₦airaland Forum

BabbanBura:
That's right bro. I have seen women with over 2m monthly pay subjecting that finance to the dictate of the husband and there is harmony.
on the contrast, in same office i have seen a couple of women who refuse to let the hubbies in and there are chaos even 2 such cases ended in divorce
A third scenario was a case of evetually getting a better paying job than the husband and then she now wants to dictate what happens in the home - ofcourse it's only an idiot that will permit that in his house so the matter ended in separation but no divorce

I can marry a lady that earns 5M a month, my stature carries it. But would i be able to have sound sleep? At times it looks like these ladies are saving up for a divorce, it puts pressure on relationships

Safiaaa:
Most of what you're saying falls back to exactly what I was initially saying. Pride, Ego, Jealousy is a serious issue with our men. Due to these insecurities, our men would interpret the slightest things in the wrong way and would assume the woman is trying to take on their 'role'. Assume she's prideful and all other things related. Anything threatening their 'role' is dangerous to them. The ego is like an egg that constantly needs to be protected. This is the reason why they avoid women in the financially stable category 90% time, they have the 'power' to damage that egg. I wish men would learn to be more realistic and truthful. It's not a crime to prefer financially dependent women, just stop being deceitful about it. I've also realised that Nigerian men like to play the blame game, it's quite sad.

Please can u explain how they like to play the blam game?

kazyhm:
i wont allow myself to be led by a woman irrespective whether rich/brilliant or have a career.........women tends to be emotionally attached to some silly stuffs and pay attention to trivial frivolity... they exercise power unnecessarily and always want show off indefinitely

Pride goes before a fall.

DrinkLimca:
People are opening threads to bash...

A Nigerian lady too wants to bash..

Knowing fully well that facts have pointed it out that Nigerian ladies are the worst kind of ladies on earth..

Stop putting down our sisters please ! If you have issues with Nigerian ladies, join foreign forums. It's almost new year, repent

Martin0:
Please tell me where that dude has offended you either by mean's of insults or where u don't like about him and I will apologise or rather I will talk to him!

Oh atleast now u understand!

That exactly what keeps relationship going!

Then finally I will say this to you!
____________________________________


While searching for the
perfect man, some women fail to see their own
imperfections. While some ladies are so busy finding
fault with everyone, they fail to look at themselves and
their own flaws. Some of these flaws are the reason they
are still single as most men can’t handle it. Look
inwards and change those habits and attitudes that
drive people away from you.
Do not not allow your past mistakes compromise your
hope for the future. Never let your fear of the unknown
and things being too difficult make your choices for
you in life. Taking a chance at love means you take a
chance with your heart.

very true, you have made a lot of sense. But i am aware of my imperfections and i am working on them. Many of us are. Change is the only constant thing inlife

Safiaaa:
Most of what you're saying falls back to exactly what I was initially saying. Pride, Ego, Jealousy is a serious issue with our men. Due to these insecurities, our men would interpret the slightest things in the wrong way and would assume the woman is trying to take on their 'role'. Assume she's prideful and all other things related. Anything threatening their 'role' is dangerous to them. The ego is like an egg that constantly needs to be protected. This is the reason why they avoid women in the financially stable category 90% time, they have the 'power' to damage that egg. I wish men would learn to be more realistic and truthful. It's not a crime to prefer financially dependent women, just stop being deceitful about it. I've also realised that Nigerian men like to play the blame game, it's quite sad.

When you know you can totally trust your
mate, it removes a large potential for worry.

_______

It also builds your internal security so that
you not only feel good about your partner,
but you also feel better about life. Having an
honest relationship creates a kind of buffer
between you and the difficulties of the
world. Having a mate you can trust and rely
on also makes it easier to take those risks
that help us grow.

________

Many people feel that little white lies, which
may spare their partner some grief, are
okay, and in some cases that’s true. But you
can’t have a culture of honesty in your
relationship just some of the time. If you
tend to omit or color the truth, so things look
a better, it could actually damage your
relationship at a core level. Trying to
“protect” your partner or just trying to avoid
looking bad can create more trouble than it’s
worth. It is best to be above board in all your
dealings.

