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eyinjuege:
Thank goodness women are getting wiser about getting their own property now, and always prepare for such eventualities instead of being left homeless or destitute. It's important to think smart, and always look after yourself. As a woman, you need to look after yourself first before you can be useful to any child or man.
Getting another wife is not a big deal, afterall it helps everyone move on with their lives. If a marriage ends, it doesn't mean anyone's world has to end. That's really not a threat to anybody, those that want to remarry can do so. Those that are content with just having partners, without any binding contract can equally go ahead.
You own your life, and really owe nobody any explanation. Good or bad, own it.

when they were stupid divorce rate was 5%
Now they're wisdom had increased it to 42%
Do you still think they are wise
Think with your brain not your deek dumdum
Instead of preparing for marriage they're stupidly preparing for divorce
Guess which the universe is manifesting

MIKOLOWISKA:
I didn't insult you
you insulted me
I defended myself
Will never apologise if I didn't look for trouble

Are you the op?
If not, then you threw the first stones. Check well oga.

caon:
pls ooo.Igbo men aren't like this a beg.no bring tribe into this.as a matter of fact igbo men arent petty pls

i think they are, especially those with money

MIKOLOWISKA:
Clearly you don't know what nagging means

No I don't get tired wen educating ppl on their stupidity

Dude you are a talkative and a nag who specialises in blind and silly arguements.Perhaps to ease off some plethora of frustrations consumming you...Go buy yourself some brains and do better things with your self instead of withering away on this thread.. It is only acute imbecility and mega joblessness that will make a grown-ass male adult like you spend hours and days replying and quoting every single stranger on something he is too stuppid to realise is a futile effort...

1)because his points are baseless and lacks the minimal intelligence,just pure incoherent rants like a lunatic because of gender bias

2)Clearly a minority opinion.

I have no problem with jobless trolls on a faceless forum constituting nuisance in the name of 'educating' their ancestors when they are clearly in need of education themselves..it is the sane minds here replying jobless and idle trolls like you i blame.

You can continue with your shameless dance of the absurd here,but i have made my point...Adios!

MIKOLOWISKA:
when they were stupid divorce rate was 5%
Now they're wisdom had increased it to 42%
Do you still think they are wise
Think with your brain not your deek dumdum
Instead of preparing for marriage they're stupidly preparing for divorce
Guess which the universe is manifesting

There is a higher purpose to your life than marriage.
Explore that.

MIKOLOWISKA:
which good men
person did not ask about house documents for 14 years and you think she will find better man? person kept his father alive to receive this humiliation and you're talking rubbish
abeg may she go see the difference
she go hia wen
when she jam man wen no go gree her comot for house she will know she lost a good man due to her unbridled tongue

I didn't comment on your wife's thread. Same also here since till I got to this page. So u r Extra extra Or How did U Know The House Documents Is 14 Years? ??

Please hide your head in shame. Like someone said earlier, you have issue with inferiority complex maybe because of your poor background.

I wonder what this woman saw In you. Maybe she's not beautiful or didn't have suitor to marry her on time. You are such a greedy man. Your parents are very selfish too to be against your wife

Her mistake was Using her money to build for her family instead of investing in one business. You brought change after flying with your father abroad, built built your parents house and drop like 5% change to complete the woman's house so in the future you would tell the world you contributed

Shame on you for even coming her to release your own version of the story as a man. I can't stand a nagging woman which one of their traits but a nagging man is not fit to be bea head of a family

You mentioned she needs the marriage more that's y she's begging up and down. I see this is why u r misbehaving becos u see she's desperate to keep keep her marriage. Woman if you are reading this please brace yourself up and don't allow this man to have his name on that documents for any reason
He's definitely cheating with women they way he's shouting no proof

If you want to be a real man with ego, build your your own own house in your your name or go rent an apartment, move in witg yyour our family but u can't do this because u have just been out shined by your wife

I pray that your pride and ego will not destroy you if you don't stop this attitude.

MIKOLOWISKA:
when nobody wan marry her nko and shame de catch am

So u married her out of pity when u saw no one was interested in her? ?? Now Now feel u can treat her the way you like because you did her a favour by getting married to her.

You don't worth that woman. People are not perfect but she has her good sides too. Why did u decide to marry her Inn the first place when she was been rejected by other guys? What did u see in her or she was pampering you with money since her parents are rich?

