naijaboiy:


And then I ask myself.

Why do you have to be with a man at all?

Why can't you hustle hard and make your own money and remain comfortable the way you want so you can attract even richer men?

A wealthy woman will always have broke men running away from her while she attracts her kind.

Leave the guys alone. Whether they have vision or not, it's not your life it's theirs. On a general level no human wants to be poor so everybody knows they have to make that money.

Please it's not a do or die affair. Everybody should focus on their own hustle. While your man is working to achieve his vision what are you doing for yourself?

Waiting for him to make it so you can tag yourself the "wife that waited". I laugh in hispanic!

I say to you girls, it's not about being with the man. If you both are working hard to better yourselves this lame mentality won't even come to your head. If you're also full with vision you won't bother about your man and you can easily move ahead if you discover that he's not serious but by then you've built your own life.

But what do we have today? Girls who would rather jump from man to man citing examples as "he's visionless" while they themselves have not carried out any serious plans for their own lives.

A girl who is waiting on her man should also be doing something because even if you waited and he finally makes it you'd still be a liability to him.

Don't just sit down and wait for your man. Wait and hustle for yourself too. Who says a girl can't have visions?

Pffft!

Written on stone

Many of you here are unintelligent, both guys and girls. That's why you fail to realize that the root cause ofthe argument stems from the fact that in society today, male and female are judged by different unequal standards. I hear broke guy broke guy, why is there no thread on broke girls? Many unemployed girls spend lot of time on social media, yet feel its still okay to call someone broke. The OP is well aware that there are way way more girls than guys who lack vision, yet she never cared to open a thread about it. No man likes being broke. Afterall, are there not many female university students getting married. Many married girls than guys in nysc... Who exactly is broke? Why didn't you open a thread on why the broke female students shouldn't be getting married? If you are intelligent enough, you will realise that the economic situation of a country will reflect the caliber of men you will meet. No matter how much you rant, you will keep encountering many struggling guys and a certain percentage of rich ones, as far as the economic situation remains.
I think Nigeria today is experiencing what we call social expectation imbalance, where the media heightens our expectations such as "type of weddings, restaurants to visit, phones to use, places to stay, dresses to wear... etc... But the economic reality, the purchasing power, remains different. Your expectations cannot change reality.

No amount of light can chase the darkness in her foggy brain

mrphysics:

It's indeed taking prisoners. I gave up on them when I realized that they can slow you down yet quit anytime they get a better option in terms of money.

Fact... Women are more often, a distraction, yet its funny when you see a woman feel entitled to a man's money citing "love" when she has no idea what he passed through to get it.

queency11:
Tnx to the Op, this is nothing but the truth nd to ladies out there it wl be better for you to take to this advice. Don't and never date a broke guy.

Life Eyaff spoil :- even A girl of 17-19 A unijos fresher/ Jambite sef dey talk Smh

cooldood:

There are hundreds of gals that will value you and appreciate your financial capability and status. Go for such gals, stop giving yourself headaches. You dont have to date someone that feels you dont meet up or feels you dont match up to her. Let her go.

Bro, I ve followed all your comments, and in truth, you are hitting it realistically. But you still have to factor in that expectations change. Have you realized that even a local Bimbo today that enters Unilag, becomes a "classy Bhyimboh" at year 3 who knows all the restaurants in ikeja, when her father gives her 12k every month. This is due to association. The Media is having a lot of influence in expectations today.

mctowel01:

Bro, I ve followed all your comments, and in truth, you are hitting it realistically. But you still have to factor in that expectations change. Have you realized that even a local Bimbo today that enters Unilag, becomes a "classy Bhyimboh" at year 3 who knows all the restaurants in ikeja, when her father gives her 12k every month. This is due to association. The Media is having a lot of influence in expectations today.

True. That's why to be a man in this 21st century ehn, no be yamz. The pressure is simply crazy!So as a man, you have to keep going at it, dont ever relax and think becos you are meeting your babe's current needs,she'd stop at that..oh no!gals expectations always grow, give a babe an inch, she'd soon start demanding for a mile.A man needs serious wisdom in dealing with a woman.If she's motivating you to work harder,excellent, but if she's only demoralizing you n damaging your God-given ego, pls let her be.21st century men have so so much to worry about than to add a "trash-talking" babe to it, instead, face your hustle n ignore, if she's truly into you, i bet you, she'd come around.

