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pryme:
When my daughter come of age, she will be responsible for her decisions. I as a Dad will only counsel her and be there for her.

what would be your advice? suffering all in the name of love?

we should always put ourselves, families,relatives in our shoes before we reply here on nairaland

Stevengerd:
E go click, u just believe

Amen oop
Time 2 draw closer 2 God

Stevengerd:
Bro pls, use you brain dis afternoon.

broke boy

Blackhawk03:
My fellow brokie, hafar na?

I am fine jare

jaksmillioniar:
guy dem dey vex me I wont reply again cos if I say wat on my mind I get a ban I will just see how dey fool diasef. rubbish later dey say girls are not cheap. let dem go meet tblavk now. guy if u must spend for a girl fk shege out or her scata her pucce and giv d bich 5k for meatpie and mtn kad.

...aghhh

Benita27:
Look at how you're raving. You could only bed your kind of woman.

lmfao


get back to work immediately ma'am

you wanna start again o

This shameless woman has started again. Does your husband know what you do on nairaland? Why don't you leave broke guys alone and face your rich husband? Wetin you dey find ehn
You don't have respect for yourself at all oh!
You don cook lunch? Have you cleaned the house?
I want to insult you very well, but Nairaland will ban me forever.

Amarabae:
being Rich has many levels.
Many ladies are not looking for a Dangote kind of guy but a Hardworking Financially Stable Guy.
and I see nothing wrong in that.
He may not have his own house, atleast let him afford a 3-bedroom flat.
He may not have a murano or quest, atleast let him afford a camry even if it is old model.
Women want to be comfortable. Simple

Amarabae, how many young guys hustling around you can afford a 3 bedroom apartment?
A young guy can start with a room or self contain.

this is going to be fun

Amarabae:
why meeting tblachot? Why not meeting Emeka the hardworking Engineer or Femi the Telecommunication guy or Ahmed the banking guy with a good salary? Huh?

Lol. ..the guy is pained

kullozone:
This shameless woman has started again. Does your husband know what you do on nairaland? Why don't you leave broke guys alone and face your rich husband? Wetin you dey find ehn
You don't have respect for yourself at all oh!
You don cook lunch? Have you cleaned the house?
I want to insult you very well, but Nairaland will ban me forever.

Easy brother, it has not gotten to that

rosalieene:
this is going to be fun

aswear

lilmax:
broke boy

Lol, this broke boy will feed/ cater for you. shoni o stupid ni. ama ko e logbo!

jaksmillioniar:
cos dose guys b wit a girl like dem a hardwoking girl dat add value to thier life, dat improved dia life a girl dat u can say is a real woman like okanja iwale, akunyili zahra buhari not broke nairaland girls luking for who to by dem meat pie and coke.

oga. Did I hit a nerve inside you with this thread? Stop sweating biko.
*someone pls switch on the fan abeg.*

Amarabae:
lol. And Experience is the best bitter teacher

I don't understand the love-hate between you and this guy though..

kullozone:
This shameless woman has started again. Does your husband know what you do on nairaland? Why don't you leave broke guys alone and face your rich husband? Wetin you dey find ehn
You don't have respect for yourself at all oh!
You don cook lunch? Have you cleaned the house?
I want to insult you very well, but Nairaland will ban me forever.

easy joor..did she insult any guy in her post..take a chill

Benita27:
Not at all. Was at RUST this morning but currently at work. You saw my doppelganger?.

I saw someone that looks like you sha.

I went for a meeting at British Council.

Victornezzar:
Amen oop Time 2 draw closer 2 God

Abi now, its necessary

You don't have to be with a person just because of the wealth.. 
You can have it by helping each other to pursue the dream that will make you and your partner happy.

Not all women think that money could make them happy for the rest of their lives.

thepussyhunter:
lmfao


get back to work immediately ma'am

you wanna start again o

Shebi they said the other thread was theirs?.

sekxy:
easy joor..did she insult any guy in her post..take a chill

Hey brokey hunter!

Oyindidi:
Amarabae, how many young guys hustling around you can afford a 3 bedroom apartment?
A young guy can start with a room or self contain.

whether one or two or three.
Its ok, atleast let it not be a public yard.
Good afternoon.

Stevengerd:
Abi now, its necessary

Yeah oo
I don dey see d signs small small sha
don't answer dat nigga again

RuggedArab:
I saw someone that looks like you sha.

I went for a meeting at British Council.

I don't know where that is. How did it go?.

Stevengerd:
Lol, this broke boy will feed/ cater for you. shoni o stupid ni. ama ko e logbo!

if you can feed your family... then you'd have no problem with the thread.... like I said you lack understanding, go get it

Prevho:
First, dating a broke guy is your own perogative but at least, date one with potentials and big dreams.
“If you want to eat frog, eat the one with eggs”.

Second, if you cannot stay, do not stay. Some broke guys are very analytical, they know when you are not for real and when chips are down, they drop you like a bag of potatoes.

Now this is coming on the back of Kondomatic comment on this thread: https://www.nairaland.com/3944387/staying-him-when-he-broke
I feel it is imperative we trash this once and for all. I keep hearing ladies talking about how a guy they stood with when he was broke ditched them when he made it.

