yettymuse:
Divorce is not even an option because the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know. You just have to make your marriage work. I hate to hear about cheating causing dissolution in marriages or relationships.

By the way your wife could be flirting and not cheating completely... Are you still doing those things you were doing during courtship? 9 years is a long time and trust me you must have begin to adopt the mama and papa style. When was the last time you both went for a dinner, movies, walk, vacation...?
Do you even still remember to call your wife sweet names?? Some foot massage after a hectic day?... Raunchy whatsapp message whilst at work?, breakfast in bed.... Little gift, lingeries, etc..

How's is your sex life? Do you communicate your fantasies and cravings? , when was she last time she got an orgasmic gift and said "THANK YOU"! Hunku you're married so no limits, no boundaries... Set everything on fire!

Maybe your marriage needs a rejuvenation, we sef dey get bored sometimes..

Reignite 'em romantic spark and set the atmosphere on fire. Instead of snooping, change your mode of dressing, stay trim and fit, wear a clean hair cut and smear some cologne mix n match.

If all this doesn't work, pray and watch WAR ROOM, please watch this movie and your marriage would be back to how it was.

this is the absolute truth. We sef dey tire

A cheating wife is a deadly wife, if she didnt kill herself she might kill her husband.
You don’t need to report her to her office cos she might loose her job
You can’t sue the man or arrest him but u can only control your wife
Call a family meeting on her and show all evidence if you are not ready for divorce
Consider divorce as the last option.
Re-check yourself, talk to your wife if it is money, good sex, or romantic talks or anything that is making her cheat on you that she is getting from other guy out there.
A cheater will always be a cheater no matter how much u satisfy them financially, sexually or morally.
Remember you already have a kid, pls for the sake of the kid stay with your wife
Check those friends she mingle with they might be an influence on her
Pls ones again check yourself what u are not doing right maybe u are not diging her well.
Pray to God and you are a man no matter the advise you got on Nairaland, u can still make the best decision for the betterment of your family

Wilfredpat22:
SIR, that is we women for you. It is so difficult for us to close our legs especially if we have been sleeping with countless men before marriage.

Her colleague has been enjoying her with you and you are the weaker man here. I will advice you to take a divorce. If my man cheats, I don’t even want to hear forgiveness, I am exiting from the house (that is if it his house)

And sir, it is only the colleague you are aware of, she might have been opening her treasure for the Bank manager, Auditor, Security guard... etc

Please take CHARGE AND DONT BE A SISSY

is like your brain is made of starch.. speak for yourself.
Op kindly inform both families and let them call her to order and if after everything, you didn't notice any positive changes then do what your heart tells you to do. from the look of things, it looks like you are feeding off her hence the reason why you are seeking for validation from SM.

Hmmmm...you caught her once but she didn't stop. She's married, he's married. They are sharing nudes. It is deep. I'm so sorry. Are they in love or something? I'm so sorry still...I honestly don't think your fight is with the man but you can share the gospel with his wife if it makes you feel better.

Whatever you do, do not bring her work or police arresting the guy into it. May God help you.

yettymuse:
Divorce is not even an option because the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know. You just have to make your marriage work. I hate to hear about cheating causing dissolution in marriages or relationships.

By the way your wife could be flirting and not cheating completely... Are you still doing those things you were doing during courtship? 9 years is a long time and trust me you must have begin to adopt the mama and papa style. When was the last time you both went for a dinner, movies, walk, vacation...?
Do you even still remember to call your wife sweet names?? Some foot massage after a hectic day?... Raunchy whatsapp message whilst at work?, breakfast in bed.... Little gift, lingeries, etc..

How's is your sex life? Do you communicate your fantasies and cravings? , when was she last time she got an orgasmic gift and said "THANK YOU"! Hunku you're married so no limits, no boundaries... Set everything on fire!

Maybe your marriage needs a rejuvenation, we sef dey get bored sometimes..

Reignite 'em romantic spark and set the atmosphere on fire. Instead of snooping, change your mode of dressing, stay trim and fit, wear a clean hair cut and smear some cologne mix n match.

If all this doesn't work, pray and watch WAR ROOM, please watch this movie and your marriage would be back to how it was.

