| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by aytuns(m): 6:30am On Jan 12, 2018 |
The guys are talking as though they haven't been in love before.. The pain is knife deep piercing.. Bro I feel your pain, I really do.. But like everyone has rightly said, you need to find a way to move on and pursue your dreams.. I hope you'll be able to love a woman again as much as you did this girl. I really hope so. Some women can make you so numb to love, it will almost ruin you emotionally. 1 Like |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Ishilove: 6:31am On Jan 12, 2018 |
alexistaiwo:
It is to early in the year to start treating relationship issues.
This is 2018.
Buy sense, if that fails.
Borrow sense, if that fails.
Pray for sense and if that fails.
Pretend to have sense.
LMAO 2 Likes |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Josephamstrong1(m): 6:31am On Jan 12, 2018 |
Online hook up again?
Son come here.
That first GIF is for you.
Now you may seat let's talk.
Come closer son, not gonna hit you. Just bring your ear.
(whispers in his ear) Son, double up! double up hustle. |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Josephamstrong1(m): 6:32am On Jan 12, 2018 |
Online hook up again? Son come here. That first GIF is for you. Now you may seat let's talk. Come closer son, not gonna hit you. Just bring your ears. Father: (whispers in his ear) Son, double up! Son: I don't understand. Father: Leave women for now. Go make the dough son. Son:    
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| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by HerXLNC(f): 6:32am On Jan 12, 2018 |
Omotaday:
You nailed it. Tell me the principles of keeping, babe I don't advise people to keep bae... She shd wait if she want to wait and go if she want to go.... If you impress her to marry you, you ll keep impressing her to stay in d marriage........ Feeling to be married shd be mutual 1 Like |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by DonroxyII: 6:39am On Jan 12, 2018 |
HerXLNC:
I don't advise people to keep bae... She shd wait if she want to wait and go if she want to go.... If you impress her to marry you, you ll keep impressing her to stay in d marriage........ Feeling to be married shd be mutual Mehn, I like ur sense oooo ..... with mentality like this, nobody can have heartbreak !!! |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Nobody: 6:43am On Jan 12, 2018 |
In love? Nah...I think it is just the idea of her that you are in love with and her lack of attention to you is attractive to you...you said yourself you are a very picky guy so you are mostly the one doing the rejections so now you are being rejected and you are crying? My advise, its a new year, focus your energy on more profitable things 1 Like |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Josephamstrong1(m): 6:43am On Jan 12, 2018 |
HerXLNC:
I don't advise people to keep bae... She shd wait if she want to wait and go if she want to go.... If you impress her to marry you, you ll keep impressing her to stay in d marriage........ Feeling to be married shd be mutual Implessed  1 Like |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by ashawopikin(m): 6:49am On Jan 12, 2018 |
hyperflex:
Lol I figured that could be but I already told her that.
My theory is that she has guys who r wanting same from her. I categorically asked her if she's dating anyone or fucking anyone n her answers were NO. Not like I expected she'd say Yes to that tho. So much for finding a woman who loves u while your a nobody. I love her I no go lie. Mans no go dey like this pass this year. Anyways thanx for being straight. oga u better focus on your hustle, of u want her its very simple, she may think u are not serious with your life, no girl will want to date a broke guy who stays with his cousin, if u atew serious go get a place of your own , DAT will be a sign to her u are serious |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by AreaFada2: 6:50am On Jan 12, 2018 |
Dude, the opinions you get here are pretty consistent. Move on. The lady needs a "generous" man. That means a made man. The hazard of her desire is that she will consistently fall for married men. Because in 9ja of today with so much youth unemployment, most youths are not well off to meet her needs. See her attitude as an inspiration to work hard and "blow" as you put it. It appears you have very little experience with ladies. You have met a lady only once and you already knew her "generous" ex-lover story. That should have prepared you for the scenario that followed. Love is not what it used to be. Instead of being blind, love now has an electron microscope.   1 Like |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by FromZeroToHero(m): 6:50am On Jan 12, 2018 |
GUY stop wasting your time pursuing shadow. She doesn't like you. just move on with your life. |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Airforce1(m): 6:52am On Jan 12, 2018 |
alexistaiwo:
It is to early in the year to start treating relationship issues.
This is 2018.
Buy sense, if that fails.
Borrow sense, if that fails.
Pray for sense and if that fails.
Pretend to have sense.
Man's not hot.
Never hot Mumu , Lol 1 Like |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by ashawopikin(m): 7:01am On Jan 12, 2018 |
RadicallyBlunt:
Both of you need sense rebranding and awakening from slumber. Instead of you to focus on how to stop living with ur cousin and be in a sound financial position where girls of different kind can search you out and it will be your turn to pick, you're there chasing a girl who is not willing to be yours.
