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Damilaresimon25:
You don't mind loosing him and your well planned marriage, all you want is your MONEY.. Like seriously

dats weird to me though....

He refused to pick your calls because he knows u are always gonna request for your money whenever u call, not sitting him down to ask what d problem is.

nkwuocha:
Dear immee,

I go marry isn't the same as I don marry. You ladies will never learn. You're lucky you gave him just half of the money, I'm sure you gave him the money based on fiancé things.

As a woman, next time use your head and not your heart. Unluckily for you,you aren't my sister.I for help you collect the money.

My advice,report him to the nearest police station. I hope you've tangible evidence to prove you have him such amount.

rosalieene:
exactly my sister.

nothing a LAdy does is good in the eyes of this guys.

Everything a guy does, good or bad is always good.

most of them, it reflects in their character offline.
they don't waste time to criticize a LAdy

this are the kind of guys every lady should flee from.

TheRealestGuy:
You are a callous and wicked person.

You aren't even sure if he's broken even, you're not trying to be supportive, you're not even giving him a few weeks to stabilize after some production problems. All you're after is your miserly 500k that you lent to him.

You don't ever deserve to be married cos your type will turn to Jezebel if your hubby ever has financial issues.

If he wanted to scam you, will it be 500K, don't you know he'll be looking for a way to get more?

I pray for that guy that he doesn't marry you cos you will make his life miserable if he ever has financial problems.



Funny thing is that most of y'all women are like this, always quick to collect everything possible but when it comes to giving it's a problem.

I hope you fall into wrong hands that will teach you a lesson of your life since you can't be supportive of your to be husband.

All the harshness was duly intended and I exercised restraint not to call you names.

nkwuocha:
How can one establish communication without picking calls?Look, there's no need making this lady feel she is all guilty of some sort...

According to her,he doesn't call or communicate like he use to?what changed?Money?Common guys, if he doesn't have the money yet,why can't he communicate that to her in a more appropriate and matured way like how lovers should?

Ninethmare:
You said he is your fiance and you guys are planning for marriage
you borrowed him some money to help in revitalising his company.
Now the question is have you asked him how business is moving? he maybe having some problems...
You are all after ur money not knowing that after ur marriage with him the company is also urs
.
.
Now see what you are going to do...
Stop talking about ur money for now and try to know how the business is going.
Build the love again
Focus on your marriage
.
After marriage then you can skin him alive if you want.

Sterope:
His company will NOT become hers after marriage. His company is his company unless she becomes a shareholder.

supersystemsnig:
You don't know me. Can we meet up in Lagos? Within one month, i will give you your financial worth..Life, if i no do am, i go deactivate this account

TheRealestGuy:
You are a callous and wicked person.

You aren't even sure if he's broken even, you're not trying to be supportive, you're not even giving him a few weeks to stabilize after some production problems. All you're after is your miserly 500k that you lent to him.

You don't ever deserve to be married cos your type will turn to Jezebel if your hubby ever has financial issues.

If he wanted to scam you, will it be 500K, don't you know he'll be looking for a way to get more?

I pray for that guy that he doesn't marry you cos you will make his life miserable if he ever has financial problems.



Funny thing is that most of y'all women are like this, always quick to collect everything possible but when it comes to giving it's a problem.

I hope you fall into wrong hands that will teach you a lesson of your life since you can't be supportive of your to be husband.

All the harshness was duly intended and I exercised restraint not to call you names.

supersystemsnig:
Perhaps he felt into more financial troubles?

Perhaps it's the typical syndrome, people can collect but releasing is hard for them....perhaps he has made the money back but doesn't want to refund it....but something is wrong, he seem to have forgotten, he has 500k more to collect...

Oluwaseyi00:
I just tire for you oooo.... Calm down bro

Ishilove:
Exactly. What changed? Why is he no longer picking her calls?

missyadorable:
I wonder oooo

The babe no wise..She exposed her financial position to the guy.what she doesn't know is that being a financially independent and comfortable lady in Nigeria is a major disadvantage.

Naija men can rant all they can on social media about hating dependent ladies and preferring independent ladies but in reality,its the opposite.
They actually prefer ladies who present themselves as broke,needy thus massaging their male ego as they provide.
once you come acting all so made and independent,they will see you as a meal ticket,chop you,run you down and use your money to enjoy with another girl who shows them that "needy,brokeness"....

As a lady,no matter how rich you are,pretend you are not.
Hide it,to avoid falling victim to scammers like this op's so called fiance.
If you have 2M in your account,give your man the impression that you have only 200k

Immee:
Hello fellow nairalanders, pls advise needed on this issue.

My bf and I have been together for a while now and planning on having our marriage introduction by November and marriage proper early next year.

Im an independent woman with a gud job. As a matter of fact, ive never made any financial request from this guy though he buys gift for me without requesting. He is doing well financially too, he runs a recycling factory while I work with a manufacturing company.

Things are working well between us since the relationship started untill recently when we had some business deals together ( my opinion though) cos I don't understand him anymore. He was broke at that time and needed to get some materials which he never budgeted for. He requested that I invest in his company by paying for those materials since they're coming cheap and he doesn't have enough to get them at that time and wouldn't want to loose the opportunity. I consented to the idea cos I knew he's business was very lucrative and that I'll get my money back with interest. He promised to be paying me a weekly dividend so I thought of giving 1 million naira. I made an instant transfer of 500k to his account as dts the maximum I can do daily without a token and I wasn't with it then.

The 2nd day dt I was suppose to send the remaining money, some issues occurred in his company in my presence. He had some major issues with some of the equipments in his factory. He had to stop productions for some days. So i with held the balance as it wont be neccesary since there was no production.While repairs were ongoing? I had to liase with some of my junior colleagues at work who are engineers to help my bf cos I found out he's engineer's aren't capable of handling the situation as dts the first time he would experience such. As God will have it operations started back in few days with the support of my engineers.

