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Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by larrybee2017(f): 1:45pm On Dec 11, 2017
mercy0008:
So I'm serving in this organization and ended up being friends with this guy, we seem to always have something to talk about as we both read books and share an interest in politics. We will go see movies, go watch football and sometimes go bowling too.
After a short time we discovered we sort of started growing feelings for each other, I have not been dating for a year but he is in a relationship.
Now we are both feeling bad because his girlfriend is really a nice girl, at least based on stuffs that i 've heard about her from him, but he claims he cant understand why he is this attracted to me too, said all he knows is he can just be himself around me without any fear or worries about what i think of him.
We are trying our best to keep away from each other but really this is over powering and its not working. Somehow he just finds himself at my place after work(i leave the office before him) till maybe 11pm most times even if his girlfriend is visiting.
Just thought to share with you all, please is there something else i can do.
I honestly don't want to come between him and his girlfriend but my feelings for him hasn't changed.
WHAT DO YOU THINK I SHOULD I DO?
Simple answer: watch out for karma girl, it will sure replay. A man who is easily move with another woman is not worth your stress. Tomorrow in that same office someone will play the same game and your could be sooooo disastrous. Watch out

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Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by pweetiedee(m): 1:46pm On Dec 11, 2017
phrancys001:
Simply substitute the guy with me,let's talk later for further getting to know each other.

Oshey...baddest!
Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by Nobody: 1:48pm On Dec 11, 2017
you fuked up when you admitted he's her man....so my dear wait another man will come by and you will fall in love again
like me now I'm single and searching for love. grin
Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by steryj(m): 1:52pm On Dec 11, 2017
mercy0008:
I cant remember saying we are having sex yet ooo, my legs are still closed.
grin
Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by DRJECKYLL(m): 1:52pm On Dec 11, 2017
Tell him to bring wine for marriage. If he is not interested than all these things you speak of is rubbish. He will perform an Oscar winning demonastration, yeye your secret place and return to his madame

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Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by habsydiamond(m): 1:53pm On Dec 11, 2017
u sounded oloshoish to me.....why do u intend to break them up....put ursef in the guy's girlfriend shoes...u won't want anybody to do that to u...
Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by Perfectionist11: 1:53pm On Dec 11, 2017
You need to be careful. It is not out of order to question his feelings for you. He could be playing games, you probably won't stay around after your service year and he knows this. He could have you before you leave and fall back on his girlfriend later on.

Contrary to many opinions on here, I'd advice you not to blame yourself too much for developing feelings for him as you are not in any relationship. But, you should've applied the handbrake on the friendship after you learnt of his relationship status. He deserves a major portion of the blame as he is in relationship.

Be careful and sceptical of his feelings even if he discards his girlfriend for you as he could easily go back to her after your departure.

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Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by JuneOctober(f): 1:56pm On Dec 11, 2017
deco22:
If he can have feelings for another girl when he is already in a relationship,what stops him from doing it again when both of you start dating undecided.


Thank you! She might not even be the only one he spends such time with. If she's ends up dating him and making him break up with his 'nice' girlfriend, who says he won't get attracted to another woman that will end up making him ditch her in return.

Aunty How much time does he spend with his own girlfriend if he is allover you like that? Ask yourself certain questions just so you know what's in stock for you when you eventually decide assume the position of his girlfriend.
Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by xenten: 1:56pm On Dec 11, 2017
Find yourself your own boyfriend. That is if you know and you are sure you dont want him.
Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by Hemaah: 1:58pm On Dec 11, 2017
If you need my help come to aso rock ask of Muhammadu buhari he will advice you. cool cool cool cool
Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by johnstar(m): 1:58pm On Dec 11, 2017
mercy0008:
So I'm serving in this organization and ended up being friends with this guy, we seem to always have something to talk about as we both read books and share an interest in politics. We will go see movies, go watch football and sometimes go bowling too.
After a short time we discovered we sort of started growing feelings for each other, I have not been dating for a year but he is in a relationship.
Now we are both feeling bad because his girlfriend is really a nice girl, at least based on stuffs that i 've heard about her from him, but he claims he cant understand why he is this attracted to me too, said all he knows is he can just be himself around me without any fear or worries about what i think of him.
We are trying our best to keep away from each other but really this is over powering and its not working. Somehow he just finds himself at my place after work(i leave the office before him) till maybe 11pm most times even if his girlfriend is visiting.
Just thought to share with you all, please is there something else i can do.
I honestly don't want to come between him and his girlfriend but my feelings for him hasn't changed.
WHAT DO YOU THINK I SHOULD I DO?

Don't be deceived by love

Wat if u have a boi frnd and someone else is doing dis to u how will u feel??

