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| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by 989900: 6:49am On Apr 18, 2017 |
codemaniacs: You have comprehension problems, I dated those does not translate to not being married -- I did that some almost 14 years ago -- no be everybody be your mate. How your childish soliloquy is of any matter in the real subject matter should boggle your mind -- it boggles mine. 8 Likes |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by codemaniacs: 6:54am On Apr 18, 2017 |
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| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Dnockeror333(m): 6:56am On Apr 18, 2017 |
The Dellema of Intertribal/International Marriage: Among many:- =>It cause mixed geneticism. =>It causes the children to be of mixed blood, hence will not and will never stay in your heritage/place but in another mans land. =>It colludes with the freshness of nature. =>It brings about hybrid children [remember the characteristics of an hybtid fowl!] =>And plus others, it causes long distance inlaws, and relations. THIS MARRIAGE WHICH SURPOSE TO BRING PEACE IN THE WORDS OF MORTAL MAN SETS DISCORD AND ELIMINATE THE FAVOUR OF NATURE. WHEN WE CAME TO KNOW OUR SELVES AND OUR DIFFERENT PATH IN THE POWER OF NATURE THEN WE WONT BE DISTURBED BY SUCH INTERTRIBALISM ANYMORE. WHAT DO THE FOREIGN WOMAN/MAN HAVE INSIDE HIS/HER DRESS THAT YOUR OWN TRIBE DOES NOT? ITS CAUSED BY MEN WHO ARE BLIND TO DIFFERENCE, AND WHO WANT TO TASTE A DIFFERENT HOLE AFTER TASTING THAT OF THEIR ABORIGENES. Lets someone to say am wrong, please. If not, then return to your origen oh souls who need an temporal like eternal bedmate! |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by ElsonMorali: 6:57am On Apr 18, 2017 |
Fresia01: No need to be scared dear. Let me give you a little hint in case you really love him to the point of marriage. When you meet his parents show the usual form of Yoruba respect, kneel with both knees when greeting them. Don't ever call any of his siblings by name even If you are older than them. Learn How cook Yoruba delicacies. Finally, I hope you can speak Yoruba, If not, start learning. But remember, respect and humility is key. All the best. 9 Likes |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by 989900: 7:01am On Apr 18, 2017 |
codemaniacs: I believe you mentioned mental issues earlier, writing the above in bold in the same breath is definition of mental illness. BTW, I married the most beautiful (physically, mentally, psychologically, spiritually, morally), and most exciting woman God ever created -- eat your heart out! 7 Likes |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by ideology(m): 7:04am On Apr 18, 2017 |
Its easier for Igbo lady to marry Yorubas guy, issues arises for Igbo guy marrying a yruba lady, pray tho Fresia01: |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by dingbang(m): 7:05am On Apr 18, 2017 |
All those saying they can't marry from another tribe, its very obvious their parents didn't do their jobs well in preaching to them about unity in diversity. It all starts and ends with the family. . if I as a father tell my children to embrace all tribes, I have don my duty as a patriot of Nigeria.. 6 Likes |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Bimkpassa: 7:09am On Apr 18, 2017 |
I'm a Yoruba woman married to an Urhobo for 15years now,really enjoying the marriage so there is nothing really wrong with intertribal marriage 10 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by odichimma: 7:11am On Apr 18, 2017 |
Fresia01:stop that asap 3 Likes |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by codemaniacs: 7:11am On Apr 18, 2017 |
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| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by 989900: 7:15am On Apr 18, 2017 |
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| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by deliveryboy: 7:17am On Apr 18, 2017 |
People quote cultural reasons why they cannot marry from another ethnic group, however, I observed most people in the younger generation are not well schooled in their own culture. This can be as a result of growing up in other cultural enclaves, so many Igbos grow up in Lagos and many Yorubas live in the nothern part of the country and they still want to hold on to the idea that they cannot marry outside their tribe when they themselves are no longer in their tribe. 4 Likes |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nobody: 7:22am On Apr 18, 2017 |
1Rebel:A retard.ed one at that 2 Likes |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by midfinger(m): 7:26am On Apr 18, 2017 |
Ugosample:Mr Igbo wannabe -shut your hole up!! 3 Likes |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nobody: 7:26am On Apr 18, 2017 |
There's really no need to be cowardly. Hypocrisy kills faster than the curse your tribe is placed on. jiinxed: 2 Likes |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Mikeparlo12(m): 7:32am On Apr 18, 2017 |
I'm proudly Yoruba married to an Ibo lady and i proudly paid her dowry. No regrets whatsoever. Very perfect woman for me. its all about being with the right person. irrespective of ethnicity 7 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by AreaFada2: 7:33am On Apr 18, 2017 |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Abudu2000(m): 7:34am On Apr 18, 2017 |
Holywizard:bro if u lov her go ahead with the marriage. ishan ppl are the ibos of edo, very inteligent and business savvy ladies, not lazy at all i'm not ibo but i have this thing for ibo ladies, their beauty and brilliancy. 3 Likes |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by supereagle(m): 7:38am On Apr 18, 2017 |
