Ladyhippolyta88:
Okay sir.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Okay sir.

Martin0:



Now u know where that word goes to

I prefer to even work with illiterate atleast they are willing to learn and get corrected too!
I also like to work with less intelligent people coz atleast they are not like those war front soldiers wey nor ready to even take correction!

Martin0:


Is there any other ladyhippolyta88 on this thread?

Martin0:


Madam na the last time be this oo nor dey call me sir again

Madam na the last time be this oo nor dey call me sir again

Beorn:


I can speak authoritatively that many Nigerian men of nowadays, especially the well educated ones, are not into this school of thought. Me for example, during my secondary school or university days, I had no problems with either an independent or dependent lady, but after school after seeing life from different binoculars, I've decided that a girl I'll marry has to be independent and working class.

Dating an independent girl is a turn on for me, an invigorating relationship. I find independent ladies attractive. I can never get jealous or intimidated by successful lady because that's exactly what I wish any lady I'll be with should aspire to be.

If I'm working and earning my money, the lady is earning hers too, why should I be jealous? I'm not in a relationship to control my fellow human. Even if she's earning more than me it shouldn't give her the guts to disrespect me when I do respect her. I'm fact, if she does, I'll call it quits and move on. There are other independent girls out there that respects their men. I find girls that are totally dependent on a guy very irritating. It's like a burden to me. When a girl is not always asking a guy for every little thing in a relationship, it brings respect for her. The average Nigerian girl will always be dependent, so when these modern educated men see a successful independent woman or a lady with bright future ahead, they don't joke with them.

Go to banks, companies, government parastatals, those independent, gainfully employed ladies are all hooked up. Who still needs a leech in this 21st century? Marriage or dating at this point in my life is more than just pussy. Pussy is cheap, so I need me more than that in a girl.

ibkayee:
Yeah successful women tend to be more self confident, independent, assertive, emotionally stable, self sufficient etc than someone dependant on a man entirely financially and some find this intimidating because she can't be controlled as easily

They don't mind someone with a good career on paper and smart enough to not be considered stupid but they want that to be as far as it goes as the other traits give her more leverage to be able to challenge him

The other day one guy was telling me I have to accept that the man owns me because he feeds me etc and when I told him I have my own money he had no other argument

I've also met a lot of Nigerian men that don't have this mindset but the ones that do definitely outweigh them

Jupxter:




I have genius friends for example. These are engineers,doctors etc. I run away from these dudes, Intelligent people always over-rationalize, it's very unhealthy

A home is not an academic instituition, hence intelligence has rather limited advantages when it comes to building a home. In the end it goes down to character of both parties. Qualities like temperance, communication, emotional stability, psyche, openess, free-mindedness counts and rank higher for me now than intelligence...

Ladyhippolyta88:
Ah many dey.

Ladyhippolyta88:
I don hear.

Martin0:



Exactly!

Oil dey ur head!

greiboy:
This was what I was saying before that you dismissed.


"Financial independence shouldn't be about greater control in a relationship. it should be about the lady's financial freedom.

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Any man not willing to give a lady greater freedom or dominance in a relationship will still find a way to make life hellish for her in that relationship. "

oh my God,Who said this?

Jupxter:


But intelligence with character is priceless !

Martin0:

Eh eh make I first start with you first!

LordKO:
Well, only small-minded men holds an opinion that women has only pussy to offer men. Also, they're the ones that believe that all independent women are not palatable to put up with.

That being said, believe you me that most men usually run away from independent women of bad ethical leanings - no sane man will ever run away from an independent woman of good ethical leanings - not because of inferiority complex, but because a woman of bad ethical leanings will automatically be/get worse if/when well placed financially or socially. The worst form of poverty out there isn't financial poverty but ethical poverty.

For example, a dependent conceited woman - there's nothing wrong with an outspoken woman, but believe you me that there's everything wrong with an opinionated/contentious woman - is hell enough to put up with then, you can only imagine what such a woman will become if she's financially and socially well/better placed than her man.

