sister just stay calm,all have seen from what have being reading earlier means u dont trust any of them but u are just trying to be sure
i think u should live the doctor for good and wait for the right man who yo will be attracted to....dont lose hope the better days ahead

All i hear is, i wanna marry the guy abroad so that he will take me to obodo y.i.b.o. Babe, you're not going anywhere, you aint excaping to no where, we are in this shit of a country together.

Ourown:
At 27 abi Continue

and what is wrong being 27

savvy12:

so I should sleep with him because I'm 27?

The doctor you are calling fiancee, have you met his family ?

If he wants to sleep with you, let him marry you first.

But its obvious all ladies lose your brains when you hear ABROAD.

There is nothing abroad if you don't have a good job.

NOTHING IS FREE. get the message.

Stay dia & be waiting for abroad guy u haven't met before, he's probably dia living his life and probably dating. he'll come back when u start pushing 40 and abandon u for a much younger lady

I've been following the thread frm the first page to where it is now, Many awesome comments, Many awful comments. I think everyone that evn took out time to comment deserve a plus. Positive or Negative.
I want you to know that someone that loves you deeply will do everything to keep you, and includes keeping what you cherish.
I want you to know that someone that loves you will never judge you by your past, so don't be afraid to meet new person.
I want you to know that your body is precious to God, your virginity is worth keeping. U've come this far, don't give it up. Pple like me still respect virgins. (don't mind me, am nt a pastor)
So, pls don't be afraid to let go of the doctor, be open to the Canadian guy, but don't be deceived He can come back to demand sex from you too.
Talk to God, its not even too late to start afresh. You can still meet someone that'll prove to you that you are worthy of the best of God.

Try this

Either way, you are yet to get to your bus stop.

Look for another bus stop. I don't see any of these guys as your bus stop.

The so called doctor is a thief, while the Canadian dude is someone you seem to be infantuating on because you are chatting with a prospective Canadian citizen.

At your age, this isn't the kind of advice you should be seeking. Wise up and take your destiny to your own hands, pray for wisdom and spell out what you need in a man. Thanks.

Daniel2289:
U rightly told us u are not attracted to that doctor. Now my question is,, what are you doing with somebody u are not attracted to And all he is asking for is sex, sex. Which I believe after he have gotten it, his love for u will slow down. Dis guy is not good for u.

On the other hand, This abroad guy in question, u don't even know him that well. You have not study him, and u are telling us he is nice. Are u 100% sure he is nice Pls. Don't be carried away because he lives in abroad. Wait for him to comes back and study him well.

Finally. Don't rushed into a relationship because ur friends are into it. Wait for the right guy. And when he comes you will know.
I hope this help?.

my guy, you're a murderer ooo

savvy12:

so I should sleep with him because I'm 27?

No you shouldn't, you should read my book of bible stories to him

savvy12:
Pls guys,I need your advice.
No insults please.

I have two men in my life right now.

The first one is a medical doctor at nauth in nnewi. According to him, he is 37 years old(10 yes older than me) but I still don't believe him cos he looks much older than his assumed age. He looks 40ish. And he is sort of secretive. He doesn't like talking about himself.we started dating last year before I lost my dad.

Things have been going well but the problem is that he has been pestering me for sex. But I'm not ready to have sex with him cos I'm not attracted to him. I went to his apartment as usual last week Sunday and he tried to initiate sex but I refused and told him I wasn't ready for it. He got angry and drove me to the park where I entered bus to my house. Since then he hasn't called or spoken to me.

I'm worried right now. I feel like he will leave me after he succeeds in having sex with me. That's why I refused him sex.

pls note,I'm not a goldigger cos I'm not the type that demand money from guys.He gets angry whenever he offers me money and I refuse.

I am also dating a second guy who is abroad. He lives in Canada. I got his number through his sister who is a friend of mine. We have been chatting for 3months now and he seems like a nice guy. He said he will come back to Nigeria after applying for his citizenship card next year.

