MissJoy29:
I don't understand why people especially the men are just attacking her. What's the big deal about explaining to her what's going on? "Business isn't back to normal", TELL HER! "Please give me more time to pay back", TELL HER! "I dont have the money now but will have it soon", TELL HER! Don't just assume she's gonna look right through your mind and know what's going on.He's acting all weird and suspicious for crying out loud. Even if she wanted to give him more time & be more understanding(by hearing his own side), he's making it difficult for her. Why dodge her calls? She probably started feeling like this after a few weeks( not days as some of you insinuated) of not getting the weekly dividend HE PROMISED her. Besides, for those saying she's wicked & all, how come she was still willing to lend out 1 million(in this economy) to this same guy? From what she said, they are both doing well. So she was only trying to help. Same help that most of you here are abusing her for. I will never condemn her for helping out. She's my kind of woman (hardly asks but gives more sef). I don't believe relationships should be one-sided.

...my opinion though...

eeewise:
just imagine! her concern is more about getting back her mere 500k as against loosing a potential marital stable relationship. #shallow

but again the guy is stupid to break trust and loyalty over a mere 500k.without explaining to her the reason he can't meet up#stupid

so when shallow meets stupid then the relationship is dead on arrival.
u just try see him in person, give him time then involve a soldier friend before breaking off contact finally
I hate to see potential relationships like this break

Immee:
Hello fellow nairalanders, pls advise needed on this issue.

My bf and I have been together for a while now and planning on having our marriage introduction by November and marriage proper early next year.

Im an independent woman with a gud job. As a matter of fact, ive never made any financial request from this guy though he buys gift for me without requesting. He is doing well financially too, he runs a recycling factory while I work with a manufacturing company.

Things are working well between us since the relationship started untill recently when we had some business deals together ( my opinion though) cos I don't understand him anymore. He was broke at that time and needed to get some materials which he never budgeted for. He requested that I invest in his company by paying for those materials since they're coming cheap and he doesn't have enough to get them at that time and wouldn't want to loose the opportunity. I consented to the idea cos I knew he's business was very lucrative and that I'll get my money back with interest. He promised to be paying me a weekly dividend so I thought of giving 1 million naira. I made an instant transfer of 500k to his account as dts the maximum I can do daily without a token and I wasn't with it then.

The 2nd day dt I was suppose to send the remaining money, some issues occurred in his company in my presence. He had some major issues with some of the equipments in his factory. He had to stop productions for some days. So i with held the balance as it wont be neccesary since there was no production.While repairs were ongoing? I had to liase with some of my junior colleagues at work who are engineers to help my bf cos I found out he's engineer's aren't capable of handling the situation as dts the first time he would experience such. As God will have it operations started back in few days with the support of my engineers.

My concern now is since things went back to normal in my bf compan' he's yet to keep to his promise of the weekly dividend he said I would be receiving from the investment. As a matter of fact , things has changed between us cos he no longer call and hardly pick my calls. I communicate with him mostly thru SMS now since he wouldn't pick my calls. I'd sent messages to him to return my money without interest and he has promised to pay back with no time and date of when he's going to pay back. I even had plans of going to his place today since im off work so as to force him to go to the bank with him so DT I can get my money but he left the house early in the morning with excuses that he has a place to go and would return to my place after leaving there.

Pls guys how best can I get this money back from him cos I know he has it but playing pranks on me. I don't mind loosing my relationship with him as I don't trust him any longer.

rosalieene:
Immee your greatest mistake was bringing this to nairaland.

You can see thAt some Guys here are coming for your head. they ignored the part Whr you said you are financially stable and don't demand. they refused to acknowledge the fact that ur guy hasn't been picking up calls if not for anything,

do you know why? you see, some guys here on nairaland don't usually see anything wrong in what their fellow guy did to a lady.

They will just make you feel bad.

someone said meagre 500k, forgetting that Alot of people will jump at ur feet if you dash them such amount.

TheRealestGuy:


You are a callous and wicked person.

You aren't even sure if he's broken even, you're not trying to be supportive, you're not even giving him a few weeks to stabilize after some production problems. All you're after is your miserly 500k that you lent to him.

You don't ever deserve to be married cos your type will turn to Jezebel if your hubby ever has financial issues.

If he wanted to scam you, will it be 500K, don't you know he'll be looking for a way to get more?

I pray for that guy that he doesn't marry you cos you will make his life miserable if he ever has financial problems.



Funny thing is that most of y'all women are like this, always quick to collect everything possible but when it comes to giving it's a problem.

I hope you fall into wrong hands that will teach you a lesson of your life since you can't be supportive of your to be husband.

All the harshness was duly intended and I exercised restraint not to call you names.

MODIFIED: So many people quoting me to say nonsense, many of them ladies too.

