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HARDDON:
some of us arrived mother earth fitted with an abundant dose of the gift of the gab , others have to learn same, you inclusive.

Might I ask you a question? What was your aim with that lame joke? And your follow up line? Arrrh! Dude!

she was making mistakes in her messages......like she had difficulties with using the keypad.... so I had to make jokes out of it..... please so how do I reply her last message and still be on track..... I'm still learning pls...... if there's a correction pls correct me

Dataspider:
What happend to the blog?

We must sincerely apologise for how long this has taken.

But we are working to having things back to normal.

I have come to understand that taking an average Nigerian girl on a date for first meet up.... Like u like d girl so u want to take her on a date is d worst....who day reason dis same thing

Hey guys ... As a boss wey no send... How do you react in a situation when your girl confesses to you with a line like " I have something to tell you.... I almost selpt with a guy ".. What do you say or do.??

Dataspider:
Hey guys ... As a boss wey no send... How do you react in a situation when your girl confesses to you with a line like " I have something to tell you.... I almost selpt with a guy ".. What do you say or do.??

ask her If she stopped because there was no condom,you can start buying her a pack of it monthly.

I had this girl I met on here and it was one of those dating threads. I had always had my eyes on her though and I did mentioned it.

We took it offline via emails and she complained about what her ex did, didn't treat her right, neglected her blah blah...

Initially when i would call, i don't spend more than 1 minute on calls with her and she queried me on why i don't call more than 1 minute. So for that day, i loaded my phone more and we spoke for an exciting 45 minutes.

Naturally, I friendly connect with her and she is a wonderful person to have around.

Long down the road I would chat her often and then she started calling me as well. Mind you, she is very well aware of my intents, I didn't hide anything from her about my plans and she often declined wanting to date me.

But she would frequently ask me if i went out with any girl, if was with any girl at home. One time i went to watch black panther and i told her about it. She asked if i went alone or with someone.

I had other options, but I usually told her I had none.

I knew about the dangers of giving women too much attention but I stupidly thought there was one out there would not abuse it and she sounded so.

we chatted and she still called me, asking often if i am with any girl and so on. OFTEN times I asked myself, why would a girl say she does not want to date you but still ask you whether you went out with any girl.

Then I noticed that my closeness was beginning to get into her head. She told me one day that she didn't tell me her birthday because she knows I will start jumping up and down to make her happy. OMG... I felt insulted but I kept being me.

Then I noticed the egocentric rhetoric filled with boasting "I can't date you", "I have only dated two guys", this she often said even when you never asked.

We had a quarrel in which she repeated again that she can't date me (now making it look like she was doing me favour), I tried to appease her and she wouldn't have any of it. After that, I told her I will never call her to beg her again like used to just to make peace. She probably thought I was bluffing.

Minutes, hours and few days went by, I never said anything to her. She tried changing DP on whatsapp to get my attention and I didn't flinch. A few days later, she posted image of another guy on her status and wrote a lot of amorous things dedicated to the said guy, I saw it and stood my ground... In fact, I had to make myself more happy than ever before instead of allowing a girl make me feel miserable.

Then days after posting the guys image on her status, she came hard with long epistle, writing all sort of rubbish that I can't remember now. She said hope I saw the image of the other guy and that she did IT intentionally because I was too clingy.

She called me desperate, called me too emotional and boasted that the guy waited 2 years patiently for her because he saw she was different (she always does this and over hype herself to lure you to give her premium price to which I didn't see through initially at the beginning). She said if it were to be me, I would have been red with feelings. She told me she had decided to date the guy "since she couldnt find someone else that she likes"(again feeling she is doing the guy a favour for accepting to date him, a guy she broke up with previously for same reason as not having feelings for him)

She said that we hadn't met and I already told my brother and friend (who spoke to her on phone) about her and that it was a red flag for her. I did all these because I actually meant well for her and no games. But I blamed myself that day for being cool and giving her more than she deserved.


Oh well, after reading all the insultive epistle, I summoned courage and still never said a word to her. She wrote from 6Pm till 9Pm and I never replied any of that until she demanded that I deleted her pics from instagram where I had them. I had actually deleted them long ago, in fact all her pictures were off my devices. So all I said that day was "Deleted long ago" and that was all.

Silence kills women more than lethal weapon.

From that day till the 3 months later, I never said a word to her, I never called, I never texted... My mind was already preoccupied by how to tackle a new business idea was about to start at that time.

One morning, as I was about stepping out to go see my friend and my phone rang. It was her. She spoke calmly and asked if I know who was speaking( she wanted to know if I deleted her number). I mentioned her name and she said okay.