Wake up man, this is 21st century not 70s and 80s

MIKOLOWISKA:
so he should just stand there speaking grammar while his parents and his LINEAGE are being humiliated

we all have breaking points
she decided to Test his and now bearing the consequences

throwing insults is not digging

she shud have spied on him instead of starting war she cannot finish

now she's begging upandan

who lose?
you think it's easy to find husband for rich man pikin?

Poor man pikin that u are so your only job is to marry rich man pick?? That's y you are pained that she robbed u of your ego by using only her name.

You don't even have shame. I think she too has issues with complex. Can u Tey this with successful and intelligent rich kids??

She should work on herself and quit being desperate like she's doing. She doesn't need a gigolo like u said.

MIKOLOWISKA:
My dear some ppl think the world revolves around them and have made up their mind



No it's a way of letting her know it doesn't concern his parents or his lineage
She chose to go off topic
Now she shouldn't complain when he flies off the handle
She's lucky he's not a wife beater
She for hiaram




Ax am
Guy hugs client or coworker
Now smells of female perfume
Is that enough to curse his mother and father and status
There's some sht you just don't do if you don't want to escalate
She didn't want proof she wanted a figh
She got it

@bolded. Did u just start hugging women and Co workers with perfums that her suspicions started lately She could see signs already. If u had clear conscience, u would not say get out of my house. You father father must father must have said that to your mother severally for you to this that's the best way to calm a woman down or I will get another wife

MIKOLOWISKA:
this is how dat cow started
Now she's begging upandan

calling another mans a wife a cow? and you call yourself a man, very uncultured, unmannered, uncivilized person you are, or you feel been a male being removes the onus of courtesy from your life? think again the world is way bigger than NL trolling, Nigeria even Africa, good luck with your hustle you attitude is stale

MIKOLOWISKA:
you don de change mouth
Read what you wrote

My wife disappointed me doesn't make her "hot one" as you put it. Don't read another meaning into what you read. And in case you are confused, let me help you. Read my post again:

maasoap:
Thank you. Even with his narration alone, I could still fault him a thousand ways. He just want to lose a good wife because of his too much ego.
Whenever my wife disappointed me and I wanted to lose my head while reacting, I would just remind and tell myself, this is a good wife. I should let this one pass.

Acidosis:
The marriage was built on a faulty foundation: The idea of my money, your money, I will spend my money on this, you will spend your own on that . weakened the marriage. No love relationship can function on that platform. It is a mere partnership, and partnerships are bound to break someday.

For some selfish reasons (not love), a lot of couples have embraced this system. This is not entirely bad as far as OP and his spouse share the same ideology about marriage and properties.


As far as marriage is concerned in my own school of thought, all receipts must be in the name Mr. & Mrs (except those gotten before marriage). It doesn't matter who bought them or who paid the children's school fees, it doesn't matter whether you married a sit at home wife or a career woman.

If my wife decides to embrace some selfish interests or make plans for my demise, then she's merely wasting her time. In my lineage, only my grandfather died "prematurely" at age 96. The house he left behind is currently wasting away cos grandmom at age 95+ don't need it anymore. All she does now is sleep and eat. The only way a selfishly acquired property would meet the intended purpose is when a spouse die prematurely (- now this is the message we preach).

@OP, whether in her name or not, if you both see yourselves together in year 2070, there wouldn't be a fight in the first place. However to avoid issues of any form, buy everything in the name - Mr & Mrs and save your marriage.

You are rather the only one who made sense here!
Nigeria is dead because both our system and the Govt have failed us. And also because of our stupid African mentality...
Here in Europe, any property bought by either the wife or husband is automatically owned by the couple, so far the property was bought after the marriage..... How can a wife,build a house.. YES, with her own money and put only her name when she is still married That's insane! And yes no man should have a property that is only in his name if he is married.... For the fact they made money together and decided to use part of the money to help the man's parents and the other half to build a house dosent give the lady the right to put the property in her name.... The couple should be one and have each other's back... The man might be in the position to help the wife's parents tomorrow... And so he should '' loan'' her the money from ''his" money to help her parents?? The lady should go and apologize to the man and change the documents to both of their names immediately.... If my wife dose this at my back... I will divorce her immediately

I read your wife's part of the incident
And I am reading your part now..
(I even made a comment about it..because in this part of the world..women are mostly at the receiving side of marital problems)

Pride is a wicked spirit..she was wrong..you were also wrong
Pls work out your problems...sit down,humble yourselves and figure out a way forward..even the most difficult problems in relationships can be solved.
At this rate...your marriage will become history in no time..
Biko,ejo..yi hakuri...please eh..
Sit down and think about the good times
Think about the future
Think about your children..

