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TheRealestGuy:
You are a callous and wicked person.

You aren't even sure if he's broken even, you're not trying to be supportive, you're not even giving him a few weeks to stabilize after some production problems. All you're after is your miserly 500k that you lent to him.

You don't ever deserve to be married cos your type will turn to Jezebel if your hubby ever has financial issues.

If he wanted to scam you, will it be 500K, don't you know he'll be looking for a way to get more?

I pray for that guy that he doesn't marry you cos you will make his life miserable if he ever has financial problems.



Funny thing is that most of y'all women are like this, always quick to collect everything possible but when it comes to giving it's a problem.

I hope you fall into wrong hands that will teach you a lesson of your life since you can't be supportive of your to be husband.

All the harshness was duly intended and I exercised restraint not to call you names.

pocohantas:
LOL. Be like them just born you ooo.
A female friend did this to a guy, the guy knows her business location, he helped in setting up the business and ordering things.

He helped with capital. Was involved in logistics too...

Babe moved on with the money and nothing happened!
There was no written agreement. What will the guy do?

I don't talk much with her till today because of that action. The guy came to meet me and explained every.

9jaihail3:
Do you know the manner she been tasking him the money? From my observation, this babe have observed that the dude is falling in business hence she's desperate to lay her hand on her money before it enter stories. The guy was struggling to buy some materials hence he asked her to invest, now where do you expect the guy to get the money from if not from the business? I hate some ladies that seen relationship as a thing that a man should be the only spending.

Maduawuchukwu:
So a well to do man will scam a woman of 500k? Knowing fully well that he has an office and address where he can be easily traced. Na wa o.

Ninethmare:
You said he is your fiance and you guys are planning for marriage
you borrowed him some money to help in revitalising his company.
Now the question is have you asked him how business is moving? he maybe having some problems...
You are all after ur money not knowing that after ur marriage with him the company is also urs
.
.
Now see what you are going to do...
Stop talking about ur money for now and try to know how the business is going.
Build the love again
Focus on your marriage
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After marriage then you can skin him alive if you want.

TheRealestGuy:
You are a callous and wicked person.

You aren't even sure if he's broken even, you're not trying to be supportive, you're not even giving him a few weeks to stabilize after some production problems. All you're after is your miserly 500k that you lent to him.

You don't ever deserve to be married cos your type will turn to Jezebel if your hubby ever has financial issues.

If he wanted to scam you, will it be 500K, don't you know he'll be looking for a way to get more?

I pray for that guy that he doesn't marry you cos you will make his life miserable if he ever has financial problems.



Funny thing is that most of y'all women are like this, always quick to collect everything possible but when it comes to giving it's a problem.

I hope you fall into wrong hands that will teach you a lesson of your life since you can't be supportive of your to be husband.

All the harshness was duly intended and I exercised restraint not to call you names.

MODIFIED: So many people quoting me to say nonsense, many of them ladies too.

The truth is often a bitter pill to swallow. Pray tell, if she cannot be understanding and supportive of her fiance, then what will happen if they get married and he encounters financial difficulties at a time?

Ladies, please and please, shun this mentality of "my money is my money, his money is our money." It is absolutely devilish and has no place in courtship or marriage. Little wonder marriages seem to be crashing like kites these days.

The guy is obviously dodging her calls cos he's not fully back on his feet to repay the loan, the statement she made that he's back in business is only from her own view of things and we all know entrepreneurs face a lot of business challenges that one cannot even begin to name here.

If something as basic and important as empathy, understanding and patience with your man in times of trouble is too hard for her to practice in a relationship headed for the alter, then she has absolutely no business getting married.

I'm this harsh on her cos she actually confirmed they would start marriage rites by November.

Absolutely no apologies for that.

