Dear Jzhane,

Please hide my ID.

I am very hurt. My wedding was supposed to take place last Saturday but it was called off without any explanation.

I met my man through my mother’s friend based aboard three years ago. We had our marriage introduction 2016 and we planned the wedding for April 2017 but sister was like we should postpone it reason is that for the brother to come down to Nigeria that the UK embassy don’t take absent of a spouse because they wanted to do it in his absent.

He begged me to wait that I should please bear with him it was not easy for me because already I have told people about my wedding and the date.

My ex has four sisters and they are kind of very close so involved them in everything he wants to do which I don’t have problem with that.His mum accepted me and me I love her took care of her like my mother even the sister who is out of marriage is staying with her mum with four children I love her too.

Fast forward to when the date was pick which is 25 of August that we started having issues.

It was his sisters that shopped for my wedding things which I complain that I don’t like the color ,they said the list I gave them was too expensive which is the hall and food ,I got a hall of #160 they got a hall of #300k near their house not even the bride side I never complain ,they said after the wedding I will stay with mother in law and sister which I said no due to distance and the nature of my work.

The worst of all that happened is that my ex was telling his sisters every thing we discussed both the argument and my chat he was forwarding it to them. His sister in Nigeria was telling them all manners of lies against me and they believed her.

They put pressure and fear on him not to marry me he has to call off the wedding after buying things for the wedding. He is around in Nigeria now and I try to see him but his family are refusing me seeing him because I don’t have his Nigeria ‘s no.

I was told that he said he love me but he scared based on what they told him. That I am not a wife material. That I will control him and drive him out because he stays in US.

My mother has been begging them but they refuse to listen.
He even blocked me since then. His cousin told me they already found another girl for him.

What do I do,I dated this guy for three years. I love him. I already have done introduction. Everybody knows I am supposed to be getting married. The scandal is killing my parents.If this guy still loves me,how do I win him back? He never gave a chance to explain myself. What did I do wrong?

Or should I really move on? After three years? Where do I start from?



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You should be thanking God

Sorry and take heart.

THE STORY IS NOT COMPLETE BUT ALL I GOT TO SAY IS....


EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON...HE MAY NOT BE THE MAN DESTINED FOR YOU.

chiommy123:
You should be thanking God

They said or you're really not??

I suggest you move on ma'am

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Simple, go on pilgrimage to Isreal, visit River Jordan and soak ya self 7 times since nah Nairaland you wan get solution from.

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I think you have just been saved from what you would have termed your worst marital nightmare coz it is clear the siblings and family has a good grip of the guy who seems to be their source of livelihood.
You are seen as a threat who will take away this source of livelihood from them; and funny enough, the guy in question is their dummy and doesn't have a mind of his own.
3years is small and doesn't count compared to a marriage you will regret after forcing yourself into it.
There's always time to retrace ur steps and start again. Take it as one of those mistakes ones does in life and thank God for not ending up with him; the societal issues will definitely come but brace urself up to face dem, and move on with your life.
One of the worst thing in marriage is to be hooked with a man who doesn't have a mind of his own especially when being advised or tossed about by his family.
I wish you luck as you move on.

Cock and bull story! Your English sef no go make the guy marry you.

No matter how worst a girl is no man can say no to her if she knows how to fvck well.


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Chai this is really painful! There is no situation too big for God to handle! All I know is all these sister in laws tormenting their brothers wives, ll not find peace in their own marriages! I can relate!

How can his sister's detects who he gets married to..
Anyways, just move on.., that son of a bitch is still a todler

.SISTA U ARE A BUILDING MATERIAL...

The world keeps evolving unto the inexplicable. We dey here!

But fuc.k! dat girl. If e sure for you free that guy

If you are the normal broke naija girl seeking for sustenance please keep looking for sympathy.

Mbok, how did they 'date' for 3 years?
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She better move on. Which kind of marriage is that?

The family issa madt family... Move on

See as this lady humble, and looking desperately for solution.

She would do anything right now for his ring.

That is what happens when a man is single with money.

You will start from somewhere. Your proposed in-laws told you to move in with them; you said No - that was a red flag. Who knows what behavior you had portrayed to them in the past.

Your ex-fiancée is normal to be afraid because we hear and read tales of Nigerian women going to western world to exercise power over their husband because of the laws and privilege given to women. I understand his fears and those of his family.

Apparently he has moved on. Gather yourself and move on too. Review your behavior and be the best of you.

Good luck

U c all dese tinx hen,u go suffer for ur so called in laws hand if u enter that marriage,u better forget a guy based in abroad,ur joy in marriage is wat counts......una wen b girls sef,nawa for una

Men am lost

You are lucky that you were not married into such a family where the man is controlled my an army of women and where the wife's wedding cloths are bought by the sisters and mother.

Tell your parents to wipe their tears. I still send pocket money to my friends in the USA, ignore all fantasies about moving abroad, it is no longer how it used to be.

Make yourself more sexy and focus on your passion.

Somehow, the Universe works in magnetic ways. The next great guy you will meet, will make nonsense of what ever fantasies you had with the American controlled boy.

You should be thankful for avoiding that type of yeye family. They are all surviving on the boy, and any woman he loves so dearly is seen as a threat that will cut off their line of supply.

That boy is not mature enough to take a wife. He needs to marry a housemaid and keep in his mother's basement.

A man that's gossips about you to his family and places his family over you is no man..aunty close that chapter and move on,I know it's not easy but God has saved you from future troubles.Just imagine you marry him his family would decide everything, the food you eat, how you spend your money..in summary the guy is a p#ssy

If all you said is true cos there are two sides to a coin, then you just dodged a bullet. The family are domineering and it would eventually ruin the marriage if it went ahead. Move on, a heartbreak now is better than a life time of sad tears

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This is not play Issa serious issue

Come who bought phone for this dude ?

Lols