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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Zirah: 12:44pm On Jul 21, 2018
tabithababy:
cheesy cheesy

Hope she has changed the name to yours now

Mtcheeeeew

The greatest mistake she made is that she supposed to have used her own part of the money to take care or build house for her parent as well undecided


The mistake she made was not using HER money to build a house for herself and later inviting her husband to live with her. Stupid, ungrateful wretch.

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by pacesetting: 12:46pm On Jul 21, 2018
women will always run their mouth, whether they own the house or not. Most times, when some of them finish ranting they come back to apologize, just like the lady. It's the duty of a man to have self control both in speech and in action.
MIKOLOWISKA:
if the house were in his name she wouldn't have been running her mouth

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Bass123(m): 12:50pm On Jul 21, 2018
Bros you're wrong to let her write only your name on the document. Have you forgotten the house and the woman both belong to you? Marriage is not about 'I' s, but 'we' s and 'our' s'.
I will suggest that the house shld be co-owned in both your names. Though your wife was wrong too, to have done that which she felt cheated which was though for a good course you would have sacrifice for her if her parents were involved too. But one thing you should know is that women behave ackward generally, which God has wired us to fix it.
Remember, he who leaves a fight lives to fight it another day, if I were you, I will put a stop to my transfer and fix my family rather than to allow ego take over.
You can actually do it yourself without inviting anyone by studying this document I have attached to this. God bless you.

Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Zirah: 12:52pm On Jul 21, 2018
ExtraExtra:
Women are the backbone of the family, they make or mar the home, since they help bring life to the world suffice it to say they sum up what we call family, 99% of successful, longlasting home or family is the ability of the woman to hold the "forte".
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Whoever you are, you're an ingrate and a fool. Last last this pride that isn't making you reason well will finish you soon. You got yourself an intelligent and resourceful woman who made money for you both yet aren't grateful. Your wife is a good woman, you should be thankful.

You did business. Shared the profit. You used yours to build a house. She used hers to build a house. You gave yours for your parents to live in. She gave hers for her husband and children to live in. There's equity. What's your problem then?

May I ask? In whose name did you build the house you gave your father? Your wife's? Hypocrite!

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by MIKOLOWISKA: 12:52pm On Jul 21, 2018
Nihilstjnr:


If you think abuse is the reason for this mess, you're clearly in denial or deluded.

The alleged abuse is a symptom of the a much deeper malaise in the marriage - the wife had clearly recognised her husband's capability for greed and cruelty.

Yet she married him
See LAck of sense



If you're able to analyse properly, you can see that at every stage, this woman took steps to protect her investment because she knows who she married.

They made money together, but hubby decides he wants to use joint profits to fly his dad out of the country for medical treatment, as well as build a house for his parents. The woman realises that this man is ready to take full control of, and squander their joint funds, so she demands a split.
Health matter of parents is squandering abi
You get sense so?
Can you marry someone who doesn't care for their parents?





A sensible man with kids would know that his first priority is to his kids and would have first focused on putting a roof over his children's head. Instead he left his kids under rain and went to build a house for his parents. No surprise he walked away from those kids in the end.
We're the children homeless
Who was paying rent while she was building mansion
Could she build if she was paying

Think before talking



Next, the woman builds the house in her name, again because she knows who she married. If you genuinely think that it's a mere coincidence that the man tried to order her out of the house, then I have a bridge to sell you.

Think about it, the man is claiming to be annoyed that the deeds weren't in both their names, yet he stold her to get out of a house, where as far as he knew at the time, she was listed as a co-owner anyway.
but it's OK for her to abuse him
You have kolanut brain





This is a guy who wasn't concerned about her rights in the first place, and the woman clearly recognised these tendencies and took steps to protect her neck.
Yet he allowed her to build house without over supervision



[quote]
Steps that have been justified in the end.

