GogobiriLalas:
In exchange for the loan Segun gave your wife, your wife is loaning Segun her body....case closed...Next!

choii!!! dis body dey re sharing diaris God oooooo. pls don't let dis man die of hypertension. he's a good man. chai.....

Houseofglam7:
Abeg we don tire to resolve husband and wife issues for here.


Me no get ordinary boyfriend sef, what can I tell you

And I don't have a girlfriend also

Segun dey fux yourwife wella
E fit dey even cum inside her.
Women are just useless
Bleep
Vro take heart
Divorce her quick
Take your car.
Keys
Everything.
Kick her out.
Dah was how one of my gal was tellin me dah its her fam fwend..i no take am serious sha.
He dey always call
At odd times.
Holy moly.
D day she forgot her bb touch
Without password or b4 password lock.
Wen i begin see texts
Chats
Whatsapps.
I look myself for mirror.
Kai.
I geh high bp buh i relax.
Wen she came bac.
I fuckd her for very long time..aft dat
3 days later i ended it with her.
D guy don yansh mai babe tire sef.
Men
Dis life sucks

I have been in a situation where I had to drive a friend of mine who is a married woman ...so before I wanted to begin to side you, I had to see reasons with the wife as well. So my brother, I know you will reason a lot of things, but sometimes, strangers mean no harm.

aiyele200:
Hi Nlanders,

Good morning and happy weekend. I am posting this due to the fact that my patience and understanding is being taken for granted by my wife. 6 years already into this marriage, disobedience and unfaithfulness in terms of not being straightforward with me has been the order of the marriage, though a times, the woman changes for good, then later she starts again.

One sunday afternoon after returning back from church, she quickly rushed to me saying she wanted to go and drop her sister at the hospital since the first malaria treatment she had didnt work. I asked where the hospital is, said somewhere in gbagada, knowing fully well that my wife does not know gbagada well, and knowing well also that she was going with the kids, I volunteered to drop them off, but she kept mute, and her body language showed that she didnt want me to drop them off. So I said, plz be careful, gave her money to branch at the filling station to top up the fuel in the car.

On their way going, I got hungry cos lunch was not prepared b4 they left, I decided to rush down to the nearest eatery to get sumtin to eat, on entering my own car, figured out my fuel was low, so I decided to go to the filling station. On getting there, I was packed at my wife's car, she was actually standing beside the passenger side which is weird, cos she was the one that drove off, I looked at the drivers side, and I could see a man's head. So my wife came to meet me, said she just paid for fuel, they are leaving now, at that time, I was expecting her to at least explain who the person at the drivers seat was, with my kids in the car oooo!!! She just went straight to the passenger side and closed the door. I was really stunned and surprised.

I pressed the horn for her to come down, soon as she came down, she immediately said, oh i forgot to ask you if it was ok for Segun to drop us at the hospital, I was like why, she said because he seems to know the place. Funny thing is, this guy I have never met before, but she has told me about him b4 and I know him as the guy that loans she and her sister money when urgent funds are needed. So she called the dude down from the car, introduced him proper and I asked them to leave. A lot of people will sure blame me for allowing someone I dont really know to drive my family to a location, but at that moment I was still stunned because to me it was the highest level of mistrust and disappointment, so I could not take a drastic move @ that moment. They left, and the same guy dropped them off.

That night, I called my wife and sat her down, that I need an explanation on how the whole scene played out, cos I volunteered to go and drop you guys, u didnt answer me, and all of a sudden, I am seeing another man whether known or unknown person in the car with my kids without u telling me b4 u left the house that someone was going to drive u guys. She responded saying, to be sincere, they had plans seeing the guy at the bus stop to discuss loan, but she decided to have the guy drive them since he knows the hospital and since he is a man. I was like fine, but when u came to meet me, I thought u were supposed to tell me who was in the car, instead u walked off, she said actually I forgot, that it was the moment that u pressed the horn that I realized I was suppose to ask u if it was ok for segun to drive us. Oh well, they say communication is key in marriages, I will not say she was lying, thought I know something dont add up, so I moved on.

But the damn thing that really got me worried was that, few days to that very day, I noticed her being worried and soliloquizing, asked her what the problem is, claimed that its the money she lent last from the segun guy which she has not been able to pay is what is worrying her, that the dude has been askeing her for the money since it has elapsed the paying time. With that alone, it gave me a worrying thought that, it was the same guy that I ended up seeing on code @ d filling station driving my family off.

