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kimbraa:
What has being naive in thinking got to do with saying it's wrong to marry a jobless man and starve thereafter?

What I meant is, don't be judgemental rather be objective with your view. Look at it from the angle that she is being sympathetic, understanding and helpful.

2016v2017:
did you forget that the man got the shop business for her?

I didn't bro. I'm not referring to OP, rather a lady's comment about her support for her husband when things were tough.

this is a lesson for all ie both married, inmarried, singles brothers and sisters. it's very painful (let's make this direct Yoruba translation: it pain reach me marrow as read this) but their us no reason that justified any person for divorce in marriage that why man need to pray and open your eyes while praying also before the bond. don't allow any man or woman or social media to push to hell because this maybr another ground for devil either now or future. just forgive and move on man

mimimile93:
Bro if I tell you how much I detest women mostly naija girls..
I poisoned one to death when I could no longer hold my anger..

Any girl born from the 80s is useless and written_off

Poison How can u poison someone because she fell out of love. Trust me you have to get hold of that anger of yours before it wrecks you.

ranmoor:
u made me remember a man dat caught Magun on his wife at ikirun. The first time he caught the wife n sent her out, the families came to beg him cited your logic... Few yrs later, the husband died on her. The Magun was placed by one alfa concubine... My Bro, anything cheat, flee

Is it possible to place Magun on a woman who is not your wife...that's assuming that the thing even works?

mimimile93:
Bro if I tell you how much I detest women mostly naija girls..
I poisoned one to death when I could no longer hold my anger..

Any girl born from the 80s is useless and written_off

Your case is under processing you are going to jail soon as you have been reported to the police. The corpse of the person you killed is hunting you

angelboy01:
I Am not really good at writing a composition but the whole thing started around last year November when I lost my job at a reputable company, things became really hard that my ex wife started with her attitude, someone I helped through her schooling, even opened a shop for her after our wedding.

She started losing interest in me because I was broke and there was no more love because I couldn't meet up to her demands. She became the bread winner around that time, things didn't go as expected for me, I needed to do a lot of things even pay for the rented apartment we were in and the landlord came with the eviction letter.

Things became really tough that she wasn't sleeping at home anymore, she would leave home for days and come back home and give me some little change and leave again, she started to live with her aunt and I became so lonely and useless in her eyes.

Eventually when I came up with the apartment money and we paid I decided I wasn't going to stay with her for a while and go out and look for a job, so as to avoid fight and arguments. She later called me that her boss from the USA was back and she was to go and meet him because they had a meeting to do so I said OK since I usually speak and text with his boss so I allowed her to go. So after I left home I got a job and I frequented coming home to see her and my baby. I later found out she began to lock her phone and I asked her for the password she wouldn't give it to me so I began to suspect her.

One day I eventually found the password and I unlocked it while she was asleep. I found out through a chat she had with her friend that she had sex with her said boss and she even bought a land without telling me all through the years we were together. I felt so betrayed and angry. I woke her up and asked her about it and she started crying and begging me.

I left home angrily and jilted. I was so devastated that I smoked a lot of weed that day and drank so much beer. I called my mom explained to her and later told her mom too. The next day her mom called me that she wanted to poison herself because of what she did. I sent her boss a message on WhatsApp and that one didn't even answer me because he knew what he did with my ex wife.

It's been months now since this happened and her mom calls me almost everyday begging me to forgive and forget but how do I forget, it's not easy for me because I can be having sex with her and be seeing her boss face.

I blocked her on Facebook and whatsapp but didn't block her calls or text message because of my baby when I need to send upkeep money. She calls me but I don't pick up. I know that I can't be with her anymore but she has the wedding certificate we got at the court wedding. I told her to give the photocopy of the certificate to my mom but she wouldn't do it.

Guys the reason why I wrote this is who has an idea on how to go about a divorce without the certificate because someone told me the certificate is important for the divorce. I don't know anything about it and my uncle even said the divorce will cost me a lot of money about 650k. I don't know it that's true too. Lol.

Please guys help out here. I have the proof of the chat and the audio conversation of the sex escapade with her boss so that will help in the court. My lovely daughter is 2 years now. How do I even collect my daughter from her. I have left all my property's for her because of my daughter and am starting my life afresh. Will the court be able to grant me my daughters custody although am not ready to train her myself but I have my mom who can do that for me.

In addition to all of this guy's if your girl or woman passwords her phone and doesn't show you her password be very careful she might be cheating because not only did I find out she had sex with her boss I also found out she was also on some random social media nonsense talking to some random guys and all that and that she also bought a land without telling me for 3 years we were together.

Thanks for learning from my story and God bless you guys.

For the record:

Legally, to divorce your wife costs 350,000 naira. You should be able to get a lawyer and offer him 10% of the fee i.e. 35000. So in total, 385000.

