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Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by flexxyworld(m): 5:37pm On Jun 07, 2017
ok
Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by adorablevic: 5:37pm On Jun 07, 2017
wink
rawpadgin:
best relationship advice i have come across here!



i am in the last stage right now, looking forward to dumping her crazy a$$

i am good looking, have a good job yet one mumu wan use my heart play because i say make i test how love dey be


Goodlooking!!!good job!! I won't play with ur heart wink
rawpadgin:
best relationship advice i have come across here!



i am in the last stage right now, looking forward to dumping her crazy a$$

i am good looking, have a good job yet one mumu wan use my heart play because i say make i test how love dey be


Goodlooking!!!good job!! I won't play with ur heart..
Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by seunny4lif(m): 5:37pm On Jun 07, 2017
But who no dey relationship ko

Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by PotatoSalad(m): 5:38pm On Jun 07, 2017
Chase a check, never chase a.... Skrrt Skrrt

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Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by maxiuc(m): 5:38pm On Jun 07, 2017
Hmmmm me I don see pepper for girls hand

I no send them again


Feels dead

But don't want to break anyone's heart

Relationship this days can't be taken serious

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Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by PastorandMentor(m): 5:39pm On Jun 07, 2017
There are many fishes in the River. Queens die another sit close to the king cheesy
Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by Nobody: 5:40pm On Jun 07, 2017
Interesting
Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by Nobody: 5:40pm On Jun 07, 2017
Realwvn:
Forever Single abeg. I hate the drama.
Yimu.

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Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by Chibest2000(m): 5:40pm On Jun 07, 2017
point 3&4 are my best options anytime any day.
Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by Nobody: 5:41pm On Jun 07, 2017
Just tell the person to get the Bleep out of ur life
Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by rawpadgin(m): 5:41pm On Jun 07, 2017
adorablevic:
winkGoodlooking!!!good job!! I won't play with ur heart winkGoodlooking!!!good job!! I won't play with ur heart..
just checked ur dp, u look like a slay queen


can't wife a slay queen

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Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by Enezoza(f): 5:41pm On Jun 07, 2017
Never stick to one...that is what experience has taught me

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Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by kceewhyte(m): 5:44pm On Jun 07, 2017
Nansense abeg bae continue to blow me
Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by lilybonny(f): 5:47pm On Jun 07, 2017
A great piece OP.

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Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by adorablevic: 5:49pm On Jun 07, 2017
rawpadgin:
just checked ur dp, u look like a slay queen


can't wife a slay queen
lol..so I can't be beautiful in peace without been tagged a slay queen.. OK ooo

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Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by wizod(m): 5:51pm On Jun 07, 2017
NwaAmaikpe:
shocked

Things to do If you are being taken for granted in a relationship.

- Disgrace your partner at their place of work

-Masturbate some joy back to your life

-Post some slaying pics on social media

- Get a fûckboy/girl

-Cheat on your partner.

-Give your partner's picture to an Alfa, a mallam or a prophetess

-Cook with otapiapia

-Wake up by 12am náked and swear for your partner.

-Dump your partner

-Infect your partner with STDs


If this does not work, then your case is spiritual.
u need 2 visit a psychiatric doctor or cele healing home 4 brain formatting because u're case is beyond ordinary

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Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by Nobody: 5:51pm On Jun 07, 2017
Davash222:
For the guys.. If you are being taken for granted, just follow these steps.

1: Go and make money

2: Make Enough money

3: Make plenty money

4: Don't forget to buy Big house and Cars.

Finally, do this..
If you base your relationship on money, she will get used to it and crave love....which to you is money. She is gone with a pennyless dude and you'll be left crying "village people". Silly me, you will cry B**** used me.

