chukzyfcbb:


You are stupid but you just don't know it yet

tamethem:


And God knows you better start praying earnestly for a man who is not a woman beater because even if he knows how to cook it is not his duty to cook for you and if he does , its just a privilege that you must not abuse.

Any act of abusing the fact that he knows how to cook might eventually leave you with swollen cheeks and eyes.

Really God knows

Ladyhippolyta88:
Like I told the other guy not every man is like you and I don't associate with men who reason like you.I am a realist and not an idealist so I don't need fantasy.I repeat I won't marry a man who is not domestic and believe me I am not going to shiloh because I have them(guys) already who have met my requirements.

chrisviral:


It’s 2018.
We have long moved on from traditional gender roles (atleast the enlightened ones amongst us have)

Ayiibobo:
madam,do I look like I care about you having them or not?,..and if you are indeed a realist then you will understand why I said what you are looking for is mere fantasy,..unless you are looking to settle down with a jobless/sit at home husband....I'm not fighting you,just waking you up from dreamland

MhizzAJ:
God knows i can't get married to any man that doesn't know how to cook and do some basic chores

Ladyhippolyta88:
I am not dreaming the men around me are not like that so it is your fantasy world not mine and if you didn't care then why call it a fantasy.It is not a mere fantasy to you it is but not to me in my own little world I can see clearly.

Ayiibobo:
I called it a fantasy because it's a fantasy,....men around you is deferent from you getting married to one,..what you are dragging is common sense,a hard working/busy man will never have time for domestic chores.... The only way your fantasy can come through is if you get married to a sit at home husband,or you get married to an oyinbo man in a foreign land,..but here in naija where the hustle is real,wanting a domestic man is like saying spiderman is real

Raiyell:
May God protect my sisters and all the women in my life from irresponsible men such as this OP

Ladyhippolyta88:
The last time I checked it is my life not yours I want a domestic husband,I am also domestic and we would both work.I would not do all the work in the house he MUST assist and we would both be working if that is a fantasy to you so be it as for me it is my reality.I am also a hardworking and smartworking lady so your argument holds no water because I do not go with the school of thought that it is only a man that provides.

solasoulmusic:
Your wife was highly insensitive in this case and sorry to hear that communicate what uspsets you and resume eating for peace sake I will stop everything I’m doing if someone I love is hungry why did she forget the ring though she may be two timing

Ladyhippolyta88:
Your portion.

Wristler:


What domestic roles exactly do you envisage your "expected" husband carry out?

I hope the guys around you/your expected husband is your contemporary in all ramifications and age mate. Even at that, I think what you wish for is some Chewing gum guy or some soft teddy.

Orthodoxically, it's an ideal man's choice to make, not you saying what you want your husband to be, except of course, you are his husband.

olabrad:



Who did I quote and who is replying me?

Some idiots on this forum are so stupid to put their stinky shiiit mouth into what never concerns them. What manner of idiocy and thoughtlessness.

Ladyhippolyta88:
The last time I checked it is my life not yours I want a domestic husband,I am also domestic and we would both work.I would not do all the work in the house he MUST assist and we would both be working if that is a fantasy to you so be it as for me it is my reality.I am also a hardworking and smartworking lady so your argument holds no water because I do not go with the school of thought that it is only a man that provides.

Wristler:


What domestic roles exactly do you envisage your "expected" husband carry out?

I hope the guys around you/your expected husband is your contemporary in all ramifications and age mate. Even at that, I think what you wish for is some Chewing gum guy or some soft teddy.

Orthodoxically, it's an ideal man's choice to make, not you saying what you want your husband to be, except of course, you are his husband.

Ayiibobo:
there are some realities you don't need to spill out on platforms like this, not all women here seeing your posts are as smart or calculative as you claim you are,....the imitation of the fantasy you are spilling here might be a disaster for women that are not feminists like u.....

Lush100:

pls do not advise her further,
there are goals &there are realistic goals.
sir, u should know that u are not talking to a married lady,
pls
let her be,

Ladyhippolyta88:
This is the 21st century and I have every right to make my own choices and my husband's domesticity is in all areas of household chores.Call him a chewing gum guy I am not looking for an ideal man.I would make decisions as well.

Wristler:
I wish you just what you wish for... All the best

MhizzAJ:
God knows i can't get married to any man that doesn't know how to cook and do some basic chores

fhutson500:
Nlanders,

Good afternoon all, something happened of recent I thought I should make it known here. I work from home, cos my wife runs a daycare, though she's got two Nannies that work with her which means she gets to work at anytime she wants at times.

This fateful morning, I had gone to drop the kids @school and branched at the carwash to wash the car, on getting there, she called me that she needs to leave home to meet up the nanny and assist at the daycare cos the other nanny has not arrived, I said can you quickly make something for me to eat b4 u leave, she
said time has gone that she wont be able to do that, being a very understanding and considerate husband, I said she could leave, that I'll sort myself.

In fact she was so much in a rush that she had to leave our maid that follows her from home to work @ home cos the lady was still in the bathroom like she told me. It wasn't up to 10mins, maybe she forgot oo, she said there is traffic jam on the road, that it seems that fuel scarcity is looming again due to queue, asking me if that was the case, Instead of answering her question, I asked where she was going, because that wasn't the way to the daycare she claimed she was heading to. She said she wants to go and pick her internet modem she forgot @ fcmb bank. I was like, but you left due to the fact that you wanted to assist the only nanny with the kids @ daycare, how come modem is more important than that or the food I begged you to make b4 u left, she said well I just have to go there now before her modem vanishes, I said no P.

At that time, I was back home and was really hungry, am the type that makes food, but the hustle in January was hella much, the motive of having to do anything was greatly paralytic, I take care of all the bills, so I understand what am talking about, body nor be fire wood. So i called her later on to ask if she can come home to quickly make the food, work place to home is like 5 mins drive, she said she's been stuck in traffic that she would need to head back to the creche since she didn't go there at first, I was like no P.

10 mins later, I called to ask her something, she apparently was in a noisy environment, I was like, aren't u back at the daycare, she was like NO, I quickly branched at the market to buy something, in which Market wasn't even far from home, like 2 mins, at that moment, I was so angry, so I flared up, I told her 'but why are u doing this", all along the reason u left the house has not been met to the detriment of the hunger am going through now, I was like u know what don't bother, will sort myself, and she was like no P.

However, she had left her wedding band on the room table, though we both agreed that whenever she forgets her ring, she would have to come back home to pick it, so I quickly used the ring as opportunity to trick her home, I was like come and pick ur ring, u have forgotten it again, she was like no oo, she cant, I was like have u forgotten our agreement, I said just come home and pick it. 4 mins later, she bashed in, started yelling, I am sure its because of trust u have enforced me to come home and pick the ring, blah blah blah, at the worms in my stomach were doing takwando training at the moment, I just kept quiet, she tried to abusively hold my head acting like she wanted to pet me, I withdrew, next thing, she just hissed and left, saying I am not even picking the ring, you can do your worse. From that day, I have decided not to eat her food, 2nd reason I am posting this is regarding this thread below:

https://www.nairaland.com/1307880/not-eating-wife-food-punishment

Is my situation legitimate enough to deny her food? Cos it seems a lot of people are against refusal of wifey food no matter the situation, but i feel the situation here is different. Plus she has been remorseless about the situation, and 7 years already into this union, we have been battling the issue of her responsibility on food from day 1, old problem that I feel should have expired, so we can work on new probs. Brothers and sisters, your 10kobo is needed.