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valnelly:
As I write this.... I'm filled with so much hurt and regret.
My girlfriend whom I thought would be patient enough for me so I could get married to her has broken up with me.
I met her while I was writing my final year project in Yabatech about 4 years ago. We were cool together and the distance between us didn't mean that much to me even though she stays in ikorodu and I stay in surulere. The problem started when I gained admission to Unilag due to my decision for self development. I'm 31 years old and she is 25.
During the last 2 years I noticed she has changed drastically I notice that she now has stuffs like new shoes and new bags. Which of course ordinarily she wouldn't have been able to afford. The only time we see is on weekends and that's because she is still in Yabatech schooling and sometime when she comes like that she acts funny with phone calls. The way she talks to some certain people so suspicious. But none the less she always feels cool with me and always wants to be around me. Could it be because of sex?

I noticed that she behaves single at school and even on social media. We do not chat or use social media, we added each other but at a point I had to take her off because she doesn't portray any thing that shows we are actually dating...i took her off all platform of social media and she wasn't perturbed about it. I don't actually know what's going on in school or her place of residence but I have a very strong feeling that she has been cheating on me and some other guy have been buying her things I can't get for her. But on top of this she was actually looking for school fees and I was deploying all methods to make sure she pays this on time and that alone made me confused!. We had a heated argument on Sunday and she was yelling and talking back at me... I left the house for her in annoyance only for me to come back and she is gone. She left a note that says that she is no longer interested. Guys please what should I do. I love this girl so frigging much. I can't sleep or think straight right now. It's almost impossible for me to start all over again. I feel hopeless. Please guys your advice!

Benita27:
Your assumptions that you noticed she possessed things she could not afford like; handbags and shoes is funny, are you saying she's an orphan or doesn't have a relative who could give her money for those?. The only thing that validates she might be cheating was the calls you were suspecting. As for her not adding you on social media beside whatsapp is a good thing. Were you expecting her to flaunt you on social media 'cause you two are dating?...Silly girls do that.

HARDDON:
N just wen i tot ive heard d worse from u, you pull another one of your parochial classics!
Smh

@ op, the signs have been obvious, u were just too blindly in luv to see.
Try as you may, only a few ladies out there can hold off n turn down an opportunity for a more confortable instant life with another when pitched agaisnt an upcoming Male species.

Hard Truth 1:
She hasnt been yours all along( u lost her a long time ago) n was just tagging along considering u aint always up in her space n u only get to see on some weekends. I know some other weekends, she gives flimsy excuses why she cant come over.

You Knew but was too sissy to confront her because u were scared of two things: what u wud find out n losing her after d outburst( which just happened now. Talk about putting forth dooms day)

Hard Truth 2:

Here r the possible situations with her:

1. She'z into high class runz( has one or two big boys taking care of her financial needs n she pays in kind. Most likely n daz why she receives coded calls. She tells them her Dad forbids her spending d weekend in sch n uses dat as excuse to come see u)

Or there is one she really luvs n told him @ d beginning about u n he's been pestering her to dump u. She been looking for an opportunity


Or low class runs( service different random guys for pay) or a combination of both

2. There is some1 she holds in high regards on SM. Maybe one of her private financial or she is one of d very few reserved type that dont do SM PDA


Recommendation:

Yes ofcos, She just did you a favour by ending it( crude but advantagous awakening) cos u nida had d guts nor d balls to. You must pick the pieces n move on but not before you find out what exactly she was hiding. It wud help u know the kinda snake you've bn wit n help your healing process also. N u wud be wiser for it with ur nxt.

Dont know how u wud do it considering d distace but you must find out.

What u wud not wano do is go begging her like a needy bleeping nerd whose singular idiosyncrasy is a penchant for some wet freaking cleft

Focus on your buks n mk sure in d nearest future ,she regrets these ways of hers when she sees or hears about u fvcking success.