No logical and smart man will ever leave a lady who stood with him in this life, especially during his trying period.
The problem we have here though is in how you interpret the word “STAND”.

Most girls think standing with a broke guy means not asking him for money, giving him sex as he wants, cooking for me perpetually, not nagging and generally docile.

Most girls are actually STANDING without any verbal and active efort and they watch the guy do all the heavy lifiting, now when it is time to reap they say they were with you, REAAAAALLLLYYY!

The real idea here is the value of your worth in his eyes and how he rates you, there is a way you place yourself and you just become a time machine to him and he rides till he can get a better one.

You don’t pamper such guy or what other challenge is there for him to see (when in the real sense, you should be the challenge), instead you need to change your role.

So what does STANDING” with a broke guy means…

Most of the girls who claim guys leave them are mostly docile and when they act, they make it seem like they are doing you a great favor, broke guys can smell that from afar.

It simply refers to the level of influence you had in his life to achieving or actualizing his future ambition or getting better in life.
Are you the cornerstone or the pavement stone?


How much of your imprint and name will be mentioned when he tells that story?

ASK YOURSELF: If that guy was a company, what percentage will be your own share?

In this context, things like food, sex and even little financial push does not really count, there is a lot that matters more
The following are some of what you should aim to be and he also has to see you in the same light:

You have to become his -
Motivator everyday
Catalyst for success
A reason to be a success etc.

You may not help him financially, but once he can tie you in with his grass to grace story, my sister, you are going nowhere!
Some guys can be ruled out though, but it is only a negligible percentage.

Disclaimer: This is my own opinion

lalasticlala

beautiful write up bro

but errmmm why you con call lala now

You want him to like your post or take this shiiii to fp so u'd get likes on your post



PS: dont mind me i'm just looking for ..........

Benita27:

Shebi they said the other thread was theirs?.

hahahaha

revenge is sweet

so who's gonna be y'all first victim

Benita27:
Go back and read the thread. You lack comprehensive ability. Sorry, Coke is N150 while meatpie is N300 depending on the environment. I can take myself out and get a better treatment. Don't ever assume every girl is after the rubbish you all dole out.

ladies dey love meatpie ehnn
though na sharwama be the latest rave among babes

Amarabae:
whether one or two or three.
Its ok, atleast let it not be a public yard.
Good afternoon.

Afternoon pretty mama. The aim of threads like this one is to tell the brokeys truth. To encourage the lazy ones to start doing something.

Prevho:
First, dating a broke guy is your own perogative but at least, date one with potentials and big dreams.
“If you want to eat frog, eat the one with eggs”.

Second, if you cannot stay, do not stay. Some broke guys are very analytical, they know when you are not for real and when chips are down, they drop you like a bag of potatoes.

Now this is coming on the back of Kondomatic comment on this thread: https://www.nairaland.com/3944387/staying-him-when-he-broke
I feel it is imperative we trash this once and for all. I keep hearing ladies talking about how a guy they stood with when he was broke ditched them when he made it.

No logical and smart man will ever leave a lady who stood with him in this life, especially during his trying period.
The problem we have here though is in how you interpret the word “STAND”.

Most girls think standing with a broke guy means not asking him for money, giving him sex as he wants, cooking for me perpetually, not nagging and generally docile.

Most girls are actually STANDING without any verbal and active efort and they watch the guy do all the heavy lifiting, now when it is time to reap they say they were with you, REAAAAALLLLYYY!

The real idea here is the value of your worth in his eyes and how he rates you, there is a way you place yourself and you just become a time machine to him and he rides till he can get a better one.

You don’t pamper such guy or what other challenge is there for him to see (when in the real sense, you should be the challenge), instead you need to change your role.

So what does STANDING” with a broke guy means…

Most of the girls who claim guys leave them are mostly docile and when they act, they make it seem like they are doing you a great favor, broke guys can smell that from afar.

It simply refers to the level of influence you had in his life to achieving or actualizing his future ambition or getting better in life.
Are you the cornerstone or the pavement stone?


How much of your imprint and name will be mentioned when he tells that story?

ASK YOURSELF: If that guy was a company, what percentage will be your own share?

In this context, things like food, sex and even little financial push does not really count, there is a lot that matters more
The following are some of what you should aim to be and he also has to see you in the same light:

You have to become his -
Motivator everyday
Catalyst for success
A reason to be a success etc.

You may not help him financially, but once he can tie you in with his grass to grace story, my sister, you are going nowhere!
Some guys can be ruled out though, but it is only a negligible percentage.

Disclaimer: This is my own opinion

lalasticlala

I share your point of view.
Most have stood by him and supported him confused
Few can claim to have supported the man emotionally and physically. Some will stand by him begrudgingly help out remind him repeatedly remind him that she is helping him. Support is multi tiered it's not about the things you did for him physically and practically. Where you also available when he had his dark days of despair?Or did you talk about how providing for him was such a chore? Some women will stand by a broke guy but their intentions are obvious it's not genuine.

Hmmmmmmm

Amarabae:
oga. Did I hit a nerve inside you with this thread? Stop sweating biko.
*someone pls switch on the fan abeg.*

Benita27:
You're not making sense.

I will just watch both of u make a mess