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UDUJ:
Okay TheUpsetGirl1 let me give you some inkling as to why most guys are scared of marriage:

Basically it could be the reason of independent decision making which is generally curbed after marriage.
A lot of responsibilities , tension ,anxiety creeps in to your mind as you have to make sure you handle everything efficiently which may lead to several health problems thereby decreasing your life span.

Men love to be carefree , absolutely free to do whatever they love to do , which is not possible after marriage for we become tied to our family and its members.

Also many a times there are chances of arguments, quarrels and domestic violence on account of mismatch of ideas, misunderstanding, clash of opinions, etc which disrupts the smooth running of life.

Life is short with an uncertain duration and no one knows what is going to happen with him in the next birth, so he wants to enjoy everything he wants to in this birth itself and tries to avoid marriage as much as possible.

Most of us view Marriage as a Mirage. Peace of mind goes after few days .You feel bonded ,and fall in a dilemma which you cannot share with anyone .

Your personality is shared , you loose your privacy .If your views are not common you develop contradictions.

If your mother develops contradiction with your wife there is another headache. If your wife has some male friend and you are not open minded you develop another psychological dilemma with what to do or not to do. If u have a female friend and you don’t tell your wife you have a guilty feeling and if your wife gets to know 95% of time her reaction will be negative.

If your wife does not conceive you become worried, if she becomes pregnant you remain worried till delivery. After delivery if your child has some handicap your whole life becomes hell. You worry about the family, the future, societal pressures to meet up etc etc.

The truth is, most of us feel this way when we have doubts about the partnership (who we are bonding for life with). Once there are no doubts we jump headfirst into marriage without thinking. We listen to no one and follow our hearts and the heart never fails. That's how you know you've found the right one. But the possibility of finding the right one these days is getting smaller and smaller sadly

koyyes:
How about the fact that:

1. Most of them are not well bred. They lack basic responsibilities that a normal human being must be taught like how to respect your elders, how to respect women, how to take care of yourself and environment, how to show courtesy outside the home. Most males are raised to reason and act like animals. How on earth can they cope in marriage?

2. They are not given proper orientation of marriage neither are they raised to look forward to it just like the females. Because of this, they do not value marriage and the vows that comes with it as do the females.

3. They have a misguided sense of self entitlement. This has led many into thinking they are scarce commodities so therefore, they can linger around doing nothing while they have 1-7 women feeding and clothing them.

4. Most males are victims or witnesses of domestic violence. This is one of the reasons why a lot of males do not have a good relationship with their fathers who should have been a good role model to them. little wonder the young men think they would be horrible fathers. And yes, a lot of them end up repeating the virtuous circle.

Look around you, males are everywhere but very few of them are man enough to embrace the responsibilities that comes with marriage.

Thegeneralqueen:
Nigerian men are becoming lazy, just check out years past when they're being known to work hard and cater for their families.....but these days they don't want to work hard like their fathers did they're always after what the lady will contribute to the family forgetting that they're the head of the family and it's their duties to satisfy the needs of their wives.....bunch of lazy yahoo yahoo goat

TheUpsetGirl1:
what responsibilities?

Thegeneralqueen:
Nigerian men are becoming lazy, just check out years past when they're being known to work hard and cater for their families.....but these days they don't want to work hard like their fathers did they're always after what the lady will contribute to the family forgetting that they're the head of the family and it's their duties to satisfy the needs of their wives.....bunch of lazy yahoo yahoo goat

Thegeneralqueen:
Nigerian men are becoming lazy, just check out years past when they're being known to work hard and cater for their families.....but these days they don't want to work hard like their fathers did they're always after what the lady will contribute to the family forgetting that they're the head of the family and it's their duties to satisfy the needs of their wives.....bunch of lazy yahoo yahoo goat

Thegeneralqueen:
I tell you I'm always honest when it comes to relationships better be single than date a broke guy...




Girl where have you been deadrat thought because you do buy him pop corn he has the right to talk to me the way he likes dude got more than what he bargained for yesterday

koyyes:
To keep loving, to provide and to protect. Any other falls under these three.

TheUpsetGirl1:
When it comes to romance, Nigerian men are known to be actively engaging. Apart from their culture of carrying the financial burden of relationship with women, they harness every opportunity to appeal to their lovers, be it on social-network sites, in their respective offices, religious organizations, clubs among others.
Now I'm going to list 6 reasons why Nigerian men run from marriage.....