I doff my hat for all independent women of good ethical leanings.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Don't go there.

Xiadnat:
Thank you! For this expose.

This is all i have being trying to say and have being wanting to pen for long time in this forum.

This has been my experience with most Nigerian men even the ones that live Outside Africa/Nigeria.


Its the reason most of nigerian men will prefer ugly fat usually white foreigners who cater to their fragile and misplaced ego than marry a well educated good looking (Black)woman who is fierecely her own person. .

When you demand or challenge them to be better, they call you “difficult” or something similar.


Collectively, Nigerian men have misplaced ego/pride/stubborness because that same pride cannot be put to good use to better Nigeria as a country. . What it is really is low self esteem or self hatred in disguise.

Its a generational curse and stronghold that needs to be broken.

And yes! This write up extends to what i ahve observed in this forum too.

Very well said.

PS watch out tho, they are coming to burn you at stake.

mhisbliss:
op has said it all, lemme make money so I can intimidate the confused nigerian men lol

mhisbliss:
op has said it all, lemme make money so I can intimidate the confused nigerian men lol

Martin0:


Exactly!
Infact u don close matter tonight!

Ladies and gentlemen,I hope the see this(espcially)ladies!

Jupxter:




Character is the core...it's what everything else pours into, achievements, finance, beauty, character is the conduit that impactson the outlook of a relationship, marriage or home ! Nothing beats character. It's like imagination and knowledge combined in fine proportion...Like Knowledge is worth less without imagination, so is intelligence without fine character


Its attitude not altitude, character not achievements

Martin0:

Hia,wasn't going to anywhere! Rather I was just about to start my little observation !

Martin0:


If you want to get a girlfriend who will treat you well,
it's important that you learn to detect a
woman's character quickly.

greiboy:
I said it

isn't that the exact thing another lady just confirmed

DrinkLimca:
There is nothing to talk about..

99.9% of guys in Nigeria that are in a relationship with Nigeria ladies, are actually managing the ladies..

Ladyhippolyta88:
Very good.

Jman06:
The problem is that most black ladies who are financially up the ladder find it hard to come down to the level of the average guys. In fact, they treat the average guy with so much disdain that it even shows in the way they carry themselves when the guy is around them. So, the poor guy gets intimidated and runs for his dear life.

Ladyhippolyta88:
I agree with you but I believe that pay gap is possible.

olaboy1:
But OP majority of the financially independent Nigerian women are not only full of pride but are also condescending.
I guess you would agree with me that the dialogue below is a common thing in Nigeria

“Tolani can you just imagine this low life guy who came to church on an Okada trying to ask me out on a date”

Nigerian men I believe have heard these kind of dialogues growing up far too many times, and therefore do their dating and mating selections in a way they are not caught up in this loop of egoistic women.

I worked under female senior managers and many of them acted very disrespectful to office assistants using all sorts of fake foreign accents to ridicule them. It’s hard to find financially independent male senior managers doing same thing to office assistants. The "terribleness" of the female SM was due to "attitude" as a result of power/wealth/position, and we had more cases of female SM’s slapping drivers. If you doubt me try and join the Uber thread and most negative riders feedbacks come from the so called “financially independent women”.

Also women generally have what I refer to as “follow the flock” mentality when dating, they do what their friends do, more like a social construct they must follow, they have been societally conditioned to date up and anything short of that is a no no...(reason why when a woman says she is going to use the toilet others follow). There are loads of fakers, who simply copy a behaviour, but have no unique persona.

Nigerian men don’t have big ego at such, given the opportunity I bet an Okada guy would gladly go on a date with a bank cashier.
So before you ask us to fix our huge ego and low self esteem, maybe you should ask Nigerian women not to treat their not so well off partners with utter disdain, because if I understand you correctly you seem to be saying financially independent Nigerian women are single because of the ego and low self esteem of Nigerian men and their big need to use money as a form of control in a relationship.

OP on a serious note, how financially independent are you on a scale of 1-10.