I believe there's a lot that hasn't been said yet, but if you think that her insulting his parents is what triggered this wahala, then mehn...you're inexperienced in life.[/quote

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 12:53pm On Jul 21, 2018
monchazfarms:


If the man is of value to the woman,she would've at least informed him of her intention of using just her name for the property,not letting him know shows that she's cunny and doesn't trust the man.The man is really pained because he felt betrayed.

ur post here is in order.


but that doesn't translate to the woman making or showing the man that he is irrelevant.
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by monalicious(f): 12:54pm On Jul 21, 2018
tabithababy:
cheesy cheesy

Hope she has changed the name to yours now

Mtcheeeeew

The greatest mistake she made is that she supposed to have used her own part of the money to take care or build house for her parent as well undecided

This got me. Lol. Atleast if she had, there wouldn't be a bone of contention now. Lol. The only blame I can place on d woman is putting her name as d sole owner from the beginning. But who knows if God was trying to protect her. Over a misunderstanding he had with his wife, he already threatened to send her packing, even if he said he didn't mean it. That would have been the beginning of many "pack out of my house" saga, before he finally sends her out truly. The man should also accept his fault, throw away his ego, and take back his wife. If he is so pained, then they can sell d house like someone suggested n get a new place.

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by MIKOLOWISKA: 12:55pm On Jul 21, 2018
MarieSucre:


Uncle the only reason we know she is from a well to do background is because he briefly mentioned it, he did not even bring it up as a reason for their quarrel. He said the main reason for their quarrel was because he was doing somethings that made the wife feel he was cheating on her. Face that one and stop all these other jumping up and down. The man needs to check himself and limit whatever action is making his wife feels she is cheating on him. My 2 cents.
I feel you are a fool. No evidence no proof I just feel, so I have right to insult your parents

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Bass123(m): 12:55pm On Jul 21, 2018
Bros you're wrong to let her write only your name on the document. Have you forgotten the house and the woman both belong to you? Marriage is not about 'I' s, but 'we' s and 'our' s'.
I will suggest that the house shld be co-owned in both your names. Though your wife was wrong too, to have done that which she felt cheated which was though for a good course you would have sacrifice for her if her parents were involved too. But one thing you should know is that women behave ackward generally, which God has wired us to fix it.
Remember, he who leaves a fight lives to fight it another day, if I were you, I will put a stop to my transfer and fix my family rather than to allow ego take over.
You can actually do it yourself without inviting anyone by studying this document I have attached to this. God bless you.

ExtraExtra:
Women are the backbone of the family, they make or mar the home, since they help bring life to the world suffice it to say they sum up what we call family, 99% of successful, longlasting home or family is the ability of the woman to hold the "forte".

My attention was drawn to this forum and this topic https://www.nairaland.com/4617351/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home#69371294 and it is sad that most people drew conclusion on a one sided story though i wouldnt blame those involved because they judged based on what was said and the individual involved needed public validation for her wrong doing, a public display i dont approve of but since external persons and relations are already involved i'd like to clear some details.

"Dee" comes from a very well to do family while i dont so when we got married, i made her feel we are in this together, not one above the other but as partners in EVERYTHING. To be fair to her she brought up the business idea we did years ago, in other to put forth money to start up, i made sure i had equal money as her for it, goal was to own a property, build et al. Unfortunately my dad's ailing health deteriorated to the extent that he had to be flown out, when the profit came, i told her and she agreed, she decided we split it into two so she use hers for the initial plan. As the first born i went with my dad, back here she got the property and started building, when i came back the remaining money with me was used to complete it, what was left was used for my parents house. Being a trust worthy person i feel she is, i didnt bother to check documents cos i felt she would do the right thing by putting both our names which she kept in a bank.

Now, i work and own other businesses so i'm always in contact with alot of people from both genders so to her she feels i may have lost guard by cheating which is not true: i dont have password on my phones, i always make and receive calls right in front of her but she still think i'm hiding something and that was the genesis of the problem weeks ago, i rebuked her to cut it out immediately but she was out for blood, she insulted me like never before, when i didnt give her face, she extended her TOXIC words to my parents, my family, my background and my personality, that was when i lost it, if not for my cousin that was there i would have hit her, out of anger i told her to get the hell out of the house which of course i didnt mean, then she shocked me saying the house is ONLY in her name, i was numb and speechless, in other for me not to react in a brutal way i left the house, told her i would never step there again if she doesnt change it to my name ONLY. My cousin who was there when it happened told my people, they called me so i had to explain things, right now her family knows what happened and none is supporting her.

