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Ahmiee:
how would you understan. always quick to quote, just so you know i dont cheat in relationship not cuss i dnt have options. nop buh cuss ive self respect for myself. just saying is only someone thats doing the same thing will be quick to check to make sure u dont beat em to their own game. cheating is too stressin, i rather have my phone with me not wen u randomly go through my phone hoping to find something. or even check my call log asking me whos this?? are u madt boyfren oo. like how much did u pay for my head your claiming ownership so the little im giving u . u wanto form landlord nonsense

Take your time to read what the OP wrote.

He narrated how he caught the lady with another man.

So,why all these,"I do this,I do that"?

This isn't about checking of messages...

MhizzAJ:
Why did you go thru her messages....Bad habit

It's natural to be curious about what your girlfriend is up to but privacy in a relationship is very important but if you suspect something is up,its fine to ask your girlfriend about it instead of going thru her messages or better still take permission from her before reading her messages

I don't see myself being in a relationship with someone that doesn't trust me or someone that feels i have something to do with other guys all the time

You strike me like a very weak guy plus you are so untrustworthy...Deal with the outcome of your actions...I care less

I'm beginning todislike you...you just jump into discussions without thinking. How old are you sef. Wtf wit trust here..... pls just grow up and stop meddling with matured ppls biz. You are not being realistic at all. He should ask her and she would confess abi.....I'm sorry baby I fucck my family friend I love his dick bla bla.... ur brain dey pain you fa... you strike me as a very infidel lass

sangresan:
Take your time to read what the OP wrote.
He narrated how he caught the lady with another man.
So,why all these,"I do this,I do that"?
This isn't about checking of messages...

pls just stop quoting me

CHAIRMANMAO:
hardly you will find a gal that is so loyal these days few that her still loyal are the virgin ones that are scared to get laid cause they dont wanna be pregnant "mummy's gal" so my 1 cent, dont love too much in a relationship so that you wouldnt get too hurt when shit happens.

Please where did u get this ur dirty ideology from?? Sorry I'm cursing already but I'm just upset by this statement... There are still ladies with standards out der, mayb u have been meeting the wrong ones. The truth is there are still faithful ladies out der but rare Cs of the society we now live in, so the faithful ones are money's girl now? Hian please change your mindset. Being faithful and true is a choice and it has nothing to do with being a mommy or daddy's girl. Throughout my years of dating, I have never for once cheated and I don't intend to Cs My Man gives me a lot of reasons not to and even if he decides to stop giving me reasons to be faithful, I'd still be Cs this is who I am and nothing/no one can change my lifestyle

IamZod:
Splendidly spoken.
I learnt this the hard way.

There's nothing splendid spoken about this, don't be deceived by another man's blindness... there's are still faithful ladies out der, just be positive but the question is are you faithful?? Cs u can't be expecting someone to be faithful when u are not. All the best!

MhizzAJ:
It isn't just cool...I dislike people with such attitude

Maybe there's nothing really exciting about the guy in question
He might just be a boring guy with nothing to offer for all i care

But why keep a guy you don't want around you?

If nothing is exciting about the other party, then let the person go. The lies and coverups ain't worth it.

Suspicion led him to check her phone. Nearly everyone who genuinely cares would want to investigate. He wanted more in the relationship but she was neither willing to give more nor let go.

It's just like wanting to be awake and asleep at the same time.

Dreydoe:
I sha no dt mentality

Na bad market.. I pray I never end up with somebody wit ds mentality.

