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sirBLUNT:
yea all bulls are crazy its a natural something..got a deal breaker?

ReinaFarine:
Chai...
See the trend of guys and their answer to a simple question... Why doesn't nowadays relationship last?
- People are too much in a rush to get into one they are not matured enough to fight for one: , Everybody thinks a relationship is the true source of happiness. And even though we are not matured enough to be independent, We think relationship is going to grow us up. And relationship is more of I need someone to give me #20,000 monthly, I need a pretty gal on my arm, I need someone to call me at night and I need a bii for the social media. All the perceived glamour of relationship doesn't tell you it is truly about being able to make your spouse a better.person than he/she was when they met you.

You think girls ate ugly, tell her about beauty schools, exercise routine, facial and skin treatment, make up tips and tricks. You think guys ate broke, tell him about investment opportunities, savings, job opportunities and creation options, skill acquisitions, professional and academic courses. Until a relationship is more than candy, flowers and barney entertainment, the couple are just dating and not yet in a relationship.

If you can't tell your partner when he or she is in the wrong, then you don't actually love that person enough to make him/her a better version of their current state.

I am in love with an amazing man right now and I can say love is compatibility and comfortability. You ate compatible enough to give him what he needs in the way he wants it.

Relationship.don't last because people date for sex and social media rather than for comfort and mutual growth.

A relationship can never be at its best without feminism... I know little boys will not understand. A woman will never be able to express her opinion (a times smarter than the common notion) if she's not allowed a say in the home. A man can never realise his full potential if he doesn't allow his partner that knows all.of his strength and weakness tell him where and how he can build on himself.

But delude yourself into comparing one night stand, friends with benefits, and babymamaism with the true pleasures of having completion in your partner...

You think Bill gates will be a better person without Melinda... Barrack without his Michelle, hell Good luck without his Patience... Then I suggest you have a rethink.... But when you keep picking your choice of partner of physical things like beauty, money, and sexual appeal rather than, intellect, character, maturity and dreams, you will continue ending up with amateur wannabe Kardashians. So to each his or her own.

You can't go to the market to buy bitter kola and complain every thing in the market is bitter... Did you ask for honey?

I know ladies are more pressured into marriage and family than the guys...

MissJoy29:
Lol...Yes I do. Definitely. Don't we all?

MissJoy29:
But everyone is driven by emotions sometimes in life. Though some people (women) are driven more than the others (men).

What is this sapiosexual thingy you wanna start pushing about?

sirBLUNT:
yea but on a different level..some are kind of extreme to a point insensitve..whats your's?

MissJoy29:
Yeah...true.

I can't say them here.

sirBLUNT:
i know you wont say them here and i know why..dont ask me how i know..

MissJoy29:
Lol....I won't ask you the "how". But I will ask the "why".

CorGier:
Thank you. Everything else before that doesn't matter.
A sapiosexual person is someone who finds intelligence and the human mind to be the most sexually attractive feature in the opposite sex.
- UD.

sirBLUNT:
you're very smart no doubt..but i wont tell you "why" here

MissJoy29:
Thanks. I will take that as a compliment. Ok. Waiting....

MissJoy29:
Oh I know about sapiosexuality. I'm definitely one
I only wanted to know what you mean when you say you wanna start pushing the sapiosexual thingy.

sirBLUNT:
will it really change if you know why?

Sapiosexuality:
Here we go again. Smh.

MissJoy29:
Will what change dearie?

dasparrow:
Relationships especially as practiced in Nigeria can lead one to an early grave. Just take a look on Nairaland's front page and see the threads of women killed by their husbands. If these women were single, they probably would still have been alive today. Relationships of today are a scam.

MissJoy29:
Chai! Too much sense in one post!

sirBLUNT:
oh my bad..i will tell you in private...i just have alot in mine...

kingofcasting:
I swear. That post reeks of wisdom. I'm impressed

ReinaFarine:
Chai...
See the trend of guys and their answer to a simple question... Why doesn't nowadays relationship last?
- People are too much in a rush to get into one they are not matured enough to fight for one: , Everybody thinks a relationship is the true source of happiness. And even though we are not matured enough to be independent, We think relationship is going to grow us up. And relationship is more of I need someone to give me #20,000 monthly, I need a pretty gal on my arm, I need someone to call me at night and I need a bii for the social media. All the perceived glamour of relationship doesn't tell you it is truly about being able to make your spouse a better.person than he/she was when they met you.

