RuthDaniels:
Lol! There is no definite pattern of how life works, Your opinion although somewhat right remains an opinion and not a fact.

I laugh when I see guys encourage themselves to get rich and watch ladies flock around them. Yes, they will come, but 99% would be materialistic, gold digging bunch. One thing guys need to get straight is, Money does not attract love. Money attracts fans but not friends, lust but not love. The richer you get, the lesser your chances of getting True Love.

Rich or poor, express your feelings to whomever you are attracted to. You are either accepted or rejected, it's not the end of life, but another junction to turn a corner.

God BLESS You

Benita27:
On the contrary, it's said that a friend's loyalty is known when the chips are down. Those who made this quote were not drunk and it has been proven to be true 'cause wealth attracts sycophants. The married great men of this world met their women when they had nothing 'cause that's when you test a man's loyalty. Wonder why Mark Zuckerberg ended up with an average looking Asian instead of the beauties of America?, it's 'cause she was with him when he was nothing.

You said it's easier to pick your kind of woman when you have wealth. Sorry, it's a herculean task to pick your kind of woman when you have money. A wealthy man is full of insecurities.

You wouldn't marry a lady you're not sure whether she loves you or not, realistically speaking.

Either rich or poor, a MAN will know a woman who loves him for who he is or for his money or status (expect he deliberately ignores the sign). But they don't tell us in the open. I go with the financial compatibility school of thought. Imagine a woman who has manage to build herself alone.. that's a good wife material because she will manage everything that has to do with her life, including the husband and children (family ) well.

And another thing people should know is that, faithfulness is a virtue of personality and not a materialistic function. Little things about a person matters. I for instance, if I'm being faithful to my man, I'm not doing it because of him, rather I'm doing it because of ME, MY self respect and dignity.

Don't get me wrong, I appreciate grass to grace stories (and the definition or grass to grace is relative) but that shouldn't be a perfect marriage criteria. Like the OP stated, we hear of broken marriages from celebrities because they are in the show business or public eye. You should visit a local court and hear the amount of divorce cases.

The fact you started dating someone when he wasn't financially stable isn't a yardstick to a long lasting marriage. the sustainability of a marriage depends on the two personalities involved, compatibility which is key and above all, God's grace which is sufficient for all.

And by the way mark's wife isn't ordinary.. go and read about her.. They were very compatible. If he was dating a striper then, you think he is going to marry her despite being with him when he had nothing?

Not only being bored but she have lost her joy and happiness. Even in the abundant of wealth alot of people get bored because of the normal daily routine. This life is two side to a coin. She is absolutely normal.

RuthDaniels:
Lol! There is no definite pattern of how life works, Your opinion although somewhat right remains an opinion and not a fact.

I laugh when I see guys encourage themselves to get rich and watch ladies flock around them. Yes, they will come, but 99% would be materialistic, gold digging bunch. One thing guys need to get straight is, Money does not attract love. Money attracts fans but not friends, lust but not love. The richer you get, the lesser your chances of getting True Love.

Rich or poor, express your feelings to whomever you are attracted to. You are either accepted or rejected, it's not the end of life, but another junction to turn a corner.

if you rich then look for a rich girl simple

A struggling man stand a better chance to land a woman who loves him than a rich or comfortable dude.
Yes, no doubt a rich man can "marry" any category of women base on what appeals to them but a struggling man "finds" love in his prevailing circumstance.

Smart comfortable guys nowadays play "struggling lifestyle" to attract love and not marriage and that'd be what i'll advice rich guys to do.

OP shut up and keep you opinion to yourself.. It goes both ways.. Everyone now think they have an opinion ...rubbish

Daeylar:


Lol I had a feeling that you would either be attacked or they would avoid it.
All right

You wicked o, just emboldened my grammatical error. Let me correct myself sharply.- standalone

@being attacked, na today. It is a valid question. Don't worry, I'll mention you if my craze reach that side.

Hope your Saturday is going great.

