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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by divinelove(m): 6:49am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Nairaland don turn court DT stupid woman shld report here for flogging, bloody betrayer n she can go n marry d house now mumu woman 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by abike12(f): 6:50am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Naijadrillz: I'm sure you're referring to the idiots that refused to train you and not me 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by sacramento1212: 6:50am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Acidosis: My bro, you dey mind some of these nairalanders? I remember you on the wife's thread and we quoted each other. There's no right thinking man that would wake up one day and tell the wife to vacate the house. Many of them that gave advise are inexperienced, underage, etc you will be surprised that many on the wife's thread are not even up to 25 but will be screaming that the wife was right and she should carry on with her act. I really do pity people that come to Nairaland for marital issues. Most times they end up compounding the problem. I don't see this marriage working because the foundation is already damaged, no trust and it will be very difficult to amend. Their marriage to me was more like partnership and the reason there was a profit sharing package and issues being triggered from it. As painful as it may be, the best if i were to be in the same position is to move on. 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Bunmiaji(f): 6:52am On Jul 21, 2018 |
ExtraExtra:blood must be in ur brain. See how you opener dirty mouth to say in ur name "ONLY". Oga Are, it was because of situations like this that she used her name. Firstly, it was her share of HER money. You used yours for your family, so U think say she no get family Abi? See sense wey this mufu wan use for omolomo. You think say this girl no get sense Abi? Brother divorce her see her turn to the best thing you never had. God! May I never meet such an irresponsible fellow in my life! 14 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by kazyhm(m): 6:54am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Acidosis: Did anyone read this........i like people that understand reasons and purpose of things that exist even before they were born i still cant comprehend how women has turned marriage up side down 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Daeylar(f): 6:55am On Jul 21, 2018 |
You have finished work, Tuale.!!!! He knew, in fact, to this moment, he knows he is wrong, that's why he started with some bullshit, it is the wife's responsibility to keep the home. I wish Aunty heseesall, like I said earlier, can consider divorce, but Nigerians no dey like to hear divorce. I wish them the best, but let her never change the name on the document to the Man's name, or even do joint ownership, the name should remain in her name Alone. ALONE. "Get out of my house" because of ordinary argument, As if that one is not annoying enough, It's a house that he knows his wife built alone while he gave her a very tiny amount just to contribute. I mean what can be left after building his parents house and taking care of his father's illness? Yet he still had the boldness to tell her to get out of his house. HIS HOUSE KWA!!! Mtcheeeeewwwwwwww It's no 12, 14 and 15 that pained me pass. The man has no issues with treating his children like trash, When it is convenient for him, he abandons his children. When it is convenient, he wants to use then as a bargaining chip, not once did he care about their welfare and how they would feel in relation to all this, but some how he still feels he is right. mtchew. While the woman has refused to leave the man because she doesn't know how to explain to the kids that marriage ended because of property, this wicked man just doesn't care. I'm praying Heseesall doesn't ever change the name of the document, it should remain in her name alone, and finds someone new who will treat her with respect. Processor01: 12 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by LaudableXX: 6:57am On Jul 21, 2018 |
MarieSucre:1. The man has moved out of the house. 2. The man has requested for a transfer to another state, without his family. 3. The man has refused to come back home, unless the property papers are transferred solely to his own name alone, which the wife is unwilling to do. She wants the title deeds to reflect joint ownership. The man has refused that option. 