GraGra247:


I know devils like you with black blood running in your veins will show up.

Heart that is dead and filled with gravel.

Compassion - Zero

Love - Zero

Mercy - Zero

You are the worst kind of fool I have ever seen! People like you are the reason most young ladies of today are involved in prostitution and lesbianism. Give me one reason why he should compensate her, asswipe? How many women have compensated men they dated when they break up with them
Stop talking like a fool.

Jaykorbs give me her number let me help you.

jaykorbs:
Hi nairalanders, this is my story, don’t judge me, just advice me on a way out, there is this lady I asked out towards the end of 2016, I will be frank with you, my sole aim back then was to hook up with her and for us to enjoy sex together, basically, I was just after sex. I know nothing about the lady.

She was teaching in one primary school in my area at that point in time, I said a lot of shit back then just to get her to say yes, as I got to know her, I found out she had lost both parent at a tender age and so many other things, she has really passed through a lot, herself and her junior sister.

As time goes on, the relationship gained an exponential momentum and before I could realize what was going on, my family and friends dan sabi her, calling her my wife, let me add that she is 19 and I am 24 (just wrote my last undergraduate exam a
couple of months ago, while she is currently working at one food canteen).

Over the course of 2017, I have picked up a lot of manly lessons and have decided to set my life in order in the coming year, yes, I have dropped a lot of boyish attitude and selfish characters, I can confidently call myself a changed individual, although a lot of improvement still have to be made.

As I mentioned earlier, I have decided to set my life in order this coming year, with her being part of it, the truth is, I don’t love her, but to my understanding, she really loves me, I am currently still in this relationship because I am afraid of making her sad, I am in this relationship at the moment because of pity, she will be devasted when I break up with her, my friends are telling me not to go ahead with it, that I am about to make a big mistake if I call off the relationship, I just know I don’t love her, I very much like her, but the love to consider her for marriage ain’t there. She is beside me as I type this, I seriously need help on how to call of this relationship without breaking her spirit because she is a fighter.

As others told you, will surely regret if you call it off. If you can not learn to love someone that loves you, then your spiritual life is not in order. If she has undesirable characteristics that you don't like, your goal should be to help her gain them. Maybe that's the biggest impact that will count in your old age? Even if you don't want to marry her, adopt her as your sister and straighten your spiritual life. Only God can tell you what the true purpose of you both is.

GraGra247:
@ jaykorbs. How can we human beings be so heartless to ourselves. I mean don't we have limits?

You knew clearly that she's lost both parents and thus life has been wicked and unfair to her yet you went ahead to tell her a lot of love lies just to have sexual advantage of her. I'm almost weeping. Why?

Your friends are telling you not to go ahead with her for what reasons really? Because she has no parents probably and is not privileged. Not that she's not good enough. She even teaches showing that she's intelligent and is making efforts.

If this girl was your sister I'm sure you will kill the man that'll use her and dump her after knowing all she's been through.

My advice: If you know you would dump that girl after lieing to her, you must compensate her heavily or the karma that will follow will refuse to be appeased.

Rent self contained for her and fully furnish it or rent a shop for her and stock it then leave by praying your sins are forgiven.

You always know when an idiot speaks! Rent her a self contain or shop, for what exactly? Was she a prostitute that need to be paid after sex.

How many self contains and shops did your ex's rent for you before dumping your cursed ass?

Donjazzy12:

You are the worst kind of fool I have ever seen! People like you are the reason most young ladies of today are involved in prostitution and lesbianism. Give me one reason why he should compensate her, asswipe? How many women have compensated men they dated when they break up with them
Stop talking like a fool.

Don't worry. The demons possessing you and your ilks will change their mind when you repent. Devil.

GraGra247:


I know devils like you with black blood running in your veins will show up.

Heart that is dead and filled with gravel.

Compassion - Zero

Love - Zero

Mercy - Zero

Who are u to judge? please free people to air their views the poster is not dat dumb to know the best advice in here...

GraGra247:


Ok good, you still have some human feelings left.

My advice: Since you don't love her and definitely don't want to marry her stop wasting her time and stop sleeping with her.

Compensate her as much as you can afford and as much as will enable her to bear the loss and hold back tears and let her go.

This way she can start early to search for a man that's ready to marry her and help her bear her sorrows and lack.

If you keep staying in her life, she won't be moved to search for a life partner cos you've already deceived her and made her to fall in love with you.

What do you mean by compensate her? He owe her nothing but explanations, its probably best he breaks up with her now than forging ahead in a relationship that will probably fail. Stop being so damn opinionated as if you are the judge over relationships.

Donjazzy12:

You always know when an idiot speaks! Rent her a self contain or shop, for what exactly? Was she a prostitute that need to be paid after sex.

How many self contains and shops did your ex's rent for you before dumping your cursed ass?

