braine:



So you would consider having kids out of wedlock. Its this kind of mentality some men like me run from since you have no regards for family sanctity.

That's if I'm single and I have to choose between marrying a lazy guy who cannot be the man in the marriage and be responsible ? Or choose having kids out of wedlock?

Mehn am choosing having kids out of wedlock!

Ain't getting stuck with an irresponsible guy all for marriage sakes? No way!
Ko le werk!

ImaIma1:
Because there are more mummy's boys parading themselves as men.

Maybe those are the one youve been meeting. Likes attracts likes.

majekdom2:
can I ask, what is the sole reason of having a partner? Is it a means to sustain one’s financial needs or a means to make one better? The thing is some women have this mentality a man is just there to meet their need just like you have put upthere, thus when they can meet their needs without the support of who they call partners, the wisdom and sense to keep a partner is gone. The reason they are single. They can’t love or see a man beyond his financial abilities at that time. The reason why we work as a team in organizations is to achieve higher grounds, meet goals faster. This is same for relationships. What can you say of a lady whose fiancee suggested they open a joint account, save together towards a goal and the response the guy got was “ you are looking for someone to sponsor you abi”. We need to have the right mindset, this is where is starts from.

You wise.

Saff:
Most men of this generation are mentally weak and unable to handle life circumstances. Relying on weed/ alcohol, cigarettes or any kind of drug to function.

Most are lazy and not ambitious looking for easy quick money.

[s]Not responsible, looking for a woman to help them or give them money. I don’t blame them, most were raised by women with the father absent or barely there. They don’t understand what it means to be a MAN.

Most men have poor financial management. Spend all their days on social media, betting, money on random women. It’s pitiful.

Most men never take responsibility for themselves. Always looking for one person/ thing to blame for their misfortune.

Rather be single, have a child and be happy than raise a boy into a man because his father didn’t do that job. I’m sorry[/s].

What's your definition of a responsible man? A man who'll take up your own responsibilities, right?

Many men aren't married yet because of ladies with this mentality, you guys believe men should do everything for you people. No sane man wants that burden.

playing the blam game so who's gonna win

victorian:
Most men are not ready to be responsible, that's why.

And women these days prefer to be single have kids, than settle with just any guy for marriage sakes. Gone are those days, a woman will be suffering and smiling.

More women are not ready to be treated as slaves in a marriage they spend their hard earned money on. The guy more or else doesn't contribute anything other than sex, collects her money and he will still be as controlling as fucvk! Some slaps here and there, feeling he should be able to make her scared of him.
Why would a man instill fear in his wife instead of respect from his wife
So,
Most single ladies don't need such stress biko.

Personally, I can never marry a controlling, abusive, lazy man. I rather remain single and have kids instead.

So as you old reach, you too never marry, nawao

At this point in the existence of our Nation，it is criminal to tie down a lady in relationship on empty pocket. I am of the opinion that is better for the man and his unborn children if he gets a sustainable means of income before getting married. Getting married at 40 will not make man a fool...if it will take that long to set the foundation in place, then so be it. In the midst of the many unmarried useless ladies, there will always be the SPECIAL ONE.

victorian:











That's if I'm single and I have to choose between marrying a lazy guy who cannot be the man in the marriage and be responsible ? Or choose having kids out of wedlock?

Mehn am choosing having kids out of wedlock!

Ain't getting stuck with an irresponsible guy all for marriage sakes? No way!

Seriously, and youre still affirming? Meaning you would even consider a divorce if need be. Chai! Good luck o.

From what I've read from ladies here today ehn, I may remain single for a long time.

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kokomilala:
Because the scripture must be fulfilled. Isaiah 4:1, seven women will ask one man to marry them..
Also, there's a male shortage the world over. This is making it difficult for women to get married, as most of these males are very young, at least, in a young population like Nigeria.
Lastly, but not exclusively, the unconscionable disposition of our women to material wealth. Life is not in a linear line. It could be zigzag or crooked. Fate could be cruel at times. It's a world where things don't always go to plan.

but the difference is women ain’t begging men!!! Most women love their single lives n happy being baby Mamas,,

ineedahusband:
BECAUSE GOOD MEN ARE SCARCE.

Good men are not scare. It is women who don't like good men.

victorian:
Most men are not ready to be responsible, that's why.

And women these days prefer to be single have kids, than settle with just any guy for marriage sakes. Gone are those days, a woman will be suffering and smiling.

