ab11baddo:
alright sister... We av heard u... U dont av to tell us these stories that touch

Lol..ok

henryhemon:


I'm nwafo but we 're not blinded by sentiments....owerri girls if you marry ask your husband that won't live there to avoid stories.

lies u read on net!..

AreaFada2:

I am not babalawo to know.
But most of them said they wanted to avoid those things by marrying outside of tribe.

But they got even worse marrying outside.

But perhaps they turned down guys that might have been better within tribe by deliberately choosing to go outside. At least, the siblings who married within tribe remain married, and from what is known, those ladies appear to have got a better deal.

Therefore maybe your question should have been directed at the ladies who were biased against their own tribe. They used the experiences of some relatives from a previous generation to negatively judge their own tribe. Maybe they should have realised that whether within or outside tribe, things can go awry. My unscientific observation is that for those who married around similar time within tribe, divorce rate is much lower than those who went outside. Maybe just a coincidence, but it is as it is.

Marriage is not that easy. You need every support structure you can get. Friends, family, etc.
While love is great, it can be fickle and can also fade. Mills & Boon love exist only in Mills & Boon.

Let's not fool ourselves: race, tribe, religion are still very important factors people consider when marrying. I have seen it across many countries. What would be ideal in 21st century and what happens in reality do not always sync.

It depends really.....
There are many intra tribal marriages that hit the rock too, especially Yoruba to Yoruba marriage.

The bottom line is that a couple that is not ready to put in the work and compromise will lose his or her marriage, regardless of which tribe or race the person marries from.
And it's worse in Nigeria tho because of black man reasoning

Kellibae:


lies u read on net!..

Suit yourself.

Kellibae:


Now look at ur lines "some of them" but u said "many" do it in imo..
Now i can see biasness in ur comment.
U shot urself in d leg.

Now i bliv u are not igbo forget the igbo u speak.
Anyone can speak igbo.

Na wa....
I am talking based on what I saw na
it was not all of my neighbours back then doing side job, that is why I said some

Na you sabi sha
What you believe changes nothing

Honestly, any man that cannot make his family understand that he has the right to marry anyone he loves and has chosen to marry is still immature and not ready for marriage.

Ugosample:


Na wa....
I am talking based on what I saw na
it was not all of my neighbours back then doing side job, that is why I said some
Na you sabi sha
What you believe changes nothing

Yea bye!.

afroxyz:
While y'all are still brewing in 17th century ideology, I've matched my action with words

No one cares about your marriage, it does not change the status quo in any way.

AreaFada2:
Very desirable but not easy.


You will have to work harder to make it work. Especially if one or both party's parents are against it.

Should things go awry, you will have to bear a lot of poo in silence. Just to avoid "I told you so" from the anti/suspicious side.

I have noticed the poo the majority of female relatives who married into other tribes have had to put up with. They went into these marriages with much naivety and enthusiasm, brushing aside concerns raised by some people. Their usual position was "people withing our tribe do these things too".

They have put up with worse things they initially said they wanted to avoid within tribe. Such as the hubby impregnating other women, hubby secretly using joint property deeds to secure loans without wife knowing, reckless behaviour of covering corruption of a female colleague at work and getting fired from a very lucrative job without benefits/pay off, making wife sole provider for family, secretly taking unsecured loans that wife has to be paying back all over the place later, etc.

Those guys did just about every stupid thing possible and even surpassed the fears of some family members.

About half got divorced but the rest soldiered on, albeit not happily most times. Very unfortunate.

Going into inter-ethnic marriage, please go in with a VERY thick skin. The odds may already be against you ab initio.

I suppose if it works, it can be very sweet. Like the lovely ladies from other tribes married into our family.

Of course they might have worked hard to endear themselves in the beginning. Once they proved their loyalty, it has been all love.

Most have blended in so well that they are not distinguishable from natural born daughters of the family.

biased

12inches1:
Honestly, any man that cannot make his family understand that he has the right to marry anyone he loves and has chosen to marry is still immature and not ready for marriage.

You think African mothers want to hear that one. After they 'carried you for nine months'.

12inches1:
Honestly, any man that cannot make his family understand that he has the right to marry anyone he loves and has chosen to marry is still immature and not ready for marriage.

you nailed it

Personally,I wouldn't marry anyone my fam don't consent to. Its hard but I love them like that.
I also wouldn't marry a man if his fam members don't like me. It isnor by force. I cannot come and die. I don't believe in 'coping' or 'managing','one day,they will change'.
Thirdly,we're Africans;when you marry someone(esp as a lady),you marry his family and culture and traditions too. For this reason,I think it is best if you marry into a culture you totally understand and appreciate. So they won't pull a 'dazz how we do in our place' on you.

Hannysmilez:
You think African mothers want to hear that one. After they 'carried you for nine months'.

and you survived by their power? Any mother that plays this card is not grateful to God. The fist step to independence is de-mystifying and de-deifying parents.(I hope my english is correct)

1Rebel:
I'd rather marry from another nationality.