4. The man has not even considered the possibility of going back home, yet claims he does not want a divorce. In my view, the guy has initiated an action plan for a prolonged separation, which would ultimately lead to a divorce. Such separation under acrimonious terms, is the beginning of the road to the divorce court.... In my view, the wife needs to work on her anger and abusive nature. Such verbal assaults can lead to unsightly incidents. The husband also needs to abandon his pride and find ways to manage his wife's character. They need to re-open channels of honest communication, and learn to forgive each other, in order to breach the distance in their marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Ekymacz1(f): 6:58am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Oga my concern is why you want the property to be in your name ALONE. Haba that's not fair and you know it. Were you smiling when you asked her to move out. You now 'didn't mean it' because she outsmarted you. By now she would have been in the streets trying to get a cow to come and appease you. Advise: That house belongs to both of you. The names on the documents should be changed to read MR JOHN SMITH AND MRS GLORY JOHN SMITH. Never use MR AND MRS JOHN SMITH(This applies to other couples doing business or buying anything together to avoid stories that touch the heart. Good luck 6 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Artzdanielsz(m): 6:58am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Eketem:Bros I understand, but the op feels betrayed, any body will feel same way |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by CaptainCodes(m): 6:59am On Jul 21, 2018 |
sisisioge: Hey, sisisoge... It's understandable there are some ego issues. But did you also realise there was trust issue before ego issues. Trust me, if madam had kept "Mr and Mrs Smith" on the title... He has no right to send her out. If madam has kept, "Mr Smith" on the title... He still has no right to send her out. Its agreed, on no account should you have issues to do it. He messed up there. Most times, you sleep over some issues. But, she could have told him from the start.. why hide it all the way?.. Don't you see some faults there?. Haba' it's a marriage. Haba!.. not just a casual relationship. It's okay to venge anger, but I think he should either agree that thier names are on it, or thier kids names, or they stay around the city in a newer house. It's not about the house, sisisioge, (what if she inherited a house from her rich Dad, does that mean the man won't stay there if there are still struggling a bit, with plans to build another).. it's about trust. Finally, I quoted you for to stop being irrational in your messages... Yours inst the worst, but of course.. I have come to realize your monicker for that. Not all things are jokes. You joke a lot. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by tunjijones(m): 7:00am On Jul 21, 2018 |
tabithababy: U are a big fool. Dnt you knw what ever comment u make here cld destroy this home? 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Robynwelo1(f): 7:00am On Jul 21, 2018 |
GreatEngineer: Your brain is under your feet. Blaming the woman only, when the man is to blame. A sensible man will not even split the money in half. The wife's share is what she used to build HER OWN HOUSE. I see that you can kiss gutter trash when you're jobless. The woman even brought the idea of doing the business, maybe you should ask her instead. 6 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Daeylar(f): 7:03am On Jul 21, 2018 |
tartarus: When such nairalanders supported domestic violence and assault against a woman, called the victim a bitch and a very useless mod brought such a thread to FP This one is a small thing for them to support na. Everything is men vs women to their immature selves. They will rather die than support a woman over a man, even if the woman is 100% right. Na their way. Useless misogynistic men running around nairaland. 8 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by freshvine(f): 7:09am On Jul 21, 2018 |
ayaomen: See how you twist logic...ignorance is indeed a bliss! you'll build a house in your kids name and shut out their father and you think in their adult age they'll be like, "dad, this is our house, u are not a member". how is it even possible to separate a bloodline cos of mere possession? 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 7:10am On Jul 21, 2018 |
This is what happens when you get married to a woman that comes from a very well to do family. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by GreatEngineer(m): 7:10am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Robynwelo1:I don't care who brings the biz idea or who brings the capital. Both of them have their flaws. But the wife did her own intentional, the man use the abusive word "park out of the house" may be because he was angry but however that was wrong of him. You are hiding under your phone to call someone jobless. Be careful because not everyone on Nairaland is frustrated like you. Stop using abusive word to buttress your point when you are trying to win and argument. 3 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 7:10am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Extreextra you have allowed pride destroy your home. 1. You should have told her to leave your house - you meant it. Go back to that house and make sure you have both of your names on the documents. There's no way only your name should be there. Your wife is a wise woman and decided to carryout with the building. You both would have tenants if she thinks like you. Final verdict: your wife loves you. Swallow your pride and go back. 4 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by MizMyColi(f): 7:11am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Anyone notice how OP captioned the topic "THE TRUE STORY" Who else thinks "MY STORY" would have sufficed? Gather here 12 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by na2016: 7:14am On Jul 21, 2018 |
