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ugandalady:
i am indeed fed up with his dick's smell and taste, and its size is not as amazing as the first time it reveavled itself to me.

probably because i have played it for hundreds of times, and i know too much of it and its owner.

i am a human being, i need something new always. i can not let myself bound with only one dick, no matter how large it is, let alone this one is not that large.

but i dont want tremendously oversize dicks, they are abhorant.

i ask myself times again that, if i dont want to suck his dick, does it mean i dont love him anymore ? i do want to be with him. he feels familiar to me, and makes me feel comfortable and thus i dont want to break up with him.

What Do U Expect, Ugandans Smh

Acepen:
What Do U Expect, Ugandans Smh

i just need some honest and witty answers to my question , which is the title of this thread . is it too much ?

ugandalady:
you quoted "you" from one of my sentences, and then quoted "fvck" from another sentence of mine, then you ask me what i mean ?

what

ugandalady:
go check whywhyogun, and see how she tricked you guys by showing her white fingers and "i love BBC, whywhyogun". go ask someone who made the same mistake before you. "smart" boy. funny.

nobody gives a shiet whether you are gay or not. they give a shiet when you request a photo from me . that hits the point !

send that boob pic with "ubunja" written on the boob and stop whinging for africa.

MISEDUCATIONS:
what

just an analogy, confusing ?

MISEDUCATIONS:
send that boob pic with "ubunja" written on the boob and stop whinging for africa.

why not you show us your dick with my account name ?

ugandalady:
just an analogy, confusing ?

what the hell kind of analogy is that??

ugandalady:
why not you show us your dick with my account name ?

hit me on my whatsapp and get it.

MISEDUCATIONS:
what the hell kind of analogy is that??

you like copying my quotes, you should know how to use an analogy better.

MISEDUCATIONS:
hit me on my whatsapp and get it.

are you above 35 ? i have no interest in young men's dicks. you can be my follower, and wait for me for 10 years or so. anyway, i will be in africa for a hell long time.

ugandalady:
are you above 35 ? i have no interest in young men's dicks. you can be my follower, and wait for me for 10 years or so. anyway, i will be in africa for a hell long time.

get me on whatsapp and stop this bruhaha.

just a diversion from the gradually-turning-to-be-boring topic about dicks.

i am stuck in this rotten country, which is called Uganda. the weather is nice. cooler than i expect it to be. and of course good for health.

i have been to the tip of India, the Arctic city of Russia, and now the equator of africa. sounds great.

if all the feats of these peregrinations are put together, they could be equivalent to the first taste the giant black dick gave me.

where else i will go next time ? i am not sure yet. just roaming in africa for an uncertain period of time and then check out Iran or something like that, and back to africa again.

i dont like stuck with one man or one country.

ugandalady:
i just need some honest and witty answers to my question , which is the title of this thread . is it too much ?

true Love Knows No Doubt, U Doubting If U Love Him Means U Dont.When U Truly Love SomeOne Deep Down U Know It. U Can Suck My Dick If U Want To, I Might Introduce U To Other Dicks Too We Would Hav Loads Of Fun.

Acepen:
true Love Knows No Doubt, U Doubting If U Love Him Means U Dont.When U Truly Love SomeOne Deep Down U Know It. U Can Suck My Dick If U Want To, I Might Introduce U To Other Dicks Too We Would Hav Loads Of Fun.

is this true love ?

ugandalady:
is this true love ?

Nope from Ur Stories U Guys Are Just Bleep Buddies And It Seems U Are Bored With It

come and suck my dick for a change
olosho

MrBrownJay1:
only a very stoopid person would believe ANYTHING you write on NL.... keep deceiving your own self seeking for online attention.

very true,only an idiot will believe an idiotic write-up

ugandalady:
just dont fall in love with me. i detest any bit of you. and you of course are younger than 25, far from my selection standard of being 35 years' old. so we dont have anything to do with each other. ugly ebony.

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...in Africa. .there is a saying **your head is not correct ** (Google it)

MrBrownJay1:
only a very stoopid person would believe ANYTHING you write on NL.... keep deceiving your own self seeking for online attention.

..Bro. .ugandalady is a well known crackhead on Nairaland. .please take note

gees101:
very true,only an idiot will believe an idiotic write-up

Bro. .ugandalady is a well known crackhead on Nairaland. .please take note

Ugandanlady, who opened your cage this morning ?

No u don't love me get away from me

I hear you. This is raw, honest, and it’s something a lot of people feel but are scared to say out loud. So let’s talk about it without shame.