_______

When asked about what qualities they want in
a partner, most people will list “honesty”
among them. Unfortunately, most of us have
had the experience of being lied to. When
you have a relationship and a family, you
need to know that everyone is on the same
page, and this is hard to do unless both of
you are being honest.

______

What honesty gives you is a great deal of
comfort. Knowing you can implicitly trust
your mate allows you to be your best self,
and your relationship will continue to thrive
because you are able to give each other the
positive energy you need to navigate life’s
ups and downs.

Ur post is

Martin0:
Please tell me where that dude has offended you either by mean's of insults or where u don't like about him and I will apologise or rather I will talk to him!

Oh atleast now u understand!

That exactly what keeps relationship going!

Then finally I will say this to you!
____________________________________


While searching for the
perfect man, some women fail to see their own
imperfections. While some ladies are so busy finding
fault with everyone, they fail to look at themselves and
their own flaws. Some of these flaws are the reason they
are still single as most men can’t handle it. Look
inwards and change those habits and attitudes that
drive people away from you.
Do not not allow your past mistakes compromise your
hope for the future. Never let your fear of the unknown
and things being too difficult make your choices for
you in life. Taking a chance at love means you take a
chance with your heart.

Taking a chance at love means you take a chance with your heart. I THINK I NEED THIS PERSONALLY !

funmisticqueen:
this has nothing to do with this topic. But yes i know what i want

Sorry miss!

I know it has nothing to do with this topic but I asked coz it might help me to understand something..

Mhissgaga:
You said it all

Most Nigerian men are confused and a whole lot of them are hypocrites

Most of them don't even have anything to offer too

They always like to dominate their partner and then make the final decision

They can't stand a woman that's financially stable because their roles won't come to life

When they see such women they'll just conclude and say she isn't humble simply because they are intimidated

The truth is that most of them want women that are 'dumb' the ones they can control at will like...Nigerian men don't like smart women

Once a woman is too intellectual then the man starts questioning his worth


I know there are some brave men out there though

Your post is absolutely correct.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Your post is absolutely correct.

So you're standing up for this baby lawyer!

I wanna toast you, if you can help me with 2k??

Safiaaa:
Would you be able to deal with your wife making more than you? Dont lie.

funmisticqueen:
thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Finally a man who has made so much sense and understands tyebmessage safiaa is trying to convey. Most women, especially those with tyeir act together wouldnt think twice about saying yes to someone who thinks like yoy and takes your approach. This is what some people refused to learn, simple courtesy. God bless you once again.
If anyone want to mention me pls refer to his post. Thanks.

Hmm. I don't think I've ever posted anything a girl actually agreed with. Interesting.....God bless you too

Safiaaa:
Most of what you're saying falls back to exactly what I was initially saying. Pride, Ego, Jealousy is a serious issue with our men. Due to these insecurities, our men would interpret the slightest things in the wrong way and would assume the woman is trying to take on their 'role'. Assume she's prideful and all other things related. Anything threatening their 'role' is dangerous to them. The ego is like an egg that constantly needs to be protected. This is the reason why they avoid women in the financially stable category 90% time, they have the 'power' to damage that egg. I wish men would learn to be more realistic and truthful. It's not a crime to prefer financially dependent women, just stop being deceitful about it. I've also realised that Nigerian men like to play the blame game, it's quite sad.

Honesty is not just about telling the truth,
either. It is also about telling the truth in a
way that your partner will hear it and benefit
from it. We all want to hear how great we
are, of course, but we can also benefit from
making some slight adjustments in how we
do things. This is where a little honesty from
someone you love and trust will help you
make the small changes that can make your
world a better place.

__________


In this case, honesty needs to be tender. If
you have to say something to your loved one
that may be unsetting to him or her, I
suggest you do it as gently as possible.
“Brutal honesty” has gotten a lot of press
lately, but I have seen it do more damage
than good. You need to present your issues
with some degree of kindness. If not, your
message may be buried in an avalanche of
hurt feelings.You will both be much more
able to communicate if your hearts are not
wounded in the process.