Amin

You allowed yourself to be used. Such is life. Don't tell her what you saw. Just withdraw gradually

I like NL guys ehn, they can form bado .... all these guys running their mouth saying I don't check her fone, I don't trust a woman , I can't love a girl... sorry to say but u are not in a relationship, it's a contract Cs Love does not have Rules!!! For love you can do anything, I mean anything!!! It's only love that can make someone see Red and call it Blue! Never blame anyone in love because at that point the person can do anything, only the Holy Spirit can direct you and keep your senses alert while in love. If you don't have the Holy Spirit, u can drink acid for love sef. Una never Start!!! never be ashamed to say u are in love, I'm talking to the men in the house not the boys, shout it, scream it, you might fail a thousand times in it but when u finally see the right one, u'd be glad the others failed. Love is a beautiful Experience, Fall in Love

Finally OP, the girl might love you oo, but she just wants to keep her options open so don't blame her like dat, considering the Kind of Men we have these days. I don't support doubledatiing Cs I don't do it but still der are ppl (even mothers) that advise we the young ones, to not date one man, i didn't say sleep with more than one man. That was where ur ex got it wrong Cs when u start sleeping with more than 1 man, u are a slut and I'm not comfortable with dat. Even premarital sex is not allowed how much more doing it with more than one partner. So take heart, it's one of those things, this breakup will work out for your Good, All the best!

thrillOG:
Edakun Please pardon my blunders oo...I just had to pour out my happening so i can move on..

She served in PH, and stayed a little longer after service year to gain working experience.

We met in Jan 2017 after she got back to Lagos and became friends, every time I ask about her relationship status, she'll tell me she had a briefed one there and they stop talking as the guy is the busy type who works with an oil and gas firm.

She setup up a business and I help with ERP Software and we became attached.
I noticed she's usually lonely and in thoughts, I'll call her everyday and make her feel loved and that was how we started.
I ditch my current girl, snubs my niggas just to impart the missing Love.

Everything seems awesome and the dream seemly becoming reality, until I noticed one traits..'Her WhatsApp status is usually ONLINE at odd hours'.

I complained many times but the excuses are 'I have sleep disorder'. And she's met with different Therapist to no avail..I took that with a pinch of salt and I was watchful..

One day, we had plans to meet, and I called her I was still busy with a Client and don't think I can come over that night unknown to her, i was on my way..I arrived 40 minutes later and found out someone was with her. She opened the door and dashed to the lavatory.

I saw the guy was so uncomfortable and I left, minutes later she was calling begging to please come back and I did after discovering she was sobering up and just to hear her out; ' He was a Family Friend, he had issues with business and blah blah blah blah.. I took that cuz I Love her, I understand they've been together before I came into the picture.

The midnight WhatsApp Online status continues and I was curious to find out who she usually chats with at that time.

One day(Yesterday) I was with her and after some romantic discussions, I told her I needed to check Fiverr for some approval and I'll love to use her phone as my phone battery has drained(that's the scope I used), she ask that I use my Laptop and I told her the battery is low, she wanted to put on Generator and I said 'why can't I check the internet with my girl's phone??.

I collected it, and scroll through her WhatsApp and there, I got the greatest shock of my Life...

My girl wanted more of 'Mr Family Friend' d*ck than every other thing in her life.. How they've been fvcking and how she wanted it right now now..

Another shock of my life was when I was scrolling up..I saw where my girl was telling him that he should come and deal with the stupid computer boy(me) as he's disturbing Mr FF girl oo, she said she's tired of computer's boy disturbances and he reply, 'give me his number lemme curse him..

Èmi Computer boy

Peeps, not only that chat oo, I saw many different amorous Convo's from some other guys she told me was her cousins, church members and friends that has got me in thought since yday...
I have never checked her phone before in our 1year Plus relationship... I was happy I did that yday and thank God I did..

nko to ju n wa lo ju ri

wat d eyes is finding is what the eyes will see

Stup1d mumu, wuss ass of a boy, whats your business with her whatsapp status... What are men turning to nowadays? I guess your balls have been castrated to be thinking with your ass

Dreydoe:
and sum people will come and cari deir yeye mouth and tell me .. I av trust issues!