3. Nigeria weddings are expensive
In a country where a man is expected to marry a woman in three different kinds of wedding- Religious, Traditional and Court, the cost of marriage no doubt is something men find very intimidating. Presently the average Nigeria wedding cost something like N700,000 and the it goes upward from that to more unimaginable cost.

4. In search of a ‘working class’
Today, most Nigerian men are in search of a wife capable of sharing financial responsibilities with them. Gone are the days when men marry ‘full-house-wives’, the increasing cost of living has tilted most men in favor of ladies who have a means of livelihood and willing to share with their man, the burden of building a home.

johnkey:
when I'm toasting a girl all I think of is getting between her legs, not sure they can offer anything else than sex hmm.

reuben79:
(1)no wife materials...........no responsible man in Nigeria will marry person like cece

laudate:
Number 3 - Nigerian weddings don't have to be expensive, if you and your potential spouse can sit down to agree on how to cut costs, prune your wish list and streamline your desires. Do a small traditional introduction/engagement in the bride's father's parlour, involving only immediate family members, and not more than 5 people, from the extended family. Remove alcohol or wine & beer, from the drinks list. Serve your guests only rice & chicken. Nothing more. Following day, march into the registry to sign the dotted lines. From there, pack into your husband's house. Wetin remain?

Number 4 - Forget that hype about searching for working class ladies. Those working class ladies full banks, telcos and multinationals, but most of them are still 'happily' single, with the Ms. prefix, firmly in front of their names, despite all their efforts to shift it. Many have even joined the senior singles club. So what is the hype about working class ladies? It is just an excuse some guys use to dodge matrimony. Ok, if working class ladies were in such high demand, how come many of them are still single?

TheUpsetGirl1:
sorry, you made no sense.

laudate:
Yeah...it probably doesn't make sense to you, because you would actually need an IQ of some sort, to understand what was written, and it appears you lack one.

TheUpsetGirl1:
Sorry ,I don't deal with minors.

I didn't tell you to quote my post.
quote your useless life

Thegeneralqueen:
Nigerian men are becoming lazy, just check out years past when they're being known to work hard and cater for their families.....but these days they don't want to work hard like their fathers did they're always after what the lady will contribute to the family forgetting that they're the head of the family and it's their duties to satisfy the needs of their wives.....bunch of lazy yahoo yahoo goat

Thegeneralqueen:
Awww good morning darling
Still can't believe how I overcome mine in 2016 so stressful glad I'm done with it




Deadrat seems to have forgotten that he's talking to the general queen he got so carried away by hungry and starts calling me names thinking I'm like you that do buys him pop corn but he got it on a hard row made sure I dealt with him

laudate:
Isn't that the only thing you are offering them, too?

TheUpsetGirl1:
most ladies come with too many problems.
immediately you get married, the responsibilities become too much. The worst thing is some women aren't helping matters.
Any lady who can't help with those stuffs you listed isn't fit for marriage.

Thegeneralqueen:
Nigerian men are becoming lazy, just check out years past when they're being known to work hard and cater for their families.....but these days they don't want to work hard like their fathers did they're always after what the lady will contribute to the family forgetting that they're the head of the family and it's their duties to satisfy the needs of their wives.....bunch of lazy yahoo yahoo goat

lestat:
While you made some sounds points you didn't have to end it in such an uncouth manner

Nuff said

TheUpsetGirl1:
Nigerian guys are tired of the "head of the home" title..

father lawd...

IamD18:
As usual, not surprised, foolish girls who can't even wash their pant will always quote me and run on this forum whenever they realize their foolishness.

She said men won't go round asking what a woman can offer, but her little fish brain couldn't allow her ask herself if women will go around asking men what they want.

A simple question that was asked, got her pained, upset, annoyed and disturbed.

Well, what do I expect, when the only thing you can offer is your smelling pussy to the society, why won't you be angry with my question.

C'omon will you get out of here!

Dummy!

TheUpsetGirl1:
what responsibilities?