Love love and everything else falls into place. I hope its only social media talk this you just wrote. I hope

The one or two ladies who loved him for money are the reason everyone is under the impression that love is money. Same as the guy or husband that illtreated his wife is the reason many ladies believe men are dogs. Write your own story Sir.
Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by Nobody: 5:52pm On Jun 07, 2017
OgahBohz:
best solution ever...

is


never stick one relationship....

at least two to three spouses at a tym...once one ob em is fuking up replace ASAP...

its easier for ladies sef...

seriously why date one guy or girl at a time?,when he or she is not ur fiance ?...

even wen he proposes sef anything can still hapn...


abehg life is too delicate o

In a weird way I agree with you
Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by Omolewa212(f): 5:56pm On Jun 07, 2017
rawpadgin:
best relationship advice i have come across here!



i am in the last stage right now, looking forward to dumping her crazy a$$

i am good looking, have a good job yet one mumu wan use my heart play because i say make i test how love dey be
That makes the two of us


Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by Afamed: 6:06pm On Jun 07, 2017
rawpadgin:
just checked ur dp, u look like a slay queen


can't wife a slay queen
TkO

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Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by rawpadgin(m): 6:08pm On Jun 07, 2017
adorablevic:
lol..so I can't be beautiful in peace without been tagged a slay queen.. OK ooo
u look just like my soon to be Ex


kidding!


u are beautiful though, i hope u are beautiful inside as well sha
Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by Nobody: 6:18pm On Jun 07, 2017
rawpadgin:
best relationship advice i have come across here!



i am in the last stage right now, looking forward to dumping her crazy a$$

i am good looking, have a good job yet one mumu wan use my heart play because i say make i test how love dey be


Baba dump her sorry Azz asap.
Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by Nobody: 6:26pm On Jun 07, 2017
Meh. Ain't gat the time to allow one babe dey take me do free kick, overhead kick and snake bite... Na to delete her contact straight... When fish full river.
Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by yorhmienerd(m): 6:37pm On Jun 07, 2017
jagugu88li:
If you base your relationship on money, she will get used to it and crave love....which to you is money. She is gone with a pennyless dude and you'll be left crying "village people". Silly me, you will cry B**** used me.

Love love and everything else falls into place. I hope its only social media talk this you just wrote. I hope

The one or two ladies who loved him for money are the reason everyone is under the impression that love is money. Same as the guy or husband that illtreated his wife is the reason many ladies believe men are dogs. Write your own story Sir.
There's nothing like LOVE

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Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by mediocre(m): 6:41pm On Jun 07, 2017
adorablevic:
lol..so I can't be beautiful in peace without been tagged a slay queen.. OK ooo
who said you were beautiful

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Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by veraiyke(m): 6:41pm On Jun 07, 2017
importexpert:
Sometimes ago, you thought it was the right time to be in a relationship. You met your partner, and you were convinced they were the best thing to exist since sliced bread. You started the relationship, and it was pure bliss. You called yourselves repeatedly. The online chats were intense. You both would chat late for thirty minutes only to realize it’s actually been three hours and it was almost 12 am in the morning. The text messages were constant. The surprise love gestures were unending. The glow on your face was too hard for anybody to miss. You both were happy. You were crazy about each other. This was your heaven. This was what you always dreamed of.

Until one day, your partner started missing your calls. You’d wait for hours before the return call came in (if at all it ever did). If you complained, you received the “I’ve been very busy response.” You both are now online, but the chats have halted. You ask why they have not been reading and responding to your messages and they reply that they were not actually online because they forgot to log out. Slowly, you are getting used to not seeing their calls for days. Loving them seems to be like you’re doing yourself a favor. Everything they’ve been doing to make you feel special has stopped. When you register your grievances, they make it sound like you are nagging. You would have walked away, but your heart would just not cooperate. You are crazy about them, and they know this. This is why they feel they are at liberty to act anyhow because they know they will get away with it.

Meanwhile, you are getting sad because you’ve invested so much in the relationship and did not want it to crash. Yet, you can feel the distance between you two widen continuously. The feeling of love you have for them now seems to be your punishment. The weight of having a partner who does not take you seriously anymore is draining you. Your partner is taking your love for granted. You can feel it deep within your heart because this is real.