She said she wanted to check on me since I no longer called her because we were quarrelling (same person that terminated my call and categorically told me she does not want to speak to me when I called to explain things). I told her we ain't quarreling and that what happened is no big deal. I kept things light and peaceful.

She said I dont call her and I had to tell her I have been busy. She said it is a lie that it is because we are quarreling. Well, I had to ask after her parents to which she said they are fine. She then ended by saying she just called to check on me since I no longer called her. I said thanks for you and I appreciate it.

I never returned the call and spent over 3 weeks to call her and it was very brief, less than 1 minute.

I didn't want it to look like I was still angry over what transpired. She probably never knew there is loving side and a cold side soulless side that doesn't give a fvck. It depends on which one you want and I will give it to you hot.

The communication has been like that ever since, devoid of the frequent chatty and friendly atmosphere.

I know she is trying to get thing back and I have no idea what happened to the other guy but truth is, she needs her camo on because she is at war with a being she never knew existed in same body as the angel she once met... my ex would tell her this if they ever met.

I hope someone learns from my mistake.

AbleChuks1:
she was making mistakes in her messages......like she had difficulties with using the keypad.... so I had to make jokes out of it..... please so how do I reply her last message and still be on track..... I'm still learning pls...... if there's a correction pls correct me

boss you have not answered me oooh

automatix:
I had this girl I met on here and it was one of those dating threads. I had always had my eyes on her though and I did mentioned it.

We took it offline via emails and she complained about what her ex did, didn't treat her right, neglected her blah blah...

Initially when i would call, i don't spend more than 1 minute on calls with her and she queried me on why i don't call more than 1 minute. So for that day, i loaded my phone more and we spoke for an exciting 45 minutes.

Naturally, I friendly connect with her and she is a wonderful person to have around.

Long down the road I would chat her often and then she started calling me as well. Mind you, she is very well aware of my intents, I didn't hide anything from her about my plans and she often declined wanting to date me.

But she would frequently ask me if i went out with any girl, if was with any girl at home. One time i went to watch black panther and i told her about it. She asked if i went alone or with someone.

I had other options, but I usually told her I had none.

I knew about the dangers of giving women too much attention but I stupidly thought there was one out there would not abuse it and she sounded so.

we chatted and she still called me, asking often if i am with any girl and so on. OFTEN times I asked myself, why would a girl say she does not want to date you but still ask you whether you went out with any girl.

Then I noticed that my closeness was beginning to get into her head. She told me one day that she didn't tell me her birthday because she knows I will start jumping up and down to make her happy. OMG... I felt insulted but I kept being me.

Then I noticed the egocentric rhetoric filled with boasting "I can't date you", "I have only dated two guys", this she often said even when you never asked.

We had a quarrel in which she repeated again that she can't date me (now making it look like she was doing me favour), I tried to appease her and she wouldn't have any of it. After that, I told her I will never call her to beg her again like used to just to make peace. She probably thought I was bluffing.

Minutes, hours and few days went by, I never said anything to her. She tried changing DP on whatsapp to get my attention and I didn't flinch. A few days later, she posted image of another guy on her status and wrote a lot of amorous things dedicated to the said guy, I saw it and stood my ground... In fact, I had to make myself more happy than ever before instead of allowing a girl make me feel miserable.

Then days after posting the guys image on her status, she came hard with long epistle, writing all sort of rubbish that I can't remember now. She said hope I saw the image of the other guy and that she did IT intentionally because I was too clingy.

She called me desperate, called me too emotional and boasted that the guy waited 2 years patiently for her because he saw she was different (she always does this and over hype herself to lure you to give her premium price to which I didn't see through initially at the beginning). She said if it were to be me, I would have been red with feelings. She told me she had decided to date the guy "since she couldnt find someone else that she likes"(again feeling she is doing the guy a favour for accepting to date him, a guy she broke up with previously for same reason as not having feelings for him)

She said that we hadn't met and I already told my brother and friend (who spoke to her on phone) about her and that it was a red flag for her. I did all these because I actually meant well for her and no games. But I blamed myself that day for being cool and giving her more than she deserved.


Oh well, after reading all the insultive epistle, I summoned courage and still never said a word to her. She wrote from 6Pm till 9Pm and I never replied any of that until she demanded that I deleted her pics from instagram where I had them. I had actually deleted them long ago, in fact all her pictures were off my devices. So all I said that day was "Deleted long ago" and that was all.

Silence kills women more than lethal weapon.

From that day till the 3 months later, I never said a word to her, I never called, I never texted... My mind was already preoccupied by how to tackle a new business idea was about to start at that time.