Thegeneralqueen:
Who knows you never can tell what this broke guys are up to

TheUpsetGirl1:
When it comes to romance, Nigerian men are known to be actively engaging. Apart from their culture of carrying the financial burden of relationship with women, they harness every opportunity to appeal to their lovers, be it on social-network sites, in their respective offices, religious organizations, clubs among others.
Now I'm going to list 6 reasons why Nigerian men run from marriage


1. No wife materials
Common among some men is the reservation that there is scarcity of ‘wife-materials’ in Nigeria.

2. They get sex freely without marriage than in time past
Realizing now that they can get sex more easily than in times past, when ‘virginity’ for women was a pass value to marriage, some men now feel lot of women today have lost it when it comes to keeping themselves whole.

3. Nigeria weddings are expensive

In a country where a man is expected to marry a woman in three different kinds of wedding- Religious, Traditional and Court, the cost of marriage no doubt is something men find very intimidating. Presently the average Nigeria wedding cost something like N700,000 and the it goes upward from that to more unimaginable cost.

4. In search of a ‘working class’
Today, most Nigerian men are in search of a wife capable of sharing financial responsibilities with them. Gone are the days when men marry ‘full-house-wives’, the increasing cost of living has tilted most men in favor of ladies who have a means of livelihood and willing to share with their man, the burden of building a home.

5. Unrealistic Expectations from In-laws
Some parents have set certain standards for anyone who will marry their child, either way be it that such expectations are from the groom parent’s or bride, the regulations sometimes affect relationships.

6. Trust issues
Most times, people fear to get committed into a relationship because of trust issues. Some men have been bruised in their past relationships and therefore they don’t want to put themselves out there.

TheUpsetGirl1:
When it comes to romance, Nigerian men are known to be actively engaging. Apart from their culture of carrying the financial burden of relationship with women, they harness every opportunity to appeal to their lovers, be it on social-network sites, in their respective offices, religious organizations, clubs among others.
Now I'm going to list 6 reasons why Nigerian men run from marriage


1. No wife materials
Common among some men is the reservation that there is scarcity of ‘wife-materials’ in Nigeria.

2. They get sex freely without marriage than in time past
Realizing now that they can get sex more easily than in times past, when ‘virginity’ for women was a pass value to marriage, some men now feel lot of women today have lost it when it comes to keeping themselves whole.

3. Nigeria weddings are expensive

In a country where a man is expected to marry a woman in three different kinds of wedding- Religious, Traditional and Court, the cost of marriage no doubt is something men find very intimidating. Presently the average Nigeria wedding cost something like N700,000 and the it goes upward from that to more unimaginable cost.

4. In search of a ‘working class’
Today, most Nigerian men are in search of a wife capable of sharing financial responsibilities with them. Gone are the days when men marry ‘full-house-wives’, the increasing cost of living has tilted most men in favor of ladies who have a means of livelihood and willing to share with their man, the burden of building a home.

5. Unrealistic Expectations from In-laws
Some parents have set certain standards for anyone who will marry their child, either way be it that such expectations are from the groom parent’s or bride, the regulations sometimes affect relationships.

6. Trust issues
Most times, people fear to get committed into a relationship because of trust issues. Some men have been bruised in their past relationships and therefore they don’t want to put themselves out there.

Thegeneralqueen:
I tell you I'm always honest when it comes to relationships better be single than date a broke guy...




Girl where have you been deadrat thought because you do buy him pop corn he has the right to talk to me the way he likes dude got more than what he bargained for yesterday

IamD18:
It's not a deluded statement, blame her not for making such statement because ladies of this generation have being ruined, this generation is fvcked that women marry for money and to ease pressure.

I stand with her with that statement because a woman can only pretend to be a wife material when there's money, disguise yourself and see how they'll flop woefully.

The post below was made by a Nigerian lady for you to understand what I mean.



No! Sex is not free in a marriage, you are indirectly paying for it.




Even if they spend 300k for their wedding, it still doesn't mean it isn't expensive, we'v got different financial worth.

Marriage is expensive in Nigeria both for the rich and the poor, that's the truth.




Go and get married to Dangote's daughter, then I'll believe that inlaws don't give unrealistic expectations.




Trust is the very last thing most partners pay attention to in a relationship.

A woman will channel her concentration in your financial abilities, while a man will channels his concentration in your loyalty and respect.

Even, we are not even suppose to trust anyone.

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What can you offer a rich man?

Absolutely nothing!