Gals and relationship 5&6

Dnt come and open another thread about how his girl friend treated you oo


Men plenty outside

Everybody is fun to be wit

Me self I'm fun to b wit

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Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by StoneColdBiceps(m): 1:58pm On Dec 11, 2017
mercy0008:
So I'm serving in this organization and ended up being friends with this guy, we seem to always have something to talk about as we both read books and share an interest in politics. We will go see movies, go watch football and sometimes go bowling too.
After a short time we discovered we sort of started growing feelings for each other, I have not been dating for a year but he is in a relationship.
Now we are both feeling bad because his girlfriend is really a nice girl, at least based on stuffs that i 've heard about her from him, but he claims he cant understand why he is this attracted to me too, said all he knows is he can just be himself around me without any fear or worries about what i think of him.
We are trying our best to keep away from each other but really this is over powering and its not working. Somehow he just finds himself at my place after work(i leave the office before him) till maybe 11pm most times even if his girlfriend is visiting.
Just thought to share with you all, please is there something else i can do.
I honestly don't want to come between him and his girlfriend but my feelings for him hasn't changed.
WHAT DO YOU THINK I SHOULD I DO?

Give him what he wants and let him continue his relationship with his babe. If we have a choice we'll have our way with every babes we meet. He'll still meet more even if you guys ended up together,. Just saying.
Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by Blonchilli(m): 2:00pm On Dec 11, 2017
mercy0008:
Really? to seek validation? like i don't know its wrong already or I'm not feeling bad enough as it is. Thanks anyway
Get yourself a guy that would keep your mind off him and you will forget al this butterfly feelings. A guy don't have to approach you, it could be any guy from anywhere even a friend online. The heart isn't as complicated as we think. One can fall in love several time. It's easy to forget someone if you really try

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Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by adudu208(m): 2:03pm On Dec 11, 2017
mercy0008:
I cant remember saying we are having sex yet ooo, my legs are still closed.
Hmm...i sense those legs might not be close for long.

As soon as he 'taste' you, you will progressively become more of an irritation and a mere source of entertainment.

Men are quite loving, patient and focus when they are yet to hit 'jackpot'.

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Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by jamesibor: 2:04pm On Dec 11, 2017
[quote author=Soren4 post=63175030][/quote]

Most girlfriends were wooed while they were still in relationships, same with guys. If you love him and he ticks your boxes, go for him except he is married to the girl or the girl is your friend.

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Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by ogorwyne(f): 2:06pm On Dec 11, 2017
They are not married sha but its still what it is. Coveting!!! He told you he has a girlfriend so stay away and use those 'feelings' you have for him for something else.

Sooner or later after you guys start dating and have done all the do, he's gonna get a new movie partner. And you would be like shocked embarassed. Just imagine him and his 'to be new movie partner' with a bowl of popcorn doing all the sweet nonsenses you and him have going on at the moment. Yeah someone's gonna replace you too.

Use your head, I know what trouble smells like. Especially when the punna does the thinking cheesy. Just let this one go. He stays with you till 11 and still goes home to perform his bf duties to his girlfriend.

It may sha still work well for you o, am speaking from both sides of my mouth now but till then do not get too smitten.

Peace smiley

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Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by Nobody: 2:06pm On Dec 11, 2017
Ruun for ur life girl,for d fact dat d guy even said his gf is a nice girl nd u are even confirming it,forget,dat guy will NEVER leave dat girl for u,i am telling u dis out of experience,hes jst carried away and its normal for guys,once u guys strted having sex,sooner or later hes gonna dump ur ass
Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by Honestagbons(m): 2:07pm On Dec 11, 2017
If but of you have d feeling for each other,go ahead for d relationship,if really u have it,go ahead,cos LOVE is enternal feeling.
Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by Nobody: 2:10pm On Dec 11, 2017
ogorwyne:
They are not married sha but its still what it is. Coveting!!! He told you he has a girlfriend so stay away and use those 'feelings' you have for him for something else.

Sooner or later after you guys start dating and have done all the do, he's gonna get a new movie partner. And you would be like shocked embarassed. Just imagine him and his 'to be new movie partner' with a bowl of popcorn doing all the sweet nonsenses you and him have going on at the moment. Yeah someone's gonna replace you too.

Use your head, I know what trouble smells like. wink. Especially when the punna starts doing the thinking, grin. Peace
I think that is only common with guys ooo
Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by brightalo17: 2:15pm On Dec 11, 2017
mercy0008:
So I'm serving in this organization and ended up being friends with this guy, we seem to always have something to talk about as we both read books and share an interest in politics. We will go see movies, go watch football and sometimes go bowling too.
After a short time we discovered we sort of started growing feelings for each other, I have not been dating for a year but he is in a relationship.
Now we are both feeling bad because his girlfriend is really a nice girl, at least based on stuffs that i 've heard about her from him, but he claims he cant understand why he is this attracted to me too, said all he knows is he can just be himself around me without any fear or worries about what i think of him.
We are trying our best to keep away from each other but really this is over powering and its not working. Somehow he just finds himself at my place after work(i leave the office before him) till maybe 11pm most times even if his girlfriend is visiting.
Just thought to share with you all, please is there something else i can do.
I honestly don't want to come between him and his girlfriend but my feelings for him hasn't changed.
WHAT DO YOU THINK I SHOULD I DO?

