tobiasbeecher:

Then if you're being overwhelmed by all these bills, I wonder what you're still doing over there? Why can't you bring your azz back to Nigeria?
For christ sake, the girl said the uncle is doing well and was helped somehow by her father, so why can't she be disappointed with such uncle when she knows he has the capacity to help out? You mustn't be a millionaire or make all the money abroad before you can help.

moonraker:
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but YOU cant force your uncle to help you

if he doesnt want to. Its all on him. Does that make him selfish?? Nope

Maybe you should stop looking at the situation from one perspective. Which is yours..

Do you know how he survives?

Do you even have an idea of the kind of bills he has to pay on a monthly bases?

Young lady, Europe isnt Nigeria. get that into your head.

I am not exactly sure what he faces but let me give you an idea of what it entails to live in the Asian region.


Health insurance

City Insurance

Housing Insurance

Social Insurance

Tv license


Then we come down to personal expenses


Water, electricity, gas, Internet (Fiber and Mobile) , Mobile phone, Rent, Petrol for car

By the time your done with all that, what do you think is left?? Yah, exactly!

Justice96:


Those who really want to help will do so without complaining forget about those bills don't give excuses on his behalf

Justice96:


Those who really want to help will do so without complaining forget about those bills don't give excuses on his behalf

toluine56:

Best and most reasonable comment so far.

What's the exchange rate of dollar to naira?

#10000 now sef is about $35 and that's me being moderate. Now if you staying abroad doing the most menial job and can't help ur people back home even with as little as #35 even if its once in a year, then forget it its either you're selfish, greedy or you don't just care about others. I have a relation abroad (not blood o) and she sends little cash once every year. I still grumble about the amount, but deep down I still appreciate it cos I know it ain't easy. This is someone with four kids and also schooling herslf. Call a spade a spade, there's absolutely no excuse for not helping no matter how little once you're abroad and I'm basing my argument on the exchange rate.

Lexusgs430:


What about if they are unemployed ? Don't you think the relations expecting funds, should also consider sending their unemployed relative some funds ?
Do they convert the $ in America, before it is spent ?

toluine56:

If you've been in the US, Canada for a year plus and you're unemployed, its either you're lazy, or just using it as a faucet to be selfish. My friend that just got to Ca less than a year ago does cleaning jobs and he still sends little stipends to his younger sis in Naija every two months though little.

If the family over here in Naija is well to do, then there'll be no need to help them in the first place. Now if someone travels out, completes his education and is unable to do something worthwhile either abroad or back home here with his/her foreign degree, that's a typical failure without apologies. I know there are exceptions, but 70% of them live comfortably at the end of it all.

Lexusgs430:


What if the person in question is illegal, and not able to get a job on the blackmarket ? Things are not always as rosy for all, like people always assume.......
I agree with you that 70% of them might live comfortable, but how do you know that the remaining 30% in question are not those that their relations are expecting from and not receiving ?

toluine56:

Well, I'm not in support of illegals and it doesn't even make sense to expect gratification from illegals, at least not in the first few years they're trying to settle down.

It doesn't have to be rosy before you can help. There are jobs everywhere even for illegals in the US. You can always assist with the little you have. The truth is that if they can help, you'll surely know. We aren't stupid. If your uncle or relative for Naija here is well to do, shey you no go know?

That being said, I'm an advocate of 'everyone is responsible for his/her misfortunes or success', but that doesn't erase the fact that most relatives abroad don't wanna help is back home. I've seen the good and the bad. Probably you've nt experienced it before so you can't understand.

tobiasbeecher:

Then if you're being overwhelmed by all these bills, I wonder what you're still doing over there? Why can't you bring your azz back to Nigeria?
For christ sake, the girl said the uncle is doing well and was helped somehow by her father, so why can't she be disappointed with such uncle when she knows he has the capacity to help out? You mustn't be a millionaire or make all the money abroad before you can help.

londoner:


And how will you get an international passport?

Abudu2000:
it is true but some preffer to help their blood relation only, my cousin is there and the guy's is really doing stuff for his brother eric, as in eric has no job but he changes cars every 3months, the guy was the first person in nigeria i saw an iphone 7plus with.....so it all varies though, even some no dey do for their own blood self,

Saintsquare:
When all those yeye uncle wan carry girlfriend and her family enter money go dey that time,op sha take am easy...

londoner:


So you could get a hold on 8,000 Euro and you could not instead think of using that amount to set up a viable business in Africa? A certificate is not a job in itself and is a cost before it ever is a pathway to a well paying job or career. How long do you think you will work before you even save 8000 Euros outside of your cost of living?

Maybe God is trying to tell you something. Maybe your 'blessing' is right there in Nigeria so your attempts to run from it are blocked each time.