She on d other hand is as picky as you are. If d two of you finish seeing all ur nakednness thru dating, what will be d next point of action for a picky gf...it will be to pick another man who appears appealing to her than you.
Somebody told you d reason she loved her ex was because he was very generous..is dat not enough for you to wake up from ur slumber? Some girls are looking for men who are faithfully loyal, a father figure and a lover of God, she dey find generous man and you sef out of ur poverty wan meet up with d standard of generous man
Yeye dey smell! your head dey dia |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by ashawopikin(m): 7:03am On Jan 12, 2018 |
pocohantas:
You're seriously making excuses for her.
Back-up boyfriend will fit you gaan. back up boyfriend wey no get money 1 Like |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by eyinjuege: 7:05am On Jan 12, 2018 |
You may not be sexually compatible... |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by fuckbmc: 7:06am On Jan 12, 2018 |
hyperflex:
Lol I figured that could be but I already told her that.
My theory is that she has guys who r wanting same from her. I categorically asked her if she's dating anyone or fucking anyone n her answers were NO. Not like I expected she'd say Yes to that tho. So much for finding a woman who loves u while your a nobody. I love her I no go lie. Mans no go dey like this pass this year. Anyways thanx for being straight. forget about her, whenever that a lady is done with you there's nothing you can do to change their mind. I knw it hurt but you will hurt yourself the more if you don't let her go 1 Like |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by ashawopikin(m): 7:09am On Jan 12, 2018 |
michlins:
I don't know why after reading this story, this phrase keeps ringing in my head.
If you no get money, hide your face 
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| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Mememan: 7:10am On Jan 12, 2018 |
hyperflex:
I'm a very picky guy. I have gone 2 - 3yrs without relationship but I got girls I call if I have to have sex. I have shied away from banging lagos girls anyhow. Anyway that's not the bone of contention.
I lost my job some years back and for the next years after I was trying to get back into the work force but I only met closed doors and rejection. So I have not been able to make much money to get some things done for myself. I decided to stay with a cousin who's got an apartment. Don't even ask if I have a car lol. Sometime in 2016 I decided to start my own entertainment brand. It's been lethargic because of funds by I am not losing focus. I'm trying to get sponsors. I don't want to mention name of the brand so tomorrow when it blows up someone won't come and cast me with this post. Lol
People are always asking for my girlfriend and for me I believe in being responsible and being able to cater and make your woman shine. If you can't make her better than you met her just leave her. So I stayed away from dating as I also have a soft heart when I fall in love. Other times I am indifferent. I don't just fall for anyone like I said I'm picky but once I pick I know I am in trouble because I will be weak for her.
I met this cute girl on twitter. She was so vibrant and happy. I mean a girl so cute with such high vibes. I felt strong about her immediately. Got her number, went on WhatsApp, chat and chat, WhatsApp videos. It was the best thing that happened to me at the time (September ending last year). She has her own hustle going. So she makes money for herself. As I got to know her I realised behind the big smiles and jovial nature is a girl who hides her fears and pains. You could hurt her and she'd act like it's nothing.
While I was toasting her (still toasting) she told me how her ex whos was very generous to her turned out to be a married man with kids and she only got to know when she went visiting him. I asked her what she did. She said she turned around and left. There n then I knew she internalised a lot.
In summary, we met only once. She came to where I stayed at my cousin's. We had this brief fling that day. After she left everything went south since then. The WhatsApp calls have reduced to nothing, she doesn't talk to me in what I think is a deliberate act to ignore me. She tells me she likes me, she comes up with excuses why our dating won't work. I keep nullifying it. I want to think it's a money thing. Her exes were made men with cars n all. I love her like my life depends on her. I feel I should let her be but my heart can't take it. I have taken advise from some places but I just wanna drop it here one time. I want her so bad. I don't think I could ever hurt her. I don't even wanna camp her or anything. I just want her to show me the girl I tripped for. I call her now she cuts me off with any excuse like she's eating and all that stuff girls do when they don't want a guy. I wanna forgot her but I think I still have a shot at this. I love her so much. Maybe I just need to find someone who cares but who? I think you know your problems. Goan and hustle poor boy |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by sircrabo: 7:22am On Jan 12, 2018 |
waywardpikin:
How can you think you still have a shot at this after what I just read? Bia nwoke, don't annoy me today.
You're not what the girl thought you'd be. Simple.
Chairman I have to be honest with you, your case is critical. The last thing you need right now is a woman. Come on, what are you gonna feed her with? Trip her with? Can you comfortably take her out to the cinema or to the the beach? Do you have an apartment of your own (we can excuse the car for now but you need to get you one of those)? Do you have a steady stream of income? Unless you find a girl that is willing to love you in your present condition, then OYO is your case.
I know as guys we don't like to hear this, but a man is not a man until he has figured out and set up his financial life properly. Especially in Obodo Nigeria.