One morning, as I was about stepping out to go see my friend and my phone rang. It was her. She spoke calmly and asked if I know who was speaking( she wanted to know if I deleted her number). I mentioned her name and she said okay.

She said she wanted to check on me since I no longer called her because we were quarrelling (same person that terminated my call and categorically told me she does not want to speak to me when I called to explain things). I told her we ain't quarreling and that what happened is no big deal. I kept things light and peaceful.

She said I dont call her and I had to tell her I have been busy. She said it is a lie that it is because we are quarreling. Well, I had to ask after her parents to which she said they are fine. She then ended by saying she just called to check on me since I no longer called her. I said thanks for you and I appreciate it.

I never returned the call and spent over 3 weeks to call her and it was very brief, less than 1 minute.

I didn't want it to look like I was still angry over what transpired. She probably never knew there is loving side and a cold side soulless side that doesn't give a fvck. It depends on which one you want and I will give it to you hot.

The communication has been like that ever since, devoid of the frequent chatty and friendly atmosphere.

I know she is trying to get thing back and I have no idea what happened to the other guy but truth is, she needs her camo on because she is at war with a being she never knew existed in same body as the angel she once met... my ex would tell her this if they ever met.

I hope someone learns from my mistake.

2 more testicles to you bro, you deserve it. That girl is a manipulator, she had you in her clutches but just like the good ol' Pharoah you hardened ya heart, takes lots of balls to harden a heart without God's help (I would know cos shit happened to me too)

Meklex:
2 more testicles to you bro, you deserve it. That girl is a manipulator, she had you in her clutches but just like the good ol' Pharoah you hardened ya heart, takes lots of balls to harden a heart without God's help (I would know cos shit happened to me too)

she called me twice on Sunday night but I didn't pick. Then called her back that I will call her when I get home but didn't call her back as promised.

By Monday, I called, wasn't really in the mood, but just to hear what she has to say. Seems she was busy and asked me to call her back. I dropped the phone to attend to something else and missed her call.

I had to drop a message that we should make the call when less busy. I have not called back since then cos I am too busy chasing my business dream. I am a hustler... I have no time for games cos I don't have enough time.

How can someone complain about her ex not giving her attention or treating her right and tell u that u are desperate (Jesus Christ! Nobody has ever called me that) for doing the opposite of what the ex did.

Desperate for what? Pussy? Something I can get? U see it is wrong to take girls serious.

Never ever try to make them feel important or good. Never place them where they never belong or asked for. Never give them what they never asked for.

automatix:
she called me twice on Sunday night but I didn't pick. Then called her back that I will call her when I get home but didn't call her back as promised.

By Monday, I called, wasn't really in the mood, but just to hear what she has to say. Seems she was busy and asked me to call her back. I dropped the phone to attend to something else and missed her call.

I had to drop a message that we should make the call when less busy. I have not called back since then cos I am too busy chasing my business dream. I am a hustler... I have no time for games cos I don't have enough time.

How can someone complain about her ex not giving her attention or treating her right and tell u that u are desperate (Jesus Christ! Nobody has ever called me that) for doing the opposite of what the ex did.

Desperate for what? Pussy? Something I can get? U see it is wrong to take girls serious.

Never ever try to make them feel important or good. Never place them where they never belong or asked for. Never give them what they never asked for.

the thing you should understand about girls is that, if they get too comfortable they'll use you as steering. First thing to do with any girl you want in your life is to get down with her, that way she has lost her balls to you, second is to never give her what she asks for, (like you mentioned). If a girl wants 5k from you, give her 2.5k (if you want to give her moni at all). Once you form lovey dovey with a girl, you have lost all your balls (my experience). Never ever be too available to a girl.

Meklex:
the thing you should understand about girls is that, if they get too comfortable they'll use you as steering. First thing to do with any girl you want in your life is to get down with her, that way she has lost her balls to you, second is to never give her what she asks for, (like you mentioned). If a girl wants 5k from you, give her 2.5k (if you want to give her moni at all). Once you form lovey dovey with a girl, you have lots all your balls (my experience). Never ever be too available to a girl.

Sure thing bro. Sure thing. Like she has discovered that I am now distant.

My question is, what happened to the guy she flaunted? I am sensing all is not well between them.

How can a fat guy be successful with girls

automatix:
Sure thing bro. Sure thing. Like she has discovered that I am now distant.

My question is, what happened to the guy she flaunted? I am sensing all is not well between them.

the guy is either a decoy or a smokescreen. Fact is, you didn't fall for it, don't concern yourself with any boy in a girl's life, if he was so good she wouldn't be disturbing you. If na me, my next course of action would be to invite her to my hotel room. After, you evaluate if you still love/like her then.

