Augustap:

One day she cud feel caged, but that doesn't apply to every young lady. Some do not even want that kind of an exploration especially if they've met someone they love truly. Its a 50 - 50 thing. Girls even at a tender age already know what they'll like to do as young ladies, so she may or may not want to explore. Btw, the age difference ain't bad at all, in fact its perfect

I for like buy you drink but we are online, no bar.

It does not apply to all ladies but to most.

There is a need to sample, so they can be sure they made the right choice.

Sister, the body cream you used first, is it the cream you are still using?

dumo1:
What season of POWER are you watching?

Season 4

Odaveboy:


congrats sis.... I like your testimony,but please can you tell us if he is just the only guy? I mean between age 19-26.....no fling in school or stuffs? regards

Lol... It was just him. My friends knew him. Some of my coursemates did too. It wasn't easy for both at first but it was worth it. His school was not too far from mine (2 hours drive) so we were not too far from each other. Communication was on top gear. Both can make it happen IF they truly want it.

josju:
Good day all, I really want your sincere views or experience on the issue of dating a lady in her early 20's. I met a girl aged 20 has finished OND and just going for internship two months back and she seems to be the right person for me, her maturity, concerns and love shown have been commendable. Am 28 and would love to have her as a wife but my fear is if she wouldn't change from this good,homely responsible girl as she grows older.
I on my part will never cheat on her as I strongly uphold the one boy one girl relationship.
Question now is has anyone experienced or seen people that dated a girl of that age and age difference that work out well?
To mature older ladies how many of you are still with the lover you met at your early 20's?
From age 20 can a lady really be sure of what she wants in a lover and stick with a loving, faithful and caring partner without the urge to explore at some point in time?
Your mature and sincere response would be appreciated.

yes met mine while she was 17 and 8 years later we still together

I'm 20 and I'm also dating a 28 years old guy. .. 4 years now, by the grace of God we've been waxing stronger even though there have been challenging times! See it all depends on you both, what do you guys really want? As for me and my fiance, marriage is knocking!

Yes I dated a girl of that age but as she grows older my dear things change from good to bad now we are not again but then she promise heaven and earth due to that I pay for her school fees in eksu from year one to year two but now we are bit together again

pocohantas:
People change because they want to change and some don't have the right guidance. Not just because they are getting older.

The thing you should have in mind is, contrary to what you read on NL, not every young girl in her early twenties is very enthusiastic about getting married at that age. Lots of them acshuali want to explore and experience life...this isn't always sexual. So, what you should do is carefully observe her and find out her type of girl.

Use your senses in the relationship. Don't overdo...
Don't go footing all her expenses in the name of love.

Most importantly, long relationships are totally unnecessary most times. That's what leads to lots of issues. Most ladies left their first love because they were most times of the same age and marriage didn't seem to be in the picture. If you observe her and she is perfect, marry her as soon as it's convenient for you both. No need fukceen each other for 6years and counting in the name of relationship.

Ignore people that will tell you to leave her alone, they are the same people that will tell you not to go for an older one because she will most likely have high bodycount, be disrespectful and plenty reasons they come up with. One would wonder what they want

Good advice

majority ladies @ early 20s most probably are still dream chasers... marriage may not yet be on her priority list... They may appear somewhat mature but u can never fail to observe the fact that atoms of Adventure, youthful enthusiasm, naivety, inexperience and insensitivity might be a massive hurdle.... in summary, if u are ready and u are sure that she is too, don't frolick around with her for too long... just do the needful

Svelte98:
First of all, what do most of you even mean by "explore"? I"m in my early 20's(22 to be precise) and the only "exploration" i would like to engage in is travelling, furthering my education, getting a good job and attaining a level of success/comfort hopefully before i get married. The truth is that a lot of young people now are actually much smarter and mature for their age. Yes, there are some who are still childish and immature, but obviously the OP's girlfriend isnt in that category as he speaks highly of her, the only problem/fear he has is if she'll change her attitude as she gets older. Personally i"lld say if you think she's worth the risk, then continue with her and be upfront with her about your plans for the both of you so she"ll know where she stands with you on time. If she still goes ahead to change her attitude later on, then sorry in advance, but if she doesn't, please marry her. Good girls are rare this days. Bottom line is, maturity isnt by age. There's an igbo proverb that says "someone's height doesn't determine how mature he/she is". Same goes for the age as well, there are a lot of ladies in their late 20's and early 30's who are still immature and childish and don't even know want they want in life. And in the same vein there are a lot of ladies in their early 20's who already know what they want in life and are mature to a T! Just be with her, pray about it(the relationship and impending marriage) and leave the rest to God. C"est fíniś. Ayaf talk my own finish biko. Lemme go and watch my POWER.� #AngelaValdezIssaWomanScorned#�� .Who else is feeling this their soundtrack; Monster? Happy Sunday Guys.

team#tasha

Secretario:


I for like buy you drink but we are online, no bar.