Hello. Are you A lady or A guy? Do the above describe you? Having a partner who takes you for granted can be frustrating. It can even be crushing if you have put so much into the relationship to make it work. The funny thing is that in some cases, your partner would not end the relationship but yet would not fix things up. So, what can you do about such a relationship? Below are four action points that you can take. While these points are not a guarantee of taking the relationship back to how it was, they are the logical steps that can help you become free in the long run.

Action point one: Talk with your partner

This is the first step to every problem in a relationship. When you sense your partner is taking you for granted, it is time you had a one-on-one discussion with them. It is not a time for phone calls or online chats. If there is distance barrier, you can make use of Skype. But conversations such as these are best done in person. Let them know your grievances. Sometimes in a relationship, there are things you will be angry about which your partner has no idea about. Tell them how you’ve been hurt by their actions and give specific examples.

Action point two: Talk to a close friend

This is the next resort if nothing changes about your relationship. Your partner ought to have a friend that roots for the two of you. This is where they can come in handy. While some people tend to frown at this approach, it can be very helpful. It can help you gain a better understanding of what is really going on. But if you feel this action point is not for you, you can ignore it.

Action point three: Withdraw for a while

If you were busy and you dropped your phone elsewhere, how long would it take you to notice its absence? Thirty minutes? One hour? The reason is that your phone is important to you. We are wired as humans to observe the absence of anything that matters to us. If you got home after a hard day’s work, you are more likely to notice the absence of your television compared to your shoe. Getting the drift? Likewise, you need to know if you are still important to your partner. Withdraw from them for a while and watch if they notice your absence. Quit the calls, the visit, the messages and everything. If they notice it and come back pressing to know what is wrong, you should have another dialogue with them. If they don’t notice and don’t press for it, that is a bad sign.

Action Point Four: End the relationship

If they don’t notice your withdrawal, it means it is time to let go. It is a sign that they are taking you for granted because they stopped loving you a long time ago. Yes, you may still have feelings for them, but it is time to move on. Don’t try to force someone into accepting you or staying with you. You need to recognize when it ends.

An extra action point

Work on yourself: Rather than mope around about the relationship, engross yourself in something new and challenging. Doing this can help you heal faster. Take a trip and visit new places. You can learn a skill or new languages. You can write a book or take a special course. Whatever your choice may be, channel your sadness over the relationship into becoming far better than you are now. Your partner may return or not. What you do with that is entirely up to you. But you can choose not to remain hurt and pained anymore. Remaining in a dating relationship where you are being taken for granted is an abuse to yourself.

What can I say. Its often complicated and not as straight as you've pointed out
Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by darealez(m): 6:41pm On Jun 07, 2017
importexpert:
Sometimes ago, you thought it was the right time to be in a relationship. You met your partner, and you were convinced they were the best thing to exist since sliced bread. You started the relationship, and it was pure bliss. You called yourselves repeatedly. The online chats were intense. You both would chat late for thirty minutes only to realize it’s actually been three hours and it was almost 12 am in the morning. The text messages were constant. The surprise love gestures were unending. The glow on your face was too hard for anybody to miss. You both were happy. You were crazy about each other. This was your heaven. This was what you always dreamed of.

Until one day, your partner started missing your calls. You’d wait for hours before the return call came in (if at all it ever did). If you complained, you received the “I’ve been very busy response.” You both are now online, but the chats have halted. You ask why they have not been reading and responding to your messages and they reply that they were not actually online because they forgot to log out. Slowly, you are getting used to not seeing their calls for days. Loving them seems to be like you’re doing yourself a favor. Everything they’ve been doing to make you feel special has stopped. When you register your grievances, they make it sound like you are nagging. You would have walked away, but your heart would just not cooperate. You are crazy about them, and they know this. This is why they feel they are at liberty to act anyhow because they know they will get away with it.