Nlanders, sorry for the long epistle, if I dont explain well, you guys wont understand in details, for the married guys and ladies, whats your take on this issue? Does something really isnt adding up?

Thanks!

DIVORCE HER IF YOU ARE TIRED OF HER
Better to be single than to die of high BP
I believe your mama is still alive, she can advice you better

Hmmm I think you should be more concerned about the paternity of those kid's you actually are calling "my kids" cos they just might not be yours

Something isn't adding up here. I suspect foul play

lopside12:
She really acted weird but then dont be too fast to scream.
I will advice you let it go cos she was with the kids, but sternly warn her you wont tolerate that or something close to that

There is a lean chance she has negative intentions and went out with the kids

her going out with the kids is the key to the game played. the lady is a street gurl who knows how to play the promiscuous game. Mr husband, open your � and brain..... something dey happen

aiyele200:



To be sincere, i invested so much money in both of her businesses, the problem is that she does not know how to manage funds, very wasteful and uncountable for her spendings, and yet does not bring anything to the table in the family. I pay full rent, school fees, feeding and all. Thats why I even got worried after all investment, she is still lending money.

If this is true. My guy u can never sustain such marriage. When a lady is wasteful, she can't be contented. If she's a girlfriend my advice would be very blunt. But since u are married . Hmmm, what God has join together let no man put assunder. Just use ur head

Houseofglam7:
Abeg we don tire to resolve husband and wife issues for here.



Me no get ordinary boyfriend sef, what can I tell you

I can help you and be your boyfriend for now until the main one arrive.

Your wife does not fear you, and that's why Segun will not fear you also. All these are the result of ur wife reaching her hand beyond where you her husband cannot reach. Most girls don't know what submission is; they think its morning greetings and kneeling down.

'
You are the wisest but most foolish idiot and lazy husband I know...

You should be happy when your hardworking wife is re-paying the loan borrowed for you in the other room of another man...Tufiakwa!

Chubhie:
Perish the thoughts about her cheating. Try and repay the loans then ask your wife to severe further business dealings with segun.

If she adheres without blinking an eye then all is presumably well but if not, find that thing uniting them.

Somehow the thoughts of segun is unsettling to you? honestly ask yourself why and then deal with it.

segun could be a nice harmless guy you know?

How you take know say him dey harmless?
My father Inlaw once told me say man and woman no dey do friend just like that without strings attached.

dingbang:
I have been in a situation where I had to drive a friend of mine who is a married woman ...so before I wanted to begin to side you, I had to see reasons with the wife as well. So my brother, I know you will reason a lot of things, but sometimes, strangers mean no harm.

...and the wife lied to her husband about it?

The wife doesn't have respect , forget long story...

pocohantas:


...and the wife lied to her husband about it?

The wife doesn't have respect, forget long story...

I know... But I had to judge myself first before commenting na... Because me sef have been in Segun's shoes.

@aiyele200

Segun probably knew your wife before you married her. That loan appears to be a ploy to an end.
Trust your senses, but don't cause mayhem.

aiyele200:
Hi Nlanders,

Good morning and happy weekend. I am posting this due to the fact that my patience and understanding is being taken for granted by my wife. 6 years already into this marriage, disobedience and unfaithfulness in terms of not being straightforward with me has been the order of the marriage, though a times, the woman changes for good, then later she starts again.

One sunday afternoon after returning back from church, she quickly rushed to me saying she wanted to go and drop her sister at the hospital since the first malaria treatment she had didnt work. I asked where the hospital is, said somewhere in gbagada, knowing fully well that my wife does not know gbagada well, and knowing well also that she was going with the kids, I volunteered to drop them off, but she kept mute, and her body language showed that she didnt want me to drop them off. So I said, plz be careful, gave her money to branch at the filling station to top up the fuel in the car.

On their way going, I got hungry cos lunch was not prepared b4 they left, I decided to rush down to the nearest eatery to get sumtin to eat, on entering my own car, figured out my fuel was low, so I decided to go to the filling station. On getting there, I was packed at my wife's car, she was actually standing beside the passenger side which is weird, cos she was the one that drove off, I looked at the drivers side, and I could see a man's head. So my wife came to meet me, said she just paid for fuel, they are leaving now, at that time, I was expecting her to at least explain who the person at the drivers seat was, with my kids in the car oooo!!! She just went straight to the passenger side and closed the door. I was really stunned and surprised.