Safiaa:
Uncle, ah beg did i ever say women shoulf not make their own money. In what way are women being greedy?
Do you hustle to put the money on top of your head? Or you want to buy a house so you can rot in the house lonely and miserable. NO ! If you want to die a loner,
Thats completely fine. But the majority of men will eventually settle down.

Is every man living alone lonely and miserable?
Are there not lonely and miserable married people? Why use such extreme negative adjectives to describe men staying alone? This your comment is lame, saying someone who buys a house from his hard earned sweat will rot in it with loneliness. Seems you subconsciously want to impose your idea of cohabitation on people.

cooldood:

True. That's why to be a man in this 21st century ehn, no be yamz. The pressure is simply crazy!So as a man, you have to keep going at it, dont ever relax and think becos you are meeting your babe's current needs,she'd stop at that..oh no!gals expectations always grow, give a babe an inch, she'd soon start demanding for a mile.A man needs serious wisdom in dealing with a woman.If she's motivating you to work harder,excellent, but if she's only demoralizing you n damaging your God-given ego, pls let her be.21st century men have so so much to worry about than to add a "trash-talking" babe to it, instead, face your hustle n ignore, if she's truly into you, i bet you, she'd come around.

I forgot to add bro... Your points will work for someone ready to die young pleasing a woman.
The financial demands of this present age is so much that it makes no sense in most cases for a woman not to be contributing financially in a relationship. Go and do the maths of what it takes to raise a child in a month now, compare it with the typical earnings.

Safiaa:
1. Im in my early 20s
2.Im currently a student, working a year in an industry.
3.My goal is to work in the marketing industry, which im currently doing. To be a marketing executive for a huge co-operation. I dont need to go into detail.
4.Like i said being successful doesnt necessarily mean you're ranking in millions. Being able to fulfil your goals and being comfortable is enough.
6 and 5 are irrelevant to me
7. I have enough to take care of myself, and not be financially dependent on my parents. Thats all you need to know.

Have i satisfied your curiosity. Bye bye now

I will address your other aspect, and not the relationship debate.
To be honest, you really have a lot of growing up to do. You really do. You are seeing things from the textbook illusion you were made or your mind is wired to believe. Life hasn't hit you hard enough. Personally, I ve achieved a level of success, of which the process involved once hinged on thin wires, fortunately, I came out well.
I can never and will never insult or demean anyone who passess through same hustle or anyone thereof and became unfortunate at the end. We men know and feel what it takes to make it through life. You sit there opening threads from your fantasies. I laugh at the way you are making 5 years goal. Its good, its really good, but wait till life happens. That is when the real test comes. Will it be cool to be demeaned because of certain misfortunes?

Alright. That's understandable. Thank you for your input.

mctowel01:

I will address your other aspect, and not the relationship debate.
To be honest, you really have a lot of growing up to do. You really do. You are seeing things from the textbook illusion you were made or your mind is wired to believe. Life hasn't hit you hard enough. Personally, I ve achieved a level of success, of which the process involved once hinged on thin wires, fortunately, I came out well.
I can never and will never insult or demean anyone who passess through same hustle or anyone thereof and became unfortunate at the end. We men know and feel what it takes to make it through life. You sit there opening threads from your fantasies. I laugh at the way you are making 5 years goal. Its good, its really good, but wait till life happens. That is when the real test comes. Will it be cool to be demeaned because of certain misfortunes?

mctowel01:

I forgot to add bro... Your points will work for someone ready to die young pleasing a woman.
The financial demands of this present age is so much that it makes no sense in most cases for a woman not to be contributing financially in a relationship. Go and do the maths of what it takes to raise a child in a month now, compare it with the typical earnings.

