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Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by ipodstinks: 12:06am On Oct 13, 2017

MaritzaNL:
The guy no even love am sef, if a guy love a girl, he will go extra miles to care for her.

Extra mile like stealing or behead another girl's head for money ritual or probably kidnapping, all cos he loves his girl and want to take care of her at all cost?

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Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Relationship56(m): 12:07am On Oct 13, 2017

This is really bad. I think what you need to do now is to be prayerful about it and ask God for wisdom. You can also read this guys, Top Qualities Every Good Relationship Needs Aside Love -> http://www.frabidel.com/blog/top-qualities-every-good-relationship-needs-aside-love/

Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by chieni(f): 12:10am On Oct 13, 2017

a guy is not supposed to make spending his responsibility if he is not married to you, but for formality sake the guy could decide to make some expenses on the lady . The lady on her part should be careful not to make demands excessively, cause it paints a picture of her being after his money. In final conclusion even if you don't ask him for money at all, if he is loving and caring, he would offer to settle certain bills for you without you asking and it's left for you to decline or accept it. In this case he appears not to care at all.If he wasn't there you must certainly survive, one way or the other

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Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by MISSNORA(f): 12:10am On Oct 13, 2017

OrestesDante:

Women! Firstly, Money.
secondly, money.
Third money.

Finally, money!

Well he might be testing you. Or might be a

lemme date u without money cheesy

Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by pweetiedee(m): 12:12am On Oct 13, 2017

Ifakiland:
Broke ass biitch....u still have the nerves to threaten to break up, please break up fast and move on Abeg.....help his life and move on....mr eazi doesn't have two head....may God never bring a broke gf like u into my life o....#spits#

The spit just landed on your head.

you're a broke ass male- bitch too.

He doesn't av to buy her Ferrari, but knowing she doesn't have anything and he is comfortable...
Haba!

That's him being uncaring and stingy.

And I know you are like that. People like you deserve the worst women.

Before you say nonsense, I am not broke, and like OP, I don't even know aw to ask.

But I will know when my man is stingy, and I can't marry a stingy man because if he knows his wife is hardworking and makes money, he won't want to spend for the family at all.

it is their type that leave the wife to provide for the family and spend their own money on other things.

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Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by MevsU(m): 12:12am On Oct 13, 2017

Why can't we apply same standard to ladies, if you can't fend for yourself, you have no business going into relationship. A focused guy knows a liability when he sees one.

All the needs you have listed are what your parents should take care of but most ladies always want to form independent by not asking their parents.

What exactly have you added to him since you guys hooked up.

I pray you get a job soon though.

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Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by buffalowings: 12:13am On Oct 13, 2017

I like the guy
Maybe during the early days of thier dating , the guy was spending mad
But then months turned to years and this girl still has nothing doing grin

I we don't know the guys side of the story

Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by pweetiedee(m): 12:14am On Oct 13, 2017

Relationship56:
This is really bad. I think what you need to do now is to be prayerful about it and ask God for wisdom. You can also read this guys, Top Qualities Every Good Relationship Needs Aside Love -> http://www.frabidel.com/blog/top-qualities-every-good-relationship-needs-aside-love/

Sometimes, Only your number 6 is needed.

This one is not a matter of prayer. She can decide to stay or leave.

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Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Coldfeets: 12:18am On Oct 13, 2017

Ifakiland:
Broke ass biitch....u still have the nerves to threaten to break up, please break up fast and move on Abeg.....help his life and move on....mr eazi doesn't have two head....may God never bring a broke gf like u into my life o....#spits#

Don't mind the biatch.

She probably thinks being a girlfriend is a job.

The nigga should be spending on you because he's your father and you are his responsibility eh kwa?

Nonsense human being.

Instead of expecting the gentleman to be spending on you, why don't you ask him for some money to start your own business so that you can be making your own money and spending it all on yourself?

It seems so many of our so called young ladies nowadays really need some form of brain reset.

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Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Wallace2107: 12:19am On Oct 13, 2017

AmazingM:
Good evening my dear nairalanders. Please I need your honest opinion on this issue because I am very confused now that I don't know what to do.