You need to fix up your life bro. You don't need this emotional higi-haga right now. I know say one day you go make us proud, so focus on what is really important in your life's journey right now. The girl did nothing wrong. Neither did you.
I believe in you! True talk Broda, romance needs finance to blossom. Only very few girls will endure on the surface but deep down they want a comfortable guy. The OP should concentrate on his financial stability |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by humilitypays(m): 7:26am On Jan 12, 2018 |
aytuns:
The guys are talking as though they haven't been in love before.. The pain is knife deep piercing.. Bro I feel your pain, I really do.. But like everyone has rightly said, you need to find a way to move on and pursue your dreams.. I hope you'll be able to love a woman again as much as you did this girl. I really hope so. Some women can make you so numb to love, it will almost ruin you emotionally. he is not in love anything, he is in lust with her sexy shape and maybe fine face Believe me, he is lusting after her physical attraction because she maybe the finest chick he has ever gotten in his lifetime, but trust me, if he was financially buoyant eh, the girl won't trip him that much, u know broke guys fall in love easily with girls cos they hardly get fine chicks Let him use this energy and invest in his brand and other money making venture and once he is financially OK, finer chicks will sure come in plenty number for him to make choice  3 Likes |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Djbush: 7:27am On Jan 12, 2018 |
Your TOP priority for 2018 should be to be;
1. Get a job or something to do that will put money in your pockets
2. Get a house of your own and leave your cousins place.
Apart from that, you need to stop the habit of getting your girls through social media. I consider men who get their girls from social media to be weak. Sex should be the last thing on your mind if you are actually looking to nurture a serious relationships.
Lastly, don't misplace your priorities. |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by sircrabo: 7:41am On Jan 12, 2018 |
oshaosha2014:
Lol. I am reminded of a girl that told me she only wants friendship but she can never date me. She was blunt. And I had to be blunt too. No higi-haga like someone said. I told her all I wanted was to date her, not some stupid friendship where she'll be the only one benefitting. I don't beg to be loved. I told her if I can't date her, I don't want any useless friendship with her. case closed.
funny thing is, this gals use this "friendship" thing to make the relationship a one-way affair, where she's always asking for favours from you her friend, and leaving her boyfriend somewhere relaxing. you the mumu one will be answering to her needs hoping one day she'll consider you. bro, you are being used!!! Na so. They'll tell you how nice you are ,how they envy your GF and how they wish all guys can be like you just to keep you jonzing. You'll think you are almost there. Then start taxing you with sweet mouth. Friendzone is a bad place to be 1 Like |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by oma19(f): 7:51am On Jan 12, 2018 |
Did you tell her how u feel and what was her response,
Okay let's check from her own angle, u still struggling and how old is she. Her friends r dey to advice her
Bros tell her how u feel and that the relationship is long term that will lead to marriage. 1 Like |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Dindondin(m): 7:59am On Jan 12, 2018 |
kimbraa:
On coming to your cousin's place, and getting to know you better; she realised you weren't the dude she was projecting you to be_in essence, you're not her kind of man. It's best you let her be, though it hurts, but if you make up your mind to, you'll. So on point. But the Op's affection towards her presently ll not make him see that. I v been this situation before. Met a girl who was marriage ready. She told me her demands. We started dating. After one month, she came to my family house n later my house. Guess she became disappointed with my status. Though, I could v gotten a better apartment but I was saving for biz. Na so she waka go marry another man, claiming she found cheating msgs on my phone. So she thinks we may end up killing each other due to cheating. I was like Jesus, me wey I no sabi cheat. Later, I met a more pretty lady who grew with me till marriage & she's the one enjoying the labour of my hard work presently. hyperflex, read this. 1 Like |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by superstar21(f): 8:30am On Jan 12, 2018 |
hyperflex:
I'm a very picky guy. I have gone 2 - 3yrs without relationship but I got girls I call if I have to have sex. I have shied away from banging lagos girls anyhow. Anyway that's not the bone of contention.
I lost my job some years back and for the next years after I was trying to get back into the work force but I only met closed doors and rejection. So I have not been able to make much money to get some things done for myself. I decided to stay with a cousin who's got an apartment. Don't even ask if I have a car lol. Sometime in 2016 I decided to start my own entertainment brand. It's been lethargic because of funds by I am not losing focus. I'm trying to get sponsors. I don't want to mention name of the brand so tomorrow when it blows up someone won't come and cast me with this post. Lol
People are always asking for my girlfriend and for me I believe in being responsible and being able to cater and make your woman shine. If you can't make her better than you met her just leave her. So I stayed away from dating as I also have a soft heart when I fall in love. Other times I am indifferent. I don't just fall for anyone like I said I'm picky but once I pick I know I am in trouble because I will be weak for her.
