MhizzAJ:


She's trying her best nah at least she's not the demanding type..All she's asking for is a little bit of care.

The motive of some guys is just to take as much as they can from a lady.

you dance!? what's your Instagram?

tosyne2much:
Don't let anybody fool you that you shouldn't be bothered if he doesn't spend a kobo on you since he's not married to you.

I mean, how then do you express love when the person that claims to love you is not sensitive to your needs? What kind of a man will watch his lady go stranded when he's financially buoyant to bail her out but will keep claiming that money does not equate love?

I will advise you to thread carefully cos love is not expressed with stinginess.. The worst that can ever happen to a lady is to marry a stingy man.

Marry him at your own peril

Oga adviser, kindly keep quiet.

Is he her father?

Is she bearing his surname yet?

What's even this unreasonable idea of expecting bf or gf to meet your needs in a relationship?

Is relationship a poverty alleviation program?

AmazingM:
Good evening my dear nairalanders. Please I need your honest opinion on this issue because I am very confused now that I don't know what to do.

I have been dating a guy for about three years now. Every thing has been going well. He claims he loves me but he doesn't spend on me. He knows I am still job hunting that I don't have any means of income of my own but he doesn't care at all. How I feed, cloth, recharge my phone, he doesn't know. He doesn't even ask how I cope with all my basic needs as a woman. He doesn't recharge my phone and when I manage to recharge with the little money I have and call him, he won't even reject or ignore the call and call me back knowing well that I don't work. He will make sure he exhausts the little airtime.

It is not as I he doesn't have the money, he has it. In fact he is very comfortable but he doesn't spend on me. I am a type of lady that doesn't know how to ask for money but I expect him to know that since I am not working yet, he should assist me with some of my needs but if I don't ask, he will do nothing.

I am thinking of leaving him because of this attitude I feel he is taking advantage of my nature. Please help me out. I want to know your take on this issue before I take action.

Thank you.

Are you working for him? Don't you have a family? I come from a family where we take care of our children.

Lawlahdey:
I was kidding...LOL.

I can't date someone like that though, Heaven forbids.

What's Now the usefulness of your parents when you casting your financial wahala on a man because he happens to be dating you?

Is relationship a poverty alleviation program?

RETIREDMUMU:


oh sorry i don't know u r biafran descendants dat is how una roll from una side. bye broke sweet lady


but before u go, i command the spirit of dependent, liability Otta ur life ijn, amen

hmmm this post.....make women self begin to spend on Men oooo the pressure on men folk nobe hear....oooo

Adiemus will never do that

Lawlahdey:
I was kidding...LOL.

I can't date someone like that though, Heaven forbids.

lolade yi ma nparo sha. You too dey lie,you can lie for Africa. Just come and pack your things from my house jo

So he should give her MONEY na abi? So he should give her MONEY. Cant she find her own?

They can't..

He is not your father. You are not his responsibility. You guys are dating. Go and get a job or start trading little things before you get a job. Indutrous women don't sit around to count how many times men spend on them. Go and make your own money and take good care of yourself.

[quote author=AmazingM post=61327046]Good evening my dear nairalanders. Please I need your honest opinion on this issue because I am very confused now that I don't know what to do.

I have been dating a guy for about three years now. Every thing has been going well. He claims he loves me but he doesn't spend on me. He knows I am still job hunting that I don't have any means of income of my own but he doesn't care at all. How I feed, cloth, recharge my phone, he doesn't know. He doesn't even ask how I cope with all my basic needs as a woman. He doesn't recharge my phone and when I manage to recharge with the little money I have and call him, he won't even reject or ignore the call and call me back knowing well that I don't work. He will make sure he exhausts the little airtime.

It is not as I he doesn't have the money, he has it. In fact he is very comfortable but he doesn't spend on me. I am a type of lady that doesn't know how to ask for money but I expect him to know that since I am not working yet, he should assist me with some of my needs but if I don't ask, he will do nothing.

I am thinking of leaving him because of this attitude I feel he is taking advantage of my nature. Please help me out. I want to know your take on this issue before I take action.

Thank you.[please leave him alone asap. Three years and he is still tightfisted.... It's not worth it please.]

Lawlahdey:
He's testing your resilience

Op, I align with this one...

There is, lemme be frank, a 50% chance that he might be testing ur resilience.

Think it through b4 taking any decision. Make u no go lose ur man.

Lawlahdey:
He's testing your resilience

Take my heart with ur comment.I give u I get extra

so because you're dating him he has automatically become your father that will cloth, feed and cater for all your needs or is he the one responsible for your joblessness? #BoyfriendNotAtm

phatnpretty:
Your stingy boyfriend is another girl's ATM.

that's for sure

@AmazingM: If he is having sex with you and he is not helping you out financially then I would call him stingy and even wicked.... since he knows your predicament and it is a "proper" relationship (from my own point of view) and NOT a "friends with benefits" scenario.

In my OWN opinion a relationship without sexual intercourse is just a platonic friendship and I am not interested in spending money on a "platonic" friend.. that is my OWN point of view.

AmazingM:
At least you spend something. He doesn't even spend on me at all.

This relationship is abusive!
You waited for too long before thinking of ending it. Why didn't you quit after 1year of him not spending on you at all?


You probably thought he will change.
Unfortunately, he didn't and will never did.