ExtraExtra:
Women are the backbone of the family, they make or mar the home, since they help bring life to the world suffice it to say they sum up what we call family, 99% of successful, longlasting home or family is the ability of the woman to hold the "forte".

My attention was drawn to this forum and this topic https://www.nairaland.com/4617351/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home#69371294 and it is sad that most people drew conclusion on a one sided story though i wouldnt blame those involved because they judged based on what was said and the individual involved needed public validation for her wrong doing, a public display i dont approve of but since external persons and relations are already involved i'd like to clear some details.

"Dee" comes from a very well to do family while i dont so when we got married, i made her feel we are in this together, not one above the other but as partners in EVERYTHING. To be fair to her she brought up the business idea we did years ago, in other to put forth money to start up, i made sure i had equal money as her for it, goal was to own a property, build et al. Unfortunately my dad's ailing health deteriorated to the extent that he had to be flown out, when the profit came, i told her and she agreed, she decided we split it into two so she use hers for the initial plan. As the first born i went with my dad, back here she got the property and started building, when i came back the remaining money with me was used to complete it, what was left was used for my parents house. Being a trust worthy person i feel she is, i didnt bother to check documents cos i felt she would do the right thing by putting both our names which she kept in a bank.

Now, i work and own other businesses so i'm always in contact with alot of people from both genders so to her she feels i may have lost guard by cheating which is not true: i dont have password on my phones, i always make and receive calls right in front of her but she still think i'm hiding something and that was the genesis of the problem weeks ago, i rebuked her to cut it out immediately but she was out for blood, she insulted me like never before, when i didnt give her face, she extended her TOXIC words to my parents, my family, my background and my personality, that was when i lost it, if not for my cousin that was there i would have hit her, out of anger i told her to get the hell out of the house which of course i didnt mean, then she shocked me saying the house is ONLY in her name, i was numb and speechless, in other for me not to react in a brutal way i left the house, told her i would never step there again if she doesnt change it to my name ONLY. My cousin who was there when it happened told my people, they called me so i had to explain things, right now her family knows what happened and none is supporting her.

YES i said she should put my name only cos she belittled and betrayed me which tells me if it was in both our names she will raise shoulder and feel above me.YES i requested for transfer and i will go through with it, i cannot be away from my kids and still be in the same state, it doesnt make, when it is sucessful, i will get a place conducive amd comfortable for my kids, they will be with me. I told her recently not to bother with the name change anymore, she can have the house all to herself for all i care.

I wont divorce her because i dont believe in that, once i move with the kids she can come along if she wants but right now we are seperated. I wanted a partner, she displayed stupidity not smartness, what the future holds i dont know, she made her bed she should lay on it.

You were the one that displayed stupidity.
Why did you give your wife a reason to doubt you?
You didn`t mean it when you asked her to pack out? Yeah right. Why won`t you say so when she outsmarted you??
How can you tell a woman, your wife, who feels insecure about your fidelity to pack out? I don`t get.

HEseesall better hold on to that house.
You outsmarted another one.

Eketem:
As for your story with your wife, you should not have told her to get out of a house you both built,
Edit :

I just read the [b]manipulative [/b]part of the post where you want her to choose between the house and her kids, you want bad person abeg. I blame her for wanting to hang on with this rudeness

Very manipulative soul he is (Extraextra).
I hope HEseesall is as smart as she has been so far. This man go too show am pepper for future.

tabithababy:


Hope she has changed the name to yours now

Mtcheeeeew

The greatest mistake she made is that she supposed to have used her own part of the money to take care or build house for her parent as well

My Sister! See me o.

appsdope:
By the way since when did get the hell out of my house become a joke? How will we know if you meant it? She bought the land and started the project so how on earth are you supposed to own the property? The house shouldn't be in your name in the first place. The property is hers. Rent an apartment and move your family that's if you still want the marriage. As for the house, it belongs to her. Go and build your own. As for me, I cant stay in a house where a woman bought even the spoon. Because when you use that spoon to eat and there is an issue, she will tell you how that spoon she bought has been saving your life forgetting that you bought every other thing.