appsdope: I think you need to read it well. This is a wife not just a girl friend. I think you need to learn something from this story because as I can see, you are not married and that is the basis of your conclusions. 2 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by sisisioge: 7:16am On Jul 21, 2018 |
CaptainCodes: I wasn't joking one bit! Just couldn't help laughing at the way he rationalized the whole thing...same as you now . Yes, she messed up by not adding his name but it is understandable because she started the whole thing and paper works with her own money before oga added his quarter to finish. By the way, I hope you know Mr and Mrs Smith could be construed as the man's name alone. Mr and Mrs there is just a title and if the oga that kuku wants his name alone on the deed before wants to mess with her further, he would argue that fact in court. Mr Joe Smith and Mrs Jane Smith is better...just for awareness. 3 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by LaudableXX: 7:17am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Rajosh: Go back and read her story again. She was the first to mention that her husband used his share of the money to treat his sick father, flew him abroad for treatment, and completed his parent's house. Everything the husband narrated here, is what the wife said before in her story. The only thing she omitted was the part, where she suspected him of cheating and abused him, his family & his background. That was what made him tell her to leave the house. Her response to him, was that the documents of the house are in her own name, so she cannot leave her own house. 5 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by kazyhm(m): 7:17am On Jul 21, 2018 |
elektra: well, i dont 100% support what the husband is proposing but come to think of it women's words are not suppose to be taking serious, but the men's should be ? Men should never trust his wife will always be on his side at all time ? When you plan with your wife and there is an amendment, the earlier plan is void ? for either party... Marriage is a war zone where you plan attack and counter attack ? Without tricks, games and surprises, marriage is boring ? When in marriage, you shouldn't trust you spouse blindly ? Now how should a SON be raised ? Because a man shouldn't show his emotion in the way he knows 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by bigpicture001: 7:17am On Jul 21, 2018 |
again...this husband's claim of not believe in divorce is not genuine. he still want to hold on to a precious lady nd still b links to her property nd wealth. does he even tink d lay would allow him take d kids with him..he is in dreamland nd needs to wake up. he should better settle with her or let her b. 5 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by chris31(m): 7:17am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Ur wife is a dangerous woman she is too secretive & have a plan by using only her name in the documents I can't imagine calling that kind of person my wife She can't eat her cake & still have it again Let her sell the house balance u the money u contributed take ur children from her & zoom off Ur mother is still alive she can help u to look after the children I said this coz both of u can never trust each other again & trust is the most important in marriage 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Jelal0007(m): 7:19am On Jul 21, 2018 |
appsdope:I neva read bullwhip like this in a long time. 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by GAZZUZZ(m): 7:22am On Jul 21, 2018 |
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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by EagleNest(m): 7:24am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Please bear my epistle... INTRO After hearing the wife's story, I didn't subscribe fully to whole of it because I felt the problem is more deeper than said. Something must have triggered the problem. I did not draw conclusion until I could now hear from the partner. However I made some predictions based on my knowledge of complexity of marriage and it seems the man just said exactly what I predicted. VERDIT: Based on the two stories, I can deduce that the marriage simply lacked trust. The man is terribly ignorant and assuming, while the woman is smarter and a bit cunny (smooth operator). REASONS: How on earth would the man explain about "thinking and believing about ownership or joint ownership of a house without asking for document"? Abi na dream? It beats my imagination, considering that you have spent a lot of your share of money on your parents. If you are smart you would've known that such expense doesn't go down well with partner no matter how holy - whether man or woman. You would've been wise enough to find out how the land was bought, etc, that would have triggered the alarm bell and give you time to strategize to manage the situation. What a game! Game of marriage! And how on earth did the woman cunningly hide away the fact that the house belong to her for all these while. This is a secret you know would blow marriage away when it is unraveled and you still held to it. Why? It is appalling that the source of the quarrel is simply based on suspicion but how the man did not manage to clear that suspicion is worrying. Is it that the woman wanted to create quarrel to meet a purpose or that the man is actually hobnobbing with someone and denying. Wonders shall never end! SOLUTION: 1. Mr man , calm down! Two wrongs can't make right. You cannot have your name alone on the document. That's not gonna work. The document should bear Mr & Mrs... End of discussion. 