I have been dating a guy for about three years now. Every thing has been going well. He claims he loves me but he doesn't spend on me. He knows I am still job hunting that I don't have any means of income of my own but he doesn't care at all. How I feed, cloth, recharge my phone, he doesn't know. He doesn't even ask how I cope with all my basic needs as a woman. He doesn't recharge my phone and when I manage to recharge with the little money I have and call him, he won't even reject or ignore the call and call me back knowing well that I don't work. He will make sure he exhausts the little airtime.

It is not as I he doesn't have the money, he has it. In fact he is very comfortable but he doesn't spend on me. I am a type of lady that doesn't know how to ask for money but I expect him to know that since I am not working yet, he should assist me with some of my needs but if I don't ask, he will do nothing.

I am thinking of leaving him because of this attitude I feel he is taking advantage of my nature. Please help me out. I want to know your take on this issue before I take action.

Thank you.

honest opinion? He didn't give birth to you and he is not responsible to you until he marries you. Ie he is not ur atm as u intend to make him until he is ur husband,if u wanna leave,why not? Make sure u ain't jumping from frying pan to fire.lotta women turn husbands to boy friends and boyfriends to husbands.just my take.

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Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Wallace2107: 12:23am On Oct 13, 2017

Coldfeets:
Don't mind the biatch.

She probably thinks being a girlfriend is a job.

The nigga should be spending on you because he's your father and you are his responsibility eh kwa?

Nonsense human being.

Instead of expecting the gentleman to be spending on you, why don't you ask him for some money to start your own business so that you can be making your own money and spending it all on yourself?

It seems so many of our so called young ladies nowadays really need some form of brain reset.

thank u o my brother..sometimes this broke ass b****s forget they are gonna have boys someday. Cheapies

Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by ceeceeuwa: 12:25am On Oct 13, 2017

AmazingM:
At least you spend something. He doesn't even spend on me at all.

Does he buy you gifts on your birthday?

Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by TheeDetective: 12:25am On Oct 13, 2017*

So you have been dating your BF for 3 years as stated and he has not spent a dime on you and you want us to believe that? undecided

. I think it is more of him not spending so much as you would have wanted hence the bitterness. Drop this entitlement mentality that you have developed angry

as he ain't your husband. Would you not have catered for your own needs if you were single and on your own? undecided

Do you have family members who support you whilst you are hunting for a job? If so, then they can as well cater for your needs too. Not excusing your BFs stinginess (cos I don’t see any reason why he can’t spend a little on you as his GF), but only you can decide whether you want to carry on with him (even though he is tight-fisted) or take your leave. The ball is in your court as na only you dey wear the shoe and na only you sabi where e dey pinch.

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Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by francesawesome(f): 12:26am On Oct 13, 2017*

AmazingM:
At least you spend something. He doesn't even spend on me at all.

hmm.

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Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by muller101(m): 12:26am On Oct 13, 2017

Confused op. Is he ur father?

Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by muller101(m): 12:36am On Oct 13, 2017

Ifakiland:
Go and work and stop ur sob stories...learn makeup or cake making, cos if u fink doing runs is easy....ask that she fool dat called her dad an idiot.

this is brutality grin

Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Nobody: 12:48am On Oct 13, 2017

Safiaa:
I wish you would learn to understand me, rather than jump to conclusion like everyone else.

LOL no need to understand you more dearie. You already said NO to broke guys. Your post was clear & concise without any shadow of doubt.

The summary of your post is trading your beauty for the highest bidder.

You didn't make mention of the man's attitude, how he treats other people around him, If he's God fearing.

Safiaa:
As a woman, you need to use your YOUTH and BEAUTY to attract the best man who is financially stable as possible. This is not gold digging this is being SMART.

But I'm not even judging you though, neither am I casting the First stone ! you clearly spoke your mind.

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Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Tolubae1(f): 12:59am On Oct 13, 2017

jashar:
Concentrate on having a source of income and not bother yourself with what your boyfriend does with his money.

No man you're not married to owes you anything....