God bless you a hundred fold for speaking the truth.
The fact that he is not sorry as well as manipulative just dey vex me!

cc: ExtraExtra, HEseesall

sisisioge:
4. You spent your own money on your parents's house

An unselfish man would have spent it on both his parent`s house as well as his wife parents` house.

HEseesall you better be very smart.
Hold on to that house for your children`s sake o.
This man fit do you 9-9 for future.

funmisticqueen:
i think they are, especially those with money

pls no thinking. it is either /or.(fact n not opinion)u cant judge based on your opinion.we all should learn a thing or two about handling issues constructively rather than destructively.we should try to c individuals for who they are n not generalise because one have got few un-nice experience from a few.

Raymie:
With the way you're going about this your post, I have little doubt you're the snitching cousin of some sort of relative of the OP. Tell ya brother, whatever the underlying faults the madam may have, he nor try. And of he thinks he can browbeat her into submission, e fit no work. He'd just be giving himself headache, moneyache and heartache.

Forgive me I just had to laugh.

sugah:
ExtraExtra and HEseesall
The foundation of your marriage is flawed. In marriage there's no I, me, my share, his share. You went into a biz and shared the profits into his and hers instead of ours. Assuming you had the profits as "ours" then taking part of it to take care of an ailing father and using the rest to build your house wouldn't leave doubts as to whose name should be on the house documents.
ExtraExtra your faults are plenty.
1. You have inferiority complex. Your wife, in her write up, did not mention she was from a more financially stable background but you brought it up even though it added no value to the issue at hand. Deal with your complex problems else it would destroy your home.
2. You are not nuclear family oriented. Yes you are the first son so you still have a responsibility for your extended family but you don't do that at the detriment of your nuclear family. Your wife bought and built a property to completion and you are only just finding out the details of the documentation? How unconcerned were you exactly I understand putting health first in cases of emergency but afterwards you went ahead to complete your father's house before adding the change to your own house? You should be grateful to your wife for covering up your weaknesses. At least she's more family oriented and built a home for you and your kids.
3. If you are having a heated argument with your wife, the reasonable thing to do is to excuse yourself from the situation. Go out to a bar, have a drink or two to cool off then return home to a calmer atmosphere and discuss the issue. How on Earth do you ask a woman to leave the house during an argument (forget that your joking b.s, I'm not buying it)? Where do you expect her to go to cool off?
4. This one goes back to your not being nuclear family oriented.... you have already gone ahead to report the situation in your home to your extended family and even your wife didn't do it. Now you are making unreasonable ultimatums just so you can satisfy your bruised ego or at least prove to your extended family members that you wear the trousers in your home.
5. You are not willing to keep your home and you are taking for granted the fact that your wife is willing to do anything to keep the home. You have applied for a transfer to another state because of this issue? Did you consider what the move would do to your children? Have you even thought about anyone else except yourself in this issue?

HEseesall,
Learn not to make assumptions (you assumed he would know the property was in your name)... communicate! Communicate!! Communicate!!!
Agree to put the property in his name and if he doesn't change his stance about it, that's having both your names on it, then consider your stance in the marriage. Unfortunately you married a man who doesn't understand what marriage is about or the relationship between marriage and Christ so you either chose to carry your cross and make it work or seek professional help.

All the best.

Your comment is really insightful and deep.

They both need to see each other as one...a unit...a family.

ExtraExtra:
Women are the backbone of the family, they make or mar the home, since they help bring life to the world suffice it to say they sum up what we call family, 99% of successful, longlasting home or family is the ability of the woman to hold the "forte".

My attention was drawn to this forum and this topic https://www.nairaland.com/4617351/husbands-pride-wants-ruin-home#69371294 and it is sad that most people drew conclusion on a one sided story though i wouldnt blame those involved because they judged based on what was said and the individual involved needed public validation for her wrong doing, a public display i dont approve of but since external persons and relations are already involved i'd like to clear some details.

