Zykod:



We are not against successful wife oh. We are against arrogant wives

Yes o i hate arrogance, me dey pray make i nor marry enemy for husband.I do not just have dreams to be success ful i have plans as well.And i know how to respect people but i also believe that you must respect yourself before others can respect you,in this time and age respect is now earned and not forced nor is it an entitlement.

Belafonte:


Me, I'm not eligible yet to be honest. Still striving.

But for those who are, from experience, I'd say experience teaches men that marriage is actually not worth the hassle. They say if you aren't married at 37 you might never marry, I've found that to be very close to the truth. It's always best to marry when you're still innocent without experiencing the karishikas of this world.

It's best to lose faith in love while you're married but still committed to making the union work. If this loss of faith happens outside...sighs.

We should cultivate friendships and not expect marriage to happen all of a sudden, it's not bad to have as many female friends for example and in the process of propagating the relationship we'll find out the one that's right for us and not just leave it relegated to the abyss, this is the error i made earlier in life

Zykod:



Let me ask us club, why do we have so many eligible men that have completely refused to marry? Fear of woman? Fear of Marriage? Lack of Money? How do we move from singlehood to being married?

Cc: Ubunja

as long as the Patriarchy keeps getting weaker marriage is not advisable.
the Patriarchy is the only system thats congusive for marriage .dont even think of marriage under Feminism. just fvck and go and never settle.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Yes o i hate arrogance, me dey pray make i nor marry enemy for husband.I do not just have dreams to be success ful i have plans as well.And i know how to respect people but i also believe that you must respect yourself before others can respect you,in this time and age respect is now earned and not forced nor is it an entitlement.

Oya let's have your CV, how nice are you on a scale of one to ten, tell us a few things about you you feel won't be too much to let us in on

ubunja:

as long as the Patriarchy keeps getting weaker marriage is not advisable.
the Patriarchy is the only system thats congusive for marriage .dont even think of marriage under Feminism. just fvck and go and never settle.

@ Ubunja

lefulefu:
haha i know d type u dey talk about.its not really about weda dem get Bsc or phd na im make dem act anyhow.its jus dhier character.there was one like dat in my former place.this lady Marry one policeman.beautiful lady but na illiterate and a house wife.anytime she and her policeman husband dey argue na so she go shout at d man tell am make im close im mouth.sometimes if d man no quick come from work na so she go lock their flat carry key waka comot.and the man dey fear her gan.na so if dem dey argue d man go dey talk small small then the woman go dey insult am in loud tones.omo if u d insults na so laugh go want kill u.yes oo its better u marry a lady that loves and adores u...not the one who fears u.

lefulefu woman master

See eh as for women what I believe is we should just tolerate them ,I believe it their character ...

Martin0:



lefulefu woman master

See eh as for women what I believe is we should just tolerate them ,I believe it their character ...

I made a mistake with one o. I think we men are the ones that need to do the work not them, it's their character. We should work on our tolerance levels o, it's their character

Zykod:



We should cultivate friendships and not expect marriage to happen all of a sudden, it's not bad to have as many female friends for example and in the process of propagating the relationship we'll find out the one that's right for us and not just leave it relegated to the abyss, this is the error i made earlier in life

I quite agree. There should be a pool to choose from. The choice of a spouse should be made from a place abundance of options, that way there's a higher likelihood of picking a good fit.

Belafonte:


I quite agree. There should be a pool to choose from. The choice of a spouse should be made from a place abundance of options, that way there's a higher likelihood of picking a good fit.