But, don't marry someone that isn't caring.

sista u try, nd hope u dont owe any guy u r not married to sex all in d name of bf/gf relationship, Boys always say girls like money bt u guys r always attracted to good things, will u date a girl dat's shabby nd smells? Shey no be money she go take buy deodorant? Lmao op jux sha discuss it wit him sha nd knw wot his plans r or rather y He is like dat, sum pple will want u to ask them, dey dont really do anytin until u ask, so sumtimes ask nd it shall be given unto u dr

Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by DaddyYoo: 1:01am On Oct 13, 2017

LifeofAirforce:
I don't spend much on bae and she love me

which yeye money you even get grin

Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by aribisala0(m): 1:09am On Oct 13, 2017

Adaumunocha:
He'll b my father, my friend, my lover... Go hug transformer if you no like am. You must b from d west cos na only una carry aka gum for head.

Na una dey train una sons to develop Thailand and South Africa.

Just this week one of you was arrested robbing in Akure trying to get bride price because his Eboe wife Lun away.

Women MUST learn to be independent of men. Unless he is renting your body.

I say this anytime this is the mentality of the kerosene using segment of society. Anytime you come across this it is people brought up on kerosene cooked food.I am convinced kerosene affects their brains. This effect starts in childhood and is irreversible
Gas cooker people reason diffferently

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Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Nobody: 1:19am On Oct 13, 2017

Dillusionist:
he will exhaust your airtime but can't do the same for you? ?and he's probably doing all that for another lady
I hate stingy rats occupying space in my life and when it comes to marriage better pick race.

start thinking with your brain intact.

I doubt if u got a job

Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by pokipoki: 1:19am On Oct 13, 2017

AmazingM:
Good evening my dear nairalanders. Please I need your honest opinion on this issue because I am very confused now that I don't know what to do.

I have been dating a guy for about three years now. Every thing has been going well. He claims he loves me but he doesn't spend on me. He knows I am still job hunting that I don't have any means of income of my own but he doesn't care at all. How I feed, cloth, recharge my phone, he doesn't know. He doesn't even ask how I cope with all my basic needs as a woman. He doesn't recharge my phone and when I manage to recharge with the little money I have and call him, he won't even reject or ignore the call and call me back knowing well that I don't work. He will make sure he exhausts the little airtime.

It is not as I he doesn't have the money, he has it. In fact he is very comfortable but he doesn't spend on me. I am a type of lady that doesn't know how to ask for money but I expect him to know that since I am not working yet, he should assist me with some of my needs but if I don't ask, he will do nothing.

I am thinking of leaving him because of this attitude I feel he is taking advantage of my nature. Please help me out. I want to know your take on this issue before I take action.

Thank you.

This is the 21st century and I think you need to change your mentality. Have you ever thought of getting a job or start a business and be self dependent?

Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Toyindiva(f): 1:20am On Oct 13, 2017

I have dated a guy like that before, he is so stingy that he barely calls me, not knowing that he was having an affair with another lady, until I caught him red handed, my dear if your bf is stingy it is either he is cheating or that his nature, you deserve better dear.

Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Nobody: 1:26am On Oct 13, 2017*

tosyne2much:
Don't let anybody fool you that you shouldn't be bothered if he doesn't spend a kobo on you since he's not married to you.

I mean, how then do you express love when the person that claims to love you is not sensitive to your needs? What kind of a man will watch his lady go stranded when he's financially buoyant to bail her out but will keep claiming that money does not equate love?

I will advise you to thread carefully cos love is not expressed with stinginess.. The worst that can ever happen to a lady is to marry a stingy man.

Marry him at your own peril

You are correct. Issue is some ladies never ask for anything while some will almost ask for your head in a relationship. I have experienced both first hand & I don't like either any of them honestly. I want both hot and cold LOL

And this girl has no job for 3 years tho? What is she doing with her life?

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Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by makky555(f): 1:43am On Oct 13, 2017

AmazingM:
Good evening my dear nairalanders. Please I need your honest opinion on this issue because I am very confused now that I don't know what to do.

I have been dating a guy for about three years now. Every thing has been going well. He claims he loves me but he doesn't spend on me. He knows I am still job hunting that I don't have any means of income of my own but he doesn't care at all. How I feed, cloth, recharge my phone, he doesn't know. He doesn't even ask how I cope with all my basic needs as a woman. He doesn't recharge my phone and when I manage to recharge with the little money I have and call him, he won't even reject or ignore the call and call me back knowing well that I don't work. He will make sure he exhausts the little airtime.