This, unfortunately was what the then Saudana of Sokoto Sir. Ahmadu Bello said about the Igbo' s way back in the 60's . BTW that video is still on the youtube.

In terms of tribal problem in this country, we all have make some not too good contributions.

Igbos are always after everythg scatter, scatter.

Fresia01:
I'm Igbo dating a Yoruba guy.. .i love him BUh I'm still scared.. ...

Follow your heart dear, as long as you are sure of his love for you.

I am Yoruba, but married to an Akwaibom woman. I have never for one day regretted getting married to her.

To each his/her own.

Kellibae:


I guess u check the person i quoted.. u dnt just jump into comments withoit readin d cause.

My initial comments was IM NOT MAREYING OUTSIDE MY TRIBE! . befor some1 quoted me n start complaining .

Your use of language is quite appalling for someone with high tribalistic standards! Even tribalistic men want women who can teach their children how to communicate well, offline or online. I suggest you leave this issue of marriage and work on yourself for a while. It may do you some good.

@thread:
I'm a proud Urhobo man and in a relationship with an Igbo lady. She and her family are totally devoid of these tribalistic bunkum I'm seeing on this thread!

I guess upbringing and exposure matters a lot. So many people have never left their villages and enclaves. They are blinded by tribalism and propaganda against other tribes without realising that the things they complain of are common to all humans, across ethnic barriers! Tell me of an Urhobo cheater and I'll tell you thrice of Yoruba/Igbo/Hausa cheaters! Point being that cheaters and bad spouses exist everywhere.

In this modern society, we should be concerned with love, understanding, homely virtues and every other thing that makes a good spouse. Your ethnic group/family won't be the ones in the house with you. You alone can tell what's best for you.

1Rebel:
In all honesty, I do not see myself marrying from another tribe. I would want my kids to have pure Igbo genes. Mixing their genes with some other dirty oily cowardly genes just doesn't seem right.

Besides, Igbo girls got it all; beauty, brains and everything else.


**Yes I'm a proud tribalist, deal with it.

shame on you........

Any educated Nigerian still thinking of what tribe not to marry and to marry should kindly return his certificate back to his school and apologize to his/her family for wasting their resources they spent in school

If you get a good wife/husband, you'll become happy; if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher.

hmmmm...dats deep and so true

1Rebel:
In all honesty, I do not see myself marrying from another tribe. I would want my kids to have pure Igbo genes. Mixing their genes with some other dirty oily cowardly genes just doesn't seem right.

Besides, Igbo girls got it all; beauty, brains and everything else.


**Yes I'm a proud tribalist, deal with it.

I know this common with you IBO's, you will never allow your daughters marry from another tribe most especially Yoruba's but you will come to yoruba girls with your Ogun owo to marry them.... I don't blame you any way na because of some stupid Yoruba girls that can do anything because of money,..

dumo1:

Just like that. This is where your power of persuasion should have come into play.

Naaaaaaaa.

This is not the days of Romeo and Juliet bro.

These days, Romeo is hustling more than usual. He gat little time for a DOA r/shp

omolayomi06:
I know this common with you IBO's, you will never allow your daughters marry from another tribe most especially Yoruba's but you will come to yoruba girls with your Ogun owo to marry them.... I don't blame you any way na because of some stupid Yoruba girls that can do anything because of money,..

He has successfully drawn you to the mud.

Don't go any further. Wash yourself and go home in peace.

God bless you

Kellibae:


U be igbo and she is yoruba i guess

Obvious

1Rebel:
In all honesty, I do not see myself marrying from another tribe. I would want my kids to have pure Igbo genes. Mixing their genes with some other dirty oily cowardly genes just doesn't seem right.

Besides, Igbo girls got it all; beauty, brains and everything else.


**Yes I'm a proud tribalist, deal with it.

Lolest.

They asked all animals with horns to queue up, snail is also showing face.

I wonder who the unfortunate female who would marry you will be. Please send my heartfelt condolences to her already.

Just imagine marrying your daughter to a man, and after a year or so, She has to start looking for another husband because the one She married is stuck in a jail in Malaysia awaiting the hangman's noose.

Abegi comot hia.

Maybe that's why your women are so eager to have their kids' genes mixed with some other "dirty oily cowardly genes".

1Rebel:
I'd rather marry from another nationality.

Is there a female in this world who will marry this fool?

Unless of course you are talking of marrying Arabian camels

That's bestiality.

k

Well, it depends. Not all tribes I can marry from.One of which is the Yoruba tribe. They don't value marriage and cheats alot.

Fresia01:
I'm Igbo dating a Yoruba guy.. .i love him BUh I'm still scared.. ...

Igbo kwenu! One Nigeria pls

Kellibae:

lol.. ur comments ar funny anyways
but get my facts rights..its more rampant in soutwaste i kno wat im.tellin u.

Where a pregnant woman will not respect her current situation and still go around bleepin.

Oh Yeah, is that why we have so much baby factories in the Southeast? Or are you a product of one?

Have you forgotten so quickly what your dilector said about you guys being 99% ashy?

Better get your facts right and ask around for who your dad is.