It happened for a reason if at all the story is true. Your weeping may endure only but a night. In the morning, the Giver of life shall bring joy untold to you

Una well done o. Our love bloggers have gone mad again.

Adanne move on with your life, you canon come and kill yourself biko. Believe you me, this isn't gonna work out, instead that his sister staying with his mum will go to an extreme if you dare.

chiommy123:
You should be thanking God

As a man I agree, cut your losses and move on

davit:
Cock and bull story! Your English sef no go make the guy marry you.

una too harsh for nairaland o.
This fellow needs consolation.

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3 years planning for a wedding.

0 time planning for marriage.

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GloriaNinja:
THE STORY IS NOT COMPLETE BUT ALL I GOT TO SAY IS....



EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON...HE MAY NOT BE THE MAN DESTINED FOR YOU.

Yes something is missing buhari see am woman humble die lol

She just dodged a lifelong bullet.

Instead of her to go for 7 days Thanksgiving and should be shouting about the Miracle that God just created she is here opening useless threads.

If your guy can be forwarding private chats to his sisters. I have no words to describe such. I am sorry you would have lived a lifelong of pain if the marriage had succeeded.

Why are you begging to be married? Like no self esteem or what?

Journey of marriage is too far to start begging before wedding day.

Marriage should be based on mutual understanding, team work and commitment, if that's not happening from courtship, that's a red flag.

Disappointment is not scandal, woman.

ngwababe:
Adanne move on with your life, you canon come and kill yourself biko. Believe you me, this isn't gonna work out, instead that his sister staying with his mum will go to an extreme if you dare.

Is not easy na but the guy no try if what she said is true oo because the story seems not complete to me

chiommy123:
You should be thanking God

I just tire o! She is so damn desperate and she is far less concerned about the red flags, popping up.
Hanty run o

Don't for it. Just move on. Whatever will be will surely be.

CSTR1005:
See as this lady humble, and looking desperately for solution.

She would do anything right now for his ring.

That is what happens when a man is single with money.

Sensible

Beke2020:
Dear Jzhane,

Please hide my ID.

I am very hurt. My wedding was supposed to take place last Saturday but it was called off without any explanation.

I met my man through my mother’s friend based aboard three years ago. We had our marriage introduction 2016 and we planned the wedding for April 2017 but sister was like we should postpone it reason is that for the brother to come down to Nigeria that the UK embassy don’t take absent of a spouse because they wanted to do it in his absent.

He begged me to wait that I should please bear with him it was not easy for me because already I have told people about my wedding and the date.

My ex has four sisters and they are kind of very close so involved them in everything he wants to do which I don’t have problem with that.His mum accepted me and me I love her took care of her like my mother even the sister who is out of marriage is staying with her mum with four children I love her too.

Fast forward to when the date was pick which is 25 of August that we started having issues.

It was his sisters that shopped for my wedding things which I complain that I don’t like the color ,they said the list I gave them was too expensive which is the hall and food ,I got a hall of #160 they got a hall of #300k near their house not even the bride side I never complain ,they said after the wedding I will stay with mother in law and sister which I said no due to distance and the nature of my work.

The worst of all that happened is that my ex was telling his sisters every thing we discussed both the argument and my chat he was forwarding it to them. His sister in Nigeria was telling them all manners of lies against me and they believed her.

They put pressure and fear on him not to marry me he has to call off the wedding after buying things for the wedding. He is around in Nigeria now and I try to see him but his family are refusing me seeing him because I don’t have his Nigeria ‘s no.

I was told that he said he love me but he scared based on what they told him. That I am not a wife material. That I will control him and drive him out because he stays in US.

My mother has been begging them but they refuse to listen.
He even blocked me since then. His cousin told me they already found another girl for him.

What do I do,I dated this guy for three years. I love him. I already have done introduction. Everybody knows I am supposed to be getting married. The scandal is killing my parents.If this guy still loves me,how do I win him back? He never gave a chance to explain myself. What did I do wrong?

