All those criticizing OP are single mothers, if u knw, u knw...... one of them ll still quote me

1x2x3:


It may not be a fuse to you until you find yourself in such situation. I didn't want to mention everything but she got new iPhone x from from her trip which I know she can never buy with her money. There were so many things that demanded explanation but she flared up that I asked questions.

Yea, she's your g/f, not your spouse. You don't demand for an explanation because you don't own her and she doesn't owe you one. You are dating a 30yr old and not a teenager. I am sure she won't sabotage the relstnship if she really sees it leading somewhere. Maybe, just maybe, she has realized you are wasting her time and she needs more commitment from someone ready to indulge.

Anyway, not trying to play the devil's advocate.... Make I dey mind my business shaa.

1x2x3:


Her story was that she got pregnant for a man she wanted to marry only to find out few days to her wedding that the man is married to someone else and just wanted to make her a second wife.

Everything in the link you sent is 100% spot on.

Sometimes in life, we don't need advise from Sages.

Common sense is profitable to direct.

1x2x3:


Thanks . It baffles me seeing certain comments talking about me being controlling and broke . These ladies won't cease amazing me

The ladies here are very cunning and dangerously manipulative. The strategy is to convince you that your girlfriend isn't the one with the problem, that way you'll go back to her and keep swallowing her bullshhiit.

Most criticizing you probably share similar traits with your girlfriend, so what they are doing here is standing up for "one of their own"

bros, TBH these stories I keep reading every now and then just makes me filled with so much joy that I always have no choice than to appreciate my singlehood.

at least things like this no go make us dey envy those wey dey into this relationship sturvs

Cutehector:
When I read all these stories, I begin to feel happy that I am single. It makes me forget the fact that I need a girlfriend.

BiafranBushBoy:
Single mothers have taken over the thread...

Most of them are useless!!!

Nobody is useless.
You know a single mother once had an option to have an abortion?
Have some sense and don't call people you know nothing about "useless".

YemiHadid:
No beef, but personally i might only marry a single mother if she's single because she's widowed. Any other reason is a No-No. Its the height of cuckoldery having to raise another man's kid while putting up with her 'entitlement mentality'. I'll only 'pump and dump' thatz all. Sound harsh, but thats the way it is. Remember the old adage, "she single for a reason" and that reason is usually bad. She didnt have the patience/good judgement to make it work with her baby daddy (even for the sake of the kid), why should she stick with you. The cons of dating SMs are just more than the pros - not worth it imho. Why settle for used goods when there's plenty of fresh ones about

Read this too: http://www.returnofkings.com/84026/5-reasons-you-should-never-date-a-single-mother

Brethren be wise!

But Nigerians believes that tokumbos are better than new ones na

GreatCracker:
bros, TBH these stories I keep reading every now and then just makes me filled with so much joy that I always have no choice than to appreciate my singlehood.

at least things like this no go make us dey envy those wey dey into this relationship sturvs

I dey tell you my brother.. Apart from the fact that konji dey catch me once in a while, I just dey like the inner peace wey I dey get.

I fit just dey house one day without person dey vex for me say why I no call am.. Shuuoo.. She wey wan hear my voice, why she come dey wait make I call am ni.. Na wa for girls and their drama o

KevinDein:

The ladies here are very cunning and dangerously manipulative. The strategy is to convince you that your girlfriend isn't the one with the problem, that way you'll go back to her and keep swallowing her bullshhiit.

Most criticizing you probably share similar traits with your girlfriend, they are just standing up for "one of their own"

I'm a tough head to crack when it comes to being manipulated. I can sense what they are doing and I'm really not here to seek advice I only narrated my story and gave guys advice to look well before engaging a single mother but booooom!!!! They are trying their manipulative skills.

Ladyhippolyta88:

Nobody is useless.
You know a single mother once had an option to have an abortion?
Have some sense and don't call people you know nothing about "useless".

You mind correcting the " Have some sense" part of your post?

Thanks.

And to some who thinks baby mamas are bitter people, no, not all are. I am one and have lived a positive life, faced my job, took care of my child, never wayward cos of my predicament, had some relatnshps dat didn't work out but now enjoying marriage with someone we both understand each other very well.

CecyAdrian:


Alpha male spotted. Let's assume she was traveling for business but did not want to tell the OP at the moment, she should not because a man who has neither married her nor been committed (from her perspective in the story) told her not to.

You guys need a lot to catch up to on the present day woman

Cecy, no point going all hypothetical.

Her purpose for travelling wasn't for business, OP stated clearly that she was on leave with the lame excuse of wanting to go "relax" someplace else.

In my experience with the "present day woman," if she feels the need to pick a fight just so she could wriggle out her way and leave town, then there can only be one motivating factor;
And that's the presence of one big, black, pulsing and venated cõck somewhere, she's creaming her panties for.
She came back way more relaxed, that's for sure.