YES i said she should put my name only cos she belittled and betrayed me which tells me if it was in both our names she will raise shoulder and feel above me.YES i requested for transfer and i will go through with it, i cannot be away from my kids and still be in the same state, it doesnt make, when it is sucessful, i will get a place conducive amd comfortable for my kids, they will be with me. I told her recently not to bother with the name change anymore, she can have the house all to herself for all i care.

I wont divorce her because i dont believe in that, once i move with the kids she can come along if she wants but right now we are seperated. I wanted a partner, she displayed stupidity not smartness, what the future holds i dont know, she made her bed she should lay on it.

Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 12:58pm On Jul 21, 2018
Platony:


I am nt a Igbo bt, i try pity una learn flatantino language small since i ws born in d east. But i cn bet my balls dat u're nt frm Enugu becos dey dnt behave lyk u,...

Atleast u understood wat i said, except ur own igbo wey u be na d Congolese type. grin grin grin

Nna do go shop, no forgate to cally food wey u & ur blothers go eat for mar-kate oo.

wink

I know ur a conehead Afonja from the word go because I had been here long enough to witness Yorubas use Google translate to claim Igbo, A very stupid idea that belittles the Afonja.
We will catch u each time u use Google translate to translate Igbo language because the result is always obviously distorted to the extent that it looks like "Yoruba igbo" grin.

"" But i cn bet my balls dat u're nt frm Enugu ""

LMFAO, Afonja now claiming to be an online Anthropologist that studies the igbos, U sound too silly.

""Atleast u understood wat i said ""

U used Google translate and it ur translated Igbo looks very stupid and gives u away as a Cone. Simple. grin.

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by MIKOLOWISKA: 12:58pm On Jul 21, 2018
Nihilstjnr:


A man can fly abroad with his father, but walk away from his kids at the drop of a hat.

He can build a home for his parents with his money, but contribute only a little towards housing his own family.

That sounds like someone who's preoccupied with being a child...Instead of being a father.

That's even beside the point. What is clear to me is that the woman saw this coming and wisely protected her investment.

when you consider that:
1. he tried to kick her out of the house and
2. he's now demanding full ownership of a house he admits to contributing very little to.

it's obvious that her move was justified.

Sensible people will be asking how she was capable of such foresight... I'm sure in her heart of hearts, she knew since day 1 that she was married to a monster.
May your children abandon you when you're old and feeble
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by MIKOLOWISKA: 12:59pm On Jul 21, 2018
MarieSucre:


He is not the only one feeling betrayed bro. He just confirmed her suspicions that he has a serious ego and will leave her homeless of she doesn't tread carefully. I suspect he is cheating on her.
why didn't she marry a wimp. Shebi you're looking for ego less man

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by freshvine(f): 12:59pm On Jul 21, 2018
Nihilstjnr:


unless you're being deliberately obtuse, you will see that the husband is demanding far more than just his 'stake in the spoils of marriage

From telling her to get out of the house, to demanding that deeds of the house be transferred to his name alone, it's clear to anybody with half a brain that this husband believes he's entitled to all of it, and the wife entitled to none.

And that, is exactly why the woman protected her investment in the first place.mmm

The best investment in life should be her husband other possession is immaterial. she'll die and leave properties behind but her imprint in this life is the husband she raised souls with.

its apparent her marriage is with a cluse. she never believe in marriage and committment.

get out of my house is a phrase commonly used in marriage relationships some women are even daring to lock their husbands out of homes if they misbehave.

in western countries, the man is thrown out regardless.

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by MIKOLOWISKA: 1:00pm On Jul 21, 2018
MarieSucre:


His suspected unfaithfulness is what caused this mess.
her unbridled tongue without proof is the cause

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Zirah: 1:00pm On Jul 21, 2018
keepingmum:
The foolish pride and arrogance your wife described off ur character is evident in your write up.

