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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Odunharry(m): 6:15am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Acidosis:My bro I tell you. That's why it's always good to look at bigger picture and ask questions, then hear from the other person. The foundation of their marriage is actually faulty. I didn't see any form of trust, no friendship self. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Robynwelo1(f): 6:16am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Kai I just dey vex! Oga you are wicked and you reek hypocrisy. Some men like you will defend you but they are just as arrogant. The woman's story need not extra detail. You cannot throw her out of her own house, it's her land, it's her property, throw yourself out. Shameless. 8 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by GreatEngineer(m): 6:17am On Jul 21, 2018 |
@ExtraExtra, First of all can I know the kind of business that you and your wife ventured into that fetch you guys that huge profits. I need such business please. Secondly you are a very good man with an open heart. You know why I said so? Because you never even bother to ask for the documents of the house you are living in all these years. If it was some men, immediately they return from the trip, they will ask for the property documents. Is ur wife from a polygamy home? If yes, that is the source of her problem. Try and settle everything with her so that you both can leave together with your children. I like the way you show her that you are angry but, try and settle fast before things get out of hand. 3 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by LaudableXX: 6:20am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Processor01:Oh my goodness! I feel like dashing you 10,000 likes for this post. You are just too correct. Your analysis and suggestion is spot on! 9 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by project4OO: 6:21am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Amumaigwe: You're absolutely correct. A lot of comments here are a function of dysfunctional family experiences. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by JamieLannister: 6:21am On Jul 21, 2018 |
CaptainCodes: I have read most of the comments here and I must say only yours gave me a bit of hope. Never knew there were so many stupid and unreasonable folks on Nairaland.. Some comments here will make you want to tear your hair out. So quick to judge without examining the facts! Our generation is doomed is if this is all they can manage. I tell you, there'll be so many broken homes going by the comments here. Another lesson learnt, never bring family issues to NL, you'll be doomed if you do.. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by jolyment: 6:23am On Jul 21, 2018 |
[quote author=sisisioge post=69568440] We understand. Despite having had several opportunities to calm down up till now, oga sir is still saying he would like to absolutely own the house. One would wonder if to ensure the next time he angrily says that, it becomes law! [/quote The man should think of the good things they have done together so that he can love and forgive her. Forgiveness is the key to marriage.If he forgives her,they can still leave together.The wife should not change the name unless she wants it that way. 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Robynwelo1(f): 6:23am On Jul 21, 2018 |
GreatEngineer: You are blind and hungry. Did you not read where they both said it was the woman that built the house with her money? So she should put it in his name? What insolent right does he have to dare utter that statement 'leave my house'? 9 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by CaptainCodes(m): 6:24am On Jul 21, 2018 |
dejol88: MAY TOO MUCH SENSE NOT KILL YOU OO, BUT WITH THE WAY YOU ARE GOING.. THIS SENSE IS MUCH. I'D PICK JUST SOMETHING FROM WHAT YOU SAID...TO SAVAGE THE MARRIAGE. Another option. Which is they can both convert the name to the kids names.. and of course not inform the kids till they grow up.. during which they will have build another one. I am just about saving the marriage. Please OP.. dont ruin it. It's in your hands.. women can be... But just try compromise. I am certain you are hurt.. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by phemmyfour: 6:24am On Jul 21, 2018 |
foyeks2001:That was said out of anger when they had misunderstanding and it helped to reveal secret of whose name was on the house documents. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Wallade(m): 6:25am On Jul 21, 2018 |
maasoap: I think he became vengeful when he realized his level of foolishness and how stupid his wife made him look. That was the reason he demanded that the wife change the title to his name. However, the earlier he realizes that his life will be in more danger with that move will be the stitch-in-time. If that woman changes the title to his name then he would have signed his death warrant. She will forever not trust him; hate him and monitor him. In fact, she will not rest till he is totally decimated. Beware of the wrath of a woman. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by na2016: 6:26am On Jul 21, 2018 |
