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Perspectives:
Marriage is one of the next thing in my life right now and I don't want to get it wrong.

What are those things that can convince a person to tie a knot without regretting later in the future?

Are there signs that should be looked out for?

What are those red flags that shouldn't be ignored?

Married people, about to married, people in serious relationship, please we need your input.

What is your purpose? East kind of woman do u want? What I know is love is never enough trust me. For example, a partner can love u n still cheat on you. The only thing that can stop someone from cheating or evil is the fear of God. I always recommend marrying someone who has the fear of God n is deeply rooted in the church (that means u have to be involved yourself beyond Sunday worship) cos sometimes people shy away from certain things not necessarily for the fear of God but for fear of what people will say if caught. I used to smoke n drink but I had no choice but to stop when I became very involved in the church as a result of a responsibility I was given as a youth leader, I was concerned about what people will say about me, the brethren n the entire church. Moreover I made new friends n none was doing those things, n since I spent most of my time with them I just couldn't smoke n drink again. Association plays a big deal in our lives whether we accept it or not, it's better to have a partner that surrounds himself with brethren n is actively involved in the church. They will always respect the authority in the church so u can easily report them, only that thought can go a long way in keeping them on their toes cos everyone wants to look good in the church. Eventually it becomes a habit. Finally, vision is key to association. Only people headed in the same direction should travel together. Marry for where you are going to not where you are today, that means you need to discover your purpose first cos that should determine your wife. SHALOM!

Andiebest:


What is your purpose? East kind of woman do u want? What I know is love is never enough trust me. For example, a partner can love u n still cheat on you. The only thing that can stop someone from cheating or evil is the fear of God. I always recommend marrying someone who has the fear of God n is deeply rooted in the church (that means u have to be involved yourself beyond Sunday worship) cos sometimes people shy away from certain things not necessarily for the fear of God but for fear of what people will say if caught. I used to smoke n drink but I had no choice but to stop when I became very involved in the church as a result of a responsibility I was given as a youth leader, I was concerned about what people will say about me, the brethren n the entire church. Moreover I made new friends n none was doing those things, n since I spent most of my time with them I just couldn't smoke n drink again. Association plays a big deal in our lives whether we accept it or not, it's better to have a partner that surrounds himself with brethren n is actively involved in the church. They will always respect the authority in the church so u can easily report them, only that thought can go a long way in keeping them on their toes cos everyone wants to look good in the church. Eventually it becomes a habit. Finally, vision is key to association. Only people headed in the same direction should travel together. Marry for where you are going to not where you are today, that means you need to discover your purpose first cos that should determine your wife. SHALOM!

God bless you

sweetilicious:
Is this applicable to only the males?

Even more for women Sir

Perspectives:


God bless you

Bless you too.

NairalandCS:
Op you're overthinking it. Just follow your instict, your instict not your heart.

Thank or curse me later.

Instinct in this issue is not enough....
Thorough introspection have to be made...
As of the last time I checked MARRIAGE is the only institution you don't graduate from...you keep going to the end of your life..

So abeg no tell am sey im too dey over think and make im follow im instinct

tobianthony:
When it comes to marriage first things first you need to know yourself and you need to be painfully realistic with yourself .

Finances - very very key ... Ask your partner to write down at least five financial principles they believe in and practice . Nobody has enough money to do what they want all the time it's all about managing resources .

Spirituality - if you guys are not on the same level spiritually you need to resolve this .

Sexuality - everybody more than often cheats one way or the other ...do not let this bug you to the point of insanity just take it for what it is and respect boundaries . Make sure your partner is on the same level with you when it comes to sex . If you are a level 9 on the freak meter do not marry a level 5 or below . If you do be prepared to come down to her level or cheat .

Family - the average Nigerian woman expects you to take care of her family from time to time in one way or the other ...draw the line according to your capacity .

Life goals - Be clear about where you are going in life and see if they support you . if your partner is not an entrepreneur or more like a salary inclined person be careful and expose her to your world if it's the other way do the same . be open with your finances . Trust me the day you die you die you do not want her to start running around like a headless chicken looking for money .

Children - don't let anyone steamroll you into having children if you can't afford to ...we men need to stop this attitude of making babies we can't​ afford to feed . Make sure you are clear on how many kids you want and do not ...I repeat do not exceed that number . Three is the maximum .

Conflict resolution - make sure your partner is emotionally experienced and intelligent to say I'm sorry and move on . You must learn to forgive and forget . Your wife go do you many things that will make you want to run her over with your car and vice versa just forgive and do your best .

My dude it's an adventure many have entered and some failed while some people succeeded . Nobody has a perfect marriage .

If you think you are ready take your partner to justice Idowu's court at igbosherie Lagos high court and sit down and watch divorce proceedings and just note the mistakes that people make .

Even if you do all this still might not go according to plan .

Marriage is a Ponzi scheme and the best thing in life at the same time ...those who take advantage of the system will enjoy it .

All the best .

I learnt a lot from your comment.. May God increase your wisdom sir

love is important but it's not enough, you need to look at compatibility, how well you could endure and tolerate each other.Because after about 4years, the love grows a lil cold, only compatibility keeps it going

tosyne2much:
I learnt a lot from your comment.. May God increase your wisdom sir

Funny enough I was reading one of your threads the other day ...wasn't really happy with it ...though some of what you said could be true .

I don't think I'm wise my brother ... I'm just me .

My mother once told me that out of all her children I'm the wisest but when it comes to women I can be stupid .

All the best .

tobianthony:


Funny enough I was reading one of your threads the other day ...wasn't really happy with it ...though some of what you said could be true .

I don't think I'm wise my brother ... I'm just me .

My mother once told me that out of all her children I'm the wisest but when it comes to women I can be stupid .

All the best .

Well, concerning the article, someone can't always be right bro

Your wiseness could be smelt in your comment. When I saw the comment, I had to check your moniker and viewed your profile. I would have followed you if not that I've reached my follow back limit

Limitless72:



Instinct in this issue is not enough....
Thorough introspection have to be made...
As of the last time I checked MARRIAGE is the only institution you don't graduate from...you keep going to the end of your life..

So abeg no tell am sey im too dey over think and make im follow im instinct

Thank you my guy. Shey person go just enter marriage like say na nairabet

mzhorlah:
love is important but it's not enough, you need to look at compatibility, how well you could endure and tolerate each other.Because after about 4years, the love grows a lil cold, only compatibility keeps it going

Thanks, I find your opinion quite fascinating. Can I get to know you?

Perspectives:


Thanks, I find your opinion quite fascinating. Can I get to know you?

hello

mzhorlah:
hello

Hello how are you doing

Perspectives:

Hello how are you doing

m good and u