My concern now is since things went back to normal in my bf compan' he's yet to keep to his promise of the weekly dividend he said I would be receiving from the investment. As a matter of fact , things has changed between us cos he no longer call and hardly pick my calls. I communicate with him mostly thru SMS now since he wouldn't pick my calls. I'd sent messages to him to return my money without interest and he has promised to pay back with no time and date of when he's going to pay back. I even had plans of going to his place today since im off work so as to force him to go to the bank with him so DT I can get my money but he left the house early in the morning with excuses that he has a place to go and would return to my place after leaving there.

Pls guys how best can I get this money back from him cos I know he has it but playing pranks on me. I don't mind loosing my relationship with him as I don't trust him any longer.

TheRealestGuy:
You are a callous and wicked person.

You aren't even sure if he's broken even, you're not trying to be supportive, you're not even giving him a few weeks to stabilize after some production problems. All you're after is your miserly 500k that you lent to him.

You don't ever deserve to be married cos your type will turn to Jezebel if your hubby ever has financial issues.

If he wanted to scam you, will it be 500K, don't you know he'll be looking for a way to get more?

I pray for that guy that he doesn't marry you cos you will make his life miserable if he ever has financial problems.



Funny thing is that most of y'all women are like this, always quick to collect everything possible but when it comes to giving it's a problem.

I hope you fall into wrong hands that will teach you a lesson of your life since you can't be supportive of your to be husband.

All the harshness was duly intended and I exercised restraint not to call you names.

nkwuocha:
How can one establish communication without picking calls?Look, there's no need making this lady feel she is all guilty of some sort...

According to her,he doesn't call or communicate like he use to?what changed?Money?Common guys, if he doesn't have the money yet,why can't he communicate that to her in a more appropriate and matured way like how lovers should?

Ishilove:
They are the kind every lady should use hot abuse to finish

Ishilove:
His whole attitude stinks. She needs to follow him with iron hand. Forget all those saying she should give him time because they'd do worse if they were in her shoes.

rosalieene:
exactly my sister.

nothing a LAdy does is good in the eyes of this guys.

Everything a guy does, good or bad is always good.

most of them, it reflects in their character offline.
they don't waste time to criticize a LAdy

this are the kind of guys every lady should flee from.

supersystemsnig:
Not your fault, data is cheap, that's why you're...I'll spare you..

Never ever quote me till you die...

tosyne2much:
I think both of you have one be blamed

From your comment, it's very obvious that you're somewhat selfish. Reason being that you actually invested in the business because of the interest you will get in return. But now, you're saying you want your money back without even the interest. Meaning that, you literally gave him the money for your own selfish interest too.

As for the guy, he messed up not because he wasn't able to fulfill his promises but because he has been dodging you. As a debtor, dodging someone you're owning money is a criminal offence. At least, he should give her reasons as to why uncertainties prevented him from paying back the money in installments

Sterope:
His company will NOT become hers after marriage. His company is his company unless she becomes a shareholder.

Ishilove:
Exactly. What changed? Why is he no longer picking her calls?

Immee:
Hello fellow nairalanders, pls advise needed on this issue.

My bf and I have been together for a while now and planning on having our marriage introduction by November and marriage proper early next year.

Im an independent woman with a gud job. As a matter of fact, ive never made any financial request from this guy though he buys gift for me without requesting. He is doing well financially too, he runs a recycling factory while I work with a manufacturing company.

Things are working well between us since the relationship started untill recently when we had some business deals together ( my opinion though) cos I don't understand him anymore. He was broke at that time and needed to get some materials which he never budgeted for. He requested that I invest in his company by paying for those materials since they're coming cheap and he doesn't have enough to get them at that time and wouldn't want to loose the opportunity. I consented to the idea cos I knew he's business was very lucrative and that I'll get my money back with interest. He promised to be paying me a weekly dividend so I thought of giving 1 million naira. I made an instant transfer of 500k to his account as dts the maximum I can do daily without a token and I wasn't with it then.

The 2nd day dt I was suppose to send the remaining money, some issues occurred in his company in my presence. He had some major issues with some of the equipments in his factory. He had to stop productions for some days. So i with held the balance as it wont be neccesary since there was no production.While repairs were ongoing? I had to liase with some of my junior colleagues at work who are engineers to help my bf cos I found out he's engineer's aren't capable of handling the situation as dts the first time he would experience such. As God will have it operations started back in few days with the support of my engineers.

My concern now is since things went back to normal in my bf compan' he's yet to keep to his promise of the weekly dividend he said I would be receiving from the investment. As a matter of fact , things has changed between us cos he no longer call and hardly pick my calls. I communicate with him mostly thru SMS now since he wouldn't pick my calls. I'd sent messages to him to return my money without interest and he has promised to pay back with no time and date of when he's going to pay back. I even had plans of going to his place today since im off work so as to force him to go to the bank with him so DT I can get my money but he left the house early in the morning with excuses that he has a place to go and would return to my place after leaving there.

Pls guys how best can I get this money back from him cos I know he has it but playing pranks on me. I don't mind loosing my relationship with him as I don't trust him any longer.

ireneony:
do u think is easy to give out 500k..
why didn't he asked his friends or colleagues.
the lady try abeg.
has ur girl ever given u 20k?

not everyone is a giver.
The guy should at least appreciate her by returning her calls.
put urself in her shoes.

Fuuucvk marriage.
who marriage help.
I don't joke with my hard earned coins.

thesuave10:
Assholé