I see a lady that knows what she want but is desperate to be in a relationship out of low self esteem. My dear, you are better than this. Stick to your values. If you ask me, both guys is not worth holding you at ransom. Go about your normal life, except for the doctor. Eject him from your system because he is a toxic substance and contradicts your value. For the Canadian based guy, just maintain a friendly relationship with him while you keep your mind open as you are bound to meet other guys!

savvy12:

I have dated him for more than a year.
I met him early last year when my dad was admitted in the hospital.
yeah,I was in relationship with him when I was dating the other guy because I was having some doubts about him.
The primary reason for refusing him sex is because I'm a virgin.I didn't say it here initially cos I know people will call me all sorts of name becos I'm a virgin at 27.
what have I offered him? our relationship was never boring.we discuss everyday and encourage each other.
He said he likes me and plans to marry me.But I told him to wait small.

JESUS CHRIST OF NAZARETH!!!!!!!!

buffalowings:

What's her being a virgin got to do with this
Victor warn yaself

simple question, is she a virgin. plz ask her.

savvy12:

so I should sleep with him because I'm 27?

Why are you not attracted to the doctor. I know it is not the age alone. Other things might be involved despite being secretive. Maybe he does not make you comfortable in your skin. Or you don't see a future with him.

If you give in to the Doc, he will chop you and clean his mouth afterwards.


He wants the sex ONLY

Abi na one them.? Forget about the doctor and look for another one and add , at least two more

savvy12:

The truth is that I haven't met the abroad guy yet.
Though we have been chatting on whatsapp and he sent me his pics.
He promised to come back next year by easter.
it seems I will consider other options.i dont i will hope on him.I don't really know what will happen tomorrow.
The problem is that the guys that always approach me are not the ones I'm attracted to.
Thanks for d advice.

Life is cunning.Sometimes,the one you want may not come.ladies that expect their ideal man don't always get it but those ladies that don't expect it get it.Pray obey it.Don't hope on that abroad guy.Meanwhile,what type of guy do you want.

One of..well I didn't even bother to read the rest..n.a. so e dey start. .you go taay for your papa house..

Cyrilpac:
Abi na one them.? Forget about the doctor and look for another one and add , at least two more

you are already a smart woman putting your eggs in one basket is dangerous

mrvitalis:

Some who wants just sex would waste one year dating you ?

How can you date a matured guy for a year without sex and your not a Virgin

Can she stay a year without sex ?

Abi ooo I don't even know that they av spent a year together....
You av been dating someone for the past 12month still you are telling me you don't want him to av sec with you......... Just tell me what he as gained from the relationship when you don't even trust him........ You too self we need to scan you....

Mm..
Gurls,also confused at all times..The problem is that ya not ready to define what you want and how you want to go by it..
Smbody u barely meet or chat with,u saying he is a nice guy,wats so nice about d guy? Is it the fact that he lives in America?
As for the Dr,u said u dnt like him,wats is still keeping you around him? Is it his nice car?
Involve ya creator,He is the supreme consultant#

thatsincerechic:

Then he is not into you, he just wants to sleep with you
At his age and with a serious profession like that , he should be able to know what he truly wants other than begging for sex or offering cash in hope and getting some cookie. Abeg forget him my sister, I'm speaking from experience.

Don't you think she should at least, fucckk him for the money?

I really don't understand what you guys are saying here, she noted that they have been dating for over a year now and the guy started feeling that he has the right to the cookie let's assume it is his only relationship. I don't think the guy is a bad person because he has been with you for almost a year and also he is not a kid 37 to stay in a no sex relationship for more than a year? You guys should please be realistic here. As for the Canada guy, the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know. That's all I have to say

savvy12:

The truth is that I'm not attracted to him.
Yeah,he is rich and everything but I don't want to have sex with him right now.
I feel like he is lied about his age and other things.
I want to have sex with him when I'm sure I can trust him.
I requested for his family album the other day and he gave me one flimsy excuse and I was pretty sure he had it.

You said one of your fiances? So how many of them you be get? #plentyFiances

ndidibabe:
Why would U date a guy that U are neither in love with or physically attracted to?

Because she is lying.

She claims not to love him.
She claims to refuse money from him.
She even doubts the age he told he he was.

So why see him in the first place? She makes it feel like she has no feelings for him at all but somehow, she is still afraid that he will dump her. Too much lies.

I believe she's just a gold digger that's with him because he's a doctor.

Alaye don marry

sharp guy

savvy12:

The truth is that I'm not attracted to him.
Yeah,he is rich and everything but I don't want to have sex with him right now.
I feel like he is lied about his age and other things.
I want to have sex with him when I'm sure I can trust him.
I requested for his family album the other day and he gave me one flimsy excuse and I was pretty sure he had it.

You dated him because you had no option?? Most you date? What if the doctor later propose and you end up marrying him. Later you will start cheating on him because you were never attracted to him in the first place. Let's learn to do things the right way. You better free that man. You will find someone that you are really attracted to. You don't need to rush..

savvy12:

I dated him cos I had no option.
Thanks for ur advice. I appreciate.

cruchenutii:


Hmmm you made a good point, I didn't even see this coming. You have to actually marry a Canadian to apply for citizenship. which means he would have 2 wives. unknown to both.

You dont have to marry a Canadian to become a citizen.There is an immigration program through which anyone of us can immigrate to Canada,have permanent residency there and work towards become a citizen before it was after 4years of staying there now it 3years.Alot of our people;Nigerians,have immigrated to Canada through this route.There is a thread on it in nairaland.