So putting on a tight cloak may be a bad idea, i thought of it today, we should make ourselves attract a pool, then sort from this pool the right fit to get married to

Martin0:



Yeah I agree
Infact I want that to happen to all my female friends,I want their husbands to be sensible to support them to succeed likewise me will do same

But u know some men are sensible though they are afraid their wife might start to rule them with what she has aquired either materially or educationally

You know na

Yes there are some overbearing women.I believe it is because of the fact that some men have this egocentric nature and are intimidated when their wives are succeeding.To them it is okay if they are successful but not their wives i don't think it's fair.To me, in marriage they are one.And so if one spouse succeeds they both suceed and if one fails they both fail.People should not be competing with themselves in marriage and if some men feel like that they should just talk with their wives.Communication is key.

Martin0:



Hahahah lefulefu it not a sin ooo,but will u want ur wife to be like that

of course na .u think i would want my wife to waste away as a housewife?

Zykod:



I made a mistake with one o. I think we men are the ones that need to do the work not them, it's their character. We should work on our tolerance levels o, it's their character

It really isn't our fault, to be frank. We've been deliberately and doggedly misled by those who should guide us aright. They tell us to do the exact things that guarantee our failure with women. Giving women the upper hand. There are men in their second and third marriages who think the key to marital success is being even more subservient than they were in their previous marriages. The media and popular culture has sold ua a lie. It's our responsibility to put the truth out there and make sure more guys know what the deal is.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Yes there are some overbearing women.I believe it is because of the fact that some men have this egocentric nature and are intimidated when their wives are succeeding.To them it is okay if they are successful but not their wives i don't think it's fair.To me, in marriage they are one.And so if one spouse succeeds they both suceed and if one fails they both fail.People should not be competing with themselves in marriage and if some men feel like that they should just talk with their wives.Communication is key.

You sound like the kind of chick guys in this club have been looking for, smart and respectable ( if we can trust you to be of the same character you're quoting here), so whom are you choosing? Martin or Belafonte or lefulefu ?

Zykod:



Oya oh, cause all of us here dey single and we have single ladies, what's stopping us?

Base on why single men don't wanna settle down oo,from my point of view..

Because they can: Men used to marry
to have sex and a family. They married for
love, too, but they had to marry the girl
before taking her to bed, or at least work
really, really hard to wear her down. Those
days are gone.

When more women make themselves
sexually available, the pool of
marriageable men diminishes. “In a world
where women do not say no, the man is
never forced to settle down and make
serious choices

That basically what I believe it is now,abi lefulefu and co,how una see am

lefulefu:

of course na .u think i would want my wife to waste away as a housewife?

U sef e

Belafonte:


It really isn't our fault, to be frank. We've been deliberately and doggedly misled by those who should guide us aright. They tell us to do the exact things that guarantee our failure with women. Giving women the upper hand. There are men in their second and third marriages who think the key to marital success is being even more subservient than they were in their previous marriages. The media and popular culture has sold ua a lie. It's our responsibility to put the truth out there and make sure more guys know what the deal is.

Marry/date who we can tolerate !

Marry/date people who respect and adore us !

Marry/date a lady that depends on us !


Any other thing is a facade, the more financially free women become, expect divorce rates to skyrocket with it.Why? Financial independence of women? NO ! But women can't manage power effectively in combination with a man, in isolation yes, but to bring it under control of another person, difficult

Ladyhippolyta88:
Yes there are some overbearing women.I believe it is because of the fact that some men have this egocentric nature and are intimidated when their wives are succeeding.To them it is okay if they are successful but not their wives i don't think it's fair.To me, in marriage they are one.And so if one spouse succeeds they both suceed and if one fails they both fail.People should not be competing with themselves in marriage and if some men feel like that they should just talk with their wives.Communication is key.

Hmmmmm can a lady actually talk like this?

Hmmm well ve a drink

Martin0:



Base on why single men don't wanna settle down oo,from my point of view..

Because they can: Men used to marry
to have sex and a family. They married for
love, too, but they had to marry the girl
before taking her to bed, or at least work
really, really hard to wear her down. Those
days are gone.