The bitter truth is that this your guy is spending heavily on other girls that he loves and care about.
But consciously refused to spend on you because:

1. He he doesn't love you
2. He doesn't care about you

Even if you leave him now, he won't feel it much except for the biological (sex) feelings

But for your own good, just end it now.
You deserve a better love and I'm sure you will find a true love some day.

OrestesDante:

Women! Firstly, Money.
secondly, money.
Third money.



Finally, money!

Well he might be testing you. Or might be a

OrestesDante:

Women! Firstly, Money.
secondly, money.
Third money.



Finally, money!

Well he might be testing you. Or might be a

AmazingM:
Good evening my dear nairalanders. Please I need your honest opinion on this issue because I am very confused now that I don't know what to do.

I have been dating a guy for about three years now. Every thing has been going well. He claims he loves me but he doesn't spend on me. He knows I am still job hunting that I don't have any means of income of my own but he doesn't care at all. How I feed, cloth, recharge my phone, he doesn't know. He doesn't even ask how I cope with all my basic needs as a woman. He doesn't recharge my phone and when I manage to recharge with the little money I have and call him, he won't even reject or ignore the call and call me back knowing well that I don't work. He will make sure he exhausts the little airtime.

It is not as I he doesn't have the money, he has it. In fact he is very comfortable but he doesn't spend on me. I am a type of lady that doesn't know how to ask for money but I expect him to know that since I am not working yet, he should assist me with some of my needs but if I don't ask, he will do nothing.

I am thinking of leaving him because of this attitude I feel he is taking advantage of my nature. Please help me out. I want to know your take on this issue before I take action.

Thank you.

He's not for you dear. If he loves you, I believe you don't have to ask. And it doesn't even have to be all the time, a little gift once in a while matters a lot to ladies and guys. Do you give too? Surprise him by getting him a nice perfume or something good and not so expensive. But after this and he doesn't even bother, then just know he's a stingy man. Giving is a nature and should be reciprocal in relationships.

Adaumunocha:
Its you westerners that are championing this broke girls nonsense. Right from time we know you people don't take care of ladies. Very stingy set of people.

Who ladies help?

AmazingM:
Good evening my dear nairalanders. Please I need your honest opinion on this issue because I am very confused now that I don't know what to do.

I have been dating a guy for about three years now. Every thing has been going well. He claims he loves me but he doesn't spend on me. He knows I am still job hunting that I don't have any means of income of my own but he doesn't care at all. How I feed, cloth, recharge my phone, he doesn't know. He doesn't even ask how I cope with all my basic needs as a woman. He doesn't recharge my phone and when I manage to recharge with the little money I have and call him, he won't even reject or ignore the call and call me back knowing well that I don't work. He will make sure he exhausts the little airtime.

It is not as I he doesn't have the money, he has it. In fact he is very comfortable but he doesn't spend on me. I am a type of lady that doesn't know how to ask for money but I expect him to know that since I am not working yet, he should assist me with some of my needs but if I don't ask, he will do nothing.

I am thinking of leaving him because of this attitude I feel he is taking advantage of my nature. Please help me out. I want to know your take on this issue before I take action.

Thank you.

Why not put your effort into getting a job and stop bothering about your bf not spending on you.
Perhaps, try talk to him, some don't know how to give and he May think you have. By the way, do u still have parent.
You said he's your bf, note that. He's not your husband yet.

Move on.

If a man doesn't understand your love language, move on.

No

Adaumunocha:
I typed based on observation and research. I don't actually know what you talking about .

Definitely you are dumb and wouldn't want to have anything to do with dumb lady like you. How many western guys have you folked before that you are observing?

So needy! An unemployed lady with entitlement complex (apologies,had to be said, no disrespect intended).
It is unbelievable that after 3 years of dating the same guy you have not been able to decipher the best way (time, mood, occasion) to get your man to part with some cash for your needs. Let me give it to you straight; you lack communication skills! And, you will be the only girl i have come across who confuses lack of communication skills with personal pride. Keep it up!

These days men only spend Money on their wives not gf.OP if you need recharge Card go to your Papa or Mama, if you cant be bothered to ask them then thats the reason you cant ask your Bf.His priority might be his family right now!He might not be seeing you as a wife material rather as a gf.

he may just be someone who is trying not to be a Maga, he might have fall prey to some ladies in the past...
my advice discuss this with him, in the funniest way possible then later show to him you are really serious about it... his actions will determine if he cares or not

DebbieSean:
He's not for you dear. If he loves you, I believe you don't have to ask. And it doesn't even have to be all the time, a little gift once in a while matters a lot to ladies and guys. Do you give too? Surprise him by getting him a nice perfume or something good and not so expensive. But after this and he doesn't even bother, then just know he's a stingy man. Giving is a nature and should be reciprocal in relationships.

Person wey dey struggle to charge fone U say make dem Buy perfume, is dis how U use to DO

How the hell do you know his financial.capability? Did he reveal his earnings to you? Do you even know whether he sends money to support his family?

Look, he doesn't "owe" you any financial support. If you were not dating anyone wouldn't you still take care of your basic needs? A boyfriend is not your atm.

This sense of entitlement is really nauseating.

The only thing I see wrong is the fact that he exhausts your airtime knowing that you don't have a job.

Maybe he doesn't want a broke girlfriend. A grown woman who cannot fend for herself is not an asset to any sensible man.

I have always dated ladies who are financially independent. They often accepted and appreciated my gifts without asking me or feeling entitled.

A sensible man is often attracted to a woman who can take care of herself.