YemiHadid:
No beef, but personally i might only marry a single mother if she's single because she's widowed. Any other reason is a No-No. Its the height of cuckoldery having to raise another man's kid while putting up with her 'entitlement mentality'. I'll only 'pump and dump' thatz all. Sound harsh, but thats the way it is. Remember the old adage, "she single for a reason" and that reason is usually bad. She didnt have the patience/good judgement to make it work with her baby daddy (even for the sake of the kid), why should she stick with you. The cons of dating SMs are just more than the pros - not worth it imho. Why settle for used goods when there's plenty of fresh ones about.

Read this too: http://www.returnofkings.com/84026/5-reasons-you-should-never-date-a-single-mother

Brethren be wise!

You just nailed it

1x2x3:


Lol her job requires traveling sometimes and she does that with ease. In the past I've tried traveling on few occasions but the moment she isn't chanced to go with me she objects and I respect that. This is the very first time I objected because she wasn't sounding convincing about her trip and she told me she will go and face any consequences when she returns..... Who's Alpha here?

Young man, I am not supporting you or your ex, just picking things from your story to counter you point just like a third party would. You see now, why a third party is not good for relationship? You have already started feeling like I am on ur gal's side, lol

CorGier:


Cecy, no point going all hypothetical.

Her purpose for travelling wasn't for business, OP stated clearly that she was on leave with the lame excuse of wanting to go "relax" someplace else.

In my experience with the "present day woman," if she feels the need to pick a fight just so she could leave town, then there can only be one motivating factor;
And that's the presence of one big, black, pulsing and venated cõck somewhere, she's creaming her panties for.
She came back way more relaxed, that's for sure.

Lol, reason why I said 'let's assume'. But what if she went for a girls time out with her friends who contributed and bought her an IphoneX, OP himself said she has a lot of friends and she is not doing badly too

CecyAdrian:


Lol, reason why I said 'let's assume'. But what if she went for a girls time out with her friends who contributed and bought her an IphoneX, OP himself said she has a lot of friends and she is not doing badly too

If you can reason this way, you don't have the mental capacity to give advice to an animal not to talk of an human being.

OP, most of these girls trying to make excuses for your ex are dumb hoes with zero IQ. They're people who can't hold a candle to you offline but Internet anonymity has empowered them.

KevinDein:

The ladies here are very cunning and dangerously manipulative. The strategy is to convince you that your girlfriend isn't the one with the problem, that way you'll go back to her and keep swallowing her bullshhiit.

Most criticizing you probably share similar traits with your girlfriend, so what they are doing here is standing up for "one of their own"

See them, guys who are scared of ladies who can think and act on their own and yea, the girlfriend is not the problem, they both are!

fimi:
All those criticizing OP are single mothers, if u knw, u knw...... one of them ll still quote me

Yea, we all criticising him are all single mothers. Like me that just quoted you.

You would prefer that everyone be a sheep and not use their brain.

Nnemuka:

My dear... And if you look well he may not have Kobo to his name oo just the penis inbetween his legs.
Babes cannot live her life or travel without boyfriend's permission. Lol

a bitter feminist spotted

toyetade:

Of course that's a key characteristics of gay. They don't like to be with women or women who doing want to be with men. IF you fall into this category, then you are

if so then u are not better than lie mohammed cus u just lied

MaziOmenuko:


Yea, we all criticising him are all single mothers. Like me that just quoted you.

You would prefer that everyone be a sheep and not use their brain.

Single mothers and some pussy-niggers with a warped sense of reasoning.

PearlStreet:


If you can reason this way, you don't have the mental capacity to give advice to an animal not to talk of an human being.

If you couldn't figure out (even with the emoji's) that, that statement was sarcastic, then you need comprehension class from a good tutor because it's obvious you can not understand a bird chirping not to talk of human discussion.

You are just a tiny bug with no brain. A perfect example of men who are scared of a grown woman who can hold her own and so, go for underage girls that can be manipulated and controlled. You are a disgrace to humanity and don't dare come to my mention again cos, I won't be this nice again.

Ladyhippolyta88:

Nobody is useless.
You know a single mother once had an option to have an abortion?
Have some sense and don't call people you know nothing about "useless".

Don't mind such people or bother quoting them.

If I was a guy, I'll rather go for a single mum than someone who has done countless abortions. The joke is on them.

Where the lady is wrong Is in keeping away from her family.
Not being able to tell d man d reason for her travel to abuja. She should be able to confide in him and all that I accept. And why won't he tell her not to go if she can't explain the need to go??

If it was to relax or time off or different environment kind of thing(u need to understand that the fact that she is a different person from u and may need a different method of relaxing. I for one get bored being in the same environment for too long. Sadness sets in. So if it's something that makes her happy....u stopping her is being controlling despite if she has explained how much she needs to go on that escape trip and sincerely, her happiness should not be traded simply because she is about to marry a man.

I agree she is stubborn and her travelling without being to open up on why she had to is a red-flag and is suspicious.

But sincerely, let's admit, the OP also has a little issue with being controlling or wanting to b in charge as per I am a man that I feel the woman was not ready to b subjected to. Every woman wants a friend in her man that she Wld want to respect and all sincerely from her heart. Not one that wants to form am the boss and u must obey me and demand for the respect. Then u Wld begin to have issues with her because she Wld become stubborn in defense. Wats up wit u telling her a man has to lead n she has to b under him blablabla.....? Does it sort of help to boost ur ego or self esteem? Be sincere to yourself.