The truth is often a bitter pill to swallow. Pray tell, if she cannot be understanding and supportive of her fiance, then what will happen if they get married and he encounters financial difficulties at a time?

Ladies, please and please, shun this mentality of "my money is my money, his money is our money." It is absolutely devilish and has no place in courtship or marriage. Little wonder marriages seem to be crashing like kites these days.

The guy is obviously dodging her calls cos he's not fully back on his feet to repay the loan, the statement she made that he's back in business is only from her own view of things and we all know entrepreneurs face a lot of business challenges that one cannot even begin to name here.

If something as basic and important as empathy, understanding and patience with your man in times of trouble is too hard for her to practice in a relationship headed for the alter, then she has absolutely no business getting married.

I'm this harsh on her cos she actually confirmed they would start marriage rites by November.

Absolutely no apologies for that.

Kudos to the guys that understand my post for what it really is.

TheRealestGuy:


You are a callous and wicked person.

You aren't even sure if he's broken even, you're not trying to be supportive, you're not even giving him a few weeks to stabilize after some production problems. All you're after is your miserly 500k that you lent to him.

You don't ever deserve to be married cos your type will turn to Jezebel if your hubby ever has financial issues.

If he wanted to scam you, will it be 500K, don't you know he'll be looking for a way to get more?

I pray for that guy that he doesn't marry you cos you will make his life miserable if he ever has financial problems.



Funny thing is that most of y'all women are like this, always quick to collect everything possible but when it comes to giving it's a problem.

I hope you fall into wrong hands that will teach you a lesson of your life since you can't be supportive of your to be husband.

All the harshness was duly intended and I exercised restraint not to call you names.

MODIFIED: So many people quoting me to say nonsense, many of them ladies too.

The truth is often a bitter pill to swallow. Pray tell, if she cannot be understanding and supportive of her fiance, then what will happen if they get married and he encounters financial difficulties at a time?

Ladies, please and please, shun this mentality of "my money is my money, his money is our money." It is absolutely devilish and has no place in courtship or marriage. Little wonder marriages seem to be crashing like kites these days.

The guy is obviously dodging her calls cos he's not fully back on his feet to repay the loan, the statement she made that he's back in business is only from her own view of things and we all know entrepreneurs face a lot of business challenges that one cannot even begin to name here.

If something as basic and important as empathy, understanding and patience with your man in times of trouble is too hard for her to practice in a relationship headed for the alter, then she has absolutely no business getting married.

I'm this harsh on her cos she actually confirmed they would start marriage rites by November.

Absolutely no apologies for that.

Kudos to the guys that understand my post for what it really is.

Daeylar:



So they even said meagre, the one that said misery. If I tell you that it pained me eh, I'm not the one that loaned the money but it really pained me,

When the guy wanted to borrow money, was begging for it, was using it to get his business back on track it wasn't misery, but when it came to paying back that's when it became misery. chai!.

So much nonsense contained in one person's comment, that's why I had to tell her to ignore.

NoToPile that's how they behave. I stand by my words, let it be a lady that did what this man is doing, the comments will shock you that day.

supersystemsnig:



We believe she is her husband. But which one be spirit of dead unborn baby bros?

iomoge2:


I like u already

The lady is so impatient
Marriage is patience

Ready to lose a good man becos of 500k
Not that u borrowed it

Poster, u had better relax
And forget that money

I am a married woman and know what i am saying
Although i didnt give man money before martiage, but in marriage u forge ahead and support except u have a need for that money

Instead of giving n collecting back
Why not not tell at all

But then good guys are hard to come by
If u hve a good man
Hold him

500 or more isnt enough to lose a good man

Except he is cheating and spending on girls about then u can bring hell down

Else

Relax and breath and take things slowly

Jkfc:

aborted baby. I see relationship that she did abortion.

iomoge2:


I like u already

The lady is so impatient
Marriage is patience

Ready to lose a good man becos of 500k
Not that u borrowed it

Poster, u had better relax
And forget that money

I am a married woman and know what i am saying
Although i didnt give man money before martiage, but in marriage u forge ahead and support except u have a need for that money

Instead of giving n collecting back
Why not not tell at all

But then good guys are hard to come by
If u hve a good man
Hold him

500 or more isnt enough to lose a good man

Except he is cheating and spending on girls about then u can bring hell down

Else

Relax and breath and take things slowly

DavidEsq:

Na dem; Yaba left escapee

Immee:
Hello fellow nairalanders, pls advise needed on this issue.

My bf and I have been together for a while now and planning on having our marriage introduction by November and marriage proper early next year.

Im an independent woman with a gud job. As a matter of fact, ive never made any financial request from this guy though he buys gift for me without requesting. He is doing well financially too, he runs a recycling factory while I work with a manufacturing company.