Kudos to the guys that understand my post for what it really is.

nkwuocha:
Dogs are smart,I'm flattered!
You are a complete jelly fish!
You bastard from several fathers!!!
People like you are the cause of this desperation we see in women of today.Just take a look at what you're comparing, ARE YOU A MAD MAN?!YOU ARE INDEED MENTALLY DERANGED.
Get lost with the background of the company,you keep saying this Shiite over and over like a convulsive cretin. Fucccking bastard!How sure are you that the said guy will pay back?Are you the guy in question?You must be silly! The lady wants out,there's no trust.Why is it such a big deal.This boy dey craze!

TheRealestGuy:
You are a callous and wicked person.

You aren't even sure if he's broken even, you're not trying to be supportive, you're not even giving him a few weeks to stabilize after some production problems. All you're after is your miserly 500k that you lent to him.

You don't ever deserve to be married cos your type will turn to Jezebel if your hubby ever has financial issues.

If he wanted to scam you, will it be 500K, don't you know he'll be looking for a way to get more?

I pray for that guy that he doesn't marry you cos you will make his life miserable if he ever has financial problems.



Funny thing is that most of y'all women are like this, always quick to collect everything possible but when it comes to giving it's a problem.

I hope you fall into wrong hands that will teach you a lesson of your life since you can't be supportive of your to be husband.

All the harshness was duly intended and I exercised restraint not to call you names.

MODIFIED: So many people quoting me to say nonsense, many of them ladies too.

The truth is often a bitter pill to swallow. Pray tell, if she cannot be understanding and supportive of her fiance, then what will happen if they get married and he encounters financial difficulties at a time?

Ladies, please and please, shun this mentality of "my money is my money, his money is our money." It is absolutely devilish and has no place in courtship or marriage. Little wonder marriages seem to be crashing like kites these days.

The guy is obviously dodging her calls cos he's not fully back on his feet to repay the loan, the statement she made that he's back in business is only from her own view of things and we all know entrepreneurs face a lot of business challenges that one cannot even begin to name here.

If something as basic and important as empathy, understanding and patience with your man in times of trouble is too hard for her to practice in a relationship headed for the alter, then she has absolutely no business getting married.

I'm this harsh on her cos she actually confirmed they would start marriage rites by November.

Absolutely no apologies for that.

Kudos to the guys that understand my post for what it really is.

Sterope:
Why do you think I gave up on his issue?

TheRealestGuy:
You are a callous and wicked person.

You aren't even sure if he's broken even, you're not trying to be supportive, you're not even giving him a few weeks to stabilize after some production problems. All you're after is your miserly 500k that you lent to him.

You don't ever deserve to be married cos your type will turn to Jezebel if your hubby ever has financial issues.

If he wanted to scam you, will it be 500K, don't you know he'll be looking for a way to get more?

I pray for that guy that he doesn't marry you cos you will make his life miserable if he ever has financial problems.



Funny thing is that most of y'all women are like this, always quick to collect everything possible but when it comes to giving it's a problem.

I hope you fall into wrong hands that will teach you a lesson of your life since you can't be supportive of your to be husband.

All the harshness was duly intended and I exercised restraint not to call you names.

MODIFIED: So many people quoting me to say nonsense, many of them ladies too.

The truth is often a bitter pill to swallow. Pray tell, if she cannot be understanding and supportive of her fiance, then what will happen if they get married and he encounters financial difficulties at a time?

Ladies, please and please, shun this mentality of "my money is my money, his money is our money." It is absolutely devilish and has no place in courtship or marriage. Little wonder marriages seem to be crashing like kites these days.

The guy is obviously dodging her calls cos he's not fully back on his feet to repay the loan, the statement she made that he's back in business is only from her own view of things and we all know entrepreneurs face a lot of business challenges that one cannot even begin to name here.

If something as basic and important as empathy, understanding and patience with your man in times of trouble is too hard for her to practice in a relationship headed for the alter, then she has absolutely no business getting married.

I'm this harsh on her cos she actually confirmed they would start marriage rites by November.

Absolutely no apologies for that.