2. Mrs, apologize to your hubby for the insults etc hurled on him when you were suspecting him of infidelity unless he is actually guilty then it should be the other way round. 3. Mr, apologise to her for asking her to pack out of the house even though you said you didn't mean it. That's hurtful irrespective of being said in anger. 4. For the sake of the kids, let go of all the wounds, and try building the marriage again. It's only two of you that can make it work if you create a platform of trust. 5. TRUST IS THE BEDROCK OF TRUE MARRIAGE. YOU HAVE TO BUILD IT THRU TRANSPARENCY OR YOU DON'T HAVE MARRIAGE. 4 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by chris31(m): 7:28am On Jul 21, 2018 |
JoannaSedley:If ur not yet married i just dey pity u coz runs have destroy ur medulla oblongata 1 Like |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by teemy(m): 7:28am On Jul 21, 2018 |
TonyeBarcanista:Tonye, let's be honest here. Rubbed it in his face? He never would have known the truth if he did not make the unnecessary statement. For him now, it is a matter if being in charge of a house where he can say 'pack out this instant'. As men we are supposed to have pride but it is for the responsibility we carry and for him to have insisted on her changing name to his only is never a good sign but an example of a man wanting to defraud someone he is supposed to protect. She got angry and said words she meant out if anger. She cannot use eraser to wipe them out now. He got angry and said words he meant out of anger. He cannot now come and prepare zobo for anyone here he never meant it. By the way, what is in the issue of adding name sef? If she had bought a car, should it be Mr and Mrs too? A store, Mr and Mrs or anything for that matter does not need those paparazzi just to make 'people' satisfied when she COMPLETELY had the choice of deciding what she could use her money for. People change and that is a fact of life. Her money her COMPLETE decision and she did one she could easily Will out without drama or recourse to anyone. The man here only stopped insisting in owning her property when the whole world had known he actually does not own it. Tonye, even on a man owned alone property, is the man ever supposed to ask his weaker self to move out? 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by LaudableXX: 7:30am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Amumaigwe: Oga, take it easy. You cannot go around accusing people of coming from broken homes, simply because their views are different from your own. The "love, submission, sacrifice, tolerance etc that used to be the hallmark of marriages," which you spoke about, have been relegated to the back burner, because they do not make sound men the way they used to, in the past. Once upon a time, you had honest, hardworking, straight-forward, disciplined, respectful, tolerant and visionary men in the society, who would go the extra mile to take care of their wives and families. They handled their homes with understanding, while treating their wives with respect. And you had open, trusting, caring, truthful, patient and well-mannered women who put their families' interests, first. Today, you have selfish, cunning, self-centred, dishonest men who are just after their own pockets, and see women as wh'ores, baby mamas etc, that they can pull a fast one upon. And the women? There are many of them who are too busy forming vain slay mamas, fashionistas and groupies all over the place, instead of taking their destinies in their own hands. May God save us all. 5 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by iboboyswag(m): 7:31am On Jul 21, 2018 |
appsdope: You see them... beware of this kind of people and their advices! The person I know behind this moniker is a proud, insulting and an uncultured girl but see how she is talking about her girlfriend and giving advice... well what do I know? the world is turning upside down! Encore Oga, I read your wife's epistle and now I have read yours... the truth is that you are seeking answers where you won't find any. Another reality check, you are indeed proud like your wife asserted. In the heat of argument you also insulted her, she may have gone overboard with insulting your family but that is not enough and i mean even with only her name on the house, it is not enough to try and break your marriage. Note; this not boyfriend and girlfriend matter... Na Marriage be this one o! kill your pride and man up! it's your family you have now... your parents and siblings will leave but you, that nagging, sexy, beautiful and overbearing wife and the children you both sired in love and sexual estacy are what will remain. Reprimand her but never again threaten her with separation. Thank you and God bless your home. 4 Likes |
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by jumiasalesguy3: 7:32am On Jul 21, 2018 |
Are you for real with that edit part. Sentiment will not kill us. Eketem: 1 Like |
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