I hope you are well. Flirting not cheating? Sending nudes is flirting. Where are your morals. After you have sent nudes and the guy "rapes" you, you will claim it's rape ba. That you were just flirting. Which devil you know. There are many women who still have morals and values. These women might share OP's values. Divorce is the only option here. No wonder HIV is on the increase

pocohantas:


Exactly!!!
A wise man buildeth his home...

OP, please follow this advice. Don't listen to all these alphas that would tell you to divorce your wife. They want you to be an unhappy bachelor like them!

I ll take this as humor..

similar thing has happened to me what I did was to take all my evidences to the wife of the man and as I tell you now the man has suffered the pain I suffered because his wife divorce him. it is painful but I have learnt not to have a particular woman

they want to have multiple men but the will not accept open marriage. my wife never accepted open marriage but I made sure I paid her in her own coin if she cannot live with another women she should leave. advice to men do not make any woman a priority

Hehe, this one wants to arrest me. Okay I am waiting.

majekdom2:
I hope you are well. Flirting not cheating? Sending nudes is flirting. Where are your morals. After you have sent nudes and the guy "rapes" you, you will claim it's rape ba. That you were just flirting. Which devil you know. There are many women who still have morals and values. These women might share OP's values. Divorce is the only option here. No wonder HIV is on the increase.


https://www.l2inc.com/daily-insights/no-mercy-no-malice/happiness-the-gorilla

you know you can raise an objection without being rude! Direct your anger and frustration to the Op. Table is turning now and you're gloating, take a chill pill, drink coke and watch war room! Cheers!

Boss13:
First, I must say you are causing yourself more harm by intruding into your wife’s privacy. At this point, I don’t think you have the right to arrest your wife’s lover. He has committed no crime. Your line of thought would only cause you more damage.

Second, your wife is actually not matured. She is seeking romance outside of her matrimonial home. She is putting her marriage and family at risk. That lover of her would dump her if circumstances changes because nobody wants extra financial baggage.

Third, call a meeting and bring forth your evidence because after all confrontations, your wife has refused to change. However, if you consider your wife promiscuous, then that’s absolutely a huge problem because it has nothing to do with the guy, but your wife. If the guy leaves the equation, another player may enter.

Finally, I cannot advice your to divorce your wife. That’s a sensitive situation. However, like you said that your wife may read this; let me ask her - MADAM WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOU? YOU’RE COMPROMISING YOUR SITUATION WITH STUPID GAMES. THE MAN YOU’RE CHEATING WITH ONLY WANT FREE OR CHEAP SEX. PLEASE STOP IT AND ACT MATURED AND BE RESPONSIBLE.

Wife privacy? What kind of Mimi talk be this.

majekdom2:
I hope you are well. Flirting not cheating? Sending nudes is flirting. Where are your morals. After you have sent nudes and the guy "rapes" you, you will claim it's rape ba. That you were just flirting. Which devil you know. There are many women who still have morals and values. These women might share OP's values. Divorce is the only option here. No wonder HIV is on the increase.


https://www.l2inc.com/daily-insights/no-mercy-no-malice/happiness-the-gorilla

No mind them. Crazy comments every where. The only solution here is divorce. Human being to marry humans..dogs to marry dogs.

mysaviouralive:
Hello Admin pls move this to the front page and I will be in the comment section reading.

Pls I want to take a boldness step and I will not mind where it can lead to. I have to open an account now to post this. My wife is also a guest of nairaland and she will be seeing this post.

It happen that I got married to my wife over Nine yrs ago and we only have a Kid. I was working in a big company then before the new management came in and change the policy of the company and I was laid off. I was idle like 3yrs before I got another job. she is working in one of the biggest bank in Nigeria. Like 5yrs ago I noticed she will be smiling whenever she is chatting with one of her male colleague. I ask what are they normally discussing, but she told me that it was their office issue that they are discussing. I know the guy and his family and the guy has came to my house not more than four times.

It happen one day that I demanded to give her phone to browse because I was having problem with my phone. she gave me the phone around 10:30pm and I noticed she has has cleared all their chat. This make it look suspicious and I asked her immediately that why did you deleted the chat, but she told me it was a mistake. I think over it for sometime because I trust her then, but on the other hand my mind was telling me to find out more. As an IT expert I connected her phone to my system and do some forensic research on the phone, alas what I discovered was bad. My wife and the guy have been having an affair and chatting and sending their nude to themselves. I called her immediately and demanded to explain the pixture but she denial it and was telling me another story that she snap the pixture and to show me how she was Hot so that we can have sex that night.

she said I should show her where I got the nude pixs and before she came back from the office she has wipe all the pixs that I showed her thinking that I cannot recovered it anymore and I asked her why should you do that but was just begging me. I recovered all the pixs back and the chat she believe she has deleted and I have more proof that she has been cheating on me.