This is not the 80s or 90s, these days our actions brings quick consequences, if you get genuine love while you're broke and you eventually marry her, be ready for this because she is human and all or some of these must happen:

If you finally blow after marriage she will have a great sense of entitlement and ownership over your wealth.
She will tell everyone that cares to listen that she was there for you when you had nothing.
You must inform her before you make a major investment decision in fact in most cases you must operate a joint account with her.
Your in laws will never respect you.

Getting genuine love when you are broke may seem like a soft landing but that was in the past, you have a lot to loose in the long run.

Everyone has a reason to fall in love so if you are comfortable looking for love just be moderate in appearance, dont look poor or extravagant, have brains, look good, have sense of humour, genuine love will come crawling and begging you.

Advice: if you are rich or comfortable you must have a plan B, a secret investment in case she leaves you then you will have something to fall back on.

I no fit shout.

not only being bored but she have lost her joy and happiness. Even in the abundant of wealth alot of people get bored, life just becomes a daily boring routine. This life is two side to a coin

JamesReacher:
That female cousin needs her head checked if she just left because she's 'bored'.

Zuluhead:
not only being bored but she have lost her joy and happiness. Even in the abundant of wealth alot of people get bored, life just becomes a daily boring routine. This life is two side to a coin

She needs her head checked , so she would find happiness in penury? I don't know about people getting bored in abundance of wealth

So how will Anthony Joshua find a wife......impoverish himself?

Perfect writeup @rapmoney...

Rapmoney:
I fault your opinion that the great men of this world met their wives when they were broke. That's a fallacy of hasty generalization. Why don't you gather their historical details and post it here so we can all see? Whether you have money or not is not a guarantee of meeting someone who loves you genuinely.

Oga it is easier to find the right woman when you broke than when you are rich. The lady you quoted totally destroyed your opinion.

Na so una finish op abi

Humanistme:


That is the fact, but getting your choice doesn't mean it is true love on the woman's side. There is nothing like love.

get your choice first and leave the rest for God.

whether you are rich or not you can find true love easily but u just have to be careful and smart when making your decisions.....so many lazy leeches out there.....and and yes somehow to an extent it is harder to find "true love" when you are wealthy and u still surround yourself with broke girls..your wealth attracts so many people with a lot of bad eggs among them.....date someone That is making her own money already,someone that will not give a f*uck about your money....someone that will love you for "who you are "and not "what you have"....the major rule "be careful when dating a broke girl"because there is lower chance of finding true love when the wealth is staring at her face already..that does not mean a broke girl cannot love a rich guy sincerely but it is very rare especially with the power that money posseses,money can turn a sincere girl to a parasite ...there is a man for every woman and there is a woman for every man....

shaybebaby:

You wicked o, just emboldened my grammatical error. Let me correct myself sharply.- standalone

@being attacked na today. It is a valid question. Don't worry, I'll mention you if my craze reach that side.

Hope your Saturday is going great.

I didn't even notice that, corrected mine

Lol, you will barely get a valid response, wear your armour before you do
All right. What section though? Family or here?

Going great, yours?

AlmiqhteeAllah:
Although, I disagree with your post in its entirety, I'm quoting this particular part because it's extremely ridiculous and nonsensical. Where did you get the figures, the statistics, the evidence, to make you confident enough to make this absurd claim? Where, when, and how did you conduct your survey? You're just saying nonsense to support your own beliefs, conjuring up hogwash for your own ends. The opposite might even be actually true, since the United States seems to have higher divorce rate than countries where the poverty rate is higher.

Haven said that, these kind of write-ups are ridiculous and one-dimensional rubbish that judge all relationships by a one-size-fits-all standard, ignoring the reality that people have different motivations in life, as well as different reasons for falling in love. So many factors contribute to attraction as well as break-ups that there's barely any consistent way of determining what to rule out or what not when making such considerations as this. Relationships are dialectical, "grey" systems, not some 1 + 1 = 2, simple, straightforward, binary system that you can analyse using Aristotelian logic. Your write-up is flawed.