Have you thought about the possibility?

tobiasbeecher:

Then if you're being overwhelmed by all these bills, I wonder what you're still doing over there? Why can't you bring your azz back to Nigeria?
For christ sake, the girl said the uncle is doing well and was helped somehow by her father, so why can't she be disappointed with such uncle when she knows he has the capacity to help out? You mustn't be a millionaire or make all the money abroad before you can help.

tobiasbeecher:

So all these rants are just for you to tell her to go and ask politicians for money? Abeg swerve, we know your type

tobiasbeecher:

So all these rants are just for you to tell her to go and ask politicians for money? Abeg swerve, we know your type

Johnnyessence:
abi ooo. They just don't feel like helping niii.

Saintsquare:
they are just heartless seriously, at least he should clear the air that he can't help instead of avoiding her,we know there type Na....if anything happens now and he needs spiritual help that's when they realizes they have families in Africa.

Lexusgs430:
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Have you considered the fact that some have nothing left to help with ? Possibly unemployed and collecting state handouts? Possibly in prison ? Possibly still an illegal immigrant and not fully sorted themselves out yet ? Possibly very depressed and receiving treatment for depression ? And a host of other reasons, why helping is not possible ?
And why is that he/she has to render help ? Why can't the relations expecting help, also render help ?

Justice96:



Then come back home. You see despite all the above mentioned they will keep on showing off on social media snapping pics at the elfel tower, London Bridge and others and your people back home will think all is well not knowing you don't even have somewhere to dust your feet at night how much more rest your head. Comeback home and stop giving us lavish excuses unless you are in prison

What do you mean by depression and get treatment for depression? Depression is not a disease my dear but if not handle properly it could lead to death because it's a situation whereby there is very little of economic activity which causes alot of unemployment and poverty in that case you will be sad and feel you cannot enjoy anything because your situation is so difficult and unpleasant.... However this too is not an excuse when you have a lot of people looking up to you and you complaining of depression

Justice96:



Then come back home. You see despite all the above mentioned they will keep on showing off on social media snapping pics at the elfel tower, London Bridge and others and your people back home will think all is well not knowing you don't even have somewhere to dust your feet at night how much more rest your head. Comeback home and stop giving us lavish excuses unless you are in prison

What do you mean by depression and get treatment for depression? Depression is not a disease my dear but if not handle properly it could lead to death because it's a situation whereby there is very little of economic activity which causes alot of unemployment and poverty in that case you will be sad and feel you cannot enjoy anything because your situation is so difficult and unpleasant.... However this too is not an excuse when you have a lot of people looking up to you and you complaining of depression

tobiasbeecher:

Then if you're being overwhelmed by all these bills, I wonder what you're still doing over there? Why can't you bring your azz back to Nigeria?
For christ sake, the girl said the uncle is doing well and was helped somehow by her father, so why can't she be disappointed with such uncle when she knows he has the capacity to help out? You mustn't be a millionaire or make all the money abroad before you can help.

Johnnyessence:
hmmm. Infact you aren't far from the truth. I strongly believe the white can't do such a thing. It is this african mentality that's drawing us back. What's there for him to help the op. Well all is well. I pray the helper will locate her.

Johnnyessence:
by applying in the nigeria immigration service. You can apply in your state or in any immigration office of your choice.

Johnnyessence:
abeg read the op reply again. She said she didn't have that kind of money in her account. She has tried it second time but no statement of account to show for it to the school she applied to.

Lexusgs430:


Be like say pesin do you long tin. LOL

Justice96:
My sister in Europe help us alot... She has built a house for my parents and established stores for my sisters as well and she's presently planning to take me to Europe, we are almost done with the paper. It varies

londoner:


If he adds another person and his bills it may then overwhelm him. Maybe he has struck the right balance between what he is paid and his lifestyle. The term 'doing well' means nothing. You take it to mean he has extra to give her (which most Nigerians imagine to be the case for people abroad) which is not necessarily true in most cases.

If he is doing that where he lives why would he go back to Nigeria? Maybe he has accepted that system and what it means to live there.

londoner:


You obviously have never lived around White people and their extended family.One thing non African families don't do like Nigerians sadly seem to do often is seek to use, dupe and leech off each other. It is that lack of family feeling towards those abroad that makes us avoid you.

How many times has the op ever picked up the phone to call and see if this man is okay, or how things are going?

Many ONLY ever contact people abroad to ask for money most times or to prepare for coming call where they will ask for funds AGAIN. People get sick of it especially when all around them abroad they see families that function properly and not as a bowl of leeches.

It is to the point that people have stopped informing their family and friends about their trips to Nigeria.

fergieboy:
Hahahah see this one.. What of me where my own father is in Canada for so many years and doing very fine.. Abandoned us here and married a white women .. Did I die? No