Or should I really move on? After three years? Where do I start from?



https://livelystones.com.ng/after-planning-our-wedding-for-3-yearsthey-say-i-am-not-wife-material/

Why you no go stay with the after dem marry you?
Before ncor, so wen dem don't pay bride price for ur head, you go come go stay alone. If na ur broad u go free?

I reserve my comment till I hear from the other side.

Nne pls move on, he's not for you. What kind of guy will disclose a private chat with his wifey to his susters.
I know it's very difficult, don't think about what the society would say Becos the same society will laugh at you when abused in the marriage
The divorced sister might be behind all these but again move on

When I got to this point ”even the sister who is out of marriage is staying with her mum with four children I love her too.”
I had my conclusion. And stopped reading.
You’re indeed not a wife material . For you to have mentioned how his sister is out of marriage and had four kids . Bla bla …
Nonsense !
Stupid woman .

I feel your pains @op. Truth is the guy is not good for you. A man that cant take decisions without consulting his mum and sisters is not a Husband material. I can imagine what your parents must be going through too.
You have to be strong for them and encourage them not to call him or his people over this issue again.
Pray and hope for the best.

I can tell you from experience that having such people as in-law will make your marriage a hell for you cos you will have to fight for his attention, affection and love. You will at all times be at the mercy of his sisters and mum. Count yourself lucky. I wish you God's best.

Beke2020:
Dear Jzhane,

Please hide my ID.

I am very hurt. My wedding was supposed to take place last Saturday but it was called off without any explanation.

I met my man through my mother’s friend based aboard three years ago. We had our marriage introduction 2016 and we planned the wedding for April 2017 but sister was like we should postpone it reason is that for the brother to come down to Nigeria that the UK embassy don’t take absent of a spouse because they wanted to do it in his absent.

He begged me to wait that I should please bear with him it was not easy for me because already I have told people about my wedding and the date.

My ex has four sisters and they are kind of very close so involved them in everything he wants to do which I don’t have problem with that.His mum accepted me and me I love her took care of her like my mother even the sister who is out of marriage is staying with her mum with four children I love her too.

Fast forward to when the date was pick which is 25 of August that we started having issues.

It was his sisters that shopped for my wedding things which I complain that I don’t like the color ,they said the list I gave them was too expensive which is the hall and food ,I got a hall of #160 they got a hall of #300k near their house not even the bride side I never complain ,they said after the wedding I will stay with mother in law and sister which I said no due to distance and the nature of my work.

The worst of all that happened is that my ex was telling his sisters every thing we discussed both the argument and my chat he was forwarding it to them. His sister in Nigeria was telling them all manners of lies against me and they believed her.

They put pressure and fear on him not to marry me he has to call off the wedding after buying things for the wedding. He is around in Nigeria now and I try to see him but his family are refusing me seeing him because I don’t have his Nigeria ‘s no.

I was told that he said he love me but he scared based on what they told him. That I am not a wife material. That I will control him and drive him out because he stays in US.

My mother has been begging them but they refuse to listen.
He even blocked me since then. His cousin told me they already found another girl for him.

What do I do,I dated this guy for three years. I love him. I already have done introduction. Everybody knows I am supposed to be getting married. The scandal is killing my parents.If this guy still loves me,how do I win him back? He never gave a chance to explain myself. What did I do wrong?

Or should I really move on? After three years? Where do I start from?



https://livelystones.com.ng/after-planning-our-wedding-for-3-yearsthey-say-i-am-not-wife-material/

mumu boh the op and the lady you are all idiots

JESUS CHRIST is the only way to GOD.Believe that HE is the son of GOD and the CHRIST and you will be saved.HE died for you so that your sins will be forgiven.HE resurrected and gave you eternal life.Please believe this message.

Honestly, you should be very grateful.
You won't have peace in that house.

Forget him
If he cannot defend you, you do not have a mind of his own. He is under the control of his family. He is not man enough.

why ur mum dey beg dem?suppose he turn u into punching bag nkoh?. Leave dem b4 God leave u.there are responsible men looking for wife here.Abi nah by force to marry tokunboh?U beta shake urself.