Meanwhile, you are getting sad because you’ve invested so much in the relationship and did not want it to crash. Yet, you can feel the distance between you two widen continuously. The feeling of love you have for them now seems to be your punishment. The weight of having a partner who does not take you seriously anymore is draining you. Your partner is taking your love for granted. You can feel it deep within your heart because this is real.

Hello. Are you A lady or A guy? Do the above describe you? Having a partner who takes you for granted can be frustrating. It can even be crushing if you have put so much into the relationship to make it work. The funny thing is that in some cases, your partner would not end the relationship but yet would not fix things up. So, what can you do about such a relationship? Below are four action points that you can take. While these points are not a guarantee of taking the relationship back to how it was, they are the logical steps that can help you become free in the long run.

Action point one: Talk with your partner

This is the first step to every problem in a relationship. When you sense your partner is taking you for granted, it is time you had a one-on-one discussion with them. It is not a time for phone calls or online chats. If there is distance barrier, you can make use of Skype. But conversations such as these are best done in person. Let them know your grievances. Sometimes in a relationship, there are things you will be angry about which your partner has no idea about. Tell them how you’ve been hurt by their actions and give specific examples.

Action point two: Talk to a close friend

This is the next resort if nothing changes about your relationship. Your partner ought to have a friend that roots for the two of you. This is where they can come in handy. While some people tend to frown at this approach, it can be very helpful. It can help you gain a better understanding of what is really going on. But if you feel this action point is not for you, you can ignore it.

Action point three: Withdraw for a while

If you were busy and you dropped your phone elsewhere, how long would it take you to notice its absence? Thirty minutes? One hour? The reason is that your phone is important to you. We are wired as humans to observe the absence of anything that matters to us. If you got home after a hard day’s work, you are more likely to notice the absence of your television compared to your shoe. Getting the drift? Likewise, you need to know if you are still important to your partner. Withdraw from them for a while and watch if they notice your absence. Quit the calls, the visit, the messages and everything. If they notice it and come back pressing to know what is wrong, you should have another dialogue with them. If they don’t notice and don’t press for it, that is a bad sign.

Action Point Four: End the relationship

If they don’t notice your withdrawal, it means it is time to let go. It is a sign that they are taking you for granted because they stopped loving you a long time ago. Yes, you may still have feelings for them, but it is time to move on. Don’t try to force someone into accepting you or staying with you. You need to recognize when it ends.

An extra action point

Work on yourself: Rather than mope around about the relationship, engross yourself in something new and challenging. Doing this can help you heal faster. Take a trip and visit new places. You can learn a skill or new languages. You can write a book or take a special course. Whatever your choice may be, channel your sadness over the relationship into becoming far better than you are now. Your partner may return or not. What you do with that is entirely up to you. But you can choose not to remain hurt and pained anymore. Remaining in a dating relationship where you are being taken for granted is an abuse to yourself.

"Taking your love for granted" sounds somehow to me except you've actually developed a metrics to that effect. People get busy and bored a times. Sometimes ago, my dearie would always complain about me being busy she later woke to the reality of programmers and coding. It got better after all.

My point
There's no such thing as trivializing love. Its either someone has moved on or something needs to be fixed.

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Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by searay(m): 6:44pm On Jun 07, 2017
AngelicDamsel:
Easier said than done! Withdraw for a while and u become a suspect grin grin grin grin grin grin
Meanwhile
God bless you my Dear
Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by Tajbol4splend(m): 6:52pm On Jun 07, 2017
importexpert:
Sometimes ago, you thought it was the right time to be in a relationship. You met your partner, and you were convinced they were the best thing to exist since sliced bread. You started the relationship, and it was pure bliss. You called yourselves repeatedly. The online chats were intense. You both would chat late for thirty minutes only to realize it’s actually been three hours and it was almost 12 am in the morning. The text messages were constant. The surprise love gestures were unending. The glow on your face was too hard for anybody to miss. You both were happy. You were crazy about each other. This was your heaven. This was what you always dreamed of.