So I asked her to tell me the truth what is going on with the guy and her but she was just begging me. But I told him I dont want her to do or have anything with the guy again that if I catch her again she will not like what I will do for her, with the hope that she will change. Recently I noticed she stil chatting with the guy again and I rake on her to stop it but she told me that she was just explaining office issue she has when he (the guy) not around because she is the one that relief him on work.

This week they are still chatting late in the nite cos I always seen the chat, though she will delete it as soon as they chat finish but I always have the chat and also today they have chat alot to the extend that my wife was crying when she expecting good reply from the guy but the guy fail him and I noticed she has intimate with the guy rather than me her husband.

My wife can lie and so Promiscuous. I have called her severally to change but she did not, recently I heard she was talking with one of her online friend from Abuja when the guy told her he will be coming to visit her this coming week, and I expect my wife to tell me but uptill now she has not saying anything on it. This make me not to have much trust in her again because if she tell me something I will still think over it like five times again before I accepted.

So my plan now is to call the wife of her colleague and explain everything to the wife and I also planing of arresting her colleague because I still have the proof and dont mind what can come out of this, because I tired and cant continue like this anymore, ever since I have caught her I did not enjoy my home anylonger and I tried to erase it from my memory but not get it wright.

Pls save me and save my marriage if possible.

Thank you.

U go die like fowl
U catch ur wife dey cheat
U get evidence
She still dey cook u dey chop
U dey Bleep am
Na warn u dey warn am
U must be Yoruba
So I no surprise
I am urohobo
For my culture say u don know and u still dey chop her food and Bleep am
She still dey ur house
Eriwi our juju for don knack u down
By now maggot go don chop u so that the guy can continue

U are a useless man
Forming u love ur wife there till she kills u all in the name of sex and say na self defence

No wonder una dey die like fowl
Keep warning her
Ode

E no go better for u

pocohantas:


Exactly!!!
A wise man buildeth his home...

OP, please follow this advice. Don't listen to all these alphas that would tell you to divorce your wife. They want you to be an unhappy bachelor like them!

Eeeereh?

chiommy123:
for better for worse. report her to her family so it does come as a surprise to them when you make your decision

For wetin for wetin
Madam no be for my culture
Say him no know it's OK
U don know
U still dey chop her food
Dey Bleep am
This man is a dead meat

tiredoflife:


For wetin for wetin
Madam no be for my culture
Say him no know it's OK
U don know
U still dey chop her food
Dey Bleep am
This man is a dead meat

I hope it's same when the table is turned. When the husband is caught cheating. I hope your culture gives the same lashes and death sentence to the wife that stays put with a cheating spouse.

yettymuse:
I hope it's same when the table is turned. When the husband is caught cheating. I hope your culture gives the same lashes and death sentence to the wife that stays put with a cheating spouse.

Keep looking for equity
These cultures were made wen men need to have more kids and wives to use as workers for his farms

It hasn't being reviewed and never would
There is no equal rights in traditions

So keep asking irrelevant questions

I had a very rich uncle who died like dis in ajegunle
Way back 1993
He caught his wife and the lover
According to traditions the lover was fined
But since he is the most senior urohobo man of our clan in lagos
The ritual can't be done in his house
He was to go to the village to meet his elders
So he kept the suppose fine in his box
The wife went there and took part of the money to make food for him
He ate it and that was the end of him
As they were to travel the next day as the last stage is what must be done in the village

What nonsense am I reading bikonu? You even warned her yet she continued and you're here still contemplating on your next move.
Oga, send her as a second wife to that her colleague she cheats with and make sure you collect her bride price. I can be very nice but not to a cheating woman because she can be a threat to my life.

Ishilove:

Haha!

I'm just a youth who recognises the quality which is missing in contemporary music. From my childhood to adulthood, I listened to music from different eras and perceived a vast difference. The way i reacted to Bee Gees, Queen and ABBA was always very different from the way I reacted to Run DMC, MC Hammer and disco music. The former had beauty and soul while the latter sounded like...noise.