If truly you've followed my comments, you'd find nowhere that says please a gal.
And dont go into a relationship expecting contribution from a gal.Again ladies are wired to follow a man's lead, if she's into you, she'd follow your lead once she sees your hardwork.The point is try your best to provide basics and expect little from your babe, it will save you psychological blow if she decides not to financially contribute, so if she contributes, that's fantastic for you.An example,you only have money for a 2 bedroom flat in Ikorodu,but she wants 3 bedroom flat in Lekki, then either she follows you to Ikorodu or she contributes to what you have so you go to Lekki (anyways, I wont advise a man to part-finance rent, its your ego at risk).So again, cut your suit according to your size, give yourself little stress about gals n enjoy your hustle.

cooldood:

If truly you've followed my comments, you'd find nowhere that says please a gal.
And dont go into a relationship expecting contribution from a gal.Again ladies are wired to follow a man's lead, if she's into you, she'd follow your lead once she sees your hardwork.The point is try your best to provide basics and expect little from your babe, it will save you psychological blow if she decides not to financially contribute, so if she contributes, that's fantastic for you.An example,you only have money for a 2 bedroom flat in Ikorodu,but she wants 3 bedroom flat in Lekki, then either she follows you to Ikorodu or she contributes to what you have so you go to Lekki (anyways, I wont advise a man to part-finance rent, its your ego at risk).So again, cut your suit according to your size, give yourself little stress about gals n enjoy your hustle.

Got you man... You ll like a simple life

CreamyMoltenLar:
TBH you're the only female that has a sensible view of the issue. A lady who wants a financially stable guy should also be financially stable herself. That means each gender should be with someone of a commensurate financial status. So broke girls should date broke guys, students-students, jobless girls-jobless guys etc. Realistically speaking though, the harsh reality in the country is that there are simply no jobs, so does this mean all the girls champing at the bits and scorning broke guys are all gainfully employed and earning cool cash, or are they slay Queen's that believe girls should have skimpy clothes and fat buttocks while guys should have cash? Its incredible how all the ladies on NL seem to be working and financially independent. Aren't there female students here, corpers, jobless girls? Or you ladies assume getting a job is automatic. Get a job with a reasonable paycheck, not these oddjobs that pay 30k, then come talk to me about not wanting a 'broke nigga'

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Safiaa:
Sorry, where did i imply that you're broke? Is that your guilty conscience running through your head? I have nothing agaisnt people countering my thread, just make sure you read thoroughly and digest what i'm trying to say.

You don't know me either, so who are you to tell me that im a kid? Im currently working, earning a salary. I'm also pursuing my dreams to become a marketing executive for a company. What is now your point? Im far from lazy and unfortunately if you read my first paragraph in my first post, you would understand that im not promoting laziness in women.

Instead of worrying about what man i attract, worry about yourself and maybe you wont feel the need to be so unnecessarily defensive.

Why are you tagging naijaboiy, is he your bodyguard or teacher? I just dont understand.

Bye bye now.

I won't let you drag me into your league of greediness and then you will still use your experience to knock me out... Let me leave you to wallow in your laziness and gold digging

FelixFelicia:
Tosyne2much easy brov

Wetin happen to me nah?

mrphysics:

Others have given up on you and I have to do same at this juncture.
You are working and studying? Maybe you have written your name in the Guinness book of record and became the first Nigerian to do that.

BTW, while I was a student, I was comfortable and there was no need to work and study so I gave my book all the attention it needs. Same time about four years ago I came to Nairaland and established myself on the science section with two of my science inclined post hitting front page. I went on to NYSC section, helped people there during service and left about four topics there which made front page. Before relaxing on the business section. While I was at your age, about two of your age mates called me their mentor. I was not lazy as you are, I had purpose, I wasn't living in delusion like you are. When I come to Nairaland, I new they are elders here and I don't go on insulting them like you are. You are just fool of yourself. You insulted tosyne2much with many followers on Nairaland. You have got nothing. A little background check on you revealed you got registered here last month, so how come you are quick to land yourself in the romance section. I don't comment on Nairaland but your comment was forced me when you assumed you are the only intelligent person on Nairaland.

Finally, I urge you, to spend time building up yourself, people already know your moniker and there will always make reference to it.

My brother, we just need to open our eyes before picking the right woman.. Women like this are leaches jawe

Paulpaulpaul:


Missing you is an understatement, wanting you is the best. Where have you been?