I'm confused right now.I don't know whether to forget about the doctor and focus on the abroad guy or should I beg the doc and allow him have sex with me.
I have not had any relationship for a maximum of 2years cos the guys I meet always want from me even I try not to demand anything from them.
pls I need advice.

People always change, sometimes you don't see there motive just yet. The doctor guy I'd give him some space and continue living. When he starts back speaking to you again tell him that you are not ready to be physical and your reasons!!! He can either blow up or be content and continue to be in your life. You have to ask yourself why are you talking to the doctor guy? Why does he interest You? The pin pal in Canada........He's just someone you are getting to know. You only know what he tells you. Actions speak louder than words sweetie. Maybe he'll come maybe he won't. Even when he comes don't think it's just for you. You young and beautiful, don't feel like you have to choose cause you don't! When the right one comes along you'll both know and choose each other. Your heart will know!

You don't even sound intelligent. Are you sure you're 27?

What do you really want with the doctor that you are not attracted to? Since you don't have that feeling for him, forget him. or are you desperate to get married?
As for the Canadian, just play nice with him while you pray for better option.

Ahmiee:
my dear at 27 your not a bad market. just try to keep yourself busy be open for options. cause your not even sure of the guy abroad. except if u wanto wait for him cause from what i can deduce from your story the guy is not established yet. both serious guys and unserious all want sex. then the doctor bla bla. u said u cant have sex with him cause ur not attracted to him. then why are u dating him if he should propose to u will u marry him?. go out and meet other guys try to know them. share views and definitely u will find someone that matches your taste

One cold origin 4 dis babe!

Ahmiee:
my dear at 27 your not a bad market. just try to keep yourself busy be open for options. cause your not even sure of the guy abroad. except if u wanto wait for him cause from what i can deduce from your story the guy is not established yet. both serious guys and unserious all want sex. then the doctor bla bla. u said u cant have sex with him cause ur not attracted to him. then why are u dating him if he should propose to u will u marry him?. go out and meet other guys try to know them. share views and definitely u will find someone that matches your taste

best advice so far

savvy12:

so I should sleep with him because I'm 27?

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My dear! First of all, you need to love, cherish & believe in yourself, when you do this then you'll be able to make good decisions.
Why are you calling him your fiancé when you're not sexually attracted to him? "But I'm not ready to have sex with him cos I'm not attracted to him". And "I'm worried right now. I feel like he will leave me after he succeeds in having sex with me. That's why I refused him sex".
Your man is out there so don't be in a hurry or you'll regret it. Best of luck!

savvy12:

Yeah,I was dating him becos I had no option.
We broke up sometime last year becos of this sex matter and he called last year November and begged me and I agreed to date him.
Asides,the fact that I'm attracted to him,his secretive nature bothers me so much.
I told him everything about myself but he doesn't open to me.
The main reason I denied

I think thats a lie though, A lie you told to yourself & constantly convincing yourself. If you are attracted to him, you have given him the cookie a long time, commitment OR not. Sex is not that hard to get.

Besides what are you doing with a look a like 40 year old man? Aren't there Early 30's or late 20's guys out there? There are a lot of Men looking for a wife to settle down with, You are probably in the wrong circle.

Hold on to God in prayers. Thats al i can say. Dating two guys at once is inappropraite.

thatsincerechic:
What advice do you need?
Its obvious the doctor is after the cookie, he doesn't say much because he has nothing to say, he is simply looking forward to sleeping with you.
Are you sure he is not married?
Take you time and study the abroad guy, if it feels right , good luck to you.

how old are you?good advice there.

WELL SAID..........................

lookatew:
Lady, you are disturbing yourself, life is too short for rubbish! The doctor wants to chop and clean mouth, U know this, but insecurity and low self-esteem will not let you accept it. Go about your normal life beaming with self-confidence, other guys will still come around.

Fashi dat doctor that only wants to give u his injection. You don't even need to beg him, to show you he only wants your puna, just chill. I bet u when konji hold d guy, na him go still come reason you.

As for Canada guy, continue with the status quo, but keep your options open.

Pizzout!

Where is ur picture

I can only advise when I see ur pics

Forgive me! But I don't understand something..


