Hope the husband is reading this.... This is the only advice I've got for you too... Try it and thank us later....if you still need your home... The follow this advice. Happy Sunday

yettymuse:
Divorce is not even an option because the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know. You just have to make your marriage work. I hate to hear about cheating causing dissolution in marriages or relationships.

By the way your wife could be flirting and not cheating completely... Are you still doing those things you were doing during courtship? 9 years is a long time and trust me you must have begin to adopt the mama and papa style. When was the last time you both went for a dinner, movies, walk, vacation...?
Do you even still remember to call your wife sweet names?? Some foot massage after a hectic day?... Raunchy whatsapp message whilst at work?, breakfast in bed.... Little gift, lingeries, etc..

How's is your sex life? Do you communicate your fantasies and cravings? , when was she last time she got an orgasmic gift and said "THANK YOU"! Hunku you're married so no limits, no boundaries... Set everything on fire!

Maybe your marriage needs a rejuvenation, we sef dey get bored sometimes..

Reignite 'em romantic spark and set the atmosphere on fire. Instead of snooping, change your mode of dressing, stay trim and fit, wear a clean hair cut and smear some cologne mix n match.

If all this doesn't work, pray and watch WAR ROOM, please watch this movie and your marriage would be back to how it was.

Just take your olosho wife to her side boo's house and switch wife with him simple.

Ishilove:

Haha!

I'm just a youth who recognises the quality which is missing in contemporary music. From my childhood to adulthood, I listened to music from different eras and perceived a vast difference. As a child, the way i reacted to Bee Gees, Queen and ABBA was always very different from the way I reacted to Run DMC, MC Hammer and disco music. The former had beauty and soul while the latter sounded like...noise.

Quality, my friend.

Ishilove is a youth??
Why niggas dey call u grandma upandan!!!!

Since you have a concrete and irrefutable evidence, then the choice is yours on how you want to go about it.

I will advise you bring it open to:

1). The cheating man's wife with evidence.
2). Your wife's family and yours as well
3). Report to her workplace to ruffle them abit
4). Depending on how the abovr goes, the last option is to seek divorce.

Do not be afraid to take hard decisions if it come to the last option. It is indeed such a pain to have a cheating spouse. It defeats all the purpose of marriage. Why bother marry in the first place.

This OP is such an idiot. You caught your wife once and you haven't divorced her. If your wife is not mature enough to keep her emotions in check, then she deserves to be single. why are you even begging, take your child and move on.

mysaviouralive:
Hello Admin pls move this to the front page and I will be in the comment section reading.

Pls I want to take a boldness step and I will not mind where it can lead to. I have to open an account now to post this. My wife is also a guest of nairaland and she will be seeing this post.

It happen that I got married to my wife over Nine yrs ago and we only have a Kid. I was working in a big company then before the new management came in and change the policy of the company and I was laid off. I was idle like 3yrs before I got another job. she is working in one of the biggest bank in Nigeria. Like 5yrs ago I noticed she will be smiling whenever she is chatting with one of her male colleague. I ask what are they normally discussing, but she told me that it was their office issue that they are discussing. I know the guy and his family and the guy has came to my house not more than four times.

It happen one day that I demanded to give her phone to browse because I was having problem with my phone. she gave me the phone around 10:30pm and I noticed she has has cleared all their chat. This make it look suspicious and I asked her immediately that why did you deleted the chat, but she told me it was a mistake. I think over it for sometime because I trust her then, but on the other hand my mind was telling me to find out more. As an IT expert I connected her phone to my system and do some forensic research on the phone, alas what I discovered was bad. My wife and the guy have been having an affair and chatting and sending their nude to themselves. I called her immediately and demanded to explain the pixture but she denial it and was telling me another story that she snap the pixture and to show me how she was Hot so that we can have sex that night.

she said I should show her where I got the nude pixs and before she came back from the office she has wipe all the pixs that I showed her thinking that I cannot recovered it anymore and I asked her why should you do that but was just begging me. I recovered all the pixs back and the chat she believe she has deleted and I have more proof that she has been cheating on me.

So I asked her to tell me the truth what is going on with the guy and her but she was just begging me. But I told him I dont want her to do or have anything with the guy again that if I catch her again she will not like what I will do for her, with the hope that she will change. Recently I noticed she stil chatting with the guy again and I rake on her to stop it but she told me that she was just explaining office issue she has when he (the guy) not around because she is the one that relief him on work.

This week they are still chatting late in the nite cos I always seen the chat, though she will delete it as soon as they chat finish but I always have the chat and also today they have chat alot to the extend that my wife was crying when she expecting good reply from the guy but the guy fail him and I noticed she has intimate with the guy rather than me her husband.