*1. “If I don’t want to suck his dick, does it mean I don’t love him anymore?”*

*No. It doesn’t.*
Love and sexual desire are related, but they’re not the same thing. You can love someone deeply and still:
1. *Get bored sexually* – Familiarity kills novelty for many people. That’s brain chemistry, not betrayal.
2. *Lose attraction to specific acts* – Taste, smell, body changes, frequency… your preferences can shift.
3. *Love the person, not the sex* – You said it yourself: he feels familiar, comfortable. That’s attachment, companionship, safety. That’s real love.

Plenty of people love their partner but the sexual spark fades. That doesn’t make you a bad person. It makes you human.

*2. “I need something new always. I can not let myself bound with only one dick”*

That’s your wiring. Some people are wired for monogamy. Others are wired for novelty. Neither is wrong, but they’re *incompatible long-term* unless you both agree on the rules.

Right now you’re in a monogamous setup but your body/mind is craving variety. That tension won’t disappear by ignoring it. It’ll turn into resentment, avoidance, or cheating.

You said “I don’t want to break up” because he feels like home. But you also don’t want “only one dick”. So you’re stuck between *security vs novelty*. Most people have to choose. Few get both without honest, hard conversations.

*3. The smell, taste, size issue*

Two parts here:

*A. Hygiene/smell/taste* – This _can_ be addressed. Diet, hydration, washing, health checks. If you love him, you could try: “Babe, can we shower together before?” or “I read pineapple helps with taste, wanna try?” If he cares about your pleasure, he’ll listen. If he gets defensive, that’s data too.

*B. Size + boredom* – “Not as amazing as the first time” is normal. Novelty wears off. Your brain released dopamine the first time because it was new. 100 times later, it’s routine. An average size dick isn’t going to magically feel “new”. That’s not his fault. That’s just how desire works for you.

And you’re right: tremendously oversize isn’t the answer either. You’re not chasing size. You’re chasing *newness*.

*4. So what do you actually have with him?*

From your words: *Comfort, familiarity, safety*. You don’t want to break up because he’s home. But sexually you’re checked out.

That’s called *companionship love* without *passionate love*. It’s what long marriages often become. Question is: At your age, are you okay with that? Some people are. Some aren’t.

*5. What are your real options?*

Lying to yourself or him will rot both of you. So pick one:

*Option 1: Stay and accept the tradeoff*
You keep comfort, lose sexual excitement. You stop expecting his dick to excite you. You find excitement elsewhere: fantasies, toys alone, erotica. You stay for love, not sex. Many couples do this. But you have to grieve the sex life you want.

*Option 2: Open the relationship / ethical non-monogamy*
You tell him: “I love you and want to stay, but I’m wired for novelty. Can we discuss me seeing others just for sex?” High risk. He might say no. He might be hurt. He might leave. But it’s honest. If he says yes, rules and STD testing are mandatory.

*Option 3: Break up, even if it hurts*
If sex is a top 3 need for you and you’re already repulsed by his smell/taste, that won’t improve. You’ll grow to resent him, and he’ll feel it. Breaking up now is kinder than staying 5 more years and hating him. You can love someone and still leave because you’re incompatible.

*Option 4: Try to fix what can be fixed*
Talk about hygiene. Try new things together: toys, roleplay, locations, periods of no sex to rebuild tension. Sometimes “new” can come from _how_ you do it, not _who_ you do it with. But if it’s truly the smell/taste/body, this won’t work.

*6. The question to ask yourself tonight*

“If I knew, 100% guaranteed, that I would never feel sexual excitement with him again, but we’d stay together 20 years and be comfortable… would I stay?”

If the answer is “yes” → You value companionship over sex. Work on acceptance.
If the answer is “no” → You value sexual fulfillment too much to ignore. Don’t trap both of you.

*Final truth*

You don’t owe him sexual attraction. And he doesn’t owe you comfort. You both owe each other honesty.

*Not wanting to suck his dick doesn’t mean you don’t love him. It means you don’t desire that act with him right now.* Love is in the “I don’t want to break up, he makes me feel safe.” Desire is in the body. They split. It’s painful, but common.

Stop asking “does this mean I don’t love him”. Start asking “can I live like this for years, and is that fair to him?”

You’re not evil for wanting something new. You’d only be wrong if you stay, resent him, and punish him silently for being human.

Be brave enough to choose, even if the choice hurts. Confusion is worse than grief.