appsdope: Are you for real? Have you read the lady's version and the man's version? We are not talking of girlfreind here ooo. We are talking of a wife. I beleiveyou should withdraw this comment and apologise to the OP 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nellychinma20(f): 6:27am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Moral of the story The poor should marry the poor and vice versa You marry someone with same background as u ,then u already know what to expect . Nonsense and ingredienss If i call u pussy man now .... 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Sanchez01: 6:27am On Jul 21, 2018 |
sisisioge:The man looks greedy at this point but in all honesty, most men won't take it. Trust as an ingredient has walked out of their home. Perhaps you know how it feels when you think you know someone only to find them doing something you never imagined. This isn't really about the property anymore but how it went on for long without the wife saying a thing, only to 'strike' with the revelation. Had the issue never came up, he would feel the property is in their name when in reality it is not. I don't know how you see it but it is the height of it for some men. We are talking about a woman and man whose love affair was good before everything went south. He could have found out in a much more devastating way. If you were a man, you wouldn't take it, believe me. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by yembet(f): 6:28am On Jul 21, 2018 |
I'm happy that I read the post of the wife and I'm pleasedt the husband has responded swiftly. As an elderly married woman, the first thing I noticed, was the two of you doing you things differently. As a married couple, I not in support of you doing anything differently. Your dealing with each other, should be on trust. Why should the two of you, not have your names on the building documents? The man should try to accept, the wife's apology. The names of both of you, should be on the document. I personally, had the opportunity as a woman to own a property, but I never did, but supported my man to build houses in our names. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by SmallSimba: 6:28am On Jul 21, 2018 |
ojabel: The man did not care so much of those things because: 1 The dad was sick and it drained him. 2. He trusted that his wife would make a wise decision. The man didn't even bother to check the title of the land: that shows you how trusting he was. The woman is not trustworthy. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by iomoge2(f): 6:28am On Jul 21, 2018 |
sisisioge:don't mind him. He will send her packing as soon as he has his name on the documents. God forbid I change the name to his name when I have children. If we must agree, then our children will own the house with me as their next of kin. After using his share of the money for his own family needs. Even if the whole money was from him, it's not a crime if he puts everything in his wife's name. People do it and are happy. Since her family has money, he wants his family to inherit the house when he passes. Nonsense. Saying her family is buoyant. So f..king what? 5 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 6:32am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Idiots like this are the reason why i dont like coming on nairaland You are doing more harm to the marriage than good. I can bet you dont have a man in your life. abike12: 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by appsdope(m): 6:33am On Jul 21, 2018 |
na2016:Yes I did. They did biz and split the proceeds. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by freshvine(f): 6:33am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Amberon11: houses built with a man name alone are willed to either the wife or her children. a win win situation for the women 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by hinograce: 6:33am On Jul 21, 2018 |
I didn't want to comment as this is not supposed to be a public matter. My little advice is you both go back to the basics of marriage. In marriage there is no my money and your money, my property and your property. That is the foundation of this problem. Your parent that needed treatment is also her parent in law so is her parent to you. When husband and wife see things as mine and yours the time bomb has been set. It is a struggle but it can be won. So please take the matter away from Nairaland as people here are not part of your faculty of matrimony hence will advice you to the extent they feel is right which is not really necessary. I pray for wisdom and peace for the parties involved. SHALOM 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by aku626(m): 6:33am On Jul 21, 2018 |
I don’t hopekr pray to be in your shoes however instead of making hasty decisions catch your breath both of you’re exhibiting pride to be coincise. Get your acts together and come to an agreement. It really don’t matter who’s name is on the house if you guy Love one another you could always build another in your name. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Eketem: 6:38am On Jul 21, 2018 |
iomoge2: Exactly, one of his poverty striken relative will come and throw her out with the kids, this is the kind of suffering women that give sick Nigerian men an erection. This man is clearly manipulative even in the kids name she isn't safe he will simply keep the kids and kick her out she looses both the kids and the house. She better tell her parents I am sure they warned her not to marry him but desperation and love didn't let her see road. Small pocket, big ego. So irritating 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by sisisioge: 6:38am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Sanchez01: I understand. But from the story they both agreed on, the woman had bought the property, done the paper work and started building before oga added his money to it. While doing this, oga was taking care of his father's health and building his parents house with his own share o. Safe to say, all paper works were done before his money got on it and since they both shared their profit and each did as they pleased with his/her share. Be objective, she probably 85% owns the property. Despite that, she's offered to have his name on it too but he ain't buying! What name would you call that? Please be candid. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by bukatyne(f): 6:39am On Jul 21, 2018 |