Quality, my friend.

You are obviously a youth with an old soul I guess, you may be probably be going thru reincarnation without knowing
anyway sha, I sure enjoyed the playlist this morning.

yettymuse:
you know you can raise an objection without being rude! Direct your anger and frustration to the Op. Table is turning now and you're gloating, take a chill pill, drink coke and watch war room! Cheers!

Wen u get to ur husband house please cheat anufia

MajorJeffery:
What nonsense am I reading bikonu? You even warned her yet she continued and you're here still contemplating on your next move.
Oga, send her as a second wife to that her colleague she cheats with and make sure you collect her bride price. I can be very nice but not to a cheating woman because she can be a threat to my life.

Warned her
Do u warn a cheating wife or kick her out
The guy said all
She works in a big bank
He will miss the money

Weakling

pocohantas:


Exactly!!!
A wise man buildeth his home...

OP, please follow this advice. Don't listen to all these alphas that would tell you to divorce your wife. They want you to be an unhappy bachelor like them!

This isn't about being an 'Alpha Male' or a bachelor. The wife is a cheat and she keeps doing it.

And which advice? If every of our parent engaged in sending nudes when their husbands or wife started acting up, I'm sure there would have been nudes all over a lot of people's phones.

The guy needs genuine advice. Whether a lot of people say this to females when the table turns doesn't make it right.

That marriage is beyond repair. A woman who keeps sending her nakéd self to another man after marriage has lost every ounce of respect for you and that institution she entered into.

Dear OP, divorce your wife or she will kill you not long after now.

Your marriage has crashed.

chisco82:

Eeeereh?

Yes. OP, should fight for his marriage

Op won't do anything. The wife feeds and clothe him. Let him try any bu!!sh!t and they will bundle his sorry a.as out of the house.

Time to make open marriage a thing.

Kanwulia...you are needed here


Argh!! The hypocrisy of nairalanders. A woman will never have the option of divorcing her cheating husband from nairaland male folks. Double standard dudes everywhere.

pocohantas:


Keep quiet. Home breaker!!

SirVintageCock:
Op won't do anything. The wife feeds and clothe him. Let him try any bu!!sh!t and they will bundle his sorry a.as out of the house.

Time to make open marriage a thing.

Kanwulia...you are needed here


Argh!! The hypocrisy of nairalanders. A woman will never have the option of divorcing her cheating husband from nairaland male folks. Double standard dudes everywhere.

U said it all
He said she works in a big bank
Its all about the money

I pray he is Yoruba
Their culture is soft on things like this until he uses magu

But u don't try dis with urohobos

U don know
U still dey chop wetin she cook
Still dey Bleep

E for no even get time to post for nairaland

He would be dead by now

Our forefathers for don strike am down as long as him pay her dowry

yettymuse:
Divorce is not even an option because the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know. You just have to make your marriage work. I hate to hear about cheating causing dissolution in marriages or relationships.

By the way your wife could be flirting and not cheating completely... Are you still doing those things you were doing during courtship? 9 years is a long time and trust me you must have begin to adopt the mama and papa style. When was the last time you both went for a dinner, movies, walk, vacation...?
Do you even still remember to call your wife sweet names?? Some foot massage after a hectic day?... Raunchy whatsapp message whilst at work?, breakfast in bed.... Little gift, lingeries, etc..

How's is your sex life? Do you communicate your fantasies and cravings? , when was she last time she got an orgasmic gift and said "THANK YOU"! Hunku you're married so no limits, no boundaries... Set everything on fire!

Maybe your marriage needs a rejuvenation, we sef dey

get bored sometimes..

Reignite 'em romantic spark and set the atmosphere on fire. Instead of snooping, change your mode of dressing, stay trim and fit, wear a clean hair cut and smear some cologne mix n match.

If all this doesn't work, pray and watch WAR ROOM, please watch this movie and your marriage would be back to how it was.

Savage!!

you dont need to expose anyone, just change ur spouse

Woman you should have quitely used for money rituals.

Now she is aware you know and might run away

Rubbish

Op, u r true definition of what people call BOLOR!!!!
U don’t have to divorce ur wife, stay with her since she is the wife of the whole community
GTFOH

Ogbeni farabela.

File for divorce from your free agent wife before she kills you.

I don talk my own. I just can’t understand why some men like to carry women matter for head.