Don jazz again imaooo

Why do start what you will not end if u knwn u dnt love her let her be

skydancer:

As others told you, will surely regret if you call it off. If you can not learn to love someone that loves you, then your spiritual life is not in order. If she has undesirable characteristics that you don't like, your goal should be to help her gain them. Maybe that's the biggest impact that will count in your old age? Even if you don't want to marry her, adopt her as your sister and straighten your spiritual life. Only God can tell you what the true purpose of you both is.

Will you keep quiet there! It is your evil life that will never be in order. See foolishness! All relationships are a matter of choice, stop being stupid. He does not owe her anything, at all.

dominique:
Why not let her go now that she's young so she can move on with her life and find someone that would love and appreciate her? If you don't see a future with her, stop wasting her time or at least let her know that the relationship won't go beyond dating and sex.



I agreed with you until I got to the last two paragraphs. A relationship is not a business venture or a form of occupation, anybody can call it off without having to compensate the other financially. What I don't support is wasting a person's time if you dont see a future with him or her. If it was the girl that wants to break off from the relationship, will you be suggesting that she compensates the guy?

I also support the not wasting people's time part, but anyone who is only thinking of leaving a 19 year old girl, something is wrong. She's just 19, like the worst thing to do is to leave her. She will feel betrayed and abandoned. The least he can do is be a brother to her.

And I believe in equity. A woman is more emotional than the general man, and must be treated with care. Financially compensation or whatever that means is a stupid arrogant intention. Emotional compensation if I could call it that is far more important, anyone in the 19s upwards that does not have a father needs more than anything, someone to look up to, someone that can be there in tough times and give them the fatherly advice they may need from time to time.

Newboss:
I've never seen a bigger fool!

You never know what you have until it ceases to be yours, dummy!

DISCLAIMER: Except she is not sexy tho

I remember how i also left a girl beside her teeth is not white.... Was so childish then, bro leave sexy, so far she's not ugly

Archangel15:
O boy, you don’t own her anything, yes her parents died but you didn't kill them.

You don't love her let her go, if you are to do anything for her let it be because of compassion not because you are obliged to do it.

I wonder o...

Uhomanbulus110:
Why do start what you will not end if u knwn u dnt love her let her be

Are you a virgin? Why did you sleep with men if you know you will not marry them? Pot calling kettle black!

What is a mature relationship and an immature relationship?
http://www.seyiblog.com.ng/2017/12/what-is-mature-relationship-and.html

What I Can Actually Understand Is That You Could Have Loved Her If She Were From A Better Family And Has Attended University. I Think You Need To Let Go If U Stil Bliv Dat There's Nothing She Can Do 4 U 2 Love Her Except The Afforementioned. Tell Her On Time So As Not To Make Her To Continually Hope On U; I Believe She Wil Definite Find D Rait 1 And Eventually, Get Ova U In No Time.

3RNEST:

Who are u to judge? please free people to air their views the poster is not dat dumb to know the best advice in here...

So if people should be free to air their views, why should he attack and curse me because of my own view.

Can't he air his own devilish views without reviling someone.

This is uncalled for, u don't have to rain insults on him.

Oyindidi:
Wicked somebody, tell her now and free her from this selfish relationship.
Na she be first person wey parents die? Ediot

GraGra247:


Don't worry. The demons possessing you and your ilks will change their mind when you repent. Devil.

See Satan himself talking about demons! You are encouraging two unmarried people to continue in fornication and you are talking about repentance! Pray, which yeye church do you attend? Buhahahahahahaha!

Huhnm....My precious advice for you. Try all means by building that same LOVE u claimed u dont have for her. The issue here is u dont love her right? Then, try and build a strong LOVE for her and continue ur relationship peacefully and blessfly coz ure been blssd already with dis young lady (things u av achieved within period of u dating her). Thnk me lata

mozes01:



What do you mean by compensate her? He owe her nothing but explanations, its probably best he breaks up with her now than forging ahead in a relationship that will probably fail. Stop being so damn opinionated as if you are the judge over relationships.

He asked for opinions and I offered my opinion. Am I not free to offer my opinion like everyone else.

Did I surely compel him to obey my opinion or die by hanging.

What is it with all of you attacking my opinion instead of simply offering yours.

You do not marry someone just because you love them if not you will end up marrying a thousand and one...Look at that girl and if there is no other connection you have with her outside sex...then you can quit the relationship now that she is young..because if you don't do it now you will still do it later and it must hurt her. so the sooner the better...I pray you find what you are looking for out there because you will understand life better when you finally meet the woman you think you love only to find out she does not feel the same way

GraGra247:


So if people should be free to air their views, why should he attack and curse me because of my own view.

Can't he air his own devilish views without reviling someone.

Go back and read your post again but this time read slowly, u will be force to quote yourself with anger..