More women are not ready to be treated as slaves in a marriage they spend their hard earned money on. The guy more or else doesn't contribute anything other than sex, collects her money and he will still be as controlling as fucvk! Some slaps here and there, feeling he should be able to make her scared of him.
Why would a man instill fear in his wife instead of respect from his wife
So,
Most single ladies don't need such stress biko.

Personally, I can never marry a controlling, abusive, lazy man. I rather remain single and have kids instead.

women that fail to realize the truth or understand how a man thinks stick to this opinion the reason is because men chose to be irresponsible- do you know there is a girl that will sleep with that “irresponsible” man for a loaf of bread? Thus he doesn’t see any value in a woman because his mindset is bleeped up. It is not a problem that peculiar to one gender. It is a problem that is peculiar to us as a people. The women see a man as the means to meet their fianancial needs, the man sees the woman as a slave and sex object. It is a mind problem. When auch Women are someway financially independent, they feel they don’t need a man and no sense of wisdom to guide them. Same with the man, he feels he can get any woman to disrespect as long as he has few notes to spend. We need to have the right mind set and understand the main reason for relationships. The main reason is to achieve greater grounds and bigger goals. The. I left says one shall chase a thousand, 2 ten thousands. Investors don’t invest in individuals, they invest in teams. Teams don’t work well if they don’t have the right mindset!

GreenArrow2:


Damn! Y'all really do have some dark experiences. You read the comments from ladies on this thread and you'd think every marriage is a war-zone and majority of ladies prefer to stay single. Speak for yourself. We also live in the real world.

My dear, the real world in dating and relationships is not palatable.. Trust me on that.

For instance what's happening between miracle the bbn guy and Nina, is what happens everyday to average people out there. Shiit happens. Let's not pretend, relationship is bliss cos it's not.

omoharry:
I would rather remain single and be happy with my life than marry a necessary idiot that will make my life a living hell..so many people don't even know how to smile anymore ..all in the name of societal pressure to marry. Many have lost their lives becos of what society would say if they leave their abusive marriages and the children are also there to consider too isn't it?...of what use is life if half of your lifetime is spent in constant fear and misery...is that life? I define a good life as that which is lived with good and lovely memories of a life time ..either married or single..it now boils down to the individual what they cannot live without even if it will cost them their happiness.

Before My parent died, i long for marriage so much because i wanted it to happen in their life time since they were getting old..but now nature has taken its cause , Both my parents are dead, so I don't owe society or any body any explanation of why i choose to remain single than to be married to a someone that will make my life a living hell....I choose my peace of mind..and it will never be sacrifice at the alter of societal pressure for marriage... what ever possession I have i will go to my niece and nephews..If i don't have children...So stop shaming single women with marriage..they have a right to be happy and what ever makes them happy people should respect it.

how are you gonna deal with spiritual konji??

kunleweb:
Cc: Colourich

They are single because there is poverty in the land, many men are not comfortable enough to marry and take care of their woman, most of them are jobless and depending on N-power for 30k every month, how can a 30k earner marry?

iwatch:
I don't need a job... I create them for people like you to get busy while I catch fun. Right now I even have men old enough to be your father begging me to bring a product for them to distribute.

Only moruns don't know why many women are single than ever before, to which men have contributed hugely to the stats.

Stop asking silly questions.

As said by one individual, it's an overestimation of self-worth that leads to one's demise, or an under-estimation of other people.




Take your proud speech and shove it up your tiny butthole you inflated buffon

Gerrard59:


Thereby perpetuating the problem you complain of.

Too bad.

well I guess it’s an everlasting problem that will never be solved. Men are refusing to step up to the plate by breaking the barriers. When you men refuse to allow your environmental upbringing to determine your future, the world will be a better place for the next generation to come.

majekdom2:
women that fail to realize the truth or understand how a man thinks stick to this opinion the reason is because men chose to be irresponsible- do you know there is a girl that will sleep with that “irresponsible” man for a loaf of bread? Thus he doesn’t see any value in a woman because his mindset is bleeped up. It is not a problem that peculiar to one gender. It is a problem that is peculiar to us as a people. The women see a man as the means to meet their fianancial needs, the man sees the woman as a slave and sex object. It is a mind problem. When auch Women are someway financially independent, they feel they don’t need a man and no sense of wisdom to guide them. Same with the man, he feels he can get any woman to disrespect as long as he has few notes to spend. We need to have the right mind set and understand the main reason for relationships. The main reason is to achieve greater grounds and bigger goals. The. I left says one shall chase a thousand, 2 ten thousands. Investors don’t invest in individuals, they invest in teams. Teams don’t work well if they don’t have the right mindset!

that’s the exact fact why feminism is an ideology

Shugavee:
There is greater peace in being a single woman,, i miss it sometimes

its not 2 late. U can still b single

Ihatelove:

you said nothing but the truth

Nope, she didn't say any truth.