Truth be told..I can be fooled easily sef as long as you dont start acting out buh its not gona be a walkthrough
Cus am very observant to d last detail When am really into someone. At ds stage of my Life... I no want any corner corner girl.. I no get tym 4 games... Just imagine d wife issue..u posted. Chai


To all the single dudes out dere..we need to b very very careful wit d gurls we wana marry and hell yeah. I dont even want my babies coming out from no hoe... If we are together den we are together and if not..let me know

And if its all games let me know.. My life simple.

Life / Nigerian is hard enough for somebody - Dan to now start fucking up one emotionally again.

when your woman starts cheating on u the signs always show.its just dat most of we guys are too blind to see it. Her inability to tell u where she is when u call her, her sneaky calls,refusal to get close with u at times...etc all these are some of the signs. When u see any suspicious act coming from her its better u make up ur mind in making her a side chick instead of complaining to her about her attitude. If u complain,they will accuse u of bein too possessive...so don't complain.

itsmeurLady:
I like NL guys ehn, they can form bado .... all these guys running their mouth saying I don't check her fone, I don't trust a woman , I can't love a girl... sorry to say but u are not in a relationship, it's a contract Cs Love does not have Rules!!! For love you can do anything, I mean anything!!! It's only love that can make someone see Red and call it Blue! Never blame anyone in love because at that point the person can do anything, only the Holy Spirit can direct you and keep your senses alert while in love. If you don't have the Holy Spirit, u can drink acid for love sef. Una never Start!!! never be ashamed to say u are in love, I'm talking to the men in the house not the boys, shout it, scream it, you might fail a thousand times in it but when u finally see the right one, u'd be glad the others failed. Love is a beautiful Experience, Fall in Love

Finally OP, the girl might love you oo, but she just wants to keep her options open so don't blame her like dat, considering the Kind of Men we have these days. I don't support doubledatiing Cs I don't do it but still der are ppl (even mothers) that advise we the young ones, to not date one man, i didn't say sleep with more than one man. That was where ur ex got it wrong Cs when u start sleeping with more than 1 man, u are a slut and I'm not comfortable with dat. Even premarital sex is not allowed how much more doing it with more than one partner. So take heart, it's one of those things, this breakup will work out for your Good, All the best!

there was this gentleman that taught me when i was in jss2. He died of hypertension cos of his wife's infidelity. Not only was she sleeping around she also gave the man hell. The man collapsed and died when he was washing his car.this happened 4 yrs ago. If love go turn me to a corpse biko i no get hand for dat type of love.dat na endtime love.

Dreydoe:
What are intimacy gadgets for? Definitely e go dey find ow to squeeze cum satisfy your needs once in a whike..im body sef no b wood..

Buh in sum situations a serious relationship
And d dude wan go Yankee small -and im even do marriage for u b4 leaving ..just to show u how really committed .. He dey..

Anybody with ds kind of ur mentality can never be faithful.

This kind mentality. I repeat na Bad wife material..

hmmm! U planning to travel out of the country and u keeping a wife or fiancee in naija?. Bros dats very very very risky.

emijo:
Why must u check ur galfriends chats with other guys?
Do you want to die young?
I have been dating my gal for over 4 years and I have never tried going through her chats because I know that if I go through it I may die in the process.

Lol

MhizzAJ:
Why did you go thru her messages....Bad habit

It's natural to be curious about what your girlfriend is up to but privacy in a relationship is very important but if you suspect something is up,its fine to ask your girlfriend about it instead of going thru her messages or better still take permission from her before reading her messages

I don't see myself being in a relationship with someone that doesn't trust me or someone that feels i have something to do with other guys all the time

You strike me like a very weak guy plus you are so untrustworthy...Deal with the outcome of your actions...I care less

E b like say ur brain dey shake or u no read all him questions?