And, viewing it from a different perspective, you seem to have the wrong idea about love and loyalty. If you make something as uncertain and unstable as money and finance the pillar of a relationship, what happens when conditions change? You might be poor today, only to become rich tomorrow. The person who is wealthy now, can go bankrupt the next minute and end up in penury, due to circumstances over which he has no control. So, what happens then? The "loyal" and "loving" partner abandons him to his fate?

you nearly made sense but you decided to throw insults and name calling that was unnecessary

PETUK:
you nearly made sense but you decided to throw insults and name calling that was unnecessary

I had no idea calling nonsense nonsense, and rubbish rubbish is an insult.

I'm sorry about that.

AlmiqhteeAllah:
I had no idea calling nonsense nonsense, and rubbish rubbish is an insult.

I'm sorry about that.

This your apology no pure at all

Daeylar:


This your apology no pure at all

Lol. There was nothing else I could have done.

AlmiqhteeAllah:
Lol. There was nothing else I could have done.

I've told you to change you can't make heaven like this forget this moniker that is deceiving you

Rapmoney:
Read patiently...

Most of us grew up with the false belief (my opinion) that you will only find the right woman, the one who would love you genuinely when you don't have a dime or when you're not yet sound financially. I held unto this idea for a very long time till I got to a point in life where I could no longer struggle with reality; I had to face it.

I have come to a stage in life where I no longer entertain ideas that are not practical or are not in touch with realities. True-life experiences will sometimes teach you that ideas like the one this post revolves around are nothing but mere abstract craps which people use to give themselves hopes.

Let me tell you today, having money and even excess of it will not stop you from finding a woman who suits you and who loves you dearly. It depends on your class and what you want. I strongly believe that holding onto the idea that you will only find a woman who will love you genuinely, when you have not achieved financial success, is a mentality that is seriously laced with inferiority complex! It is like saying no comfortable or financially successful young man will marry a woman who will love him genuinely. If money will not make a woman love you genuinely, then you can try poverty. I believe it will help! Being broke as ceramics is not a guarantee that genuine love awaits you whenever a girl agrees to date you. People date for different reasons. Among the super rich, rich, comfortable, struggling, broke, poor and poorest, there are honest people, so also there are deceitful people too.

The number of marriages or homes that get broken every now and then in our society due to lack of money far outnumbers the number that get broken due to the existence of money and much money. You might want to think otherwise considering the the rate at which you read or hear about broken marriages in the news. It is so because the people involved are mostly celebrities. Whatever they do is news. It is even news if they go to the restroom! You don't know the high number that get broken everyday among broke people who 'genuinely' loved themselves because they are not popular. It is hardly news when theirs happen.

What's the essence of having a wife that loves you 'genuinely' because she met you struggling, when there's a high possibility that she can cheat on you because you don't have money? Or isn't it the present society we live in again? Why do we always throw away the issue of financial compatibility when the woman is at the receiving end but embrace it strongly when the man is at the receiving end because he's probably broke?

I'm not suggesting that one should not marry when he's not comfortable. A man can marry whenever it suits him; be it in riches or in poverty. What I'm saying is that the idea that you will only find a woman who will love you genuinely when you're not comfortable doesn't hold weight. What if she happens to have achieved more financial success than you? Would she still be a gold-digger who doesn't love you genuinely? A comfortable guy should go for a comfortable girl so that financial appreciation could be a mutual thing. You will only attract leeches and parasites when you go for broke girls who would have looked down on you years back when you were broke even if they, themselves were carrying poverty on their heads as if they were hawking it.

Whether you like it or not, financial success gives you a wider room to make choices when it comes to women. That's the same reason why a broke guy always begs his girlfriend not to leave him...because his choices are highly limited. No woman is perfect. In Nigeria, money gives you the opportunity to get closer to your choice woman. Young Nigerian women nowadays are allergic to long stories of how bright your prospects are; face it!!! I don't hustle to impress ladies. I hustle so that I can give the mother of my kids and my kids the best. Whether she loves me genuinely or not is nothing but a headache for the idealists!