_______

Honesty is a way of life, not just a behavior.
Keeping it paramount in your relationship
will bring in more good and keep the bad
stuff at bay. Knowing you can totally trust one
another brings a type of freedom and
comfort that helps your relationship work in
the best way possible.


I am still waiting for you to tell me how men are not being realistic and truthful miss!

Mhissgaga:
You said it all

Most Nigerian men are confused and a whole lot of them are hypocrites

Most of them don't even have anything to offer too

They always like to dominate their partner and then make the final decision

They can't stand a woman that's financially stable because their roles won't come to life

When they see such women they'll just conclude and say she isn't humble simply because they are intimidated

The truth is that most of them want women that are 'dumb' the ones they can control at will like...Nigerian men don't like smart women

Once a woman is too intellectual then the man starts questioning his worth


I know there are some brave men out there though

You're too hard on us...Haba, what is it nau




When they see such women they'll just conclude and say she isn't humble simply because they are intimidated

The truth is that most of them want women that are 'dumb' the ones they can control at will like...Nigerian men don't like smart women

Once a woman is too intellectual then the man starts questioning his worth



We love our women smart, smart gene plus smart gene equals super-smart gene, the offspring will make serious sense,smartness isn;t an exucse for nuisance which many are, no disrespect, no point arguining, you know this. I've never dated an un-smart chick before in my life. But i'm considering the lesser !

Jupxter:
So you're standing up for this baby lawyer!

Who is the baby lawyer?

Jupxter:
Taking a chance at love means you take a chance with your heart. I THINK I NEED THIS PERSONALLY !

Gbam u need am oo 2018 on point straight to our heart desire!

Martin0:
Honesty is not just about telling the truth,
either. It is also about telling the truth in a
way that your partner will hear it and benefit
from it. We all want to hear how great we
are, of course, but we can also benefit from
making some slight adjustments in how we
do things. This is where a little honesty from
someone you love and trust will help you
make the small changes that can make your
world a better place.

__________


In this case, honesty needs to be tender. If
you have to say something to your loved one
that may be unsetting to him or her, I
suggest you do it as gently as possible.
“Brutal honesty” has gotten a lot of press
lately, but I have seen it do more damage
than good. You need to present your issues
with some degree of kindness. If not, your
message may be buried in an avalanche of
hurt feelings.You will both be much more
able to communicate if your hearts are not
wounded in the process.

_______

Honesty is a way of life, not just a behavior.
Keeping it paramount in your relationship
will bring in more good and keep the bad
stuff at bay. Knowing you can totally trust one
another brings a type of freedom and
comfort that helps your relationship work in
the best way possible.


I am still waiting for you to tell me how men are not being realistic and truthful miss!

Brother, nice one


This is it:




In this case, honesty needs to be tender. If you have to say something to your loved one
that may be unsetting to him or her, I suggest you do it as gently as possible.
“Brutal honesty” has gotten a lot of press lately, but I have seen it do more damage
than good. You need to present your issues with some degree of kindness. If not, your
message may be buried in an avalanche of hurt feelings.You will both be much more
able to communicate if your hearts are not wounded in the process.



THEY NAG AND CAN'T COMMUNICATE WITHOUT NAGGING, DOMINEERING, OR TRYING TO SUPPRESS OR KILL THE SOUL OF THE MAN. COMMUNICATION DEFICIENCY

funmisticqueen:
very true, you have made a lot of sense. But i am aware of my imperfections and i am working on them. Many of us are. Change is the only constant thing inlife

Exactly now you ve got me closer and more attracted to you...
You understand firster than I do!

I admire your understanding!

Martin0:
Gbam u need am oo 2018 on point straight to our heart desire!

Lol. I'm not marrying 2018 oh...May later but not next year..But who knows if the right lady comes along

....

pocohantas:
My dear, leave long talk. The main tool most Nigerian men use to control their woman is finance. The fear of losing it is the beginning of wisdom... EOD

That said, she never generalised.

lol

You see, that is exactly why you think money in a relationship is about dominance.