I pressed the horn for her to come down, soon as she came down, she immediately said, oh i forgot to ask you if it was ok for Segun to drop us at the hospital, I was like why, she said because he seems to know the place. Funny thing is, this guy I have never met before, but she has told me about him b4 and I know him as the guy that loans she and her sister money when urgent funds are needed. So she called the dude down from the car, introduced him proper and I asked them to leave. A lot of people will sure blame me for allowing someone I dont really know to drive my family to a location, but at that moment I was still stunned because to me it was the highest level of mistrust and disappointment, so I could not take a drastic move @ that moment. They left, and the same guy dropped them off.

That night, I called my wife and sat her down, that I need an explanation on how the whole scene played out, cos I volunteered to go and drop you guys, u didnt answer me, and all of a sudden, I am seeing another man whether known or unknown person in the car with my kids without u telling me b4 u left the house that someone was going to drive u guys. She responded saying, to be sincere, they had plans seeing the guy at the bus stop to discuss loan, but she decided to have the guy drive them since he knows the hospital and since he is a man. I was like fine, but when u came to meet me, I thought u were supposed to tell me who was in the car, instead u walked off, she said actually I forgot, that it was the moment that u pressed the horn that I realized I was suppose to ask u if it was ok for segun to drive us. Oh well, they say communication is key in marriages, I will not say she was lying, thought I know something dont add up, so I moved on.

But the damn thing that really got me worried was that, few days to that very day, I noticed her being worried and soliloquizing, asked her what the problem is, claimed that its the money she lent last from the segun guy which she has not been able to pay is what is worrying her, that the dude has been askeing her for the money since it has elapsed the paying time. With that alone, it gave me a worrying thought that, it was the same guy that I ended up seeing on code @ d filling station driving my family off.

Nlanders, sorry for the long epistle, if I dont explain well, you guys wont understand in details, for the married guys and ladies, whats your take on this issue? Does something really isnt adding up?

Thanks!

Is your wife's sister in matrimony?

petitejolie:

choii!!! dis body dey re sharing diaris God oooooo. pls don't let dis man die of hypertension. he's a good man. chai.....

ok bros, you're very correct, let me rephrase....in exchange for Segun's body, your wife is loaning Segun your money....I hope this sounds better, thank you, carry go

ikbnice:
Well, she is repaying the loan but not in monetary value. The facts are staring you in the face.

seconded

Op, as a married man I could feel your pains after reading through your post. First, I must commend you on how you handled the situation at the F.Station . I know you are the gentle type trying your best to keep your privacy and maintain good relationship with your wife but I see you are loosing the battle . Your gentle approach has given your wife alot of guts than she deserved. Act now or never, my mom always say 'When the itching on your scrotum gets worst that you can't do it coded, just put it out for the masses to see'. If you want it done diligently, just get a good recoding device and place it hiding in her room. Monitor her movement, if that shop brings nothing home close it now. Remember if any one could convince your wife to mingle with her, he can also convince her to silence you.

Na wa o

hmmm, But what was the essence of the LOAN
even in your self presence?

PointZerom:


Take your financial advice to the illiterate ancestor in Aso rock.

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Guy watsap, no joy at all you bad

If u re my brother wot I will ask u to 1st do is DNA test on ur children to b sure dat u re dia father because of old age wen u re old so dat she will nt b calling family members 4 u to b asking u to gv her because all d children re not urs but brother segun is dia father , brother mi think twice oooo some women re born to be wicked ( author=aiyele200 post=60773795]Hi Nlanders,

Good morning and happy weekend. I am posting this due to the fact that my patience and understanding is being taken for granted by my wife. 6 years already into this marriage, disobedience and unfaithfulness in terms of not being straightforward with me has been the order of the marriage, though a times, the woman changes for good, then later she starts again.

One sunday afternoon after returning back from church, she quickly rushed to me saying she wanted to go and drop her sister at the hospital since the first malaria treatment she had didnt work. I asked where the hospital is, said somewhere in gbagada, knowing fully well that my wife does not know gbagada well, and knowing well also that she was going with the kids, I volunteered to drop them off, but she kept mute, and her body language showed that she didnt want me to drop them off. So I said, plz be careful, gave her money to branch at the filling station to top up the fuel in the car.

