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TheUpsetGirl1:
When it comes to romance, Nigerian men are known to be actively engaging. Apart from their culture of carrying the financial burden of relationship with women, they harness every opportunity to appeal to their lovers, be it on social-network sites, in their respective offices, religious organizations, clubs among others.
Now I'm going to list 6 reasons why Nigerian men run from marriage


1. No wife materials
Common among some men is the reservation that there is scarcity of ‘wife-materials’ in Nigeria.

2. They get sex freely without marriage than in time past
Realizing now that they can get sex more easily than in times past, when ‘virginity’ for women was a pass value to marriage, some men now feel lot of women today have lost it when it comes to keeping themselves whole.

3. Nigeria weddings are expensive

In a country where a man is expected to marry a woman in three different kinds of wedding- Religious, Traditional and Court, the cost of marriage no doubt is something men find very intimidating. Presently the average Nigeria wedding cost something like N700,000 and the it goes upward from that to more unimaginable cost.

4. In search of a ‘working class’
Today, most Nigerian men are in search of a wife capable of sharing financial responsibilities with them. Gone are the days when men marry ‘full-house-wives’, the increasing cost of living has tilted most men in favor of ladies who have a means of livelihood and willing to share with their man, the burden of building a home.

5. Unrealistic Expectations from In-laws
Some parents have set certain standards for anyone who will marry their child, either way be it that such expectations are from the groom parent’s or bride, the regulations sometimes affect relationships.

6. Trust issues
Most times, people fear to get committed into a relationship because of trust issues. Some men have been bruised in their past relationships and therefore they don’t want to put themselves out there.

TheUpsetGirl1:
When it comes to romance, Nigerian men are known to be actively engaging. Apart from their culture of carrying the financial burden of relationship with women, they harness every opportunity to appeal to their lovers, be it on social-network sites, in their respective offices, religious organizations, clubs among others.
Now I'm going to list 6 reasons why Nigerian men run from marriage


1. No wife materials
Common among some men is the reservation that there is scarcity of ‘wife-materials’ in Nigeria.

2. They get sex freely without marriage than in time past
Realizing now that they can get sex more easily than in times past, when ‘virginity’ for women was a pass value to marriage, some men now feel lot of women today have lost it when it comes to keeping themselves whole.

3. Nigeria weddings are expensive

In a country where a man is expected to marry a woman in three different kinds of wedding- Religious, Traditional and Court, the cost of marriage no doubt is something men find very intimidating. Presently the average Nigeria wedding cost something like N700,000 and the it goes upward from that to more unimaginable cost.

4. In search of a ‘working class’
Today, most Nigerian men are in search of a wife capable of sharing financial responsibilities with them. Gone are the days when men marry ‘full-house-wives’, the increasing cost of living has tilted most men in favor of ladies who have a means of livelihood and willing to share with their man, the burden of building a home.

5. Unrealistic Expectations from In-laws
Some parents have set certain standards for anyone who will marry their child, either way be it that such expectations are from the groom parent’s or bride, the regulations sometimes affect relationships.

6. Trust issues
Most times, people fear to get committed into a relationship because of trust issues. Some men have been bruised in their past relationships and therefore they don’t want to put themselves out there.

Thegeneralqueen:
Nigerian men are becoming lazy, just check out years past when they're being known to work hard and cater for their families.....but these days they don't want to work hard like their fathers did they're always after what the lady will contribute to the family forgetting that they're the head of the family and it's their duties to satisfy the needs of their wives.....bunch of lazy yahoo yahoo goat

Thegeneralqueen:
Nigerian men are becoming lazy, just check out years past when they're being known to work hard and cater for their families.....but these days they don't want to work hard like their fathers did they're always after what the lady will contribute to the family forgetting that they're the head of the family and it's their duties to satisfy the needs of their wives.....bunch of lazy yahoo yahoo goat

TheUpsetGirl1:
for the records. I don't work in a buiscuit factory and can never work in one. I only made that statement that day to justify my thread.
cc uduju

Cutehector:
you want money right?

Thegeneralqueen:
Nigerian men are becoming lazy, just check out years past when they're being known to work hard and cater for their families.....but these days they don't want to work hard like their fathers did they're always after what the lady will contribute to the family forgetting that they're the head of the family and it's their duties to satisfy the needs of their wives.....bunch of lazy yahoo yahoo goat

Thegeneralqueen:
Nigerian men are becoming lazy, just check out years past when they're being known to work hard and cater for their families.....but these days they don't want to work hard like their fathers did they're always after what the lady will contribute to the family forgetting that they're the head of the family and it's their duties to satisfy the needs of their wives.....bunch of lazy yahoo yahoo goat

UDUJ:
My dear you told us yourself

Or you've forgotten

lestat:
I followed all your comments, if you look back at the time you spent responding to comments with the aim of insulting certain users whom you termed as broke guys you would be surprised how much time you could have used to pass a positive message that some young ladies might learn from.