Bro, I have been so busy lately... You will surely hear from me tomorrow

cooldood:

If truly you've followed my comments, you'd find nowhere that says please a gal.
And dont go into a relationship expecting contribution from a gal.Again ladies are wired to follow a man's lead, if she's into you, she'd follow your lead once she sees your hardwork.The point is try your best to provide basics and expect little from your babe, it will save you psychological blow if she decides not to financially contribute, so if she contributes, that's fantastic for you.An example,you only have money for a 2 bedroom flat in Ikorodu,but she wants 3 bedroom flat in Lekki, then either she follows you to Ikorodu or she contributes to what you have so you go to Lekki (anyways, I wont advise a man to part-finance rent, its your ego at risk).So again, cut your suit according to your size, give yourself little stress about gals n enjoy your hustle.

Nigeria won't grow with your kinda mentality

You placing the female folks on a kinda lazy entitlement

If that's the way it is been done in the Us and Uk
You think Nigeria wouldn't be far ahead of them by now with our smartness.

Both male and females work for their money
No one sends the other.

I don't understand where your own wiring of ladies is coming from

Raydans:


Nigeria won't grow with your kinda mentality

You placing the female folks on a kinda lazy entitlement

If that's the way it is been done in the Us and Uk
You think Nigeria wouldn't be far ahead of them by now with our smartness.

Both male and females work for their money
No one sends the other.

I don't understand where your own wiring of ladies is coming from

Oga,its how nature wired the genders,in those countries you mentioned there's a trade off which is gender equality which I completely don't agree with.Over there also,ladies can talk to their husbands or spouses the way they like cos they're even more protected than the males.That won't work here oga.It's not everything about the west that are positive.Take it or leave it,the female gender is wired to look up to the male.If you like let them have millions in their accounts,its not a lazy mentality,don't fight it.

Alesandese:


Say no to lazy, unambitious,dumb guys. In fact no be vision we go chop! Say no to jobless broke guys!!! . I can't feed myself and a grown ass

Why must a guy/man feed you?

cooldood:

Oga,its how nature wired the genders,in those countries you mentioned there's a trade off which is gender equality which I completely don't agree with.Over there also,ladies can talk to their husbands or spouses the way they like cos they're even more protected than the males.That won't work here oga.It's not everything about the west that are positive.Take it or leave it,the female gender is wired to look up to the male.If you like let them have millions in their accounts,its not a lazy mentality,don't fight it.

[b]

So if Nigeria adopt same. You think this place won't be a better place, developed, equipped and condusive like the west for us all or do you it is by magic that it is done.

Where is the gender equality that our great feminist screams about.
Well i don't blame them because they are the same, one sided and delusional about it. That's why it couldn't manifest as they are NIGERIAN women.


Nigerian ladies are the laziest species of ladies in the world and it affecting our developmental and economical growth.
Check out ordinary south africa there.Their ladies accepted their men are more lazy than them.

They praise and make compliment about Nigerian men as hardworking which even results to the xenophobic attack.

In one way or the other southafrica might be better than nigeria so to say.
It is because majority of our ladies are broke, lazy and dependent thereby increasing the number of hardworking men in nigeria and a number of men trooping out in mass because they can't satisfy our broke ladies and prefer foreigners.
Or travel out to hustle and come back to impress the weakling of a nigerian lady.


Majority of nigerian men have died in the process trying to impress or satisfy a Nigerian women because of the way you claim your imaginary nature wired them


Another is the issue of Europeans and america. Why do you think it is their women that get easily scammed from the yahoo boiz
Or nigerian men wanting to get papers.

Many nigerian men that were forced into such have been jailed, killed and sentence to death because of trying to have a family and make it because of our lazy nigerian ladies

You cant compare all these ladies with our own nigerian ladiez that had the reasoning of entitlement.

That is why we are backward

How many of the lazy Nigerian girls can u really scam wen they even have nothing but nothing.

This is drastically affecting Nigeria economically and financially but we may not be conscious of it because we see everything normal to us.

I know I should have created a thread or really need to write an article on this with standard statistics for you and us all but am not just good with words and writing.
But i know plenty and better writer that got my point can take it from here for a reasonable article[/b]

queency11:
Tnx to the Op, this is nothing but the truth nd to ladies out there it wl be better for you to take to this advice. Don't and never date a broke guy.