Nothing women does this days surprises me

MhizzAJ:
Why did you go thru her messages....Bad habit

It's natural to be curious about what your girlfriend is up to but privacy in a relationship is very important but if you suspect something is up,its fine to ask your girlfriend about it instead of going thru her messages or better still take permission from her before reading her messages

I don't see myself being in a relationship with someone that doesn't trust me or someone that feels i have something to do with other guys all the time

You strike me like a very weak guy plus you are so untrustworthy...Deal with the outcome of your actions...I care less

so a girl cheating on u an calling u stupid names to another guy will willingly give u her phone to check if you ask fo permission abi? or I u ask her directly she will immediately admit that she cheating right? I'm surprised at you reasoning o.

brightalo17:
Where is my bingo ? listen bingo be fast .

You lame and weak ass. If you think all these kidiot replies would give me problem, you must be fuçkingly stupid than your generation. I pity your life.

MhizzAJ:
Why did you go thru her messages....Bad habit

It's natural to be curious about what your girlfriend is up to but privacy in a relationship is very important but if you suspect something is up,its fine to ask your girlfriend about it instead of going thru her messages or better still take permission from her before reading her messages

I don't see myself being in a relationship with someone that doesn't trust me or someone that feels i have something to do with other guys all the time

You strike me like a very weak guy plus you are so untrustworthy...Deal with the outcome of your actions...I care less

Very dumb reply!

ogorwyne:
Go and sit your ass down. You serious at all? So he should have remained in the dark ba? He saw a clue (she was always online at odd hours, nor be once or twice but always) and I'm glad he acted. You just took time to type rubbish. I hate deceivers, and time wasters.

So u expected his cheating partner to just tell him that she's been two timing simply because he asked? Na which cheat go give u e phone willingly to read message? I should have said more but laziness nor let me type.

Op count ur loss and move on. The girl you ditched for her did too.

had to constantly reassure myself twas a Bea that typed this wisdom
u have d mental strength of ur dad!

and u come fine join. u na dstv premium (full package)

MhizzAJ:
Why did you go thru her messages....Bad habit

It's natural to be curious about what your girlfriend is up to but privacy in a relationship is very important but if you suspect something is up,its fine to ask your girlfriend about it instead of going thru her messages or better still take permission from her before reading her messages

I don't see myself being in a relationship with someone that doesn't trust me or someone that feels i have something to do with other guys all the time

You strike me like a very weak guy plus you are so untrustworthy...Deal with the outcome of your actions...I care less

Hmmm we know them you one of them change your way now

MhizzAJ:
Why did you go thru her messages....Bad habit

It's natural to be curious about what your girlfriend is up to but privacy in a relationship is very important but if you suspect something is up,its fine to ask your girlfriend about it instead of going thru her messages or better still take permission from her before reading her messages

I don't see myself being in a relationship with someone that doesn't trust me or someone that feels i have something to do with other guys all the time

You strike me like a very weak guy plus you are so untrustworthy...Deal with the outcome of your actions...I care less

Do you just comment on a thread without your reasoning faculty? Your post is not making sense. It's not a must to make a post if you have nothing good to comment on. Can you imagine?

Ahmiee:
not wen u randomly go through my phone hoping to find something. or even check my call log asking me whos this?? are u madt boyfren oo. like how much did u pay for my head your claiming ownership so the little im giving u . u wanto form landlord nonsense

Yeah, I think I can relate to that. Sometimes love comes with this possessiveness that tends to make us feel like we own the person, but that's just plain neediness and obsession. We need to learn to respect the privacy and personal spaces of the people we love. Even in love there should be boundaries. We don't wake up one day then choose to change a person and their social circle just cos they say they love us. I guess it takes a level of emotional maturity to love but be outcome independent.

PS: They say a woman's heart is like the ocean, so for us guys to think a girl's deepest secrets lies somewhere on some phone is just being naïve.

is good to know ur type is still in existence....there are freelance hoZ who don't want to be seen as prostitute..they prostitute with their integrity intact...no vex oh mhizz AJa NA one of them u be?