Meklex:
the guy is either a decoy or a smokescreen. Fact is, you didn't fall for it, don't concern yourself with any boy in a girl's life, if he was so good she wouldn't be disturbing you. If na me my next course of action would be to invite her to my hotel room. After, you evaluate if you still love/like her then.

Hahhahaha... I see. No b lie. Thanks for the perspective...

MuhammadWrites:
How can a fat guy be successful with girls

Confidence!!!!!!!


Send less!!!


Don't give a f******k about what people say, just do your thing.


Finally,
Love your self mate.

eldee365:
Confidence!!!!!!!

Send less!!!

Don't give a f******k about what people say, just do your thing.

Finally, Love your self mate.

thanks brother, i always find it hard

MuhammadWrites:
How can a fat guy be successful with girls

i sense lack of confidence in u,dats why i quoate to help u a bit.




Watch eryma by wizkid. Ft. Dj big in and dr sid.



Frm da start of da music,u will see dj big in stepping out of a car. Look at how he walks,learn and copy it.


Furthermore,when he step into a room,a lovely blonde gal was whining her body and acting girlish towards him.



Watch the way he stared at her,watch how dominant he looks and da face he carries.



Learn and copy it. Lastly be neat.fatties sweat alot,so try and smell 9ice. Joke sparingly.


Gud luck.

MuhammadWrites:
thanks brother, i always find it hard

I love you bro and I believe you can make a change.

Try to also hit the gym to burn some calories. It will rapidly boost your confidence too.

automatix:
Sure thing bro. Sure thing. Like she has discovered that I am now distant.

My question is, what happened to the guy she flaunted? I am sensing all is not well between them.

U still love & want this girl deep down within u...It is written all over your posts
U are just pretending

MuhammadWrites:
thanks brother, i always find it hard

I used to be like you too.

you need to change your mindset, that's all.

Its not difficult, you can do it.

Just be a good/bad guy

MuhammadWrites:
thanks brother, i always find it hard

Practice and more practice. Try not to give a damn.

Barryton:
U still love & want this girl deep down within u...It is written all over your posts
U are just pretending

Reverse psychology works. But even though she doesn't show much interest, he has to move on.

A girl says she's crushing on me after seeing my picture. How do I sweep her off her feet in an online chat. We just started talking and I wanna make her head swell wella. What questions to ask et all, you said asking the pseudo questions are boring.

@Harddon, we need dating drills for ladies too!

I have been reading this thread since my birthday. it is really a nice thread

Foma2:
A girl says she's crushing on me after seeing my picture. How do I sweep her off her feet in an online chat. We just started talking and I wanna make her head swell wella. What questions to ask et all, you said asking the pseudo questions are boring.

By acting normal..

It would not be the first and it wouldn't be the last...

Just do what were you doing before ahe meet you

Wyrax:
I started following this thread last year november.
I read some the drills.
I was 25 then n i never had a girlfriend.

I summoned the courage to get one. I gót one and my first try was a hit a former classmate of mine in the university fortunately we were posted to the same state for NYSC.
I got her number during the rural rugged and began to communicate with her via whatsapp. We went to our convocation. I demanded we meet she refused.
After the convo we returned to our differaent local govt in the same state.
It dawned on me that i loved her. I then sent a love message to her on whatsapp. I asked if she feels the same way she said she doesnt know yet until she knows me better that we only know each as classmate. She called me n was asking all sort of questions like if i wanted her jst a gf or more i said more she asked for my extra hussle aside from nysc i told her she asked for my age i tld her and all other questions like that. I was already feeling on top of tha world.
A week later she called me and asked for an amount of money tha she needs it for her training i instantly sent it to her

I went to her place a day before christmas we discussed and i left. And i called her severally after tha day she didnt pickup her phone i sent whatsapp message to her on christmas she didnt reply i sent new years message she didnt reply. I had given up on her until she called and said that she missed me. I was excited.
She now started investing more in the relationship i 5old her i was broke. She will call me we will discuss for hours etc.
I went to her play again this time for the weekend she told we should visit one of her fathers we went there. I was like a mini introduction i was feeling excited.

I on sunday dat time she suddenly said i shoud leave i was like what is freaking happening. I left to a friends house was just bored there. She then called back that i should return. At this point my mind became calm went back to her tha night was a sleepless night tho. She was pushing for sex(raw) i wasnt ready for that i told her i had a condom i can use she refused she said she doesnt like it dat way. She then said if so i should lick her i almost but i didnt i felt it awkward.
On momday sha i left hsr house n i went back to my place my lg.
I caled her she didnt pick again when she eventually pjcked she said i shouldnt called more than twice that she was busy(angrily) i promised i was gonna buy sth for her i forget i sent the money small amount tho to her.