It does not apply to all ladies but to most.

There is a need to sample, so they can be sure they made the right choice.

Sister, the body cream you used first, is it the cream you are still using?

What if i tell you that i even forget to use it at times?
Listen, i don't know abt other ladies, but the exploration i long for is acquiring more than enof knowledge, travelling, listening to interesting new songs, eating new and palatable dishes, getting the job of my dream, reading interesting books, becoming successful to repay all those who helped me and help others that need help, get married and raise a wonderful family. And guess what, i want to do this with my one and only true love, he's my first and he's gonna be my last. I don't have time to come and be having connections with everyone in the name of relationship or "exploration". Am neither WIFI nor GLO

josju:
Good day all, I really want your sincere views or experience on the issue of dating a lady in her early 20's. I met a girl aged 20 has finished OND and just going for internship two months back and she seems to be the right person for me, her maturity, concerns and love shown have been commendable. Am 28 and would love to have her as a wife but my fear is if she wouldn't change from this good,homely responsible girl as she grows older.
I on my part will never cheat on her as I strongly uphold the one boy one girl relationship.
Question now is has anyone experienced or seen people that dated a girl of that age and age difference that work out well?
To mature older ladies how many of you are still with the lover you met at your early 20's?
From age 20 can a lady really be sure of what she wants in a lover and stick with a loving, faithful and caring partner without the urge to explore at some point in time?
Your mature and sincere response would be appreciated.

KANU the baller is older that his wife with about ten years,she was about 20when she got married to him, I have seen lots of couples with a lot age difference.

Its about the two of you,if she's fine with it and your OK with it go ahead,but from the way I see it,you might be the one having issues with the age difference....

I have seen ladies date guys with that age difference or more and these guys tend to treat these girls like their baby sister,they try to stamp that authority thing that says am far older than you so you must do whatever I want....that's very wrong...

Sir be able to define what you want,talk with her and get what or how she sees it before you jump into wanting to date her

NL always thinking y'all got solution for poo like this

josju:
Good day all, I really want your sincere views or experience on the issue of dating a lady in her early 20's. I met a girl aged 20 has finished OND and just going for internship two months back and she seems to be the right person for me, her maturity, concerns and love shown have been commendable. Am 28 and would love to have her as a wife but my fear is if she wouldn't change from this good,homely responsible girl as she grows older.
I on my part will never cheat on her as I strongly uphold the one boy one girl relationship.
Question now is has anyone experienced or seen people that dated a girl of that age and age difference that work out well?
To mature older ladies how many of you are still with the lover you met at your early 20's?
From age 20 can a lady really be sure of what she wants in a lover and stick with a loving, faithful and caring partner without the urge to explore at some point in time?
Your mature and sincere response would be appreciated.

Bros I am exactly on the same situations as you. I am the same age as you, she is around the age too.. she is an ond holder too but she wants to further her education...so I also skeptical about it... I really want to marry the girl but... what you post about is my worry...

Following some of the thread, I must say the issue you raised is a very sensitive one and there are no fixed sure-bet way to addressing such.

In my opinion, I would offer you the following advice;
1. Pray about it. Let God direct you.
2. Start as a friend with her. And I mean just a friend. That's how you can predict the end from the beginning.
3. If you are a good friend and you are influencing her positively, it will be noticed in every facet of her life, and if otherwise, it will also be seen. Note: Been good does not necessarily mean spending or taking up all her expenses.
4. Don't be overly chasing her. Give her her freedom once you have some level of trust in her.
5. Know her mum. Let her mum know you very briefly as just a friend/acquaintance. If she hasn't been seeing her with male friends, let your visiting her mum be very sparingly.
6. Back to number 3, If you've been a very positive influence on her, her mum will sniff that out, and she will ask of you once in a while. (Avoid her Dad 4 now, especially if he wants her to finish Uni b4 anything else).
7. Now, depending on her exposure, how long u can wait, level of communication between u two, your readiness, the circuit of friends she has and many more factors to consider...Once you both are satisfied with them all, you can take the relationship one level up.