Now be gone

Chibydinho:
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Any babe that I come across, I make it clear to her that she is not the only one. Any mess up, delete button is pressed.
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Good morning, boss.... I pity op sha, I hope he gets a chick soon or find Ps 4 and be enjoying soccer!

valnelly:
As I write this.... I'm filled with so much hurt and regret.
My girlfriend whom I thought would be patient enough for me so I could get married to her has broken up with me.
I met her while I was writing my final year project in Yabatech about 4 years ago. We were cool together and the distance between us didn't mean that much to me even though she stays in ikorodu and I stay in surulere. The problem started when I gained admission to Unilag due to my decision for self development. I'm 31 years old and she is 25.
During the last 2 years I noticed she has changed drastically I notice that she now has stuffs like new shoes and new bags. Which of course ordinarily she wouldn't have been able to afford. The only time we see is on weekends and that's because she is still in Yabatech schooling and sometime when she comes like that she acts funny with phone calls. The way she talks to some certain people so suspicious. But none the less she always feels cool with me and always wants to be around me. Could it be because of sex?

I noticed that she behaves single at school and even on social media. We do not chat or use social media, we added each other but at a point I had to take her off because she doesn't portray any thing that shows we are actually dating...i took her off all platform of social media and she wasn't perturbed about it. I don't actually know what's going on in school or her place of residence but I have a very strong feeling that she has been cheating on me and some other guy have been buying her things I can't get for her. But on top of this she was actually looking for school fees and I was deploying all methods to make sure she pays this on time and that alone made me confused!. We had a heated argument on Sunday and she was yelling and talking back at me... I left the house for her in annoyance only for me to come back and she is gone. She left a note that says that she is no longer interested. Guys please what should I do. I love this girl so frigging much. I can't sleep or think straight right now. It's almost impossible for me to start all over again. I feel hopeless. Please guys your advice!

Xclusivedaniel6:
Miss, I accept whatever you say.
iv learnt never to argue with a lady

but my dear, I'll just leave u with dis DONT RIDICULE OR LOOK DOWN ON UR BF AND LEAVING HIM COS E HIS POOR OR NOT UP TO TASTE, THERE IS A THIN LINE BETWEEN WEALTH AND POVERTY

valnelly:
As I write this.... I'm filled with so much hurt and regret.
My girlfriend whom I thought would be patient enough for me so I could get married to her has broken up with me.
I met her while I was writing my final year project in Yabatech about 4 years ago. We were cool together and the distance between us didn't mean that much to me even though she stays in ikorodu and I stay in surulere. The problem started when I gained admission to Unilag due to my decision for self development. I'm 31 years old and she is 25.
During the last 2 years I noticed she has changed drastically I notice that she now has stuffs like new shoes and new bags. Which of course ordinarily she wouldn't have been able to afford. The only time we see is on weekends and that's because she is still in Yabatech schooling and sometime when she comes like that she acts funny with phone calls. The way she talks to some certain people so suspicious. But none the less she always feels cool with me and always wants to be around me. Could it be because of sex?

I noticed that she behaves single at school and even on social media. We do not chat or use social media, we added each other but at a point I had to take her off because she doesn't portray any thing that shows we are actually dating...i took her off all platform of social media and she wasn't perturbed about it. I don't actually know what's going on in school or her place of residence but I have a very strong feeling that she has been cheating on me and some other guy have been buying her things I can't get for her. But on top of this she was actually looking for school fees and I was deploying all methods to make sure she pays this on time and that alone made me confused!. We had a heated argument on Sunday and she was yelling and talking back at me... I left the house for her in annoyance only for me to come back and she is gone. She left a note that says that she is no longer interested. Guys please what should I do. I love this girl so frigging much. I can't sleep or think straight right now. It's almost impossible for me to start all over again. I fe,el hopeless. Please guys your advice!