MhizzAJ:
Why did you go thru her messages....Bad habit

It's natural to be curious about what your girlfriend is up to but privacy in a relationship is very important but if you suspect something is up,its fine to ask your girlfriend about it instead of going thru her messages or better still take permission from her before reading her messages

I don't see myself being in a relationship with someone that doesn't trust me or someone that feels i have something to do with other guys all the time

You strike me like a very weak guy plus you are so untrustworthy...Deal with the outcome of your actions...I care less

thrillOG:
I saw this, I pass...



Oh well I believe you took out time to emphasize your objections..yea I'm cool with that..
I stated, that I caught her with another guy...hmm maybe I didn't go deeper into details, they were having sex when I came around, and she quickly dashed to the lavatory.. She apologize and I took it..
I don't know what trust you wanted me to have on such a person.. Perhaps i understand why you're being so defensive.. Maybe you're just her type anyways.. I pity the nigga digging you.

Excise me! Did I hear you right??

You saw your babe being screwed by another man like you and you let it slide cos she called you back and cried??

You be really computer boy. NERD!

I'm sure you also wear those big bottle glasses. Lolz

You couldn't do anything to ur babe and the man you caught but you are here being tuff.

Abeg, go sitdon for one corner for that side.

izaray:
They are coming for you babe

& how is their "coming" going to cause a sudden increase to her bank account balance?

They can come and go if they like, its her opinion and she's entittled to it.

Haba na, abeg pity the indomie brain na, your Reply is EPIC

marvin906:
why is your life like this self..
you and edo state road i dont know which is better

Ahmiee:
so true dear had the same problem in my relationship. i was never cheating, buh he has this habit of going through my phone which i find childish. like we aint married u doing all that. is best u ask instead of being curious

na so.

Hope you read the op's story first sha?

MhizzAJ:
Why did you go thru her messages....Bad habit

It's natural to be curious about what your girlfriend is up to but privacy in a relationship is very important but if you suspect something is up,its fine to ask your girlfriend about it instead of going thru her messages or better still take permission from her before reading her messages

I don't see myself being in a relationship with someone that doesn't trust me or someone that feels i have something to do with other guys all the time

You strike me like a very weak guy plus you are so untrustworthy...Deal with the outcome of your actions...I care less

Shut Da F*ck Up! You sound like a cheat. Ur man will be trusting you while you Bleep around and back stab him?

MhizzAJ:
It isn't just cool...I dislike people with such attitude

Maybe there's nothing really exciting about the guy in question
He might just be a boring guy with nothing to offer for all i care

It's crazy how dumb girls always want to control weak guys into circus clowns under the guise of "Oh!he Is boring"...

So what the f**k if he is boring?. And I see a lot of weak guys turn themselves into monkey clowns just to seem interesting to girls. I never do that. I matured into understanding that for every girl with whatever default attitude you come with whether Boring or Exciting. You have a girl that fits in for you. Never be a Monkey clown for any girl. Be the man and you will see how these girls will crawl up to you even with that Boring introverted mode.

My only annoyance was OP, you checked her phone which she didn't want you to check before because she knew she was guilty and you acted like a pussy man by giving her that satisfaction when you stormed out in annoyance. You should have played it cool and acted like you saw nothing while scheming out how to play her back exactly same way she played you like a Jonzing mumu boy...

MhizzAJ:
Why did you go thru her messages....Bad habit

It's natural to be curious about what your girlfriend is up to but privacy in a relationship is very important but if you suspect something is up,its fine to ask your girlfriend about it instead of going thru her messages or better still take permission from her before reading her messages

I don't see myself being in a relationship with someone that doesn't trust me or someone that feels i have something to do with other guys all the time

You strike me like a very weak guy plus you are so untrustworthy...Deal with the outcome of your actions...I care less

Women like you must be avoided at all cost. I hope your relationship rots. Thats even if you got one