Marriage is a personal issue so i won't interfere in your personal issues

Focus on success for it is the best revenge. Good luck and God speed

kimbraa:
The war room is strictly for the women while the men are busy jeopardising what's built.

Chai! After the woman goes to war.
The man will just open hand and collect one trojan horse, that will jeopardise the marriage. Ahbeg, people have lost it. Male and female alike...I refuse to be bothered anymore .

Alot has and have been said about these. But let me add these one try and seek the face of God, wounds or injuries of such can only be heal and cured by him pls.

Luciferan369:
Forgiveness is the easiest way out for him. My opinion is final.

forgiveness in which way? forgive and continue with her or forgive and move on his way?

DateMynd44:
me i have decided not to marry any naija girl.
They are all useless.
If I tell you my own story you will even lose the motivation to get married.
God punish naija girls
Naija girls are all useless excluding the women of our mum's age.
cos those were the only women that were faithful and showered their love on their husbands irrespective of their financial status.
These present sets of naija girls are a curse.
Useless folks.
Ndy87 and others please stop trolling my comments.

Is this a sub or a drag?? Watever is making you angry at one lady shouldn't push u into generalization, come off the anger it has never helped anyone. It only makes you hate yourself after all.

Love doesn't stop cheating. The only reason why women divorce after the act is to free themselves of the shame and stigma of cheating while in marriage as the african society is more hard on women with regards to cheating. Cheating happens due to lack of 3 things-discipline, proper upbringing and good company/friends

Kimcutie:
80% of cheating wives hardly love their husbands, I stand to be corrected. Same can't be said for the husbands. That's why cheating wives always files for divorce or something that will enable them to be with the other guy. I've experienced one, it happened to my uncle.

wristbangle:
What I meant is, don't be judgemental rather be objective with your view. Look at it from the angle that she is being sympathetic, understanding and helpful.



I didn't bro. I'm not referring to the OP, rather a lady's comment about her support for her husband when things were tough.

I pointed out what I felt was wrong, and that was me being objective not sympathetic. I even forgot, and the man didn't have another savings to venture into business while he job scout after the loss of his job but used up what he had for a wedding. If I were her, I would've placed the wedding on hold.

2016v2017:
forgiveness in which way? forgive and continue with her or forgive and move on his way?

Forgive her and continue with the marriage ofcourse. It is not a big deal. Sex is for reproduction and fantasy fulfillment, I am sure he will still derive the pleasure from the wife, and I also know that the wife will be more careful this time if they are both determined to make it work.

MIPNIG:
I am dealing with a similar issue. Nonetheless, focus on making that bread. Don’t let any woman that close to you again. You have had a child, focus on being happy. This generation of ladies are from hell especially Igbo ladies from Imo state. Their mothers have tooled them wrongly (entitled and never supportive). Yet their bride prizes are so high.
Advice: when you hear a lady is from Imo state and you are planning to marry her, flee. Fleeee!!!

you must be extremely stupid.. in fact your stupidity has no end! Wtf.

judges:
this is a lesson for all ie both married, inmarried, singles brothers and sisters. it's very painful (let's make this direct Yoruba translation: it pain reach me marrow as read this) but their us no reason that justified any person for divorce in marriage that why man need to pray and open your eyes while praying also before the bond. don't allow any man or woman or social media to push to hell because this maybr another ground for devil either now or future. just forgive and move on man

Jesus said only on adultery/infidelity case

Daboomb:
So losing one's job is PUSHING one's wife into anothe rman's hand?
So it is all about the MONEY?

What if it was the woman that lost her job will you say she pushed her husband into another man's hand, if he starts fucking his scecretary?

Would YOU do the same thing to your own husband or is it "Do as l say, not as l do"?

yes it's all about money and security. men are providers women should submit. when a man loses what makes alpha male then he is useless.

pocohantas:
Chai! After the woman goes to war.
The man will just open hand and collect one trojan horse, that will jeopardise the marriage. Ahbeg, people have lost it. Male and female alike...I refuse to be bothered anymore .

Exactly. have a nice day, I've a 12noon class.

yanabasee:
NO SANE Nigerian woman will stand by a man when things get soured....

that's not true oga. I've been married to my husband for 10yrs now after we dated for 4yrs. We got married wen he had no job. We stayed in a room apartment where I had to hawk for us to to eat. The day my mum visited us, she cried cos I'm from a well to do home. There were times we can't even feed not to talk of buying pampers for our child then. It never cross my mind to cheat on him despite that I can if I had wanted to. Look at us today, though not very rich bt the I give God all the glory. My kids and husband's happiness is my happiness.

mhizenugu:
you must be extremely stupid.. in fact your stupidity has no end! Wtf.