Anusiemgood:
she left because you had no money,believe me if the money was flowing,she would never had taught it twice to back off.. same thing is happening to me here but I bet my chest,should this relationship ends just like that!,I will do the unthinkable and I must wicked this so called ladies without any regrets..well,I just pray God help you.

funshint:
wrong advise everywhere...."just forget about her and move one" bla bla shit everywhere. I don't blame most of these guys here; kids everywhere. I've also been at this point before. I can tell u its very easy as a guy to deal with a broken relationship when you're still in your 20s but once u start approaching 30 I bet u it's no longer child's play again. My candid advise to the OP is this...did u say something extremely wrong or rude to her during the argument? I can bet u no girl ever tolerates a rude or angry guy. I'll advise for now you lower your pride and ego and do the needful. If u really love this girl and see her as someone you'll love to spend the rest of your life with. Offer your sincere apology, sometimes you might hv to do it repeatedly depending on the person you're dealing with here. Don't start transferring blame. Accept your own side of the blame, apologize and sincerely promise not to repeat such. Then give her some space to breathe. I bet she'll come back in no time once she see's the sincerity in your apology. But if after like 2 or 3 weeks she still remains adamant then leave the matter to God. But on the long run your conscience will be clear that atleast you tried your best than to now later regret not doing anything at all.
Pls be careful of the advise you follow here a lot hv not yet figured out what they really want in life.
It's well bro!

Chibydinho:
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You better share what's happening to you now and stop forming John Cena...... Don't hold on to a sinking ship lest you sink too!

valnelly:
Thanks all..... I'm having MOMM attitude right now! (Money On My Mind). Thank you all!

Heineken:
... Lol. How person dey even get one girl sef? Nawao

Aprilivangie:
Am not a victim. ...am a survivor

Papiikush:
You'll get over it.

bonnyhope:
why would ur gf denies u sex when she is not a virgin, if she is a virgn i will be patient wit her till d d-day
but i dont tink any rite tinkin guy will allow dat. what is d justificatn for not submitin d stuf.

Chibydinho:
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Lol@ no lady tolerate an angry guy.. Just wondering if you see happenings around or probably you stay in a church.
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To burst ya bubbles, ladies are more attracted to the bad guys.. Go figure and stop bringing lenient approaches to op
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If you've lost respespe from any lady, then its time to call it quits.. Anyway, Money on my mind.. Most 9ja babes have only sex to offer.

Chibydinho:
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Lol...... If I notice any babe is trying to hold my mumu button, na run ooo.. I just quit communication asap. I don't want drama in my life
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As I dey so, na money first, but any pussy that comes along, I slay!

Toks2008:
I guess you are the one who needs to look at the larger picture in the story then you will see why he needs to move on.

For a lady to ever say she is tired then she needs space...if she is truly interested she will come back...

People in relationships fight and they reconcile but when a lady says she is no longer interested. ...no man should force it....if she still want the guy,she will come back and it is left for the guy to give her another chance...I have been there so I know what I'm implying...if a woman has made up her mind to leave a man even after the guy has apologized for whatever he did or did not do,it's a waste of time begging.

valnelly:
As I write this.... I'm filled with so much hurt and regret.
My girlfriend whom I thought would be patient enough for me so I could get married to her has broken up with me.
I met her while I was writing my final year project in Yabatech about 4 years ago. We were cool together and the distance between us didn't mean that much to me even though she stays in ikorodu and I stay in surulere. The problem started when I gained admission to Unilag due to my decision for self development. I'm 31 years old and she is 25.
During the last 2 years I noticed she has changed drastically I notice that she now has stuffs like new shoes and new bags. Which of course ordinarily she wouldn't have been able to afford. The only time we see is on weekends and that's because she is still in Yabatech schooling and sometime when she comes like that she acts funny with phone calls. The way she talks to some certain people so suspicious. But none the less she always feels cool with me and always wants to be around me. Could it be because of sex?

I noticed that she behaves single at school and even on social media. We do not chat or use social media, we added each other but at a point I had to take her off because she doesn't portray any thing that shows we are actually dating...i took her off all platform of social media and she wasn't perturbed about it. I don't actually know what's going on in school or her place of residence but I have a very strong feeling that she has been cheating on me and some other guy have been buying her things I can't get for her. But on top of this she was actually looking for school fees and I was deploying all methods to make sure she pays this on time and that alone made me confused!. We had a heated argument on Sunday and she was yelling and talking back at me... I left the house for her in annoyance only for me to come back and she is gone. She left a note that says that she is no longer interested. Guys please what should I do. I love this girl so frigging much. I can't sleep or think straight right now. It's almost impossible for me to start all over again. I feel hopeless. Please guys your advice!