That been said let her open her eyes,do her home work well.That Doctor hmmm she should be very careful with him.l dey suspect........hmmmm

Ourown:
At 27 abi Continue

She want wait for the Abroad Guy, and am sure the jando will have sex with her.

Ourown:
At 27 abi Continue

She want wait for the Abroad Guy, because He lives abroad, and am sure the jando will have sex with her.

savvy12:

The truth is that I'm not attracted to him.
Yeah,he is rich and everything but I don't want to have sex with him right now.
I feel like he is lied about his age and other things.
I want to have sex with him when I'm sure I can trust him.
I requested for his family album the other day and he gave me one flimsy excuse and I was pretty sure he had it.

You said you are not attracted to him. So what's the point of this post? He left and you are worried over...? Pick a struggle and if you are not attracted to Canada too, then move on. Seems u are considering citizenship with him from your post too.

pawesome:
doctors re flirts buh u cnt generalize....is normal wit dem

I used the word 'most' not 'all'. it's you who is generalizing not me

Hipsofagoddess:


Your description of a Virgin is totally wrong. Like totally.

My dear don't you think your quote is too emotional. I am not someone that is emotional and diplomatic with the truth. What best encapsulate a Virgin other than reservation and restraint.
A Virgin that can't stick to one guy, is that one a Virgin.
Where is our discipline, our reservation, our self control and principle.
My dear I am not one of those boys you meet everyday, from my write up you should know better.

freemile2ru:
I really don't understand what you guys are saying here, she noted that they have been dating for over a year now and the guy started feeling that he has the right to the cookie let's assume it is his only relationship. I don't think the guy is a bad person because he has been with you for almost a year and also he is not a kid 37 to stay in a no sex relationship for more than a year? You guys should please be realistic here. As for the Canada guy, the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know. That's all I have to say

The truth is that she dont even know any of the devils

savvy12:

I have dated him for more than a year.
I met him early last year when my dad was admitted in the hospital.
yeah,I was in relationship with him when I was dating the other guy because I was having some doubts about him.
The primary reason for refusing him sex is because I'm a virgin.I didn't say it here initially cos I know people will call me all sorts of name becos I'm a virgin at 27.
what have I offered him? our relationship was never boring.we discuss everyday and encourage each other.
He said he likes me and plans to marry me.But I told him to wait small.

Don't be moved or be intimidated at all, as a result of the harsh reply you get from some people here. You are a good girl. you don't deserve to be ended in the wrong hand. Just have faith in God and be prayerful, your husband will locate you soon. Do not be desperate because of your age.

as for me PRAYER IS INVOLVED
ask God to guide you
there is a way that seems right in the eyes of men but the end there off is destruction.
be wise

Here you are double dating and you seriously expect the guys you date not to cheat on you?....

[quote author=savvy12 post=63204284]
I have dated him for more than a year.
I met him early last year when my dad was admitted in the hospital.
yeah,I was in relationship with him when I was dating the other guy because I was having some doubts about him.
The primary reason for refusing him sex is because I'm a virgin.I didn't say it here initially cos I know people will call me all sorts of name becos I'm a virgin at 27.
what have I offered him? our relationship was never boring.we discuss everyday and encourage each other.
He said he likes me and plans to marry me.But I told him to wait small.


If you are really a virgin, God will really give you your heart desire.But I am surprise that you have god fearing for being a virgin and still confused about what to do.Meet your pastor to help you OK. Don't be cajoled into having sex with someone that is not your hubby.That doctor, has he made frantic effort to see your people or introduce you to his parents....

I'm surprised non asked if she's ready to marry. If she is, then talk to the doctor to do the needful if he's serious about the relationship. But if you don't have feelings for him, then find your level and let him know immediately. As the the one abroad, you don't know his life style, so above you to be careful. Terrible things are happening these days

dannio:


You dont have to marry a Canadian to become a citizen.There is an immigration program through which anyone of us can immigrate to Canada,have permanent residency there and work towards become a citizen before it was after 4years of staying there now it 3years.Alot of our people;Nigerians,have immigrated to Canada through this route.There is a thread on it in nairaland.

That been said let her open her eyes,do her home work well.That Doctor hmmm she should be very careful with him.l dey suspect........hmmmm

But that is permanent residency & not Citizen as it seems. You must not leave Canada between that speculated 3 years right? And I'm not entirely sure you have all the rights that a Citizen has.

Please tell me if i'm wrong

Archangel15:
You are dating two guys at the same time??

You're a b***tch

Surprisingly all the wise ladies advising her and getting likes for their comments see nothing wrong with dating several guys at the same time.

The Canada guy thinks he has a babe in 9ja. Meanwhile the girls visit her doctor bf alone in his house. A less refined person could have forcefully had sex with her and due to stigma she'd not report to the police.

Fact is....your bae is dating other guys. Until wedding day and beyond in many cases.

The girl is very confused. But not unusual for modern girls sha.

My only advise is keep dating several men as you already do.

When you pursue many rats at the same time, you end up killing none.

CHRISTIAN71:

My dear don't you think your quote is too emotional. I am not someone that is emotional and diplomatic with the truth. What best encapsulate a Virgin other than reservation and restraint.
A Virgin that can't stick to one guy, is that one a Virgin.
Where is our discipline, our reservation, our self control and principle.
My dear I am not one of those boys you meet everyday, from my write up you should know better.

I would have loved to educate you but from your write up your are too dogmatic to understand.