folly22: I agree with you. The split started the whole fracas. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by madridguy(m): 6:41am On Jul 21, 2018 |
This is serious. |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by GreatEngineer(m): 6:42am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Robynwelo1:In your judgement I am blind. Let me tell you if you don't know, that woman is selfish from the beginning, what stop her from putting Mr. And Mrs ABC on the property documents when she was building the house. If she wanted the house all by herself, why didn't she tell the husband when he was contributing to build the house no matter how small the contribution was. I am building a house right now and I put Mr And Mrs, even though am the only one Building it. So will you say I have no sense in doing this. You will say he used his own share to treat his father, so he should be allowed the poor man that cater for him to die. He build house for the parents with the remaining balance, what is wrong with that. Does that justify why the wife should put the property on her name alone? Selfishness is what is destroying this country. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Eketem: 6:43am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Amumaigwe: Poor lazy jealous men with only empty pride and who reason like this. I only blame Nigerian women who have tolerated this crappie ideologies for so long giving men like you courage to spill this in public. Only weak suffering women give sadists like you an erection. A woman is only good if she is at your mercy accepting crap. A good marriage is not built on disrespect the idiocy of this whole mentality is your kind will shout 100percent submission with zero percent love Nigerian women have standards you won't die 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by freshvine(f): 6:47am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Youngzedd:Great writers are story tellers. they're descriptive,analytical |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by fopishow(m): 6:47am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Its either you are the breadwinner of your family, unhappily married and frustrated i.e staying married for marriage sake. Shame on you for writing this sentence after reading write ups from both sides. Eediot e- warrior always on the lookout for family breakout. I hope your 3 bedroom house is enough to accommodate her and her kids and have both organ to perform the conjugal duties on her as well. keepingmum: 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by ayaomen(f): 6:47am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Oga firstly, I need you to know that kind business wey fit build house, and all you listed. Secondly, if I were your wife I would have built that house in my child's name. I'm sorry o, that house is not yours put yourself in her shoes assuming she used her profit to do all you did for herself and her family, I know that house would be in your name. Forgive her, both of you can sort this out without NL. Some of us get very little experience for marriage while some no get at all, save your marriage oga. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by bigpicture001: 6:48am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Mr op, u can't run down here to say yr price nd just bolt away nd dnt read or reply wot we conclude. for me,i am a realist,.. after reading off ur wife's price nd reading urs. yes u cn be excused for takin ur part of d money for parents medicals... which I would also hv done.. in order to save a life,yes,i would b mad with her for not including my name on d property....cuz dts in itself doesn't show love nd sacrifice.... but if it were me, nd wen d problem started nd starts to degenerate.. nd sh is fyting go kip d marage intact..nd in d process,compromised to change the name to both of us, I will gladly accept that nd we move on.. lemme tell u,dt lady us educated nd not some fool in some village,women are not a doll Bby like men use to think. sh has been a supportive wife all diz while. u ate ur cake with using ur money for ur problems, but sh still want to mk u hv d cake bak by share the property ownership. u tink u will see a better woman compared to her in terms of finance management?.. ota go nd try,but b4 u do dt kindly divorce her to let other gud men access to her. ur a very greedy man. a self centered man nd a gold diggger in disguise....i dnt see a single tin sh has done wrong..sh apologies, uts not enough, sh compromised, it's not enough,sh prudently managed resources, it's not enough, sh doesn't cheat,its not enough.....plz I beg u,go nd luk for dt perfect gal,lets see how better sh would be....... ...a lot of fools will mistakenly throw the Bby away along with the bath water..... 4 Likes 1 Share |
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