Thanku. He's a selfish bastard.

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by CioAngels(f): 1:01pm On Jul 21, 2018
TooNoisy:
I can see the devil is at work again grin grin grin

The devil is always trying to break a happy home... or was your home ever happy? shocked shocked

I guess all of these happened to expose your wife; I am shocked to hear that your wife did not tell you that your name was never on the house. That is treacherous. Now you should thank God for exposing the type of person you married.... and may be exposing the type of person you are as well. Joke or no joke, you should not have said she should leave your house.

Okay so let's discuss the way forward. First of all, forget about divorce - the children suffer most from a divorce and you shouldn't let your innocent children pay for your stupidity and that if your wife.

You need to call your wife and explain to her. In my view there are three options:

1. She sells the house and you both can jointly buy a house to be owned by both of you. That way, no one can send the other out.
2. You get another place and she moves in with you while she continues to rent out her own house. It is her house.
3. You move back to the house with a view to building your own house quickly. You allocate the family expenses in such a way that you are able to save quickly to build your house.

Please do not relocate to another state; it makes no sense and you are only punishing your children for their mother's sin.

What is now missing in your marriage is trust... you both will not trust each other for a long time, but time heals all wounds. You both will heal.. give it time but please don't punish your children.
He can take your option 2 if he must take any option at all, which i think is better for them Taking transfer and taking your children with you and if she wants she can come to where you are. What makes you think your children will go with you? If you love your children so much, then you should know you will destabilise them over their education, health and other trauma that will associate with it no matter how little they may be. Going away from home is a childish idea. Madam, apologise to your husband and let peace trust rein in your home again for the sake of the untainted love you have for him.

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by MIKOLOWISKA: 1:01pm On Jul 21, 2018
MarieSucre:


As in eh I just dey use one eye dey look them. All these men advising him to to the manly thing and abandon his marriage, very bitter single men that want him to single, desperate and die alone in old age.
yeah he should stay and continue to be insulted and abused till he loses it and kills the woman and end up in jail.

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by sugah: 1:01pm On Jul 21, 2018
pacesetting:
Whoever you are, you have completely nailed this issue. You just wrote virtually everything I had in my mind. I've read the two sides of the story. And as you rightly pointed out, OP wants to destroy his family. Unknowing to him, he's just being selfish and wicked to his children.

He should be thanking God he has a wife who could think up a smart business idea for both of them to invest together. He is here claiming property he doesn't even have any right to own. As a man, I find it hard to believe that some men in this current generation are still living like our fore fathers. No wonder most rich people would rather marry people in their class than marry people who will never get rid of their inferiority complex.
@Bolded, I was going to add that to my write up. It's very true.

Unfortunately though, I think the man has found a woman he feels he is more superior to and who is probably grovelling at every cents handed down to her he now is eager to do away with his independent minded wife. The success/failure of his marriage lies with him.

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by paulynpen(m): 1:01pm On Jul 21, 2018
Rajosh:
This is why it's never good to judge before hearing from both parties involved. when I read her story, told my brother that she's written it out how it'll favor her. She never made mention of how you used the remaining money with you to contribute to the house, she never mentioned your dad's health issues. Any sane child will use whatever money he's earmarked for any project to treat his sick father.
I'm not hear to side any of you but whatever decision you take, remember the kids. I know of a girl whose parents divorced when she was a kid. She was so lively as a kid but after the divorce, she grew up to be so withdrawn and antisocial. School performances dropped.
for the sake of your kids, you both should compromise and shift grounds.

You are either lying or ignorant.

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by GistFullGround: 1:02pm On Jul 21, 2018
ExtraExtra:
Women are the backbone of the family, they make or mar the home, since they help bring life to the world suffice it to say they sum up what we call family, 99% of successful, longlasting home or family is the ability of the woman to hold the "forte".

My attention was drawn to this forum and this topic https://www.nairaland.com/4617351/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home#69371294 and it is sad that most people drew conclusion on a one sided story though i wouldnt blame those involved because they judged based on what was said and the individual involved needed public validation for her wrong doing, a public display i dont approve of but since external persons and relations are already involved i'd like to clear some details.