Keep fighting for the few and available 'made men' while the sleep with you and enjoy what you have to offer they will move to the next girl with your kind of mindset.
Do not come here and start saying that men are wicked.
I don tell you my own.

KennyID17:


Well. According to the mentally demented ladies we have been cursed with in this generation, a broke guy is any guy that is incapable of providing a luxurious fantasy of a life they have long dreamed of, something neither their parents could provide for them, nor can dey provide for themselves. This is a personal opinion tho

Guy you spoke my mind...Imagine me on a salary of 103k with heavy family responsibilities yet this ex-gf demanded iphone 6...I couldn't get it she term me broke...Na her papa she dey refer too sha.. Most times i just chill and get entertained by the stupidity of our naija girls

Raydans:
[b]

So if Nigeria adopt same. You think this place won't be a better place, developed, equipped and condusive like the west for us all or do you it is by magic that it is done.

Where is the gender equality that our great feminist screams about.
Well i don't blame them because they are the same, one sided and delusional about it. That's why it couldn't manifest as they are NIGERIAN women.


Nigerian ladies are the laziest species of ladies in the world and it affecting our developmental and economical growth.
Check out ordinary south africa there.Their ladies accepted their men are more lazy than them.

They praise and make compliment about Nigerian men as hardworking which even results to the xenophobic attack.

In one way or the other southafrica might be better than nigeria so to say.
It is because majority of our ladies are broke, lazy and dependent thereby increasing the number of hardworking men in nigeria and a number of men trooping out in mass because they can't satisfy our broke ladies and prefer foreigners.
Or travel out to hustle and come back to impress the weakling of a nigerian lady.


Majority of nigerian men have died in the process trying to impress or satisfy a Nigerian women because of the way you claim your imaginary nature wired them


Another is the issue of Europeans and america. Why do you think it is their women that get easily scammed from the yahoo boiz
Or nigerian men wanting to get papers.

Many nigerian men that were forced into such have been jailed, killed and sentence to death because of trying to have a family and make it because of our lazy nigerian ladies

You cant compare all these ladies with our own nigerian ladiez that had the reasoning of entitlement.

That is why we are backward

How many of the lazy Nigerian girls can u really scam wen they even have nothing but nothing.

This is drastically affecting Nigeria economically and financially but we may not be conscious of it because we see everything normal to us.

I know I should have created a thread or really need to write an article on this with standard statistics for you and us all but am not just good with words and writing.
But i know plenty and better writer that got my point can take it from here for a reasonable article[/b]

You said it better...

I had to stop replying this thread, bcus it seems to me as if the the level of Ppl in this Thread are just Deluded ones.

Less than 5% of Nigerians Are Well Oriented.

Thank you for this write up.

Raydans:
Safiaa. I got your point and you are correct

But it only the way you chose to explain your first post, laid emphasis and one sided that is wrong which makes readers not to understand

Perhaps you may want to modify it

Here's Something I Learnt while Growing up.

Always Take Note Of The First Thing that A Person Tried to Describe Themselves As, Becomes In Reality. That's who they truly are

When you meet somebody today, and tomroro the person tries to look different. No the person is either faking or truly who they are (1st). There's no edithing or changing anything.

What she wrote up there is what is tried to pass out to others.

Anything changed is FAKE!

Raydans:
[b]

So if Nigeria adopt same. You think this place won't be a better place, developed, equipped and condusive like the west for us all or do you it is by magic that it is done.

Where is the gender equality that our great feminist screams about.
Well i don't blame them because they are the same, one sided and delusional about it. That's why it couldn't manifest as they are NIGERIAN women.


Nigerian ladies are the laziest species of ladies in the world and it affecting our developmental and economical growth.
Check out ordinary south africa there.Their ladies accepted their men are more lazy than them.

They praise and make compliment about Nigerian men as hardworking which even results to the xenophobic attack.

In one way or the other southafrica might be better than nigeria so to say.
It is because majority of our ladies are broke, lazy and dependent thereby increasing the number of hardworking men in nigeria and a number of men trooping out in mass because they can't satisfy our broke ladies and prefer foreigners.
Or travel out to hustle and come back to impress the weakling of a nigerian lady.