It is not as I he doesn't have the money, he has it. In fact he is very comfortable but he doesn't spend on me. I am a type of lady that doesn't know how to ask for money but I expect him to know that since I am not working yet, he should assist me with some of my needs but if I don't ask, he will do nothing.

I am thinking of leaving him because of this attitude I feel he is taking advantage of my nature. Please help me out. I want to know your take on this issue before I take action.

Thank you.

Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Nobody: 1:45am On Oct 13, 2017

MISSNORA:
lemme date u without money

From your profile pic it is obvious you are an abana that is why u think a man should provide ur needs

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Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Nobody: 1:51am On Oct 13, 2017

Toyindiva:
I have dated a guy like that before, he is so stingy that he barely calls me, not knowing that he was having an affair with another lady, until I caught him red handed, my dear if your bf is stingy it is either he is cheating or that his nature, you deserve better dear.

You are pretty but a bit dumb try and work for ur needs u don't need
a man to provide
For your lazy
ass

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Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Kalashnikov102(m): 2:00am On Oct 13, 2017

AmazingM:
Good evening my dear nairalanders. Please I need your honest opinion on this issue because I am very confused now that I don't know what to do.

I have been dating a guy for about three years now. Every thing has been going well. He claims he loves me but he doesn't spend on me. He knows I am still job hunting that I don't have any means of income of my own but he doesn't care at all. How I feed, cloth, recharge my phone, he doesn't know. He doesn't even ask how I cope with all my basic needs as a woman. He doesn't recharge my phone and when I manage to recharge with the little money I have and call him, he won't even reject or ignore the call and call me back knowing well that I don't work. He will make sure he exhausts the little airtime.

It is not as I he doesn't have the money, he has it. In fact he is very comfortable but he doesn't spend on me. I am a type of lady that doesn't know how to ask for money but I expect him to know that since I am not working yet, he should assist me with some of my needs but if I don't ask, he will do nothing.

I am thinking of leaving him because of this attitude I feel he is taking advantage of my nature. Please help me out. I want to know your take on this issue before I take action.

Thank you.

Come to me bae and ama treat you like DJ Khaleed!! 'hold you down'

Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by tosyne2much(m): 2:17am On Oct 13, 2017

truthsayer009:
You are correct. Issue is some ladies never ask for anything while some will almost ask for head in a relationship. I have experienced both first hand & I don't like either any of them honestly. I want both hot and cold LOL

And this girl has no job for 3 years tho? What is she doing with her life?

Na you dey talk like this baba.. You should know that unemployment thrives in this country cheesy

Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by Lexusgs430: 2:18am On Oct 13, 2017

AmazingM:
Good evening my dear nairalanders. Please I need your honest opinion on this issue because I am very confused now that I don't know what to do.

I have been dating a guy for about three years now. Every thing has been going well. He claims he loves me but he doesn't spend on me. He knows I am still job hunting that I don't have any means of income of my own but he doesn't care at all. How I feed, cloth, recharge my phone, he doesn't know. He doesn't even ask how I cope with all my basic needs as a woman. He doesn't recharge my phone and when I manage to recharge with the little money I have and call him, he won't even reject or ignore the call and call me back knowing well that I don't work. He will make sure he exhausts the little airtime.

It is not as I he doesn't have the money, he has it. In fact he is very comfortable but he doesn't spend on me. I am a type of lady that doesn't know how to ask for money but I expect him to know that since I am not working yet, he should assist me with some of my needs but if I don't ask, he will do nothing.

I am thinking of leaving him because of this attitude I feel he is taking advantage of my nature. Please help me out. I want to know your take on this issue before I take action.

Thank you.

Does he go up your garden to pluck your fruits?

Re: Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy Who Doesn't Spend On You? by tosyne2much(m): 2:19am On Oct 13, 2017

idesylvester:
this person just nailed it...my dear this is the fact, take it or leave it... when a man can't spend on u now that both of u are dating then he won't when it get to marriage

if he's testing you then he shouldn't ask for s*x

Thank you my brother

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