Good morning!

ur post shws u b wen u get moni woman go follow u gang.brother hav seen hustling guys wer babes dey give dem moni nd sex.dt wen i knw d moni mata na half true.let me tell u sumthin wen u broke dt wen u knw d luv game.if i ask hw do u knw a lady luv u.c wen u broke is den u knw hw 2 spend little moni 2 get a woman investment in u.guy 4get y lady eye big 4 moni is due 2 yahoo boys.most guys who hype dis moni dey attract women.sleep wit ashawo alot.dt y ashawo dey high 4 yrs b4 buhari govt.bro tell me which female nairalander wil nt marry dangote or ibb or alakija son.dt y celebrities dnt last.because is moni dt attract d female celebrity.esp d actress

Daeylar:


I've told you to change you can't make heaven like this forget this moniker that is deceiving you

No one can deny my entrance to a place I own.

How's your day been?

majekdom2:
outwhere. Forget the movies and movies bro. Part of being who you are is your prosperity. If you are rich you say "I am rich" not you am rich. It's part of what defines you. I like beautiful, well to do ladies. They say "I am beautiful and well to do" that's who they are

Kilagbe kileju?

Toks2008:


Kilagbe kileju?

Point is this comparison between Naija girls and ïn NL language "other climes" girls is a very unintelligent thing to do! compare humans as a whole not gender!

pocohantas:
Finding the right woman when you are broke isn't really a romantic scam,but like I said it on a thread "Love isn't blind after all!" Everyone has his definition of compatibility and that which he/she prioritises above the other in this whole love matter.

As a rich man, there'll be something that would make a woman love you, if your riches garnishes it and you're cool with it...fine, she is only human. Same applies to a poor guy, a woman dating him isn't doing him a favour. If there is nothing in you she values more than money, she won't be with you.

Anyone can find love...it depends on where you go searching.
More reason rich marry the rich.

Bless u sister!

Benita27:
On the contrary, it's said that a friend's loyalty is known when the chips are down. Those who made this quote were not drunk and it has been proven to be true 'cause wealth attracts sycophants. The married great men of this world met their women when they had nothing 'cause that's when you test a man's loyalty. Wonder why Mark Zuckerberg ended up with an average looking Asian instead of the beauties of America?, it's 'cause she was with him when he was nothing.

You said it's easier to pick your kind of woman when you have wealth. Sorry, it's a herculean task to pick your kind of woman when you have money. A wealthy man is full of insecurities.

You wouldn't marry a lady you're not sure whether she loves you or not, realistically speaking.

Thanks for speaking 'sense'.

OPs post lacked a 360 degree consideration of the variables involved in the issue.

Cuteamigo1:

i never said anything is certain in relation to what i said previously. what i mean is it is easier to stick to a woman who was witg you b4 you blow than one who came after the money was made. most guys feel she came for the money. isnt wierd that broke guys hardly get noticed by women but the moment he starts making money women flock around him.

And how many rich suitors was she getting and turning down just to stick with you?

RuthDaniels:
Lol! There is no definite pattern of how life works, Your opinion although somewhat right remains an opinion and not a fact.

I laugh when I see guys encourage themselves to get rich and watch ladies flock around them. Yes, they will come, but 99% would be materialistic, gold digging bunch. One thing guys need to get straight is, Money does not attract love. Money attracts fans but not friends, lust but not love. The richer you get, the lesser your chances of getting True Love.

Rich or poor, express your feelings to whomever you are attracted to. You are either accepted or rejected, it's not the end of life, but another junction to turn a corner.

Opari!

Rapmoney:
When did Otedola and your said Cosmos marry? Was it few years ago or decades ago? You guys have failed to align things with the present. Don't be living in the past. When I was growing up, I saw my uncles and other elderly ones who didn't have much, living in one room apartments, but they had very lovely relationships. Some even got married to their girlfriends even if they had little. Can you equate that with what we see today? That's where I want you to understand this post from.

You're 100% correct on this Rapmoney...Let them give us names of Married couple(s) from the 2000s till date...They should stop mentioning marriages of 30+ years and above...