Kudos to the guys that understand my post for what it really is.

eeewise:
just imagine! her concern is more about getting back her mere 500k as against loosing a potential marital stable relationship. #shallow

but again the guy is stupid to break trust and loyalty over a mere 500k.without explaining to her the reason he can't meet up#stupid

so when shallow meets stupid then the relationship is dead on arrival.
u just try see him in person, give him time then involve a soldier friend before breaking off contact finally
I hate to see potential relationships like this break

pocohantas:
LOL. I can imagine...

OP, sorry ohh!
This is Nairaland, Romance section...you are a lady, you must be at fault o!!! You must be at fault.

TIP: Next time, have another moniker with "M", use it for creating threads like this. Be the boyfriend for that day....that's when you can get over 50% of their brains to function without bias

pocohantas:
LOL. I can imagine...

OP, sorry ohh!
This is Nairaland, Romance section...you are a lady, you must be at fault o!!! You must be at fault.

TIP: Next time, have another moniker with "M", use it for creating threads like this. Be the boyfriend for that day....that's when you can get over 50% of their brains to function without bias

Alezy:
its very obvious she is asking for her cash back the guy is still not balanced, remember she was supposed to give a million but she gave 500, so why does she suddenly think 500k will do the magic of a million in a business?? And its barely a month.

Why nt give him sometime to stand firm, why not focus on her relationship instead of money?? The guy is trying to avoid her calls cos she will keep asking him for her return cash which he does notngs ladies fail to kw

DavidEsq:
Pls kindly point out t lines in her post that evoke empathy.......pls, ayam begging. Ju point it out. But wash ur eyes fes sha

Immee:
Hello fellow nairalanders, pls advise needed on this issue.

My bf and I have been together for a while now and planning on having our marriage introduction by November and marriage proper early next year.

Im an independent woman with a gud job. As a matter of fact, ive never made any financial request from this guy though he buys gift for me without requesting. He is doing well financially too, he runs a recycling factory while I work with a manufacturing company.

Things are working well between us since the relationship started untill recently when we had some business deals together ( my opinion though) cos I don't understand him anymore. He was broke at that time and needed to get some materials which he never budgeted for. He requested that I invest in his company by paying for those materials since they're coming cheap and he doesn't have enough to get them at that time and wouldn't want to loose the opportunity. I consented to the idea cos I knew he's business was very lucrative and that I'll get my money back with interest. He promised to be paying me a weekly dividend so I thought of giving 1 million naira. I made an instant transfer of 500k to his account as dts the maximum I can do daily without a token and I wasn't with it then.

The 2nd day dt I was suppose to send the remaining money, some issues occurred in his company in my presence. He had some major issues with some of the equipments in his factory. He had to stop productions for some days. So i with held the balance as it wont be neccesary since there was no production.While repairs were ongoing? I had to liase with some of my junior colleagues at work who are engineers to help my bf cos I found out he's engineer's aren't capable of handling the situation as dts the first time he would experience such. As God will have it operations started back in few days with the support of my engineers.

My concern now is since things went back to normal in my bf compan' he's yet to keep to his promise of the weekly dividend he said I would be receiving from the investment. As a matter of fact , things has changed between us cos he no longer call and hardly pick my calls. I communicate with him mostly thru SMS now since he wouldn't pick my calls. I'd sent messages to him to return my money without interest and he has promised to pay back with no time and date of when he's going to pay back. I even had plans of going to his place today since im off work so as to force him to go to the bank with him so DT I can get my money but he left the house early in the morning with excuses that he has a place to go and would return to my place after leaving there.

Pls guys how best can I get this money back from him cos I know he has it but playing pranks on me. I don't mind loosing my relationship with him as I don't trust him any longer.

pocohantas:
When you point out the guy's actions that has evoked empathy. Giving loan and getting engineers to work is enough empathy.

Wehdone!!!

Immee:
Hello fellow nairalanders, pls advise needed on this issue.

My bf and I have been together for a while now and planning on having our marriage introduction by November and marriage proper early next year.

Im an independent woman with a gud job. As a matter of fact, ive never made any financial request from this guy though he buys gift for me without requesting. He is doing well financially too, he runs a recycling factory while I work with a manufacturing company.