You aren't attracted to the doctor (I understand this wan), yet you went to his house, where he initiated an attempt to have sex with you (this wan I don't understand, you no like am, yet you go im house, shay na the attraction wey you no get for am before, na im you go check if you fit find am for im house ni!?

I would give it to you straight..

You are letting your loneliness push you to make the wrong choices..

Free the doctor guy and continue with the Canada dude ( I just hope your attraction to this guy isn't cos he is based abroad).

Dating two guys at the same time!? ..

Women sef..

a bird at hand is better than a thousand bird in the bush. At 27, you are still stingy with sex, it is well with you. my sister, sex is not marriage and stop thinking he will abandon you after having sex with you. If he loves you, he will surely marry you. So stop thinking like a child and give him that thing to taste so that he knows what he wants to pay for

savvy12:


Things have been going well but the problem is that he has been pestering me for sex. But I'm not ready to have sex with him cos I'm not attracted to him. I went to his apartment as usual last week Sunday and he tried to initiate sex but I refused and told him I wasn't ready for it. He got angry and drove me to the park where I entered bus to my house. Since then he hasn't called or spoken to me.

I'm worried right now. I feel like he will leave me after he succeeds in having sex with me. That's why I refused him sex


I have not had any relationship for a maximum of 2years cos the guys I meet always want from me even I try not to demand anything from them.
pls I need advice.

You're a complete idi0t aren't you? Be honest, you don't even know the reason why you make the decisions you make. Why are even afriad that someone who you are not attracted to would leave you? Whats there to fear?

shugamummy:
Congratulations on dating abroad guy...That shows a gold digger you are...also understand you dont know what you want in life at 27. By 30 you will be just a wash cos guys of 33 below cant settle down with a babe of 30....thats a stark reality....for obvious reasons.....the made guys you will have then will be in the shoot of 40.....so Gold digger decide if you wanna settle down and rough it with a man after ur heart or keep hoping on abroad guy and keep digging.....as far as am concerned,you are not dating anyone....dont come here to cry...he broke my heart....cos sex is the only valuable stuff you have shown you possess

Thanks to you a million time, you just hit the bacon to the deck.... At thirties, why we I date you If I can't have sex with you in the first places?

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Nne I'll love to discuss something helpful with you. Pls. What options do I have of contacting you? Da'alu!!!

savvy12:

The truth is that I'm not attracted to him.
Yeah,he is rich and everything but I don't want to have sex with him right now.
I feel like he is lied about his age and other things.
I want to have sex with him when I'm sure I can trust him.
I requested for his family album the other day and he gave me one flimsy excuse and I was pretty sure he had it.

fellow ur hrt funke!

thatsincerechic:
What advice do you need?
Its obvious the doctor is after the cookie, he doesn't say much because he has nothing to say, he is simply looking forward to sleeping with you.
Are you sure he is not married?
Take you time and study the abroad guy, if it feels right , good luck to you.

nice advice dear...

dnawah:
how old are you?good advice there.

Thank you

One of My Finaces This world don spoil finish. I tell u d truth, you are not faithful

Ourown:
At 27 abi Continue

you don see am now. I say it, most ladies that are well over 26 and aren't married or in any meaningful relationship are the cause of their problems. Nothing spiritual. A guy that waited upto a year before initiating sex is unattractive because she is chatting with some dude screwing another lady in Canada, a guy she met 3 months ago. . At 30, you will see her carrying bible and praying

Miss OP I just wanted to tell you to ignore the offensive comments on this thread. To be honest Nairaland isn't a good place to seek for advice like the one you are seeking for.
Many people here are either struggling to pass JAMB exam or WAEC/GCE or are undergraduates in the university with no real world experience so of course they will come online to type rubbish.
Don't take them serious, especially the fools calling you a gold digger because they are poor as anything so they hate the idea of spending their meager cash on a woman. Nairaland once did a census and 80% of the people here are actually those between 15 to 23 years. I will post the thread if I can find it.

Ask your real life friends for advice or ask your family.