U may need a very younger woman if u that kind of guy that wants to b in control in general as d man of the house. A single lady won't be that condescending trust me.

So next time pick a younger woman and don't come here complaining "my woman doesn't treat me as the boss.....she treats me like me are equals or friends".

fumisko:
Where the lady is wrong
Is keeping away from her family
Not being able to tell d man d reason for her travel to abuja. She should be able to confide in him and all that I accept. And why won't he tell her not to go if she can't explain the need to go. If it was to relax or time off or different environment kind of thing(u need to understand that the fact that's she's a different person from u and may need a different method of relaxing. I for one get bored being in the same environment for too long. Sadness sets in. So if it's something that makes her happy....u stopping it is being controlling and her happiness should not be traded simply because she is about to marry a man.
I agree she is stubborn and her travelling without being to open up on why to u is a redflag
But let's admit, the OP has a little issue with being controlling or wanting to b in charge as per I am a man. Wats up wit u telling her a man has to lead n she has to b under him blablabla.....? Does it sort of help to boost ur ego?

U may need a very younger woman if u that kind of guy that wants to b in control in general as d man of the house. A single lady won't be that condescending trust me.

So next time pick a younger woman and don't come here complaining "my woman doesn't treat me as the boss.....she treats me like me are equals or friends".

On point!!!

The reason why many guys go for small girls is because they want to dominate without counter or questions

it's well.

1x2x3:


Lol @ he does not have kobo . My dear I earn well, live above average and drive my own car likewise her. My objecting was because she didn't sound convincing about where she was headed besides she travels before.

it doesnt even matter if the guy doesn't have a dime. does it mean she can only listen 2 him if he has money? a lot of us females get it wrong in relatnshps cos of li2 things. You dnt hav 2 be married 2 her b4 u can ask her questns, once u aren't too possessive and frm ur comments here, u are not. I guess d lady wanted her freedom and she now has it, no wahala. i just smh at some ladies sha

fumisko:
Where the lady is wrong
Is keeping away from her family
Not being able to tell d man d reason for her travel to abuja. She should be able to confide in him and all that I accept. And why won't he tell her not to go if she can't explain the need to go. If it was to relax or time off or different environment kind of thing(u need to understand that the fact that's she's a different person from u and may need a different method of relaxing. I for one get bored being in the same environment for too long. Sadness sets in. So if it's something that makes her happy....u stopping it is being controlling and her happiness should not be traded simply because she is about to marry a man.
I agree she is stubborn and her travelling without being to open up on why to u is a redflag
But let's admit, the OP has a little issue with being controlling or wanting to b in charge as per I am a man. Wats up wit u telling her a man has to lead n she has to b under him blablabla.....? Does it sort of help to boost ur ego?

U may need a very younger woman if u that kind of guy that wants to b in control in general as d man of the house. A single lady won't be that condescending trust me.

So next time pick a younger woman and don't come here complaining "my woman doesn't treat me as the boss.....she treats me like me are equals or friends".

You are talking about a lady that is actually controlling. There has been about 3 occasions she won't let me travel as long as she is not free to travel with me. I never went against her objection. I'm quiet and she likes it because she feels I'm the type she can easily control because I take things easy no matter what. This is my very first time objecting her move because her reasons wasn't clear enough.

All I know about relationship is don't dish out order to anyone, you can only give advice.

You right. Then he should go for the younger one that would say yes sir to every little thing.

So dear OP re-channel your attraction to ladies the age you would be able to head or lord over at least. But I doubt u Wld b able to work well with a mature lady that wants to be like a partner or sort of equals or sort of we are both in this together approach.

But truth is most times when u treat a GOOD lady like this, a good lady ba, she Wld naturally respect u, yes she may stil be stubborn once in a while because we are all humans and get naughty once in a while. But in general, she would be respectful, loyal and be there for u always.

CecyAdrian:


On point!!!

The reason why many guys go for small girls is because they want to dominate without counter or questions

Wow..u never mentioned that part

Sorry

But u guys ain't compatible from the look of things. Just try and move on. I know it would hurt a bit.

1x2x3:


You are talking about a lady that is actually controlling. There has been about 3 occasions she won't let me travel as long as she is not free to travel with me. I never went against her objection. I'm quiet and she likes it because she feels I'm the type she can easily control because I take things easy no matter what. This is my very first time objecting her move because her reasons wasn't clear enough.

Are u sure she has no one else she is seeing ,this one she went to Abuja and suddenly became irrational and rude?I doubt if she hasn't been double dating bros,most of this single ladies have character problem o.you should have called at least two of her siblings by force immediately she disobeyed u by going to Abuja,u sef dull small guy,at your age, u need to start modifying you introvert nature,I am a teacher,a minister and a counselor yet a core introvert,pls start modification process ASAP,God bless U[quotes author=1x2x3 post=68129881]

Its a sleepless night for me and I'm yet to dilute what unfolded. I just wish she could pretend forever and be nice but this is life where the truth must surely reveal itself at some point.

The person I saw in her recently is too mean and brutal to be under a man. God help anyone that falls into her trap. [/quote]