"Dee" comes from a very well to do family while i dont so when we got married, i made her feel we are in this together, not one above the other but as partners in EVERYTHING. To be fair to her she brought up the business idea we did years ago, in other to put forth money to start up, i made sure i had equal money as her for it, goal was to own a property, build et al. Unfortunately my dad's ailing health deteriorated to the extent that he had to be flown out, when the profit came, i told her and she agreed, she decided we split it into two so she use hers for the initial plan. As the first born i went with my dad, back here she got the property and started building, when i came back the remaining money with me was used to complete it, what was left was used for my parents house. Being a trust worthy person i feel she is, i didnt bother to check documents cos i felt she would do the right thing by putting both our names which she kept in a bank.

Now, i work and own other businesses so i'm always in contact with alot of people from both genders so to her she feels i may have lost guard by cheating which is not true: i dont have password on my phones, i always make and receive calls right in front of her but she still think i'm hiding something and that was the genesis of the problem weeks ago, i rebuked her to cut it out immediately but she was out for blood, she insulted me like never before, when i didnt give her face, she extended her TOXIC words to my parents, my family, my background and my personality, that was when i lost it, if not for my cousin that was there i would have hit her, out of anger i told her to get the hell out of the house which of course i didnt mean, then she shocked me saying the house is ONLY in her name, i was numb and speechless, in other for me not to react in a brutal way i left the house, told her i would never step there again if she doesnt change it to my name ONLY. My cousin who was there when it happened told my people, they called me so i had to explain things, right now her family knows what happened and none is supporting her.

YES i said she should put my name only cos she belittled and betrayed me which tells me if it was in both our names she will raise shoulder and feel above me.YES i requested for transfer and i will go through with it, i cannot be away from my kids and still be in the same state, it doesnt make, when it is sucessful, i will get a place conducive amd comfortable for my kids, they will be with me. I told her recently not to bother with the name change anymore, she can have the house all to herself for all i care.

I wont divorce her because i dont believe in that, once i move with the kids she can come along if she wants but right now we are seperated. I wanted a partner, she displayed stupidity not smartness, what the future holds i dont know, she made her bed she should lay on it.

I am just assuming the tables were turned, you were the one from a rich background, you brought up the business idea and the money. Your wife used her share for her family's needs. And you build the house in your name.

Won't you assert your "head of houseship" in the family if she challenges you about putting only your name?

Infact comments here would have labelled her a gold digger and leech for marrying a rich guy and using his money for her family.

Your wife has offended you but you too are not free of blame.

The issue men have is always this ego thing. Please swallow it and move for reconciliation.

N.B

I doubt you ever left your family to cleave to your wife as the bible says. You still seemed to put your other family above the family of your wife and kids.

skentelelady:
I didn't comment on your wife's thread. Same also here since till I got to this page. So u r Extra extra Or How did U Know The House Documents Is 14 Years? ??

Please hide your head in shame. Like someone said earlier, you have issue with inferiority complex maybe because of your poor background.

I wonder what this woman saw In you. Maybe she's not beautiful or didn't have suitor to marry her on time. You are such a greedy man. Your parents are very selfish too to be against your wife

Her mistake was Using her money to build for her family instead of investing in one business. You brought change after flying with your father abroad, built built your parents house and drop like 5% change to complete the woman's house so in the future you would tell the world you contributed

Shame on you for even coming her to release your own version of the story as a man. I can't stand a nagging woman which one of their traits but a nagging man is not fit to be bea head of a family

You mentioned she needs the marriage more that's y she's begging up and down. I see this is why u r misbehaving becos u see she's desperate to keep keep her marriage. Woman if you are reading this please brace yourself up and don't allow this man to have his name on that documents for any reason
He's definitely cheating with women they way he's shouting no proof

If you want to be a real man with ego, build your your own own house in your your name or go rent an apartment, move in witg yyour our family but u can't do this because u have just been out shined by your wife

I pray that your pride and ego will not destroy you if you don't stop this attitude.