Things are working well between us since the relationship started untill recently when we had some business deals together ( my opinion though) cos I don't understand him anymore. He was broke at that time and needed to get some materials which he never budgeted for. He requested that I invest in his company by paying for those materials since they're coming cheap and he doesn't have enough to get them at that time and wouldn't want to loose the opportunity. I consented to the idea cos I knew he's business was very lucrative and that I'll get my money back with interest. He promised to be paying me a weekly dividend so I thought of giving 1 million naira. I made an instant transfer of 500k to his account as dts the maximum I can do daily without a token and I wasn't with it then.

The 2nd day dt I was suppose to send the remaining money, some issues occurred in his company in my presence. He had some major issues with some of the equipments in his factory. He had to stop productions for some days. So i with held the balance as it wont be neccesary since there was no production.While repairs were ongoing? I had to liase with some of my junior colleagues at work who are engineers to help my bf cos I found out he's engineer's aren't capable of handling the situation as dts the first time he would experience such. As God will have it operations started back in few days with the support of my engineers.

My concern now is since things went back to normal in my bf compan' he's yet to keep to his promise of the weekly dividend he said I would be receiving from the investment. As a matter of fact , things has changed between us cos he no longer call and hardly pick my calls. I communicate with him mostly thru SMS now since he wouldn't pick my calls. I'd sent messages to him to return my money without interest and he has promised to pay back with no time and date of when he's going to pay back. I even had plans of going to his place today since im off work so as to force him to go to the bank with him so DT I can get my money but he left the house early in the morning with excuses that he has a place to go and would return to my place after leaving there.

Pls guys how best can I get this money back from him cos I know he has it but playing pranks on me. I don't mind loosing my relationship with him as I don't trust him any longer.

jaxxy:
I think ure too hasty in my opinion bt before i jump into any conclusions i wana ask dis. For how long hv u borrowed him the money b4 getting all worried? Personally I don't like borrowing from anyone bt if ever nobody like being put under pressure to payback.

Now this is even ur boyfrnd and from d looks of thing u don't trust me 1bit even tho u know his biz and ur engineers verified it.

3rdly he had am production issues and u don't expect him to meet up preciously planned deadlines depending on how serious and long d production hitch was.

4thly Guys invest alot in gals most times with no single payback and here u borrowed also expecting interest which isnt bad bt ur lack of patience and bugging him with calls and text leaves much to be desired. 500k seems alot bt then not dat much still for certain biznesses. I expect u to resolve this in a proper manner bt seems it doubts hv been there from d day he asked u for the money.

5th. U wana break ur relationship and engagement over unconfirmed suspicions and doubts is very disappointing to me. Wat if he's genuine and is trying to find a way to pay u and maybe probably with sm interest. u acting like d guy is MMM. 2bad in my opinion.

Jkfc:
There's a spirit called salefine following you.
Pray against the spirit of a dead unborn baby, pray!
The spirit doesn't want you to know peace.
Leave the money for him, the man is your husband, he'd pay you back X10 for this is a test.
Pray o!

Jkfc:
There's a spirit called salefine following you.
Pray against the spirit of a dead unborn baby, pray!
The spirit doesn't want you to know peace.
Leave the money for him, the man is your husband, he'd pay you back X10 for this is a test.
Pray o!

sauceEEP:
Cc chronique
What is your take on this issue?

Kokaine:
dude is not taking calls. bro as a lagosian i understand that part very well. it means something special.

rosalieene:
Immee your greatest mistake was bringing this to nairaland.

You can see thAt some Guys here are coming for your head. they ignored the part Whr you said you are financially stable and don't demand. they refused to acknowledge the fact that ur guy hasn't been picking up calls if not for anything,

do you know why? you see, some guys here on nairaland don't usually see anything wrong in what their fellow guy did to a lady.

They will just make you feel bad.

someone said meagre 500k, forgetting that Alot of people will jump at ur feet if you dash them such amount.