My wife can lie and so Promiscuous. I have called her severally to change but she did not, recently I heard she was talking with one of her online friend from Abuja when the guy told her he will be coming to visit her this coming week, and I expect my wife to tell me but uptill now she has not saying anything on it. This make me not to have much trust in her again because if she tell me something I will still think over it like five times again before I accepted.

So my plan now is to call the wife of her colleague and explain everything to the wife and I also planing of arresting her colleague because I still have the proof and dont mind what can come out of this, because I tired and cant continue like this anymore, ever since I have caught her I did not enjoy my home anylonger and I tried to erase it from my memory but not get it wright.

Pls save me and save my marriage if possible.

Thank you.

Nothing kills a man faster than having an adulterous wife. Report them to the said Bank they're working. when both loses their job, their brain and destiny will reset.

if you keep forgiving and unearthing more evidences, one day she'll plan with the said colleague and kill you.

Angelyna:
Hope the husband is reading this.... This is the only advice I've got for you too... Try it and thank us later....if you still need your home... The follow this advice. Happy Sunday

Knew I'd find u here

yettymuse:
Divorce is not even an option because the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know. You just have to make your marriage work. I hate to hear about cheating causing dissolution in marriages or relationships.

By the way your wife could be flirting and not cheating completely... Are you still doing those things you were doing during courtship? 9 years is a long time and trust me you must have begin to adopt the mama and papa style. When was the last time you both went for a dinner, movies, walk, vacation...?
Do you even still remember to call your wife sweet names?? Some foot massage after a hectic day?... Raunchy whatsapp message whilst at work?, breakfast in bed.... Little gift, lingeries, etc..

How's is your sex life? Do you communicate your fantasies and cravings? , when was she last time she got an orgasmic gift and said "THANK YOU"! Hunku you're married so no limits, no boundaries... Set everything on fire!

Maybe your marriage needs a rejuvenation, we sef dey get bored sometimes..

Reignite 'em romantic spark and set the atmosphere on fire. Instead of snooping, change your mode of dressing, stay trim and fit, wear a clean hair cut and smear some cologne mix n match.

If all this doesn't work, pray and watch WAR ROOM, please watch this movie and your marriage would be back to how it was.

Let go and seek happiness elsewhere

U don hear bros!? U want to have the guy arrested!? For what na? Say yr wife is giving him free puna? Two consenting adults. Life is short bros & no kill yrself with high BP / heart attack.

The best way to save your marriage,you just have to erase all what you have said so.You have to "gboju ee" means commot your eye.Remeber once "in blue bliss,bliss blue she will be in blue bliss always "the best is to her go..a cheat is a cheat.

Well divorce is not a good option for now, bring in your in-laws also report her to the church. She may change. I pray that God will restore your home.

I will advise you to call family meeting. Kindly explain this to your wife family before anything. Just make sure you save a lot to hurt back. Your wife is gone forever. The best is to let go. Get someone else to build your home around. Your wife has turn free transfer.

If you don't expose her, the woman will poison you and you will just die like bingo.

Step to take.
Confide I'm your next of kin, younger or elder sibling,
Let her know that you have confided in someone in case she wanna hurt you.
Report her to her parent or family.

Watch what you eat inside and...


Sorry to ask... You said you're marries for 9yrs and just one kid, are you sure you're fertile? Maybe you should do a DNA test to confirm the paternity of the child and also go for a fertility test, maybe that's what causes the sudden promiscuity of your wife. Who knows if she's trying to help you get second child?

If she was promiscuous and flirty before you married her, then Bros you are on your Own. There is a way out but I doubt you have the backbone to withstand that. What she's going through is not something talking, family or threatening would resolve, even she cant stop it. If however, she developed this only recently then you must help her, and the only way me I know is serious prayers, very hot serious prayers, infact you will become a prayer warrior for you to get back your woman and marriage. Divorce sounds ok, but how attached are you to your child, cause a promiscuous mother will not give a good future to your child. And do weigh your options well, speak to a pastor from a praying church not just all this "the word" pastors. May God deliver you home.

luxy44:
Is she still your wife? This one na our wives na. What exactly are you fighting for?

I don't understand this guy at all ooo. The battle has been lost already... What does he stands to again?

sportskid:
Oga, Run for your life ooh, only God can save you now. Its clear she doesn't love you.

replace the "lesser demon" (porn wife) with a "greater demon" (sex doll)

and Madam brain will be reset to wedding-day settings.

reminds me of a Whitney Houston song...

...if i should stay, i will only be in your way; so good-bye, please don't cry...

...we both know i'm not what you need; and i'm wishing you joy and hapiness...

...and above all things, i'm wishing you love. "and i will always love you"...

...my darling you. bitter sweet memories_

hubby, just pack your travel bag, sing this song to her in a very sweet voice.

she will cry, go on her knees, hold you tight, beg you, hug you, kiss you.