How can she accuse men of being misogynists and yet her comments are misogynistic?

Saying the whole world knows that the average Nigerian man are those things she claimed betrayed her claims of trying to be unbiased.
(Ur friend is biased, sorry to say).

If she thinks Nigerian guys are as bad as what she claims. she should go and date a South African or Ghanaian guy to see the difference.


I won't say more since it won't change anything.

kunleweb:



I agree with this :


Most men of this generation are mentally weak and unable to handle life circumstances

It beats me to see that many men can't start and complete a project by themselves

Where did you get your statistics from?

Colourich:
They are single because there is poverty in the land, many men are not comfortable enough to marry and take care of their woman, most of the are jobless and depending on N-power for 30k every month, how can a 30k earner marry?

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dasparrow:


She is not silly. She is right. Only the living have hope for a better tomorrow. Doubt me? Go and ask all the women who lost their lives at the hands of their abusive husbands. They are lying decayed in their graves now. Never to experience life on earth again. It is better to be single, healthy, happy and alive than married and sick or worse yet, dead.

Thank you my sister ..abeg help me tell them..Nigerian men think its all about marriage...they don't realize that that happiness and peace of mind is key..while some rather sacrifice their happiness at the alter of marriage and remain miserable while others are ready to hold on to it until they find the person whom they will be at peace with..money is not everything but its necessary in marriage. Any man that cannot take care of himself properly should not be talking about marriage..if he does then he is an irresponsible man..look at stout all over the place, especially in Lagos..they are as a result of having irresponsible parents...even the bible say that a man that cannot feed his family is worse than an infidel...

victorian:













My dear, the real world in dating and relationships is not palatable.. Trust me on that.

For instance what's happening between miracle the bbn guy and Nina, is what happens everyday to average people out there. Shiit happens. Let's not pretend, relationship is bliss cos it's not.

exactly

Paulagada:
Because most mature and responsible men are jobless.

That is not even the issue...cos no woman wants to marry down

victorian:













My dear, the real world in dating and relationships is not palatable.. Trust me on that.

For instance what's happening between miracle the bbn guy and Nina, is what happens everyday to average people out there. Shiit happens. Let's not pretend, relationship is bliss cos it's not.

so miracle & Nina are now ur standard 4a successful r/ship? No wonder. R/ship is hardwork. U want d bliss but not d work

Ihatelove:
Cause most guys are pricks, so we would rather stay single than die of heartbreak

naso hanty

Ihatelove:
Cause most guys are pricks, so we would rather stay single than die of heartbreak

so most ladies are what?

Shugavee:
that’s the exact fact why feminism is an ideology

yes, feminism should be able women empowerment but can you empower a woman who does not have the right mindset? In Africa, we have a people problem I.e a mindset problem. We need to address it before we advocate feminism if not feminism will causbe more harm than good. A lady who refuses to be emotionally intelligent, know when to say sorry, can’t be guided, take another person’s opinion without bias, cannot be advised and can’t seem to reflect and thinks she is better because she achieved a status will come as a feminist after she has lost different relationships.... this is the typical case in Africa.

kingkakaone:

Nope, she didn't say any truth.

How can she accuse men of being misogynists and yet her comments are misogynistic?

Saying the whole world knows that the average Nigerian man are those things she claimed betrayed her claims of trying to be unbiased.
(Ur friend is biased, sorry to say).

If she thinks Nigerian guys are as bad as what she claims. she should go and date a South African or Ghanaian guy to see the difference.


I won't say more since it won't change anything.

cause the whole world does know!! Nigerian men r nice but their misogynistic character is undeniable!!

The gender blame game continues...

All the ladies blaming it on Nigerian men being misogynists and all sorts, are your boyfriends and brothers such? If no, why are they not married?

The guys blaming it on feminism. Lots of you are in a relationship with non-feminist women. I have even seen guys say they've never seen a feminist in reality. How then are you people blaming it on feminism? Why are you not married to your non-feminist girlfriends?

The problem is the economy. Most Nigerian youths are unemployed or underemployed.