Please note, you are not the only one that will be worried..., She will also act some of the above script. She will equally be worried and contemplate marrying someone 10years older.

Bonus:
1. You will have to be patient and endure with her.
2. She will need to get exposed, and that is always the major concern. You don't have to worry about that...Let her fly, but be there to advice and guide her.
3. Do not lean on your own understanding. Pray 4 God guidance.

Young man, try and check out her relationship with God and corelate it with her social life. Though change, they say is constant but you can as well get something from there. Age actually has nothing to do with a girl's level of maturity.. Sometimes the so called grown up say 25+ are the most dangerous ones.. You just study her and follow your instinct.

livinbygrace:


My brother forget that talk.You better marry her now before you come back to this platform to tell stories that touch the heart.Girls of that age always wants to explore,its natural.

And who told u marriage comes without risks of promiscuity?.. Is there any special padlock they give married pple?.. Pesin wey go explore go explore.

Svelte98:
First of all, what do most of you even mean by "explore"? I"m in my early 20's(22 to be precise) and the only "exploration" i would like to engage in is travelling, furthering my education, getting a good job and attaining a level of success/comfort hopefully before i get married. The truth is that a lot of young people now are actually much smarter and mature for their age. Yes, there are some who are still childish and immature, but obviously the OP's girlfriend isnt in that category as he speaks highly of her, the only problem/fear he has is if she'll change her attitude as she gets older. Personally i"lld say if you think she's worth the risk, then continue with her and be upfront with her about your plans for the both of you so she"ll know where she stands with you on time. If she still goes ahead to change her attitude later on, then sorry in advance, but if she doesn't, please marry her. Good girls are rare this days. Bottom line is, maturity isnt by age. There's an igbo proverb that says "someone's height doesn't determine how mature he/she is". Same goes for the age as well, there are a lot of ladies in their late 20's and early 30's who are still immature and childish and don't even know want they want in life. And in the same vein there are a lot of ladies in their early 20's who already know what they want in life and are mature to a T! Just be with her, pray about it(the relationship and impending marriage) and leave the rest to God. C"est fíniś. Ayaf talk my own finish biko. Lemme go and watch my POWER.� #AngelaValdezIssaWomanScorned#�� .Who else is feeling this their soundtrack; Monster? Happy Sunday Guys.

Wow, I will really like to know you.
At this age, you are filled with wisdom, were are your kind, we don't get to see them or meet them

YelloweWest:
I can't believe the trash I'm reading here. Age has little or nothing to do with maturity.

I met my husband at 17. We got married when I was 18.
He is 20+ years my senior.

We've been married for 13years now and I've never thought of cheating or "exploring" with another man. God forbid!

Why??
1. He treats me well: one of the first thing that made me fall for my hus was how he treats me like a queen. He loves me with every bone in his body.
2. I'm a God fearing Christian wife and mother.

With a combination of the two qualities above any woman despite age will be a good wife.

Wow!!

20+ years!!!

How were you guys able to bridge the age gap thingy?

Chi59:


Wow!!

20+ years!!!

How were you guys able to bridge the age gap thingy?

Honestly there's no gap to bridge... I don't even notice it.
W3 both love and respect each other. No secrets and there's trust.
It's a good marriage. I wouldn't jeopardise it for anything.

bro there's no need to fear, first thing first. Love nd cherish her like she's d only woman in d world, let her knw ur intentions toward d relationship, dnt choke her, but also remember to b her guardian.. Then finally if possible, start knowing her family members dat will be a plus for u.

OP, no 4get to com-an update us when ur bae misbehave ooo

jordinsparkles:
I'm 20 and I'm also dating a 28 years old guy. .. 4 years now, by the grace of God we've been waxing stronger even though there have been challenging times! See it all depends on you both, what do you guys really want? As for me and my fiance, marriage is knocking!

lol.... you pics don't look 20 ma'am....

Slimydude49:
Many Girls in that stage of their life are in their hoe phase.. They collect from every Tom dick and Harry on little show of love or physical attraction..