Until one day, your partner started missing your calls. You’d wait for hours before the return call came in (if at all it ever did). If you complained, you received the “I’ve been very busy response.” You both are now online, but the chats have halted. You ask why they have not been reading and responding to your messages and they reply that they were not actually online because they forgot to log out. Slowly, you are getting used to not seeing their calls for days. Loving them seems to be like you’re doing yourself a favor. Everything they’ve been doing to make you feel special has stopped. When you register your grievances, they make it sound like you are nagging. You would have walked away, but your heart would just not cooperate. You are crazy about them, and they know this. This is why they feel they are at liberty to act anyhow because they know they will get away with it.

Meanwhile, you are getting sad because you’ve invested so much in the relationship and did not want it to crash. Yet, you can feel the distance between you two widen continuously. The feeling of love you have for them now seems to be your punishment. The weight of having a partner who does not take you seriously anymore is draining you. Your partner is taking your love for granted. You can feel it deep within your heart because this is real.

Hello. Are you A lady or A guy? Do the above describe you? Having a partner who takes you for granted can be frustrating. It can even be crushing if you have put so much into the relationship to make it work. The funny thing is that in some cases, your partner would not end the relationship but yet would not fix things up. So, what can you do about such a relationship? Below are four action points that you can take. While these points are not a guarantee of taking the relationship back to how it was, they are the logical steps that can help you become free in the long run.

Action point one: Talk with your partner

This is the first step to every problem in a relationship. When you sense your partner is taking you for granted, it is time you had a one-on-one discussion with them. It is not a time for phone calls or online chats. If there is distance barrier, you can make use of Skype. But conversations such as these are best done in person. Let them know your grievances. Sometimes in a relationship, there are things you will be angry about which your partner has no idea about. Tell them how you’ve been hurt by their actions and give specific examples.

Action point two: Talk to a close friend

This is the next resort if nothing changes about your relationship. Your partner ought to have a friend that roots for the two of you. This is where they can come in handy. While some people tend to frown at this approach, it can be very helpful. It can help you gain a better understanding of what is really going on. But if you feel this action point is not for you, you can ignore it.

Action point three: Withdraw for a while

If you were busy and you dropped your phone elsewhere, how long would it take you to notice its absence? Thirty minutes? One hour? The reason is that your phone is important to you. We are wired as humans to observe the absence of anything that matters to us. If you got home after a hard day’s work, you are more likely to notice the absence of your television compared to your shoe. Getting the drift? Likewise, you need to know if you are still important to your partner. Withdraw from them for a while and watch if they notice your absence. Quit the calls, the visit, the messages and everything. If they notice it and come back pressing to know what is wrong, you should have another dialogue with them. If they don’t notice and don’t press for it, that is a bad sign.

Action Point Four: End the relationship

If they don’t notice your withdrawal, it means it is time to let go. It is a sign that they are taking you for granted because they stopped loving you a long time ago. Yes, you may still have feelings for them, but it is time to move on. Don’t try to force someone into accepting you or staying with you. You need to recognize when it ends.

An extra action point

Work on yourself: Rather than mope around about the relationship, engross yourself in something new and challenging. Doing this can help you heal faster. Take a trip and visit new places. You can learn a skill or new languages. You can write a book or take a special course. Whatever your choice may be, channel your sadness over the relationship into becoming far better than you are now. Your partner may return or not. What you do with that is entirely up to you. But you can choose not to remain hurt and pained anymore. Remaining in a dating relationship where you are being taken for granted is an abuse to yourself.



Many geniuses on nairaland.com, great.
Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by aklion: 6:52pm On Jun 07, 2017
Who ever wrote this points try. I agree wit them... Bless yu!
Re: 4 Things You Can Do If You're Being Taken For Granted In A Relationship by davillian(m): 6:56pm On Jun 07, 2017
Do not choke me.
Do not give me too much of everything.
Then I will not take you for granted.

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