Please define a Real man
ignorant is real and guess what ?

sugah:
ExtraExtra and HEseesall
The foundation of your marriage is flawed. In marriage there's no I, me, my share, his share. You went into a biz and shared the profits into his and hers instead of ours. Assuming you had the profits as "ours" then taking part of it to take care of an ailing father and using the rest to build your house wouldn't leave doubts as to whose name should be on the house documents.
ExtraExtra your faults are plenty.
1. You have inferiority complex. Your wife, in her write up, did not mention she was from a more financially stable background but you brought it up even though it added no value to the issue at hand. Deal with your complex problems else it would destroy your home.
2. You are not nuclear family oriented. Yes you are the first son so you still have a responsibility for your extended family but you don't do that at the detriment of your nuclear family. Your wife bought and built a property to completion and you are only just finding out the details of the documentation? How unconcerned were you exactly I understand putting health first in cases of emergency but afterwards you went ahead to complete your father's house before adding the change to your own house? You should be grateful to your wife for covering up your weaknesses. At least she's more family oriented and built a home for you and your kids.
3. If you are having a heated argument with your wife, the reasonable thing to do is to excuse yourself from the situation. Go out to a bar, have a drink or two to cool off then return home to a calmer atmosphere and discuss the issue. How on Earth do you ask a woman to leave the house during an argument (forget that your joking b.s, I'm not buying it)? Where do you expect her to go to cool off?
4. This one goes back to your not being nuclear family oriented.... you have already gone ahead to report the situation in your home to your extended family and even your wife didn't do it. Now you are making unreasonable ultimatums just so you can satisfy your bruised ego or at least prove to your extended family members that you wear the trousers in your home.
5. You are not willing to keep your home and you are taking for granted the fact that your wife is willing to do anything to keep the home. You have applied for a transfer to another state because of this issue? Did you consider what the move would do to your children? Have you even thought about anyone else except yourself in this issue?

HEseesall,
Learn not to make assumptions (you assumed he would know the property was in your name)... communicate! Communicate!! Communicate!!!
Agree to put the property in his name and if he doesn't change his stance about it, that's having both your names on it, then consider your stance in the marriage. Unfortunately you married a man who doesn't understand what marriage is about or the relationship between marriage and Christ so you either chose to carry your cross and make it work or seek professional help.

All the best.

You made some sense in your above comment but you was narrow minded
here
"he was from a more financially stable background but you brought it up even though it added no value to the issue at hand. Deal with your complex problems else it would destroy your home."
He above statement was to make the readers understand that there are different need for wife's family and his family
He did ask his wife before using part of his money to send his father for a medical treatment

skentelelady:
I didn't comment on your wife's thread. Same also here since till I got to this page. So u r Extra extra Or How did U Know The House Documents Is 14 Years? ??

Please hide your head in shame. Like someone said earlier, you have issue with inferiority complex maybe because of your poor background.

I wonder what this woman saw In you. Maybe she's not beautiful or didn't have suitor to marry her on time. You are such a greedy man. Your parents are very selfish too to be against your wife

Her mistake was Using her money to build for her family instead of investing in one business. You brought change after flying with your father abroad, built built your parents house and drop like 5% change to complete the woman's house so in the future you would tell the world you contributed

Shame on you for even coming her to release your own version of the story as a man. I can't stand a nagging woman which one of their traits but a nagging man is not fit to be bea head of a family

You mentioned she needs the marriage more that's y she's begging up and down. I see this is why u r misbehaving becos u see she's desperate to keep keep her marriage. Woman if you are reading this please brace yourself up and don't allow this man to have his name on that documents for any reason
He's definitely cheating with women they way he's shouting no proof

If you want to be a real man with ego, build your your own own house in your your name or go rent an apartment, move in witg yyour our family but u can't do this because u have just been out shined by your wife

I pray that your pride and ego will not destroy you if you don't stop this attitude.

That guy is actually the husband.
I can see why the lady used her name on the said house only.
She has been seeing hell and it seemed like this man has reduced her to nothing all in the name of marriage.

And I'm 100% positive he is a serial cheat.
Spits on him.

I wish the lady will not include his name at all.
Lady please,be strong for yourself and kids.
He is even calling her cow in a public forum.

Assuming there is cctv, we wouldn't be surprised that he instigated the quarrel and insulted her and her people first. She was so busy trying to cover up for him.

Let him go and officially marry the lady or ladies he has been cheating with.
Or we should beg him not to?
Mtcheew

MIKOLOWISKA:
this is how dat cow started
Now she's begging upandan

Miserable human.
U come to a public forum to call your wife a cow.

Because u have prick?

I wish u were in my hood.
Men like you should be used as example.

Women most times keep quite and opt for peace don't mean they don't know what to do and believe u me women 're more calcultive than men. They mostly massage ur ego and u feel u have them at the palm of ur hand.
See small thing ur wife did and u have been jumping up and down like a rabid dog.
A clown.

