this case than show of strength.

Dyt:

You sound like you go to the market yourself

Realhommie:
Is that what you could deduce? Lol

Well, i'm not married so yes you're right, i do..