"Dee" comes from a very well to do family while i dont so when we got married, i made her feel we are in this together, not one above the other but as partners in EVERYTHING. To be fair to her she brought up the business idea we did years ago, in other to put forth money to start up, i made sure i had equal money as her for it, goal was to own a property, build et al. Unfortunately my dad's ailing health deteriorated to the extent that he had to be flown out, when the profit came, i told her and she agreed, she decided we split it into two so she use hers for the initial plan. As the first born i went with my dad, back here she got the property and started building, when i came back the remaining money with me was used to complete it, what was left was used for my parents house. Being a trust worthy person i feel she is, i didnt bother to check documents cos i felt she would do the right thing by putting both our names which she kept in a bank.

Now, i work and own other businesses so i'm always in contact with alot of people from both genders so to her she feels i may have lost guard by cheating which is not true: i dont have password on my phones, i always make and receive calls right in front of her but she still think i'm hiding something and that was the genesis of the problem weeks ago, i rebuked her to cut it out immediately but she was out for blood, she insulted me like never before, when i didnt give her face, she extended her TOXIC words to my parents, my family, my background and my personality, that was when i lost it, if not for my cousin that was there i would have hit her, out of anger i told her to get the hell out of the house which of course i didnt mean, then she shocked me saying the house is ONLY in her name, i was numb and speechless, in other for me not to react in a brutal way i left the house, told her i would never step there again if she doesnt change it to my name ONLY. My cousin who was there when it happened told my people, they called me so i had to explain things, right now her family knows what happened and none is supporting her.

YES i said she should put my name only cos she belittled and betrayed me which tells me if it was in both our names she will raise shoulder and feel above me.YES i requested for transfer and i will go through with it, i cannot be away from my kids and still be in the same state, it doesnt make, when it is sucessful, i will get a place conducive amd comfortable for my kids, they will be with me. I told her recently not to bother with the name change anymore, she can have the house all to herself for all i care.

I wont divorce her because i dont believe in that, once i move with the kids she can come along if she wants but right now we are seperated. I wanted a partner, she displayed stupidity not smartness, what the future holds i dont know, she made her bed she should lay on it.








Wow, I duff my hat to you.
This story reminds me of a friend here n the US. The wife makes more money than he. So the wife brought up an idea that they should buy a plot of land in Ibadan, which the man agreed to.

With the connivance of her mother, she bought the land in her name alone, even though she has a husband. When the husband raised an issue about this, she said it doesn't matter since the man loves her. The man just kept quiet and with this boggling his mind, time went on and the woman thereafter bought a big house here in the US in her name.

After this, she began acting like the man at home. She does so many things to frustrate this man and when they came to a shouting match, she would call the police, who would ask the man to leave the house.

Now the man is separated from his wife with 4 kids. He lives in an Apartment now and the woman is begging him to return home. This guy told me until he dies, he can NEVER go back to his wife. They are not divorced, but I advised him to tell the lady to sell the house and move in with him is she really loves him to the Apartment so as to humble her. But he said he knows her too well, she can never bring herself low.

It's been 3 years now and the man is still living alone.

I will advise men to ALWAYS take charge of their home. Do not let love blind-fold you into giving your wife any room to take decisions that would affect both of you. The only decision she can make is to go to teh market and buy stuff to cooka at home. There is always a spirit that controls a woman to destroy a flourishiny home.
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by MIKOLOWISKA: 1:03pm On Jul 21, 2018
addictiv:

Sorry to say this but you re shameless, spineless and a complete disappointment to manhood. You re lucky to have the kind kind of wife you do, Some women will divorce you after kicking you out and ask you to do your worst. See how you shamelessly asked her to leave your house..because you thought you have all the cards. The Joke is on you bro.
yeah
Real men just sit there and endure suspicion and venom till they snap and commit murder. Dumbasss

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by MIKOLOWISKA: 1:05pm On Jul 21, 2018
pocohantas:


"YES i said she should put my name only cos she belittled and betrayed me which tells me if it was in both our names she will raise shoulder and feel above me"

OP wants the house in his name,so the wife can always be below him. He wants her to keep walking on eggshells knowing she can get thrown out any minute. Very typical...