I know it's hard but try to resist the urge to be abusive irrespective of how preemptive the comment may be

You are a lady, (that doesn't signify wekaness) and no it doesn't mean men have Monopoly of acting guttery

But we still hope to look to you women to remind is what a prime and proper character should be

Alot of your posts made me smile though (dark humor)

Oddly enough I find you very interesting, your edgy feminist stance makes you wuite appealing and scary at the same time

But I understand feminism is born out of an oppresive system that tries to subjugate women which is very unnatural

We should be friends

izzou:
You sound so angry this morning. Are you just coming back from your night shift?

The internet never forgets. Remember how you came here to tell us of how you work in a biscuit factory? It's not my business sha. At least you qualify for the so called "Working class"

Anyway, back to your thread. You haven't countered my points yet. Abi is that not your reason for creating this thread? To engage us in a discussion?

Now leave biscuit wahala and let's discuss

chisco82:
Are you saying that we were actually the people Pmb is refering to in London?

Thegeneralqueen:
Do I know you

lestat:

Thegeneralqueen:
You haven't answered my question

lestat:
If you are asking if we have met before? No we haven't

I don't think reading someone's posts for years here can equate to knowing them

I assumed this was clear from my first post ?

Thegeneralqueen:
Who know like money

Thegeneralqueen:
Who know like money

UDUJ:
Okay TheUpsetGirl1 let me give you some inkling as to why most guys are scared of marriage:

Basically it could be the reason of independent decision making which is generally curbed after marriage.
A lot of responsibilities , tension ,anxiety creeps in to your mind as you have to make sure you handle everything efficiently which may lead to several health problems thereby decreasing your life span.

Men love to be carefree , absolutely free to do whatever they love to do , which is not possible after marriage for we become tied to our family and its members.

Also many a times there are chances of arguments, quarrels and domestic violence on account of mismatch of ideas, misunderstanding, clash of opinions, etc which disrupts the smooth running of life.

Life is short with an uncertain duration and no one knows what is going to happen with him in the next birth, so he wants to enjoy everything he wants to in this birth itself and tries to avoid marriage as much as possible.

Most of us view Marriage as a Mirage. Peace of mind goes after few days .You feel bonded ,and fall in a dilemma which you cannot share with anyone .

Your personality is shared , you loose your privacy .If your views are not common you develop contradictions.

If your mother develops contradiction with your wife there is another headache. If your wife has some male friend and you are not open minded you develop another psychological dilemma with what to do or not to do. If u have a female friend and you don’t tell your wife you have a guilty feeling and if your wife gets to know 95% of time her reaction will be negative.

If your wife does not conceive you become worried, if she becomes pregnant you remain worried till delivery. After delivery if your child has some handicap your whole life becomes hell. You worry about the family, the future, societal pressures to meet up etc etc.

The truth is, most of us feel this way when we have doubts about the partnership (who we are bonding for life with). Once there are no doubts we jump headfirst into marriage without thinking. We listen to no one and follow our hearts and the heart never fails. That's how you know you've found the right one. But the possibility of finding the right one these days is getting smaller and smaller sadly

TheUpsetGirl1:
for the records.
I don't work in a buiscuit factory and can never work in one.
I only made that statement that day to justify my thread.

cc uduju

Thegeneralqueen:
Hmmmmm if you say so

Thegeneralqueen:
I don't know what you're talking about..... you said it with your mouth not mine biko

lestat:
I would.like us to.connect

Thegeneralqueen:
Nigerian men are becoming lazy, just check out years past when they're being known to work hard and cater for their families.....but these days they don't want to work hard like their fathers did they're always after what the lady will contribute to the family forgetting that they're the head of the family and it's their duties to satisfy the needs of their wives.....bunch of lazy yahoo yahoo goat

highpriestess:
lol,I mark for lecturers.

Thegeneralqueen:
We're already connected

Thegeneralqueen:
We're already connected

Thegeneralqueen:
Nigerian men are becoming lazy, just check out years past when they're being known to work hard and cater for their families.....but these days they don't want to work hard like their fathers did they're always after what the lady will contribute to the family forgetting that they're the head of the family and it's their duties to satisfy the needs of their wives.....bunch of lazy yahoo yahoo goat

lestat:
touché

But you know what I mean

Let's connect outside this forum