Things are working well between us since the relationship started untill recently when we had some business deals together ( my opinion though) cos I don't understand him anymore. He was broke at that time and needed to get some materials which he never budgeted for. He requested that I invest in his company by paying for those materials since they're coming cheap and he doesn't have enough to get them at that time and wouldn't want to loose the opportunity. I consented to the idea cos I knew he's business was very lucrative and that I'll get my money back with interest. He promised to be paying me a weekly dividend so I thought of giving 1 million naira. I made an instant transfer of 500k to his account as dts the maximum I can do daily without a token and I wasn't with it then.

The 2nd day dt I was suppose to send the remaining money, some issues occurred in his company in my presence. He had some major issues with some of the equipments in his factory. He had to stop productions for some days. So i with held the balance as it wont be neccesary since there was no production.While repairs were ongoing? I had to liase with some of my junior colleagues at work who are engineers to help my bf cos I found out he's engineer's aren't capable of handling the situation as dts the first time he would experience such. As God will have it operations started back in few days with the support of my engineers.

My concern now is since things went back to normal in my bf compan' he's yet to keep to his promise of the weekly dividend he said I would be receiving from the investment. As a matter of fact , things has changed between us cos he no longer call and hardly pick my calls. I communicate with him mostly thru SMS now since he wouldn't pick my calls. I'd sent messages to him to return my money without interest and he has promised to pay back with no time and date of when he's going to pay back. I even had plans of going to his place today since im off work so as to force him to go to the bank with him so DT I can get my money but he left the house early in the morning with excuses that he has a place to go and would return to my place after leaving there.

Pls guys how best can I get this money back from him cos I know he has it but playing pranks on me. I don't mind loosing my relationship with him as I don't trust him any longer.

rosalieene:


Even if they settle, the hurt would still be there, the trust would have died since

OLUJOSHINS:



He asked His lover for financial support when passing thru hard times.

She gave half of the agreed sum with the excuse that His business is in a very bad shape that it might not recover from. (This is a massive eye opener. Now he can calculate the strength of any possible support she will ever give him. He also knows the conditions attached to their love now).

He decided to tag along in a bid to rescue his business (This is more or less the same as making a deal with the devil. No more strings attached. just get all the support you can & hope to have enough time to pay back).

Luck smiled on him when she brought in technical support from her end to salvage the situation. (This can be likened to a new investor pumping strength to his new investment to help it gain enough ground to rise again). This is not an act of love.

His business is back on its feet.

The loan shark is knocking on his door.

With time, I believe He will pay her back. But He won't be silly enough to make the mistake of settling down with a woman like this.

Issues like this make me scared of the gender I am supposed to call my help meet.

Yoshy:


I made a mistake of putting my money first in my relationship and it turned out bad. Forget the money for sometime, build the love back, try to understand his present situation. I understand he is not being emotionally available hence your concern about his loyalty, maybe he is stressed out cos of his situation, understand him first and if your findings proves he is out to dupe you, then you can use force to get your money back.

supersystemsnig:


Really? I must have missed that part...

ImaIma1:


Which love? There is no love with the way he is acting. Get ur money if you can and move on. He is not trustworthy.

This One is clearly foolish. This is why we have judges and advisers Cuz normal people are ignorant and clueless

Jkfc:

It's not there... I can see the past, future and present on a straight line. I see

ImaIma1:


This the reason why women should think twice before lending money to their bf. This kind of reverse psychology and emotional blackmail.

He should return the money and stop avoiding her calls

pocohantas:


If you think women are masters in reverse psychology...you have never seen men in action. They'll make you the bad one, and you'll try so hard to prove you're not like every other woman

When they can't get you in this spot, they tag you unsubmissive.

Maduawuchukwu:


Have you read her other threads? This woman is kinda a desperate woman and her other stories prove it. I can deduce from he personality that even here she is seeing problems where there are none.

Maduawuchukwu:


Have you read her other threads? This woman is kinda a desperate woman and her other stories prove it. I can deduce from he personality that even here she is seeing problems where there are none.

LOL Trust me, the girl you quoted is a disturbed child

Maduawuchukwu:


Have you read her other threads? This woman is kinda a desperate woman and her other stories prove it. I can deduce from he personality that even here she is seeing problems where there are none.

thesuave10:


This One is clearly foolish. This is why we have judges and advisers Cuz normal people are ignorant and clueless

ImaIma1:


You are clearly a loose tongue without direction who thinks he can use insultive words on anyone. Better go and learn how to talk and disagree constructively and stop trying to be relevant by being abusive.

pocohantas:


Why can't you also deduce the guy noticed she is desperate and is cashing on it.

ImaIma1:


You are clearly a loose tongue without direction who thinks he can use insultive words on anyone. Better go and learn how to talk and disagree constructively and stop trying to be relevant by being abusive.