Relationships is just like a financial transaction, where the authority goes to the highest bidder.

Most ladies with such mentality will only get pretenders. Those that will willingly give power, but escape when the opportunity presents itself.


She did generalized when she said "Nigerian men are confused"

Jupxter:
I like being tagged a villain, leave her dont apologise on my behalf please, otherwise when you come na ONLY you go pay for all the drinks we go take o

Hahahahah see threat

All these na way make u for nor spend money coz u know I may likely apologise but all thesame I will do as u side coz pesin nor go use coz of woman loss osho free

Jupxter:
Lol. I'm not marrying 2018 oh...May later but not next year..But who knows if the right lady comes along

Hahahahah well same goes for me if u gonna ask

greiboy:
lol

You see, that is exactly why you think money in a relationship is about dominance.

Relationships is just like a financial transaction, where the authority goes to the highest bidder.

Most ladies with such mentality will only get pretenders. Those that will willingly give power, but escape when the opportunity presents itself.


She did generalized when she said "Nigerian men are confused"

Most ladies with such mentality will only get pretenders. Those that will willingly give power, but escape when the opportunity presents itself. THE BREEDS SCAM THEM OF THEIR MONEY AND THEIR POWER, AND THEY GO RUNNING NIGERIAN GUYS AND SCAM MARRIAGE PROPOSAL, WHEN THEY SEE THE ONES THAT CAN BE LOYAL WITHOUT STRIPPING THEM OFF THEIR FINANCES, IT FEELS LIKE A LIE. IN THE END, EVEN WE MEN NEED TO WORK ON OUR MINDS...LOVE IS MORE TRANSACTIONAL THESEDAYS, MAY GOD HELP US. IT'S A CONTEST FOR POWER. A POWER TUSSLE AND THE ASSUMPTION LIKE YOU SAID IS ASCRIBED TO WHO EARNS MORE. HENCE THE FELLING FOR IMPORTANCE AND POWER IN THE HEARTS OF HEARTS OF MANY FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT WOMEN

Martin0:
Hahahahah see threat

All these na way make u for nor spend money coz u know I may likely apologise but all thesame I will do as u side coz pesin nor go use coz of woman loss osho free

Lol @ make i no spend money. No worry hold your ATM bro, you fit use POS pay thesedays

Jupxter:
Brother, nice one


This is it:




In this case, honesty needs to be tender. If you have to say something to your loved one
that may be unsetting to him or her, I suggest you do it as gently as possible.
“Brutal honesty” has gotten a lot of press lately, but I have seen it do more damage
than good. You need to present your issues with some degree of kindness. If not, your
message may be buried in an avalanche of hurt feelings.You will both be much more
able to communicate if your hearts are not wounded in the process.



THEY NAG AND CAN'T COMMUNICATE WITHOUT NAGGING, DOMINEERING, OR TRYING TO SUPPRESS OR KILL THE SOUL OF THE MAN. COMMUNICATION DEFICIENCY

Gbam. You are there

Jupxter:
Lol @ make i no spend money. No worry hold your ATM bro, you fit use POS pay thesedays

No wahala

funmisticqueen:
most nigerian men think that they are comfortable with a woman who earns more, but it is human nature that he/ she who has more money has more of the final say and the other party is more subdued. Men are just getting used to more women being in control of finances and they are not coping well. This is why you hear statements like "she has become proud". They didnt know that when the ball was in their court they behaved the same way, and even worse, women just didnt complain too much because it was the status quo

BRAVO,BRAVO,BRAVO.

nezzar:
Ur post is

Jupxter:
When a woman becomes proud, she is proud, it's the reality, they are not lying.


FYI, I have married sisters, all are financially independent, infact at a time, they all earned more than their husbands. I am yet to see my sisters fight their husbands in over ten years of marriage, they don't give their husbands headache. Upbringing matters....Not many men are this lucky. Trust me. Many men run far from financially independent ladies and it's because of the perceived baggage they come with.

Really,tell me something.