chiboyo: Be patient with them if you have a future plan with one another. Family pressure always cave in. Marrying from your tribe does not always guarantee a happy home. |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by octopusfreaky(f): 7:39am On Apr 18, 2017 |
Nigerians aren't one after alll  We cant live with our individual differences, Igbo will say una omo yoruba sabi dirty ennnn and Yoruba will say omo igbo can do anything just for the money. Only good Christians can deal with challenges faced in inter-tribal marriages.1 Like |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Dicksonpal: 7:40am On Apr 18, 2017 |
Kellibae:lol caro 1 Like |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by deliveryboy: 7:41am On Apr 18, 2017 |
octopusfreaky: Who is a good Christian and how do you think they can deal with the said challenges? 1 Like |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by kolaish(m): 7:42am On Apr 18, 2017 |
My candid advice to the men/women that cares: do not let this so-called 'love sentiments' blindfold you into marriage. You are going into a relationship that will last for more than 40 years, so why choosing to spend that long years of marriage struggling to hold it together. There are so many more beautiful and good ladies from your tribe, so, why not choose from them and enjoy a fruitful marriage with peace. See the following: 1. if you are a yoruba man and your wife is igbo, what language did you think your child will adopt and speak fluently; certainly igbo and not yoruba. That means your child will not be able to speak your own language. 2. Your family will not have an official local dialect, except english. 3. You stand the chance of always going very far (more than 7 hours journey) whenever your partner is having a social function. Think of the transportation costs and its stress. 4. Anytime your in-laws are around, you will look like a stranger because you cannot hear them when they are discussing in their dialect.[/b] [/b] 1 Like |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by obiezed: 7:49am On Apr 18, 2017 |
Abudu2000:All these people saying ""IBO'',''IBO'',will it kill you to type Igbo,some of us find it offensive,I have never seen an IBO person in my over 4 decades of existence. 3 Likes |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by SalC: 7:51am On Apr 18, 2017 |
1Rebel:I kind of share in your first line of thought of marrying from same tribe, it saves one from lots of tribal hassles and heck if there's a next life, i will still be Igbo and proud of it. I don't know if that amount to me being tribalist. Mana nwanne kedu ihe ijizi akpari ndi mba ozo? 1 Like |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Graccccccccy(f): 7:51am On Apr 18, 2017 |
Smiles... since i am a product of inter tribal marriage, i don't have a problem where to marry from. I can do either Yoruba or Igbo. 7 Likes |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by dee02(m): 7:54am On Apr 18, 2017 |
1Rebel: Tribalistic rotten cun....t! 1 Like |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by vicben27(m): 7:54am On Apr 18, 2017 |
i'm more of a family kind of person n overtime i've studied oda pples marriages wit kin interest i mst say i've learnt alot. the best marriage is wen u marry frm ur own tribe! (my opion dou) d advantages are endless wic i wnt b mentioning! wen it comes to love, we choose who to love n spend d rest of our lifes wit! as for me i've found mine she aint perfect but i love her every imperfection! i n her are one! 1 Like |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nobody: 7:55am On Apr 18, 2017 |
I am experiencing this...... first, I saw it as a problem. On a second thought, I realised it my life and I am responsible for it. I found a girl my heart loves and cares for, a friend and a companion so I decided to do things my way. If they decide not to come for the wedding..fine. I ll move on. As long as you are an independent person, this should not be a problem. There is nothing your parents or in laws will offer other than checking on your welfare. They lived their life, enjoyed I and should not dictate how you will live yours. The problem with many Nigeria parents is they don't ever understand that their children have grown and have a right to their choices. Whatever one does, as long as it contradicts their opinion and ideas... it will be seen as wrong to them. It's best to avoid them in such issues. 4 Likes |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nobody: 7:57am On Apr 18, 2017 |
vicben27:The best marriage is marrying someone who genuinely loves you. A friend. Are there no divorce cases where both parties are from the same tribe? 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by Nobody: 8:03am On Apr 18, 2017 |
Kellibae:and the men that cheat in the south east and north are yorubas too... keep living in lies. 2 Likes |
| Re: The Dilemma Of Inter-tribal Marriage by obiezed: 8:05am On Apr 18, 2017 |
Some of these people typing crap don't know shit about what it takes to raise and keep a family in this 21st century. BTW ,Romantic love is actually the least of the considerations for a viable and long lasting marriage. That type of love will fade very fast.there are so many pressure facing couples and marriages today, that it is often better and wiser to marry within homogeneous cultural group,there is nothing wrong with inter-ethnic marriages,just be ready to take the pressures that come with it .at the end of the day,it depends on what you want for yourself and what gives you the most peace of mind. P.s graduates who still call 40M Yorubas or 36M igbos''a tribe'',should please hand in your certificate, you don't need it.Nigerians bastadize words and concepts, tribes refer to group of peoples numbering at most in hundreds, the colonial masters invented these terminologies to keep you thinking small,what you have in Nigeria are ethnic nationalities not tribes.SMH. 4 Likes |
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