You think girls ate ugly, tell her about beauty schools, exercise routine, facial and skin treatment, make up tips and tricks. You think guys ate broke, tell him about investment opportunities, savings, job opportunities and creation options, skill acquisitions, professional and academic courses. Until a relationship is more than candy, flowers and barney entertainment, the couple are just dating and not yet in a relationship.

If you can't tell your partner when he or she is in the wrong, then you don't actually love that person enough to make him/her a better version of their current state.

I am in love with an amazing man right now and I can say love is compatibility and comfortability. You ate compatible enough to give him what he needs in the way he wants it.

Relationship.don't last because people date for sex and social media rather than for comfort and mutual growth.

A relationship can never be at its best without feminism... I know little boys will not understand. A woman will never be able to express her opinion (a times smarter than the common notion) if she's not allowed a say in the home. A man can never realise his full potential if he doesn't allow his partner that knows all.of his strength and weakness tell him where and how he can build on himself.

But delude yourself into comparing one night stand, friends with benefits, and babymamaism with the true pleasures of having completion in your partner...

You think Bill gates will be a better person without Melinda... Barrack without his Michelle, hell Good luck without his Patience... Then I suggest you have a rethink.... But when you keep picking your choice of partner of physical things like beauty, money, and sexual appeal rather than, intellect, character, maturity and dreams, you will continue ending up with amateur wannabe Kardashians. So to each his or her own.

You can't go to the market to buy bitter kola and complain every thing in the market is bitter... Did you ask for honey?

I know ladies are more pressured into marriage and family than the guys...

MissJoy29:
First, @a population of effeminate men too high and drunk to challenge authority. Is it authority you want the men to challenge or the ladies who are manipulating them?

Second, from your earlier write up sir, one can deduce that you perceived men as hoes. Even though I didn't call it that directly but the point was that you said & are still saying that women shouldn't be taken too seriously. Why is what I don't know. And what are those your expectations we always fall below? Just curious.

Third, yeah, I get your point. I also don't believe, (I'm not sure I ever will) that a man & woman should be equal. I only believe in fairness and respect of our individual differences.

Jupxter:
Lol @ I only believe in fairness and respect of our individual differences.

Many ladies now want and demand equality, and when they get it, they discover equality isn't enough and they want even more, absolute domineering of a man. Relationship has been reduced to a power tussle, where one is trying to avoid being controlled, but wants to control the other one. What good can come out of such ....outta ere

MissJoy29:
But that's the truth. I don't believe men and women should be equal. But let there be mutual respect that's all.

Trust me when I say it's a big deal for a woman to want to be above a man. The pressure is too much. Besides, that's not the real order of things. You won't really be happy & somewhat fulfilled. So, what's the gain in it?

Domineering, controlling, bossy are words I hate to hear with passion when used to describe a woman.

Jupxter:
Trust me, many financially independent ladies are those words you don't like hearing.


I like your stance on equality in relationships. If relationship is healthy, it's more than enough, but the desire to control, manipulate and put the man at a point they can manipulate at will is what destroys relationships. These ladies want to control men, and domineer them ! It's a bragging right, i can do anything for myself, i don't need you, hence, i can bail out on a marriage at any point....How many men can cope in such an unhealthy climate, not just survive, how many human beings can thrive under such unhealthy conditions?

MissJoy29:
Relationships should be healthy. That's why I hammer on mutual respect & fairness. Not equality. The man should be the head not the ruler or dictator. The woman should be the supporter, helper, helpmeet, partner not the slave or victim.

ubunja:
misjoy let me gatecrash your convo.
maybe u can answer me a question i've been thinking on for quiet a while
why do women give more respect to their boss than their husband?or value their pastor's word above their man's?

your words " the man should not be the ruler" reminded me.

MissJoy29:
Relationships should be healthy. That's why I hammer on mutual respect & fairness. Not equality. The man should be the head not the ruler or dictator. The woman should be the supporter, helper, helpmeet, partner not the slave or victim.

sirBLUNT:
i envy the guy that will marry you...
goodmoney!