I met this cute girl on twitter. She was so vibrant and happy. I mean a girl so cute with such high vibes. I felt strong about her immediately. Got her number, went on WhatsApp, chat and chat, WhatsApp videos. It was the best thing that happened to me at the time (September ending last year). She has her own hustle going. So she makes money for herself. As I got to know her I realised behind the big smiles and jovial nature is a girl who hides her fears and pains. You could hurt her and she'd act like it's nothing.
While I was toasting her (still toasting) she told me how her ex whos was very generous to her turned out to be a married man with kids and she only got to know when she went visiting him. I asked her what she did. She said she turned around and left. There n then I knew she internalised a lot.
In summary, we met only once. She came to where I stayed at my cousin's. We had this brief fling that day. After she left everything went south since then. The WhatsApp calls have reduced to nothing, she doesn't talk to me in what I think is a deliberate act to ignore me. She tells me she likes me, she comes up with excuses why our dating won't work. I keep nullifying it. I want to think it's a money thing. Her exes were made men with cars n all. I love her like my life depends on her. I feel I should let her be but my heart can't take it. I have taken advise from some places but I just wanna drop it here one time. I want her so bad. I don't think I could ever hurt her. I don't even wanna camp her or anything. I just want her to show me the girl I tripped for. I call her now she cuts me off with any excuse like she's eating and all that stuff girls do when they don't want a guy. I wanna forgot her but I think I still have a shot at this. I love her so much. Maybe I just need to find someone who cares but who? come make we date nah not shying away 1 Like |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by bejeria101(m): 8:31am On Jan 12, 2018 |
And what do you want me to do? |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by WHIZKIDEFE(m): 8:35am On Jan 12, 2018 |
See comments! Lwkmd.
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Dear Nairalanders, thanks for giving me a full dose of laughter when needed, it is not easy. Lol
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Op, work on yourself improvement(mentally, physically, financially and others'cially).
Be the best version of yourself and the right people will come to you.
Dat time na you go con dey select
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Don't take her action personal o cos even in the bible Job came before Romans. Lol
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Just take it as a motivation and improve yourself, who knows she might come around when everywhere don good but then, it will be your option to accept her
or
tell her to hide her face!
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| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by Nakai: 8:36am On Jan 12, 2018 |
How did u treat her when she came did u give her transport while going cos is very important cos some guys can be funny atimes........... 1 Like |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by hyperflex(m): 8:55am On Jan 12, 2018 |
I respect your opinion but I'd like to categorically tell u it wasn't the sex that intrigued me. But I understand your POV. desreek9:
I always advice people to ask about the previous relationship, what led to the breakup so as to know what to work on going forward, she clearly told you her ex was generous, that was a hint but you ignored and she saw that u stay with your cousin, that was a turn-off
She obviously excites you even after having sex which is rare for most to guys to admit but you dont excite and intrigue her even after sex which is rare for ladies cos after sex we become somehow attached.
So my advice, give her space, you've showed your intentions, if she doesnt budge, forget her. |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by hyperflex(m): 9:01am On Jan 12, 2018 |
My dear I do this. In fact she told me that's all I talk about most of the time that she doesn't wanna hear it. Even when she came she didn't wanna have any serious convo. She knows these things but I'm so sure someone is distracting her. I offered to give her money one time she was broke she declined. I bought her a small phone to assist in her biz, the phone is still wimme as I speak since November. I understand what everyone is saying. But I am in competition with some guys in her mind. It's frustrating for me but I feel I have to have some respect for myself n watch her from afar. oma19:
Did you tell her how u feel and what was her response,
Okay let's check from her own angle, u still struggling and how old is she. Her friends r dey to advice her
Bros tell her how u feel and that the relationship is long term that will lead to marriage. |
| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by hyperflex(m): 9:03am On Jan 12, 2018 |
Lol you're too kind. superstar21:
come qmake we date nah not shying away
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| Re: She Treats Me Like An Option, Maybe I Am. by hyperflex(m): 9:16am On Jan 12, 2018 |
First off, she declines any help from for whatever reason. This was last year. She was broke I offered to send her something she declined. One offer she accepted was that I get her a second phone to run her biz. The phone is still wimme. Ignores my mssgs. To man I have to see she has at least 50% interest at least. It's not even up to 50. Anyways thanks. A man knows what he must do. nefertitiram:
Have you told her how much you love her?
Invite her out for a date. You have to woo a woman. Sleeping with her on the first date made her feel belittled. She's actually not happy about the sex that ensured and she feels you want more sex from her. You need to show her what you feel is different. Which is where Nigerians men are seriously lacking. Time to unleash romance full scale.
Send her flowers
Pick her up from work
Take her out for a date
Buy her chocolates
Stop toasting her, start treating her like your woman
Stop acting like an option and man up. Valentines day is coming. Challenge yourself and make sure you engage her before then, if you love her so much |