She then found her voice again. We started contacting each other. I told her to come down to my place she did. I spoke to her mum. Her mum said we should come and see her.
That night again was long she wanted it raw again i refused she asked y that am i scared. I didnt talk sje said i should lick her again i almost but i withdrew.
The day broke and friend visit who i am suggesting has a mental disorder. She knck i opened the door n saw she was the one i felt somehow. Then she started saying whos this i said shes my fiancee she said ooo you? Wey no dey allow female enter your room? Wey dey always do shy shy. She left sha . And she cameback she said she wanted to see her in camera i didnt was her to go but she went anyways. I asked her waht she said she replied nothing i kept troubling her she insisted nothing. She bursted out that i like panicking too much that she doesnt like it.

The week on my pop, i got a job test invite for a day after my pop. I was excited i called her n told her about it she then start crying that theres no one to help her. Her dad just got a bad divorce her dad is a doctor in the USA.
I told her to touch down at my place before the pop she did. I asked her if she knew a former roomate of mine she said yes. She was somehow n then i asked wah is wrong she said she had an affair with him. He sexed her, he den left after. I was unhappy but waht can i say i jst said she shouldnt bother its no prob.
Inshort, i did the test i was successful i told her she calmed me thảt better opportunity await. But me i know say na suffer they wait. I was scared that i am about to lose her because she got a job unknown to her n i its gnld she rented an apartment(i was expecting tha after service she will go to her mother)
I applied for the gnld job too i never knew it was gnléc tho until she told me we would have to pay 18k i was curious after i had paid 4k i researched d company here on nairalamd and i got to know its gnld. She had already paid all the sums she was lamenting. I became childish tho i was laughing and making joke. Tho i was laughing at myself and waht thr mess i have gotten into in terms of work and finances. She became annoyed saying all sort that i am using her for experiment and she will just breakup with me it i am not careful that she cNt leave with someone with dat kinda attitude. I realised i sent a wrong impression i apologised to her. Because i loved her so much
I was triply scared by rhose statment. I left to lagos. I was so depressed (because of my family her going thru abject poverty, my mother was ill, my father was jobless, my sister needs to pay her school which i support, my bro needed to go to camp in the north iam jobless too) to the extent tha i said we should go on a break till i get a work amd get settled. She warned me tha break do lead to breakups i told her it all depend on her. She then agreed.
2wks later i realised i made an error i called her she said she aint coming back I asked her why she said she has been in relationships b4 tho i am GOOD person oo tha we hv different ideas cannot be together we can be friends tho. I was mad already i told my mother, my father my brother to talk to her. She alluded that i am always laughing when she not happy, and that i am always panicking. Rhat she cant live with me.

I called her mum her mum told me she will talk to her tha she already new it smal thing tha will cause or sepation.

I begged her, she blocked me in whatspp, telegram n facebook i went to her place she insisted.

I kept texting her until it dawned on my after 3 months she never comeback. I jst had to move on.

I made mistakes tho. I have always known my first trial to love will be a hard on. Because of the kinda relation i have with girls.

I sure didnt use the drills here because i was complacent and in love.

Some of my mistakes
Sending whatsapp love message

She kept me to feel a gap in her heart, she wasnt fully in love with me but i tht all her axns were love

She controlled me like a puppet

I was scared of losing her

I was insensitive

I showed childish attitude
I talked too much
I showed lack of confidence etc

I wrote this for future reference and to ensure some dont fall in same pit

Which pit be dat....

Abeg fall in your pit on your own....

The babe is just manipulatimg you.. She is in control..

What are you begging for.. Because her father is in the USA and you acting like you got a wife.

Smh for you...

U putting too much effort into this paro.. Calm down and hustle and pray your self out of poverty.

You need to turn the tables and be in control

Barryton:
U still love & want this girl deep down within u...It is written all over your posts
U are just pretending

I can be very curious bro... Let's just say she has people speaking on her behalf, hence I give time.

First time she called, it was my brother that told me to pick and be cool.

This morning, a friend said who knew about her, while we were on our morning hustle to find a permanent solution, told me that "if she is trying to give me attention, I should do same". This is because i told him she called at 12 am. I laughed after that...

Besides, I dont have anything to lose Bro. Yeah, I like her but she is no longer where I placed her.

degelinglacis:
@Harddon, we need dating drills for ladies too!


I have been reading this thread since my birthday. it is really a nice thread

are u a lady?

automatix:
are u a lady?

Yes