I sincerely want you to know that you deserve the best.
Marriage is a journey of no return and at such I'll advice you to be properly guided.

The number one deficit in your relationship was making his sisters his confidants, and if those confidants are not Godly people with the fear of God it is capable of destroying any relationship, which is already a danger sign. "The bible said he who finds a wife" not him that a wife was found for, which is the case here, because he didn't do the searching, he'll always return to the searcher for advice. Note this if this should go through they'll always detect for your home.

From the way you typed it showed you want to marry him out of pity and what people will say. Never beg any man to marry you. Better to have a broken relationship than to have broken marriage.

I pray for you that your heart will be healed and as you look up to God, He'll direct you on what steps to take next. God bless you!

Issa strong village things o

My dear. Your matter tire me. 3 years is a lot of time to invest in a man. But that notwithstanding, count it as a loss and move on. Naturally, siblings are protective. There are girls I wouldn't like my elder bro to touch with a 100 ft pole. He's too gentle and innocent that he fails to see beyond girls outerselves.
What am I saying? The best way to get a man is to get his siblings! It's not about saying you love them. You have to show it! Most female siblings make you wonder if the guy is their boyfriend because of the way they wade off female visitors.
Play along with them. Understand them, learn them, befriend them, confide in them, be humble, be neat, don't be extravagant, don't outsmart them cause they hold all the aces.

When you finally land your man, you can be yourself


Your outright rejection of staying with ur mother in-law was a red flag. You don't argue with ur boyfriend's sisters especially when the man is lilly livered . You play along until u get what u want.

Find every means to meet him and talk to him


But how come all the family hate you, not even single is on your side haba

Did you cheat?

Pray to God for guidance. Its a phase you will survive. Sometimes loyal people go through hardship or difficult times but when you forgive and put your trust in God you will definitely laugh last.God bless you.

henrygale:
I think you have just been saved from what you would have termed your worst marital nightmare coz it is clear the siblings and family has a good grip of the guy who seems to be their source of livelihood.
You are seen as a threat who will take away this source of livelihood from them; and funny enough, the guy in question is their dummy and doesn't have a mind of his own.
3years is small and doesn't count compared to a marriage you will regret after forcing yourself into it.
There's always time to retrace ur steps and start again. Take it as one of those mistakes ones does in life and thank God for not ending up with him; the societal issues will definitely come but brace urself up to face dem, and move on with your life.
One of the worst thing in marriage is to be hooked with a man who doesn't have a mind of his own especially when being advised or tossed about by his family.
I wish you luck as you move on.

You shouldn't be too quick to say the guy is a dummy without a mind of his own. He is based abroad, it is those at home that know how to identify good girls at home. Besides so he should not trust his family? Do you know their bond?

henrygale:
I think you have just been saved from what you would have termed your worst marital nightmare coz it is clear the siblings and family has a good grip of the guy who seems to be their source of livelihood.
You are seen as a threat who will take away this source of livelihood from them; and funny enough, the guy in question is their dummy and doesn't have a mind of his own.
3years is small and doesn't count compared to a marriage you will regret after forcing yourself into it.
There's always time to retrace ur steps and start again. Take it as one of those mistakes ones does in life and thank God for not ending up with him; the societal issues will definitely come but brace urself up to face dem, and move on with your life.
One of the worst thing in marriage is to be hooked with a man who doesn't have a mind of his own especially when being advised or tossed about by his family.
I wish you luck as you move on.

honestly i totally agree with you a failed relationship dey say is better than a failed marriage i think God just saved u from an unending war with ur supposed inlaws... But come to think of it oo u will date a man for more than a year before coming to see ur people he didn't think u would b d kind to excerise rights against him nd nw it marriage time and all dese stories men r funny sha.. I guess it those girls back at d village dat won't excerise right over them hahahhaha i laugh

That is Nigerian Ladies and diaspora men syndrome,

I have no pity for her, somewhere sometime a home base man must have ask her out, she was banking on abroad man, I have seen them a lot falling victims all sort disappointment, they won't learn.