If na you be the guys girlfriend what will you feel like ? if you'll feel ok and alright then go ahead if you'll feel bad then kill the feelings. Remember the same guy may still have you and after chopping you he can dump your sorry ass and tell you by the way you knew he was dating before you start chasing him around.
Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by ogorwyne(f): 2:15pm On Dec 11, 2017
olihilistic:

I think that is only common with guys ooo
You will be surprised.

Ollie Ollie. How far na? Long time
Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by jrklinz: 2:17pm On Dec 11, 2017
Just becos u both share similar intrests doesn't give u d right 2 consider dating him.even if it come tru i bet u he will still come running back 2 his present girl.& if it so happens u succeed wat does dat make u?is only a matter of time he will see u 4 who u are.bt hey is a mans world dont 4get.
Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by chronique(m): 2:19pm On Dec 11, 2017
mercy0008:
I cant remember saying we are having sex yet ooo, my legs are still closed.

What do you mean by your legs are still closed? My friend, will you open that thing and let someone see road to pass joor. grin grin


Honestly, when it comes to the issue of love, taking advice from people and doing exactly what you were told,is quite difficult.

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Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by Owutuotuo(m): 2:19pm On Dec 11, 2017
Dear Op,

I'll advise that you keep your relationship with the guy as formal as you can, find every reason to avoid spending time with him, and if possible, avoid discussing personal things. It can be really hard (speaking from experience) bit it's the right thing to do.
Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by Euphoria19: 2:20pm On Dec 11, 2017
Babe first of all you're a corper,after one year you're out,unless you have other plans to remain in the area,secondly if he truly has feelings for you and wants to be with you he will dump that his girlfriend for you,don't go and start putting sand in their relationship garri oh,allow things to take their course,if it is meant to be it will happen
Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by Belafonte(m): 2:21pm On Dec 11, 2017
The guy will eat the cookie and move on. All na format. I have serious doubts about your ability to have a real long term relationship with him. You are advised to stay away from a man who seems reluctant to leave his girlfriend while lining you up for slaughter.

He just finds himself at my place after work. grin grin. This guy will squeeze all the juice out your kpekus and bounce. The worst part is you won't really blame him because he already had the perfect caveat.

You sef leave person boyfriend. If to say na jump he dey jump bus upandan now, you go yab am say he never buy motor he dey read book. If he mistakenly find himself for your house na boys you go call for am make dem slap slap him eye make he for dey see road well.
Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by Assassin101: 2:22pm On Dec 11, 2017
he'll lose interest once he screws you.
mercy0008:
So I'm serving in this organization and ended up being friends with this guy, we seem to always have something to talk about as we both read books and share an interest in politics. We will go see movies, go watch football and sometimes go bowling too.
After a short time we discovered we sort of started growing feelings for each other, I have not been dating for a year but he is in a relationship.
Now we are both feeling bad because his girlfriend is really a nice girl, at least based on stuffs that i 've heard about her from him, but he claims he cant understand why he is this attracted to me too, said all he knows is he can just be himself around me without any fear or worries about what i think of him.
We are trying our best to keep away from each other but really this is over powering and its not working. Somehow he just finds himself at my place after work(i leave the office before him) till maybe 11pm most times even if his girlfriend is visiting.
Just thought to share with you all, please is there something else i can do.
I honestly don't want to come between him and his girlfriend but my feelings for him hasn't changed.
WHAT DO YOU THINK I SHOULD I DO?
Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by Nobody: 2:22pm On Dec 11, 2017
ogorwyne:
You will be surprised.
Ollie Ollie. How far na? Long time
No talk. you done forget about me na. I d fine and u?? there was I quoted you but no reply.
Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by Deo1986(m): 2:24pm On Dec 11, 2017
Life is too short to be limping on two opinion, our purpose of existence is the search for happiness, whatever gives you happiness and that elusive peace of mind, go for it. If you are happy around the dude, he is your man. There is no law that says his girlfriend is his wife. Overtaking is allowed....... My advice.

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Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by ogorwyne(f): 2:25pm On Dec 11, 2017
olihilistic:

No talk.
you done forget about me na.
I d fine and u??
there was I quoted you but no reply.
Am so sorry o. I saw your mention. I ended up replying it in my head only.

I sha nor forget you, you been just lost from here at a time. Am fine too smiley
Re: Help! I Am In Love With Her Man. by Nobody: 2:26pm On Dec 11, 2017
Sweetie steal him away... Do not ask for permission and do not feel remorse...one day u gonna look back and wish u did. ...

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