Lloydfolarin:


@op, don’t mind this hoe, it’s written all over her write up that she is morally backward.

Regardless what the situation is in the marriage, tell your sister to divorce the man first before jumping to the next available dickk

Melodyz:
It's a very long story but let me cut it short

Back in my secondary days my sister got married to a man from Imo state, within two years they gave birth to two beautiful daughters (twins), few months after giving birth the husband was diagnosed with eye cancer, which after much treatment he passed away.

The families of the man refused my sister of everything, they went as far as telling her to go away with the kids, that they are evil, that they want nothing to do with her and the children. So she came back home, my parents tried everything possible to resolve the issue but to no avail, so we accepted the kids as ours, they even started bearing our last name.

Few years later a man asked for my sister's hand in marriage, like two to three years into the marriage she gave birth to a boy and a girl, by then I was already schooling in UNN and I normally don't travel back home constantly. She calls at times to ask how I was doing and sometimes complains of how her husband doesn't bring money for anything in the house, that she is the one that pays for everything concerning the kids schooling, that she can count the number of times her husband brings money for paying of rent and for feeding.

She reported him to his people but nothing was done, after much complaining she said she's not interested in the marriage anymore, some of our family members advise her not to leave the marriage that is not right via her being married before, but she refused, that she can't be the man in the house by taking care of everything that they (the husband and her) should be doing together. So she went ahead to rent her own apartment and brought along her the two kids, few months after moving out her husband was evicted for failing to pay his rent.

I graduated this year and decided to go visit her and from there find something doing before I leave for service, on my reaching there I asked her what is happening via her marriage, she told me that since she moved here her husband has never for once asked of the kids, even to send money for their upkeep he has not done it, so out of anger he sent his son to him as he is the eldest, to take care of him.

Since I got to her house there is this guy that visits her and calls her constantly, she even visits him almost if not every night.

I want to talk to her about it, so everyone in the house please what can I do? Should I stay mute or not? If not, what should I tell her?

Freeman59:


Babe did you bother to ask what the husband does for a living? Maybe he's out of job or sth.

Sometimes I wonder if wen I'm out of job and looking for another one then I become an irresponsible man. Life's hard

kennygee:


She married an irresponsible man, I'll advice separation, not divorce tho.

Skmoda360:

bros you must say your mind joor.

komododragons:
your sister is just the normal contemporary naija girl who can open yansh for Africa

your voice will just be like noise to her ear! just free her let her open her yansh for Africa and Africa will bless her yansh with a basket full of disease!

afterall! naija women don't have private part but rather a public part!


by The way! if your sister don't open yansh for Africa who will feed her

Benita27:
What was the so called husband expecting when he failed to be responsible to his wife and kids?. As far as I'm concerned, they stopped being married long ago, perhaps you think she's still married 'cause they've not divorced legally. That being said, if you're concerned about her life I'm sure she'll ask you to mind your business 'cause she's an adult.

NwaAmaikpe:

Melodyz:

She feels they already have an understanding about not being together anymore

elfmann:
That's what so many do oh.

Benita27:
Well, I needn't ask 'cause the op stated that the sister once told him that she could count how many times he had given her money while they've been married. If he was jobless, the op would've stated that. To me, the man is irresponsible. How does one picks a wife and father kids if they're financially incapacitated?.

komododragons:
your sister is just the normal contemporary naija girl who can open yansh for Africa
your voice will just be like noise to her ear! just free her let her open her yansh for Africa and Africa will bless her yansh with a basket full of disease!
afterall! naija women don't have private part but rather a public part!
by The way! if your sister don't open yansh for Africa who will feed her

Freeman59:


Babe did you bother to ask what the husband does for a living? Maybe he's out of job or sth.

Sometimes I wonder if wen I'm out of job and looking for another one then I become an irresponsible man. Life's hard

Lloydfolarin:


Your fuckingg poverty ridden she-goat mother

Freeman59:


Well to me the woman is more irresponsible. She disregards the well being of her children just for the pleasure of sex. Shame on her. You should shame her to if you are not biased

Melodyz:




Seriously I don't want to Invade her space, and besides I'm graduate but have no experience via marriage stuffs.... I don't see it as a big of a deal asking those sort of questions

Lloydfolarin:


Your fuckingg poverty ridden she-goat mother

Melodyz:



Going to a year now, the husband has never for once asked about his daughter, his son that is with him sef has no formal textbooks they use in school and my sis refuses to send to him to buy textbooks for him, saying he is his responsibility

TreasuredLeidy:
What has she done to make the man a better husband? If she cnt do anything to make her marriage work, then She should divorce properly if she doesn't want to b tagged a B*tch.. What insolence
@op, talk sense into her head, i cnt believe a graduate is asking this question.

selflessmaya:


dude, you're so uncouth. have some respect and stop talking like a tout, it's not edgy, you're embarrassing yourself. all your sisters have nigerian pussy, you were pushed into this world by a nigerian vagina, respect your mother's public part and speak about women with some respect! u were not raised by a goat.

Benita27:
Read through before making comments based on sentiment. The op stated that she pays rents, schools fees, and feeding while she's been married to her husband. Does that look like a lady who isn't concerned for the being of her kids?. Sending her son to live with the father since he wasn't sending anything for their wellbeing was a good move 'cause it would make him rise to the occasion and face his responsibility but unfortunately, it wasn't yielding that result. I think the lady is responsible but she made a mistake of not divorcing her husband before dating.

Melodyz:




What I understand is that she feels that if she continues to shoulder the responsibilities the husband will continue to be reluctant to do something tangible with his life.

The man drinks and smoke a lot without bringing money to help out in the family