The other day there was a thread on a woman who got thrown out with her Ghana must go bag grin. Women done wise up o.

Sure sis, there is hope for humanity.
only one captain in a ship
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by MIKOLOWISKA: 1:06pm On Jul 21, 2018
swiperthefox:
You wife didn't lie. She just didn't go into details. You did trying to whip up sentiments.
Your wife is a good woman. At least she built a house whether it is in her name or not why should it matter? The house is for your family. You probably thought she put you as the owner of the house or you wouldn't have asked her to leave the house.
I think you were itching to leave your marriage because you have a side chic because I can't comprehend why you moved out and transferring out of state. You are so egotistical and incapable of taking charge of your family. If you no longer want to marry her, divorce her and move on.
I know a lady that got divorced with nothing because all the properties they acquired in the course of the marriage was all in the husband's name. As soon as they separated the husband quickly sold off all the properties worth over hundred million naira. He has refused to compensate the wife with absolutely nothing.
Women in Nigeria should protect themselves because the law doesn't protect their interests in the case if divorce.
I am sorry for your wife. She has offered to put im both your names and you refused. You are a wicked and proud man.
Any man that supports you here is a product of backward African mentality that women are not equal in marriage.


women aren't equal in anything

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Zirah: 1:09pm On Jul 21, 2018
ExtraExtra:
Women are the backbone of the family, they make or mar the home, since they help bring life to the world suffice it to say they sum up what we call family, 99% of successful, longlasting home or family is the ability of the woman to hold the "forte".

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You're a selfish, arrogant eediot. Your wife doesn't trust you, she knows you have a wicked heart, it's why she put her name in from the outset. Smart move. Of all things to say in anger to a wife...."get out of my house...". You're truly sick and not worth it. This is the time for your wife to be strong and not give a hoot as to whether you separate or not. Nonsense.

1. Contributed equal capital.
2. Shared profit equally.
3. Built separate properties.
4. One for his parents to live in, the other for her husband and children to live in.
5. There's equity.

My Question:

6. Why you wailing?
7. Why are you silly?

ExtraExtra

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 1:11pm On Jul 21, 2018
pacesetting:
women will always run their mouth, whether they own the house or not. Most times, when some of them finish ranting they come back to apologize, just like the lady. It's the duty of a man to have self control both in speech and in action.


It's very silly n senseless to assume an apology as weakness.
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by paulynpen(m): 1:13pm On Jul 21, 2018
Amumaigwe:


You came from a broken or at best a loveless and dysfunctional home. Your first statement gave you away. Just make sure the baggages your mother's attitude has successfully hung around your neck do not pull your own marriage down.

Reading comments from some folks here, I now appreciate the extent of healing the family system needs. Where is love, submission, sacrifice, tolerance etc that used to be the hallmark of marriages. Why wouldn't the type of families we have these days be the breeding place of criminals that are now everywhere defrauding people and doing all kinds of money rituals.

So what about the baggages of his father "holy attitude?". Hahahaha, Mr man I sincerely advised who ever sent you to school to invest your fees in rearing pigs but they refused. Hope you see your life? Abi you don't see anything wrong with you? OK oh
Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Nobody: 1:13pm On Jul 21, 2018
dany5:
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Oga poster you dont only have ego but you are selfish.You used your share to take care of your parents and then completed your parents house.She used hers to build a house now you want her to change it to only your name not even a joint one..I laugh ooooo.You are doing thia because you know she loves you very much and doesnt wana lose you that is the reason you are blackmailing your wife emotionally...Too bad

Why she loves him remains a mystery. Such an ugly character.

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by Incomparable(f): 1:17pm On Jul 21, 2018
ExtraExtra:
Women are the backbone of the family, they make or mar the home, since they help bring life to the world suffice it to say they sum up what we call family, 99% of successful, longlasting home or family is the ability of the woman to hold the "forte".