When more women make themselves
sexually available, the pool of
marriageable men diminishes. “In a world
where women do not say no, the man is
never forced to settle down and make
serious choices

That basically what I believe it is now,abi lefulefu and co,how una see am

What of you and lefulefu that don't go about chasing vjay's your excuse isn;t on this list o

Martin0:



Hmmmmm can a lady actually talk like this?

Hmmm well ve a drink

She's fine material, scope her offline. Oya shoo !

Zykod:



I made a mistake with one o. I think we men are the ones that need to do the work not them, it's their character. We should work on our tolerance levels o, it's their character

Exactly the point

Martin0:



Base on why single men don't wanna settle down oo,from my point of view..

Because they can: Men used to marry
to have sex and a family. They married for
love, too, but they had to marry the girl
before taking her to bed, or at least work
really, really hard to wear her down. Those
days are gone.

When more women make themselves
sexually available, the pool of
marriageable men diminishes. “In a world
where women do not say no, the man is
never forced to settle down and make
serious choices

That basically what I believe it is now,abi lefulefu and co,how una see am

i agree with some points here sha but then its not about not wanting to settle down but getting the right partner that suits u.

lefulefu:

i agree with some points here sha but then its not about not wanting to settle down but getting the right partner that suits u.

So how does a guy move from being single to finding the right fit. Oya o time dey go o

Zykod:



So how does a guy move from being single to finding the right fit. Oya o time dey go o

ahh the number of gehls u associate with u must see one na...though it wont be easy

lefulefu:

ahh the number of gehls u associate with u must see one na...though it wont be easy

None, all are misfits. All

I be want try one chick i see for my church, but Belafonte advise against it, and i agree with him analysis, so na Oyo i dey now

lefulefu:

i agree with some points here sha but then its not about not wanting to settle down but getting the right partner that suits u.

Well I don talk my own base on settle down...

Em I think Everyone who gets married hopes their
relationship will be one for the storybooks.
Yet many marriages end in divorce. What’s
the trick? Do people who stay married just
know better how to pick partners? In some
cases, perhaps, but I’d argue that at least
some percentage of the time it’s just dumb
luck. You were lucky enough to pick someone
who ended up being a good (or at least
tolerable) match for you. Whatever
revelations came after the “I Do”s were
things you could live with. And the benefits
outweigh the costs, at least for now.

Zykod:


She's fine material, scope her offline. Oya shoo !

Hahahahah na wa ooo Owokowoko

Martin0:


Hahahahah na wa ooo
Owokowoko

I'm not joking o

Zykod:




What of you and lefulefu that don't go about chasing vjay's your excuse isn;t on this list o

We are speaking in generality not been specific

You never can tell about me and lefulefu,I might just be pretending u never can tell
Or can you?

Zykod:



None, all are misfits. All

I be want try one chick i see for my church, but Belafonte advise against it, and i agree with him analysis, so na Oyo i dey now

hmm abi na slayqueens full ur area?

Zykod:


I'm not joking o

Ok I hear u

Martin0:



Well I don talk my own base on settle down...

Em I think Everyone who gets married hopes their
relationship will be one for the storybooks.
Yet many marriages end in divorce. What’s
the trick? Do people who stay married just
know better how to pick partners? In some
cases, perhaps, but I’d argue that at least
some percentage of the time it’s just dumb
luck. You were lucky enough to pick someone
who ended up being a good (or at least
tolerable) match for you. Whatever
revelations came after the “I Do”s were
things you could live with. And the benefits
outweigh the costs, at least for now.

The choice of the right partner alleviates divorce to a good extent,this is pivotal to a successful marriage

Zykod:



Marry/date who we can tolerate !

Marry/date people who respect and adore us !

Marry/date a lady that depends on us !


Any other thing is a facade, the more financially free women become, expect divorce rates to skyrocket with it.Why? Financial independence of women? NO ! But women can't manage power effectively in combination with a man, in isolation yes, but to bring it under control of another person, difficult

It is what it is, mahn. You can do nothing against the truth but for the truth.