Victornezzar:
Bro dats not an issue 2 get worried over....just forget her.....delete everything about her
Infact ur lucky cos u no go dey think about anything again.....Make money nd look 4 someone better

Victornezzar:
lol wat about d gal
dd she come 4 reconciliation

kenx1:
Yes she did.. my brother upgrade urself and see how she will come crawling back to you

valnelly:
As I write this.... I'm filled with so much hurt and regret.
My girlfriend whom I thought would be patient enough for me so I could get married to her has broken up with me.
I met her while I was writing my final year project in Yabatech about 4 years ago. We were cool together and the distance between us didn't mean that much to me even though she stays in ikorodu and I stay in surulere. The problem started when I gained admission to Unilag due to my decision for self development. I'm 31 years old and she is 25.
During the last 2 years I noticed she has changed drastically I notice that she now has stuffs like new shoes and new bags. Which of course ordinarily she wouldn't have been able to afford. The only time we see is on weekends and that's because she is still in Yabatech schooling and sometime when she comes like that she acts funny with phone calls. The way she talks to some certain people so suspicious. But none the less she always feels cool with me and always wants to be around me. Could it be because of sex?

I noticed that she behaves single at school and even on social media. We do not chat or use social media, we added each other but at a point I had to take her off because she doesn't portray any thing that shows we are actually dating...i took her off all platform of social media and she wasn't perturbed about it. I don't actually know what's going on in school or her place of residence but I have a very strong feeling that she has been cheating on me and some other guy have been buying her things I can't get for her. But on top of this she was actually looking for school fees and I was deploying all methods to make sure she pays this on time and that alone made me confused!. We had a heated argument on Sunday and she was yelling and talking back at me... I left the house for her in annoyance only for me to come back and she is gone. She left a note that says that she is no longer interested. Guys please what should I do. I love this girl so frigging much. I can't sleep or think straight right now. It's almost impossible for me to start all over again. I feel hopeless. Please guys your advice!

shamdex2000:
God almighty bless your brain brother. you deserve a whole sallah chicken. I am in the same situation, infact my own is more rhan four years... It is well

valnelly:
As I write this.... I'm filled with so much hurt and regret.
My girlfriend whom I thought would be patient enough for me so I could get married to her has broken up with me.
I met her while I was writing my final year project in Yabatech about 4 years ago. We were cool together and the distance between us didn't mean that much to me even though she stays in ikorodu and I stay in surulere. The problem started when I gained admission to Unilag due to my decision for self development. I'm 31 years old and she is 25.
During the last 2 years I noticed she has changed drastically I notice that she now has stuffs like new shoes and new bags. Which of course ordinarily she wouldn't have been able to afford. The only time we see is on weekends and that's because she is still in Yabatech schooling and sometime when she comes like that she acts funny with phone calls. The way she talks to some certain people so suspicious. But none the less she always feels cool with me and always wants to be around me. Could it be because of sex?

I noticed that she behaves single at school and even on social media. We do not chat or use social media, we added each other but at a point I had to take her off because she doesn't portray any thing that shows we are actually dating...i took her off all platform of social media and she wasn't perturbed about it. I don't actually know what's going on in school or her place of residence but I have a very strong feeling that she has been cheating on me and some other guy have been buying her things I can't get for her. But on top of this she was actually looking for school fees and I was deploying all methods to make sure she pays this on time and that alone made me confused!. We had a heated argument on Sunday and she was yelling and talking back at me... I left the house for her in annoyance only for me to come back and she is gone. She left a note that says that she is no longer interested. Guys please what should I do. I love this girl so frigging much. I can't sleep or think straight right now. It's almost impossible for me to start all over again. I feel hopeless. Please guys your advice!