Why use the word compensation? Sincerely it's was annoying, assume the girl deside to leave will she compensate the guy? Please answer us with speed...

Guy settle down with a girl that loves you cause if you settle with the one you love and she doesn't love you back you would always end in beer parlours.

abdeiz:
Bros WALLAI TALLAI you still don't know what you want, its because you have a choice thats why. You are scared of commitment simple. Maybe she's too decent for you and you think you can fancy your chances and do better.

I pity the girl sha...FYI I was once in your shoes and my indecisiveness cost me a lot. But hey...what do I know.

I av being in his shoe and my own reason is all u mention ( financial reason and too decent) now last 2 week d lady got engage and I tell u, Is 1 of the worst decision I took. Though myself and her are still in good term but for every picx I saw of her and her hubby , I feel jealous and pain. so brother check it very well, if it just financial trust me let her know how much u appreciate her. Many might say na that we wan chop but u are closing to being financially stable God willing. Remember our heart is so funny, the luv will surely get more deep if u live her and I can tell u, u won't c a serious relationship again because non will measure to her humility. And try to stop the sex part it help, to gather ur wilt

KingRabota:
I would like to talk you personally, and tell you about my own experience.
Pm me

do you mind if i pm you too? in similar case

A big mistake on your side and hurting her will be painful on both sides. Don't start a long relationship wt a lady you are not going to marry simple.

skydancer:

I also support the not wasting people's time part, but anyone who is only thinking of leaving a 19 year old girl, something is wrong. She's just 19, like the worst thing to do is to leave her. She will feel betrayed and abandoned. The least he can do is be a brother to her.

And I believe in equity. A woman is more emotional than the general man, and must be treated with care. Financially compensation or whatever that means is a stupid arrogant intention. Emotional compensation if I could call it that is far more important, anyone in the 19s upwards that does not have a father needs more than anything, someone to look up to, someone that can be there in tough times and give them the fatherly advice they may need from time to time.

All he needs to do is stop having sex with her. Tell her he wants to be the father she doesn't have and the brother she never had. Advice her and move on. That's it. Men have emotions too! Must he continue to deny himself because of her?

Lyfe journey

Every day by day you meet up with wicked and heartless people.

You find a lady who has heartily obeying your order too the extent of giving you sex......sex......and sex...
I hate it when our ladies don't have sense and this is the nagative reward they got.

A relationship that is not up too a year and you already allow him too dig you..

My sister reading this...assuming you have been denying him of sex for years now I am sure that he will still be glued with you till he even have no choice than too marry you.

My brother I swear if you leave that lady behind I swear you will negatively regret it...


You claimed you did not love and can't consider her marriage my brother love is like a house....you sacrifice More energy too build it too your teast. You can build love for her in your heart...open your mind..the reasons you are giving up on her is because she has given you what you wanted before..

You got a lady who loves you dearly as you claimed and you did not show her love in return

A lady got a man who loves her dearly and she will not show love in return. .
Wise up man

No leave that Bae.

ReLaTE:
A big mistake on your side and hurting her will be painful on both sides.
Don't start a long relationship wt a lady you are not going to marry simple.

That is exactly why he wants to stop it now.

dunsire:
Lyfe journey

Every day by day you meet up with wicked and heartless people.

You find a lady who has heartily obeying your order too the extent of giving you sex......sex......and sex...
I hate it when our ladies don't have sense and this is the nagative reward they got.

A relationship that is not up too a year and you already allow him too dig you..

My sister reading this...assuming you have been denying him of sex for years now I am sure that he will still be glued with you till he even have no choice than too marry you.

My brother I swear if you leave that lady behind I swear you will negatively regret it...


You claimed you did not love and can't consider her marriage my brother love is like a house....you sacrifice More energy too build it too your teast. You can build love for her in your heart...open your mind..the reasons you are giving up on her is because she has given you what you wanted before..

You got a lady who loves you dearly as you claimed and you did not show her love in return

A lady got a man who loves her dearly and she will not show love in return. .
Wise up man

No leave that Bae.

Stop this please! It is childish. Even married people break up. If he doesn't love her anymore it is better to break and engagement than to break a marriage.

HARDDON:



Did you read the part where she resisted him for so long he had to cocort crazy lies for her?

I'm very sure one of those lies is a Promise to marrying her. This must have gotten to her.


N hey, walking with your two eyes open doesn't guarantee wisdom. Infact you would be too easy to play on with you two wide eyes opened

@ op, there is no easy way to do it.

The more mild way would be to gently and steadily withdraw. Start avoiding her. If you were calling thrice a day before, reduce it to two, then 1 till you stop ( over a period of time) your presence must be totally unavaible.
I hope to God, she doesn't stay with


Never you, in your life, tell her to her face!

marriage at nineteen? She wanted him trust me