GoodFaith:
You made some sense in your above comment but you was narrow minded
here
"he was from a more financially stable background but you brought it up even though it added no value to the issue at hand. Deal with your complex problems else it would destroy your home."
He above statement was to make the readers understand that there are different need for wife's family and his family
He did ask his wife before using part of his money to send his father for a medical treatment

His mentioning it only displayed his complex issues, like I said earlier it did not add or change the narrative of the issue at hand.
Also like I said, the foundation of the marriage is wrong and if it isn't fixed they would keep having issues.
Maybe you should help him answer this question; @ bolded, who is his family?

skentelelady:
I didn't comment on your wife's thread. Same also here since till I got to this page. So u r Extra extra Or How did U Know The House Documents Is 14 Years? ??

Please hide your head in shame. Like someone said earlier, you have issue with inferiority complex maybe because of your poor background.

I wonder what this woman saw In you. Maybe she's not beautiful or didn't have suitor to marry her on time. You are such a greedy man. Your parents are very selfish too to be against your wife

Her mistake was Using her money to build for her family instead of investing in one business. You brought change after flying with your father abroad, built built your parents house and drop like 5% change to complete the woman's house so in the future you would tell the world you contributed

Shame on you for even coming her to release your own version of the story as a man. I can't stand a nagging woman which one of their traits but a nagging man is not fit to be bea head of a family

You mentioned she needs the marriage more that's y she's begging up and down. I see this is why u r misbehaving becos u see she's desperate to keep keep her marriage. Woman if you are reading this please brace yourself up and don't allow this man to have his name on that documents for any reason
He's definitely cheating with women they way he's shouting no proof

If you want to be a real man with ego, build your your own own house in your your name or go rent an apartment, move in witg yyour our family but u can't do this because u have just been out shined by your wife

I pray that your pride and ego will not destroy you if you don't stop this attitude.

How are we so sure he truly spend d money on his parent has he claimed and not on his side Chics since he know the wife has money for their planned project. Man can do and undo

ImaIma1:
Your comment is really insightful and deep.

They both need to see each other as one...a unit...a family.

Yes. They are only seeing each other as business partners not a unit and it's the man's responsibility to make sure his family is a unit.

Ziggylady:
Dude you are a talkative and a nag who specialises in blind and silly arguements.Perhaps to ease off some plethora of frustrations consumming you...Go buy yourself some brains and do better things with your self instead of withering away on this thread.. It is only acute imbecility and mega joblessness that will make a grown-ass male adult like you spend hours and days replying and quoting every single stranger on something he is too stuppid to realise is a futile effort...

1)because his points are baseless and lacks the minimal intelligence,just pure incoherent rants like a lunatic because of gender bias

2)Clearly a minority opinion.

I have no problem with jobless trolls on a faceless forum constituting nuisance in the name of 'educating' their ancestors when they are clearly in need of education themselves..it is the sane minds here replying jobless and idle trolls like you i blame.

You can continue with your shameless dance of the absurd here,but i have made my point...Adios!

On point. Thank you

sugah:
His mentioning it only displayed his complex issues, like I said earlier it did not add or change the narrative of the issue at hand.
Also like I said, the foundation of the marriage is wrong and if it isn't fixed they would keep having issues.
Maybe you should help him answer this question; @ bolded, who is his family?

that is your narrow view. Please open ur mind what about using it, to show that his family need little support
from him and his wife, why the wife family is well off doesn't need their support
family is
wife, husband and kids
but we must not forget that
we have aging father and mother that we have responsibility too.
Our parents was our rock and they made us the person we are today
Are you telling me he should watch is father bad health and do nothing?
You know what u just directly said to me as a father is that i should put myself above my kids
to enable I don't need my kids at my old age.
Should I pay 100% school fee for my kids?
or just 50% and the kid can go get the other 50% loan for school

dominique:
If she built the house like the op's wife nko? Will you send her out of her own house like the wicked, selfish op? This "parent's house" threat you men love to churn out is getting old and lame.

And in most cases these days, it is the woman that paid the rent.

But the man will feel insulted if she points that out when he threatens her but she should not feel insulted when he keeps threatening her

Some men should learn to be humble.

One that i know...if that marriage crumbles, it is the husband that will go back to his parent's house. And yet he is messing up.

Broke and proud...terrible combination