But he's entitled to his advice, moreover that's his experience

So people still dey do this court wedding poo

Minimee101:
that's not true oga. I've been married to my husband for 10yrs now after we dated for 4yrs. We got married wen he had no job. We stayed in a room apartment where I had to hawk for us to to eat. The day my mum visited us, she cried cos I'm from a well to do home. There were times we can't even feed not to talk of buying pampers for our child then. It never cross my mind to cheat on him despite that I can if I had wanted to. Look at us today, though not very rich bt the I give God all the glory. My kids and husband's happiness is my happiness.

if your story is real, kudos to you and Glory to God Almighty

Still not too bad to forgive. She erred u in all ramifications, but u still owe her forgiveness. If u can, go for a DNA for ur baby, if yours forgive her.
Please do if u can, and she is sincerely remorseful.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
You know that's untrue. My mom stood by my dad through thick and thin until his very last breathe. So don't you generalize. Humans have been known for infidelity since inception so nothing is new. Just pray you Marry right.

THE LIKES OF UR DEAR MOM ARE RARE TO FIND IN THIS OUR NEW AGE, IF HAD SAID MY SISTER OR FRIEND I WUD'VE TAKEN AN EXCEPTION.JUST THIS LAST SUNDAY I HAD A SORE ENCOUNTER FROM A VERY HUMANE AND INNOCENT BABE I THOUGHT WILL MAKE A PERFECT WIFE FOR ANY MAN. MY DEAR SISTER AFTER THE ENCOUNTER TO MARRY SEF DEY FEAR ME. SO RARE TO FIND THAT COULD FULLY SUPPORT A MAN IN THE EVENT OF A RAINY DAY, I'M NOT SAYING THERE'RE NO GOOD WOMEN OUT THERE 7SHA...

afamaustin:
God send an angle for me as a wife.

Which kind of angle...
Is it right angle or triangle

I see marriage going into extinction in the nearest future.
Its obvious this generation is a bunch of fools. This is same marriage that was respected n valued,stood the test of time in the past.
This generation claims educated, civilized.
Settle down join ur parents look 4 wife u refuse.

Proudgorgeousga:
yes it's all about money and security. men are providers women should submit. when a man loses what makes alpha male then he is useless.

By their words, you shall know them.

freecocoa:
Stop deceiving your poor self my foolish dear one, its evident to even a blind man, how pained you are.

What makes you different from the hoe you sleep with? Na sense problem dey worry you.

BTW, Please say hi to you ma for me, tell her a junior hoe hails her, you know we respect veterans, seeing as she is one.

One love bro .

Kiss kiss.

Haven't you noticed that most of them are pained? Girls are wicked, girls are that, nawa Na real wa. Some of them are cheats themselves but expect faithfulness in return which is absurd.

the unaccepted reality is that, these types of wives starts these things gradually...
they start with stubborness, lack of control,
then they start dressing skimpy, short gowns, skirts, tight clothing, single looking trousers, social media addiction, wrong books reading habits.
Then isssues starts at home, before you know it, they stamp themselves in theyes of outsiders as single women whereas they are mothers of four, a ruthless womanizer comes on board and before she knows she it, she gets fvcked! then her eyes clear and the husband heartbroken.

P.S; "many will say, its not by dressing..." but when it has happened, you will find out that 80% of cases of adulterous women are those who dont dress or appear as married women.

Minimee101:
that's not true oga. I've been married to my husband for 10yrs now after we dated for 4yrs. We got married wen he had no job. We stayed in a room apartment where I had to hawk for us to to eat. The day my mum visited us, she cried cos I'm from a well to do home. There were times we can't even feed not to talk of buying pampers for our child then. It never cross my mind to cheat on him despite that I can if I had wanted to. Look at us today, though not very rich bt the I give God all the glory. My kids and husband's happiness is my happiness.

kudos to u, u are a rare breed. any Jezebel hussy after ur husband God go kill am. dis is d kind of woman DAT u I will spend everything I have on her.

2016v2017:
But he's entitled to his advice, moreover that's his experience

I know dear, buh that doesn't give him the right to talk about my people in such an ungodly manner.. haba!

Anoda thread scaring me away from marriage.
I v seen lady's whose character during courtship change few days after marriage.... some lady's can pretend for years if they perceive money, Dont doubt ds. At first I was always on d defensive side dat no body can pretend dat long but I v bin proved wrong many times.

I can't stand a cheating girl friend talk more of married wife. God help us.
Meanwhile any man dats cheating on his wife has no moral ryt to feel bad wen cheated on.


If one puna no do u, get ursef anoda wife ....it's acceptable in our society though u wud b digging ur grave.

Proudgorgeousga:
yes it's all about money and security. men are providers women should submit. when a man loses what makes alpha male then he is useless.

so u will also cheat if ur husband has financial issues