Your comments sometimes make me laugh sha

Odaveboy:

lol.... you pics don't look 20 ma'am....

don't be deceived, I am...

josju:
Good day all, I really want your sincere views or experience on the issue of dating a lady in her early 20's. I met a girl aged 20 has finished OND and just going for internship two months back and she seems to be the right person for me, her maturity, concerns and love shown have been commendable. Am 28 and would love to have her as a wife but my fear is if she wouldn't change from this good,homely responsible girl as she grows older.
I on my part will never cheat on her as I strongly uphold the one boy one girl relationship.
Question now is has anyone experienced or seen people that dated a girl of that age and age difference that work out well?
To mature older ladies how many of you are still with the lover you met at your early 20's?
From age 20 can a lady really be sure of what she wants in a lover and stick with a loving, faithful and caring partner without the urge to explore at some point in time?
Your mature and sincere response would be appreciated.

nothing to o be afraid of I was 35 when I was dating my wife of 22 and later got married to her after courting for 2yrs, she is God gift to me. Though she has OND but if everything is soft by God's grace she will go back to finish her Bsc. If she is ready to settle down with you no problem, as well as you are well able financially and mature in mind, one thing I know as she is still young you can easily bend her to your taste. Best of luck.

Going tru same as well and highly optimistic... Met her here and she is just so amazing

josju:
Good day all, I really want your sincere views or experience on the issue of dating a lady in her early 20's. I met a girl aged 20 has finished OND and just going for internship two months back and she seems to be the right person for me, her maturity, concerns and love shown have been commendable. Am 28 and would love to have her as a wife but my fear is if she wouldn't change from this good,homely responsible girl as she grows older.
I on my part will never cheat on her as I strongly uphold the one boy one girl relationship.
Question now is has anyone experienced or seen people that dated a girl of that age and age difference that work out well?
To mature older ladies how many of you are still with the lover you met at your early 20's?
From age 20 can a lady really be sure of what she wants in a lover and stick with a loving, faithful and caring partner without the urge to explore at some point in time?
Your mature and sincere response would be appreciated.

josju:
Good day all, I really want your sincere views or experience on the issue of dating a lady in her early 20's. I met a girl aged 20 has finished OND and just going for internship two months back and she seems to be the right person for me, her maturity, concerns and love shown have been commendable. Am 28 and would love to have her as a wife but my fear is if she wouldn't change from this good,homely responsible girl as she grows older.
I on my part will never cheat on her as I strongly uphold the one boy one girl relationship.
Question now is has anyone experienced or seen people that dated a girl of that age and age difference that work out well?
To mature older ladies how many of you are still with the lover you met at your early 20's?
From age 20 can a lady really be sure of what she wants in a lover and stick with a loving, faithful and caring partner without the urge to explore at some point in time?
Your mature and sincere response would be appreciated.

bro nothing do you

it's left to you to study her well and know the type of girl she is....people change tho, I'm 26 and dating a girl of 17.....her parents know me and my parents know her too..I deflowered her and we cool like that.....tired of all this so called matured girls and how demanding they can be, so I took her at a very young age we will grow together....Good and loyal girls are hard to find

dumo1:

What season of POWER are you watching?

Season Malt..Lol

mistermaster:


bro nothing do you

it's left to you to study her well and know the type of girl she is....people change tho, I'm 26 and dating a girl of 17.....her parents know me and my parents know her too..I deflowered her and we cool like that.....tired of all this so called matured girls and how demanding they can be, so I took her at a very young age we will grow together....Good and loyal girls are hard to find

Bros Seventeen na under age oh..Lol Do I need to petition the Police or confess that I met my wife at same age and she is now 29..Lol

The way some ppl stereotype women these days amazes me... If u hv encountered the wayward ones below 25 doesn't make the rest bad. Some of our mothers and grandmum married below 20 and lived well with there decisions... OP... It's neither here nor there... Her family background matters also... Some girls are well taught from good homes garnished with good characters... If this is wat u hv found, nurture her and always let her know dat u want to be part of her bright future,

eeeeehm, am bookmarking this page so i can show Bea when she returns.

josju:
Good day all, I really want your sincere views or experience on the issue of dating a lady in her early 20's. I met a girl aged 20 has finished OND and just going for internship two months back and she seems to be the right person for me, her maturity, concerns and love shown have been commendable. Am 28 and would love to have her as a wife but my fear is if she wouldn't change from this good,homely responsible girl as she grows older.
I on my part will never cheat on her as I strongly uphold the one boy one girl relationship.
Question now is has anyone experienced or seen people that dated a girl of that age and age difference that work out well?
To mature older ladies how many of you are still with the lover you met at your early 20's?
From age 20 can a lady really be sure of what she wants in a lover and stick with a loving, faithful and caring partner without the urge to explore at some point in time?
Your mature and sincere response would be appreciated.

Well, human beings are different but most girls that age, are interested in exploring, and really don't know what they want. Most of them are "everybody's toy". Just observe her very much but if you have an option of dating someone much older, I'd ask that you go with the older one.