Majority of nigerian men have died in the process trying to impress or satisfy a Nigerian women because of the way you claim your imaginary nature wired them


Another is the issue of Europeans and america. Why do you think it is their women that get easily scammed from the yahoo boiz
Or nigerian men wanting to get papers.

Many nigerian men that were forced into such have been jailed, killed and sentence to death because of trying to have a family and make it because of our lazy nigerian ladies

You cant compare all these ladies with our own nigerian ladiez that had the reasoning of entitlement.

That is why we are backward

How many of the lazy Nigerian girls can u really scam wen they even have nothing but nothing.

This is drastically affecting Nigeria economically and financially but we may not be conscious of it because we see everything normal to us.

I know I should have created a thread or really need to write an article on this with standard statistics for you and us all but am not just good with words and writing.
But i know plenty and better writer that got my point can take it from here for a reasonable article[/b]

Where you got this idea that Nigerian ladies are lazy I dont understand, I served in Akwa Ibom a couple of years back and I was amazed at how laid back their men were, yet you find their women riding bicycles to the farm to work, attending to people at various business centres. If you see 9ja women as lazy, then its because the men are perhaps lazy as well.By the way, who are those in charge of 9ja, that made it difficult for jobs to be readily available for people (be it male or female), is it not the control-freak men. In fact with the number of unemployed guys around, by the time the ladies fill up most jobs available, then I want to see what will save men from running out of the country to get basic livelihood. The type of men you have in every society determines to a large extent the type of ladies they produce also. If you continue to have men that are ego-centric and always looking for gals to blame for their predicaments, then you get gals that are also laid back (unwilling to contribute to relationships). But if you face your hustle/work/vision, you will attract and find just exactly the right babe for your qualities. Guys should stop blaming gals for whatever happens, take ownership, take responsibility. Also, stop presenting yourselves to gals in the wrong way, if you pretend to a gal that you have this or that, meanwhile you dont and also begin to promise her heaven n earth, then be ready to die in River Nile,and travel far and wide, when she starts demanding for crazy things in line with all your fake lies. All the babes I dated, were always hard working, I cant attract any lazy person, cos you will be left behind if you cant move at my pace. So oga, 9ja men should redefine their ways, if they think 9ja gals are lazy, YOU MADE THEM LAZY with your ways.

There's a book called the Great female con ... Google it ... Its a good read for both men and women looking to get married .

Thank me later .

cooldood:

Oga,its how nature wired the genders,in those countries you mentioned there's a trade off which is gender equality which I completely don't agree with.Over there also,ladies can talk to their husbands or spouses the way they like cos they're even more protected than the males.That won't work here oga.It's not everything about the west that are positive.Take it or leave it,the female gender is wired to look up to the male.If you like let them have millions in their accounts,its not a lazy mentality,don't fight it.

In summary, women are the weaker sex. To be dependent on the higher sex. Gender equality is B.S. I see your point.

mctowel01:

In summary, women are the weaker sex. To be dependent on the higher sex. Gender equality is B.S. I see your point.

Real ladies actually accept that gender equality is nonsense. I have a friend that works in the media and she has actually once gone on air to trash the equality stuff. Is she hardworking, of course she is, does she love herself as a lady, yes she does and she earns steady income, yet, loves her man to be the man.Women are all looking for security-emotional, financial and what have you, so a man needs to develop himself emotionally and become emotionally mature to handle a relationship.

This is a guy that has common sense.

cooldood:
Guys face your hustle and work, and start earning some income before thinking of a babe, babes aint wired to hustle by their very nature.Even God gave Adam work to do before providing him with a babe (Eve). Dont come crying on nairaland when your babe start showing you her other side when you cant meet some of her needs/ demands. And by the way, guys try to cut your suit according to your size. Dont start chasing after a babe that was never raised in a humble background but raised in wealth and expect her to hustle with you, its just basic, dont blame her, she's not a gold digger, she just doesnt understand what hustling mean.

Once again, guys face your hustle and shine your eyes!your own babe that fit you will come.

I trust my guys. them don already finish the op before I come. nice one!