TDonald:
OP, if you don't divorce that stupid wife of yours na Ogun go kill you

Rushmore:

You can choose to ignore her,do any other thing but not divorce. And never you switch off your phone to avoid calls from family, it's childish. Be an alpha male! Make a decree and stand on it! You're a lion and not a chicken!

joa2013:
My wife and her family members are driving me crazy. Their involvement in my home is becoming embarrassing. I may have to give my wife the red card asap. Her family poke noses into all my affairs. How I spent my money, who I give my money to, who I visit, and so on. All they want is to continue to expend money on them and live my life for them. I got their daughter a job, her salary isn't enough for them, how can I be taking care of able bodied men who have refused to work with their certificates, looking for jobs with good pays before they'll work, their pensioner father is not also helping matters, very difficult to please. I have made it known to my wife that our marriage contract did not include pleasing her family members but she won't listen then I worked my transfer from Lagos to Abuja, yet they're on my neck. My wife's younger brother is presently in Abuja without any clear cut mission other than to come and monitor my affairs. He called me around 7pm yesterday to tell me he's in Utako and that I should come and pick him from pack, I told him I didn't invite him to Abuja so why should I pick him up? I asked him if he didn't have a mission before coming and why he should get to Abuja before notifying me that he's coming to my place. I shunned him and switched off my phone. I switched on the phone now only to read 3 abusive text messages from my wife and one from her father threatening that if anything happens to his son, I'll be held responsible. My people, can you see my life? My pastor have been trying to broker peace between us before I left for Abuja to no avail, what I intended to do is to settle down here and get her relocated so that if she's a bit far from her family, things will work out. I'll instruct a lawyer to file divorce papers tomorrow, I can no longer take it.

Hedonisst:
That's what women and their family liability specialise in - driving men crazy.

The part of marriage in Nigeria I hate the most is the family liability abandonment (in business terms) that you as a man (investor) will be forced to inherit when you get married, as if you're acquiring a bankrupt company and must take on its liabilities. And they almost always never come with assets, only liabilities upon liabilities. It's unacceptable to me, and I have zero tolerance for that nonsense.

If I'm marrying you, I'm not having none of your family Bullshyt. They're not even allowed to come stay in my house for any length of time, except the mother is on 'omugwo' duties.

Useless people. Tomorrow they would still forget all the good you did for them and treat your children like trash if, God forbids, you've fallen on hard times or worse, you're no longer alive. I've seen these things with my korokoro eyes. It's better to buy fuel, pour it on your money and burn it up rather than spend it on these useless so-called in-laws.

OP thumbs up for leaving that fool stranded at the park. That's exactly what I'd have done, but unlike you, I wouldn't even switch my phone off. And God knows I would have insulted her father for daring to send me such stupid messages.

Bottom line, Read the riot act to that woman and stand your GROUND. It's either on your own terms or nothing. No mediation, no negotiation, simply set down your new rules like a tyrant and enforce them immediately. Failure to comply with the new order, then you must kick her out immediately. I don't like the word divorce because it even makes these yeye women feel important. Aiint gat time for that formal poo. Give her and her yeye family an ultimatum and kick her out if she refuses to have sense.

TDonald:
OP, if you don't divorce that stupid wife of yours na Ogun go kill you

TDonald:
OP, if you don't divorce that stupid wife of yours na Ogun go kill you

donstan18:
Mr man, you are the one troubling and driving yourself crazy for not being able to know where your problem is coming from.

First; Your wife didn't do anything to warrant a divorce, she didn't cheat, disrespect or commit any abomination. We should sometime view things from different angles before taking actions, you know how difficult it is for a woman to stop her family members from coming close to her husband, she MIGHT not be happy with what they are doing, but in a bid to stop them will have it look like she's pushing them away from you and might create problems. So I ask "HAVE YOU DISCUSSED THIS ISSUE WITH YOUR WIFE?"

The rate of entitlement mentality from wives and their families is something else in Nigeria. Reason why we should be wise and careful before getting married.

Stop running around, discuss this issue with your wife, if she's a good woman, she'll understand you and do whatever it'll take to keep you happy and relaxed by sketching a strategy with you, but if she tries to give attitude about your complaint, then you'll have to go rude and aggressive to let her know what is as stake(Divorce, for her to marry her family members so that you'll have peace).


Discuss with her first.

yoged:
What some men face in their marriage, no be small thing. Maybe you should talk to family relatives from wife side.

Maxvasia:
I am surprised no one quoted this horrendous comment of urs. Presumption from the depths of LAWMA thrash! I had to go back to read the post cos wen I read ur comment, it made me wonder if i read it at all at first. Is there any part of the post that suggested he is spending money on other women? U just conveniently remixed the post to suit the modus operandi of ur saliva filled brain. Next time read well or if u cannot read at all, just keep it moving. I am sure u are a female cos no man would show so much abysmal imbecility/lunacy.

Maxvasia:
My brother, i am reconsidering seriously. The things i see and here these days are scary. No single good news about this institution of marriage niw collapsing on all sides faster than they are contracted. I won't marry abeg.

ndy87:




oga! you will marry and you will be discreet about it. you will make rules governing your marriage before you say I DO. make sure u don't marry out of pity but out of love and friendship because love fades but friendship never. see me giving you advice like I am not scared too. let me come and be going abeg.....

TalkingBird:
"My wife and her family members are driving me crazy.... '

You and your wife are one family. Your own family.

Every other family is an extended family.

If you note this then work on making it a reality.

To begin change the narrative and then we talk.

joa2013:
My wife and her family members are driving me crazy. Their involvement in my home is becoming embarrassing. I may have to give my wife the red card asap. Her family poke noses into all my affairs. How I spent my money, who I give my money to, who I visit, and so on. All they want is to continue to expend money on them and live my life for them. I got their daughter a job, her salary isn't enough for them, how can I be taking care of able bodied men who have refused to work with their certificates, looking for jobs with good pays before they'll work, their pensioner father is not also helping matters, very difficult to please. I have made it known to my wife that our marriage contract did not include pleasing her family members but she won't listen then I worked my transfer from Lagos to Abuja, yet they're on my neck. My wife's younger brother is presently in Abuja without any clear cut mission other than to come and monitor my affairs. He called me around 7pm yesterday to tell me he's in Utako and that I should come and pick him from pack, I told him I didn't invite him to Abuja so why should I pick him up? I asked him if he didn't have a mission before coming and why he should get to Abuja before notifying me that he's coming to my place. I shunned him and switched off my phone. I switched on the phone now only to read 3 abusive text messages from my wife and one from her father threatening that if anything happens to his son, I'll be held responsible. My people, can you see my life? My pastor have been trying to broker peace between us before I left for Abuja to no avail, what I intended to do is to settle down here and get her relocated so that if she's a bit far from her family, things will work out. I'll instruct a lawyer to file divorce papers tomorrow, I can no longer take it.