God has saved your marriage.

OP, this may be your wife's lover or at the very least a man who enjoys tasting married women

oloriooko:
OP so your plan is to destroy her and the alleged lover and you stand to gain what?
I marvel at how many people go extra mile to deliver instant judgment over this matter without hearing from the wife. Marriage issues are the most delicate things to deal with in life. Here the man has narrated his own side of the story then let the wife give her own side of the story. Na person web first call police dey right.
Why do we permit every other mistakes but hammer on infidelity as if its the only error one can make in marriage?
OP better calm down and think this through, making a rash decision to divorce her may have consequences. Seek better opinions not all this online counsellors. God help you

Report both to the banks management. Ensure you tell the bank that you will splash their names on the media. Banks hate bad publicity, that will get both fired.
Next step, send her away. She isn't worth it.

patani:
Sometimes I wonder why some men come to nairaland to ask for advice after catching their wives pants down. Can’t you man up for once @OP? Even bible(the holiest of all books ) said you can put your wife away on the ground of infidelity.
Hear this, a cheating wife is a killer.

My simple advise, don’t bother arresting the other guy, that’s a waste of time. Simply take your son and move on dude.

How are sure that's his son?

Wilfredpat22:
SIR, that is we women for you. It is so difficult for us to close our legs especially if we have been sleeping with countless men before marriage.

Her colleague has been enjoying her with you and you are the weaker man here. I will advice you to take a divorce. If my man cheats, I don’t even want to hear forgiveness, I am exiting from the house (that is if it his house)

And sir, it is only the colleague you are aware of, she might have been opening her treasure for the Bank manager, Auditor, Security guard... etc

Please take CHARGE AND DONT BE A SISSY

Babe, u dey always scatter my head with better post. Make I wife u Na... Seriously serious ooo

Lmao....I see what you did there. Chop knuckle

yettymuse:
Divorce is not even an option because the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know. You just have to make your marriage work. I hate to hear about cheating causing dissolution in marriages or relationships.

By the way your wife could be flirting and not cheating completely... Are you still doing those things you were doing during courtship? 9 years is a long time and trust me you must have begin to adopt the mama and papa style. When was the last time you both went for a dinner, movies, walk, vacation...?
Do you even still remember to call your wife sweet names?? Some foot massage after a hectic day?... Raunchy whatsapp message whilst at work?, breakfast in bed.... Little gift, lingeries, etc..

How's is your sex life? Do you communicate your fantasies and cravings? , when was she last time she got an orgasmic gift and said "THANK YOU"! Hunku you're married so no limits, no boundaries... Set everything on fire!

Maybe your marriage needs a rejuvenation, we sef dey get bored sometimes..

Reignite 'em romantic spark and set the atmosphere on fire. Instead of snooping, change your mode of dressing, stay trim and fit, wear a clean hair cut and smear some cologne mix n match.

If all this doesn't work, pray and watch WAR ROOM, please watch this movie and your marriage would be back to how it was.

chiommy123:
for better for worse. report her to her family so it does come as a surprise to them when you make your decision

Report what What does the guy need to prove again?? The wife is a SHAMELESS HALL! she should go!!

Pataricatering:
Yes ! A wife has a right to her privacy , so does the husband !

What are you saying nitori Ilorin.

yettymuse:
Divorce is not even an option because the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know. You just have to make your marriage work. I hate to hear about cheating causing dissolution in marriages or relationships.

Well said.

By the way your wife could be flirting and not cheating completely... Are you still doing those things you were doing during courtship? 9 years is a long time and trust me you must have begin to adopt the mama and papa style. When was the last time you both went for a dinner, movies, walk, vacation...?
Do you even still remember to call your wife sweet names?? Some foot massage after a hectic day?... Raunchy whatsapp message whilst at work?, breakfast in bed.... Little gift, lingeries, etc..

Aunty! The Christian marriage is for better or worse. There is no justification for cheating. Old generation do not need these things you said to secure a marriage. It makes a woman seem petty. Marriage is a way life, it is a commitment and an oath. I've seen even the most romantic men being cheated on and the most undeserving men with the best wives.

How's is your sex life? Do you communicate your fantasies and cravings? , when was she last time she got an orgasmic gift and said "THANK YOU"! Hunku you're married so no limits, no boundaries... Set everything on fire!

Nobody should thank anybody, everyone has a role to building family. There's personal gains in marriage and no one is doing the other a favour.

Maybe your marriage needs a rejuvenation, we sef dey get bored sometimes..

Very true.

Reignite 'em romantic spark and set the atmosphere on fire. Instead of snooping, change your mode of dressing, stay trim and fit, wear a clean hair cut and smear some cologne mix n match.