On their way going, I got hungry cos lunch was not prepared b4 they left, I decided to rush down to the nearest eatery to get sumtin to eat, on entering my own car, figured out my fuel was low, so I decided to go to the filling station. On getting there, I was packed at my wife's car, she was actually standing beside the passenger side which is weird, cos she was the one that drove off, I looked at the drivers side, and I could see a man's head. So my wife came to meet me, said she just paid for fuel, they are leaving now, at that time, I was expecting her to at least explain who the person at the drivers seat was, with my kids in the car oooo!!! She just went straight to the passenger side and closed the door. I was really stunned and surprised.

I pressed the horn for her to come down, soon as she came down, she immediately said, oh i forgot to ask you if it was ok for Segun to drop us at the hospital, I was like why, she said because he seems to know the place. Funny thing is, this guy I have never met before, but she has told me about him b4 and I know him as the guy that loans she and her sister money when urgent funds are needed. So she called the dude down from the car, introduced him proper and I asked them to leave. A lot of people will sure blame me for allowing someone I dont really know to drive my family to a location, but at that moment I was still stunned because to me it was the highest level of mistrust and disappointment, so I could not take a drastic move @ that moment. They left, and the same guy dropped them off.

That night, I called my wife and sat her down, that I need an explanation on how the whole scene played out, cos I volunteered to go and drop you guys, u didnt answer me, and all of a sudden, I am seeing another man whether known or unknown person in the car with my kids without u telling me b4 u left the house that someone was going to drive u guys. She responded saying, to be sincere, they had plans seeing the guy at the bus stop to discuss loan, but she decided to have the guy drive them since he knows the hospital and since he is a man. I was like fine, but when u came to meet me, I thought u were supposed to tell me who was in the car, instead u walked off, she said actually I forgot, that it was the moment that u pressed the horn that I realized I was suppose to ask u if it was ok for segun to drive us. Oh well, they say communication is key in marriages, I will not say she was lying, thought I know something dont add up, so I moved on.

But the damn thing that really got me worried was that, few days to that very day, I noticed her being worried and soliloquizing, asked her what the problem is, claimed that its the money she lent last from the segun guy which she has not been able to pay is what is worrying her, that the dude has been askeing her for the money since it has elapsed the paying time. With that alone, it gave me a worrying thought that, it was the same guy that I ended up seeing on code @ d filling station driving my family off.

Nlanders, sorry for the long epistle, if I dont explain well, you guys wont understand in details, for the married guys and ladies, whats your take on this issue? Does something really isnt adding up?

Thanks![/quote]

Day in day out, i keep learning. another one

JeffreyJamez:
What I'm trying to understand is why your wife is collecting loan from another man when you're still alive? Explain that part first.

thank you.

She didn't try at all. You were around and even offered to drop her but she declined.
You need to still talk to your wife allow her borrow money frombthw guy without you knowledge.

Married man gives his wife car to go to the hospital.She refuses his request to drive her yet chooses a strange man that you don't know to drive her and you think it's hospital she went.
What insolence..This is the height of disrespect..You are obviously not valued by her..She is probably cheating on you..

Houseofglam7:
Abeg we don tire to resolve husband and wife issues for here.



Me no get ordinary boyfriend sef, what can I tell you

walahi, I'm beginning to suspect these people. It's like they are doing these things and bringing these stories here, to discourage those of us who are single from entering into relationships, and getting married. There's never a day that we do not discuss such issues on Nairaland.

Preetiex:
wat of cheating men/ husband?

Why don't you just pray your own na haba!!

@op, it's very unfortunate your wife undermines your person. I understand you make all the provisions for your family, yet as little as respect for you, she cannot bring to the table.

I wonder whether she would give a damn! about you when your children become grown and move outta the house.

Please op put your foot down, you are in Lagos!

aiyele200:



To be sincere, i invested so much money in both of her businesses, the problem is that she does not know how to manage funds, very wasteful and uncountable for her spendings, and yet does not bring anything to the table in the family. I pay full rent, school fees, feeding and all. Thats why I even got worried after all investment, she is still lending money.

She's not lending rather, she's borrowing. That actually got me confused.
If I tell you not to heed the advice of Nlers especially the hasty commenters, I ga ekwe
Sieve the advice wella ooooh, speaking from experience

Montaque:
Your wife does not fear you, and that's why Segun will not fear you also. All these are the result of ur wife reaching her hand beyond where you her husband cannot reach. Most girls don't know what submission is; they think its morning greetings and kneeling down.

Hehe

Your wife disrespected you in front of a stranger, even without introduction the man was suppose to come greet you.