My attention was drawn to this forum and this topic https://www.nairaland.com/4617351/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home#69371294 and it is sad that most people drew conclusion on a one sided story though i wouldnt blame those involved because they judged based on what was said and the individual involved needed public validation for her wrong doing, a public display i dont approve of but since external persons and relations are already involved i'd like to clear some details.

"Dee" comes from a very well to do family while i dont so when we got married, i made her feel we are in this together, not one above the other but as partners in EVERYTHING. To be fair to her she brought up the business idea we did years ago, in other to put forth money to start up, i made sure i had equal money as her for it, goal was to own a property, build et al. Unfortunately my dad's ailing health deteriorated to the extent that he had to be flown out, when the profit came, i told her and she agreed, she decided we split it into two so she use hers for the initial plan. As the first born i went with my dad, back here she got the property and started building, when i came back the remaining money with me was used to complete it, what was left was used for my parents house. Being a trust worthy person i feel she is, i didnt bother to check documents cos i felt she would do the right thing by putting both our names which she kept in a bank.

Now, i work and own other businesses so i'm always in contact with alot of people from both genders so to her she feels i may have lost guard by cheating which is not true: i dont have password on my phones, i always make and receive calls right in front of her but she still think i'm hiding something and that was the genesis of the problem weeks ago, i rebuked her to cut it out immediately but she was out for blood, she insulted me like never before, when i didnt give her face, she extended her TOXIC words to my parents, my family, my background and my personality, that was when i lost it, if not for my cousin that was there i would have hit her, out of anger i told her to get the hell out of the house which of course i didnt mean, then she shocked me saying the house is ONLY in her name, i was numb and speechless, in other for me not to react in a brutal way i left the house, told her i would never step there again if she doesnt change it to my name ONLY. My cousin who was there when it happened told my people, they called me so i had to explain things, right now her family knows what happened and none is supporting her.

YES i said she should put my name only cos she belittled and betrayed me which tells me if it was in both our names she will raise shoulder and feel above me.YES i requested for transfer and i will go through with it, i cannot be away from my kids and still be in the same state, it doesnt make, when it is sucessful, i will get a place conducive amd comfortable for my kids, they will be with me. I told her recently not to bother with the name change anymore, she can have the house all to herself for all i care.

I wont divorce her because i dont believe in that, once i move with the kids she can come along if she wants but right now we are seperated. I wanted a partner, she displayed stupidity not smartness, what the future holds i dont know, she made her bed she should lay on it.

I detest greed. According to this writeup, both the husband and wife did a business which yielded a profit and the profit was shared between two of you, husband used his own share for his parent and the wife used hers to build in her name. My question is, why did you people share the profit for the first instance?


I could imagine what would have been the wife's ordeal now if the building was built in Mr's name. Pls, let's fear God o

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by MIKOLOWISKA: 1:18pm On Jul 21, 2018
Nihilstjnr:


you clearly don't have kids.

eod.
you clearly were lab raised cos even orphans remember their orphanage homes

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by ahnie: 1:20pm On Jul 21, 2018
Where z the op that created this thread!he hasn't said anything since the advent of this thread.

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by MIKOLOWISKA: 1:21pm On Jul 21, 2018
MizMyColi:


Is it not what I said in my first post earlier on this thread?
Asking to transfer to his name is so he can oppress and subjugate her.

My dear, trust me, if this man is kind to her...like really kind and compassionate, nothing stops her from putting both their names.

@emboldened kwakwakwakwakwakwa grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin grin

but it's OK for her to Subjugated him by suspectIng without proof and Then insult Him and his parents

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Re: "My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home" The True Story by MIKOLOWISKA: 1:26pm On Jul 21, 2018
MarieSucre:


Uncle leave all this your shouting talk. We would say the same thing if it was a woman who came to tell us her husband is suspecting her of cheating. The man needs to check himself and cut off all those things that are making him look suspicious. He should humble himself and do the needful for his marriage.
he should stop talking to women at work at church from his school abi. Stupidity

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