In my opinion, she is the one who needs a makeover of the heart.

If all this doesn't work, pray and watch WAR ROOM, please watch this movie and your marriage would be back to how it was.

There is no fear of God in their marriage. The woman's conscience is dead. Only God can revive her.

patani:
Sometimes I wonder why some men come to nairaland to ask for advice after catching their wives pants down. Can’t you man up for once @OP? Even bible(the holiest of all books ) said you can put your wife away on the ground of infidelity.
Hear this, a cheating wife is a killer.

My simple advise, don’t bother arresting the other guy, that’s a waste of time. Simply take your son and move on dude.

I concur. After confirming the son is actually his!!

You discovering ur wife is cheating on u..u re already 70% dead... Trying to make her change ll hasten d remaining 30%. If u love yourself... Divorce her, get another job and start ur life afresh with a new person. Even if she stops cheating dat memory ll never b erased from ur head....
But if u choose to die young continue with the marriage... Let us knw when you enter the grave
Hurbarogaybrel

It is easier for a man to cheat and still love the family than a woman to do same.
Brother, ur death is near.she may kill u and claim a widow momentarily and start acting a career woman.
I don't know ur tribe but in Igbo land, if u know that ur wife cheats and u are still living with her and eating her food u are liable to die soon.
report her to her parents
report her to her branch manager in that bank.
Inform ur.dad
and inform ur priest
with all the evidences
if u.keep quite she may secretly kill u to cover up.
use ur head.

man up! dump that Bleep-about!

With the way all the male monikers were shouting divorce just because it is a man who brought his story here. I forgot how the Tables would turn if it were a woman who came here to complain about her husband,

This is the exact same advice they would give her.
The same damn template.
-Don't leave all men cheat. How do you know the next one won't.
-Then the victim blaming. Trying to blame the wife for the husband loosing interest
-Then telling her to fix everything she is doing wrong for the man to loose interest, and then telling her to pray and watch war room last last if everything fails lool



Carry go jare I support you.

Like you said. If all fails, the man should watch war room

LMAO

yettymuse:
Divorce is not even an option because the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know. You just have to make your marriage work. I hate to hear about cheating causing dissolution in marriages or relationships.

By the way your wife could be flirting and not cheating completely... Are you still doing those things you were doing during courtship? 9 years is a long time and trust me you must have begin to adopt the mama and papa style. When was the last time you both went for a dinner, movies, walk, vacation...?
Do you even still remember to call your wife sweet names?? Some foot massage after a hectic day?... Raunchy whatsapp message whilst at work?, breakfast in bed.... Little gift, lingeries, etc..

How's is your sex life? Do you communicate your fantasies and cravings? , when was she last time she got an orgasmic gift and said "THANK YOU"! Hunku you're married so no limits, no boundaries... Set everything on fire!

Maybe your marriage needs a rejuvenation, we sef dey get bored sometimes..

Reignite 'em romantic spark and set the atmosphere on fire. Instead of snooping, change your mode of dressing, stay trim and fit, wear a clean hair cut and smear some cologne mix n match.

If all this doesn't work, pray and watch WAR ROOM, please watch this movie and your marriage would be back to how it was.

But a Married man's flirting is justified?

Earthbound:

Please. You women are never satisfied. Trust me, I know. Nothing justifies a married woman flirting with anyone. That just sends very bad signals. Very bad. (when a woman flirts with me, I come to the conclusion that she's sexually attracted to me and I stand a chance for whatever) Stop trying to make it look like its the OP's fault his wife is sending another woman's husband her naked pictures.

Watching movies cannot solve this type of problems, madam.

Divorce D Bitch Immediately

yettymuse:
Divorce is not even an option because the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know. You just have to make your marriage work. I hate to hear about cheating causing dissolution in marriages or relationships.

By the way your wife could be flirting and not cheating completely... Are you still doing those things you were doing during courtship? 9 years is a long time and trust me you must have begin to adopt the mama and papa style. When was the last time you both went for a dinner, movies, walk, vacation...?
Do you even still remember to call your wife sweet names?? Some foot massage after a hectic day?... Raunchy whatsapp message whilst at work?, breakfast in bed.... Little gift, lingeries, etc..

How's is your sex life? Do you communicate your fantasies and cravings? , when was she last time she got an orgasmic gift and said "THANK YOU"! Hunku you're married so no limits, no boundaries... Set everything on fire!

Maybe your marriage needs a rejuvenation, we sef dey get bored sometimes..

Reignite 'em romantic spark and set the atmosphere on fire. Instead of snooping, change your mode of dressing, stay trim and fit, wear a clean hair cut and smear some cologne mix n match.

If all this doesn't work, pray and watch WAR ROOM, please watch this movie and your marriage would be back to how it was.

That stupid movie mteewwww