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Jamesayo:
Love conquers all. If the love is genuine, I'll advise you marry first, get a place you can both afford with your income. Initiate your career first or she do her own as she'll give birth soon enough. Key here is maturity and focus. Maturity to handle matters, don't look soft because you are setting a new record, the price must be paid. If you chase career alone, you'll marry late. I married early and it has been one of my best decisions...

Thanks so much for this.

PrecisionFx:
Age does not denote maturity.

I never said this is definite, but in men it applies to a very large extent

The older a man gets he slows down, sees things differently, sees his mates all settled down, he starts to think about fatherhood frequently...

While.age won't make a drunkard suddenly seek rehabilitation, but it sure will make shim start to think in that direction as his body starts to tick slower.

For men a minimum of age 30 before marriage , that way you will have less likelihood of wizzkid episodes in your life

thegentleman:
I'm a of dude of about 28 years, I just finished my NYSC program and I secured a job that pays me about 50k, my girlfriend who is about 25 years too just acquired a job that pays her about 60k per month too.

Is it advisable I go for M.Sc. program or just settle down for marriage with my girlfriend and then follow my career later.

We both stay at Ibadan, the city is averagely okay.

What's your take ?

Is it a Federal /State government job?

Acidosis:
Both serve different non-conflicting purposes. I don't get it. How does pursuing your Masters stops you from getting married, and how does marriage stops one from pursuing a Masters degree/Career?
That being said, Master's degree (especially those gotten from Nigerian public universities) don't guarantee a great job. Unless you're working with a government firm where higher degrees are sometimes evaluated for promotion, it might turn out to be a complete waste of resources. Pay rise and promotion in most firms these days are based on performance, not necessarily the number of certificate.

In sum, Master's degree is best acquired when you have a well defined career path, and the purpose should be to enhance and broaden your knowledge as that is the only guaranteed outcome. You're a fresh graduate, still in the age range of 25-27, there is no better time to make your Bachelors work for you than now. An attempt to spend another 2 years in a public school might lead to regrets because by the time you're done, not even a single reasonable company will consider you for a graduate trainee opening.

Thanks so much, I work in a very fast growing Production company and promotion is based on Performance just as u said... I'm a Microbiologist, I was planning to go for Food Science and Tech in my M.Sc., with what u have said... I better go for Professional courses right ?

sexdoll:
28 and you're still looking for people to tell you what to do.... worse still, people you don't even know.

guy, your case is different.

He is just sampling opinion he will still decide what to do

Emytea:
this is the BLACK MAN WITH A BLACK MENTALITY AM TALKING ABOUT,
so you're telling me now that only men above 30 are mature to be a husband material and are u teaching this guys how to go to school and after finishing become a slave to other people company or u are teaching him how to make money but being creative

Bleep BLACK MAN THINKING FACULTY

man i will advise u to to and read a story book namely "RICH DAD POOR DAD

Are you on any medication?

aviationguy:
I will advise you pray to God about this and get his direction for your actions before choosing any of the two.
But based on this don't take any of them with sentiment rather seek for the best things God has planned for you both.
if you have a supportive wife everything you do will be going smoothly but with your current salary scale are you sure you can afford the masters degree for now?if yes seek the direction of the Lord.
And if marriage is on your mind have you done all necessary things first like an accommodation,setting of the apartment,finance for the marriage etc I will advise you seek face of Lord before you go ahead.
I congratulate you on any one the Lord said for you.

Thanks bro.

Olumeme:
Are there no people that earn more than you do?
People are earning less and happily married, don't forget that close to half of the country population live below $1 a day.
A combo of 110k is a fair to start a family.

Thanks

Adefemiaderoju1:
There's no footpath you follow that is not ok meanwhile you can still get married and still pursue your career

Thanks

wunmi590:
On my own little contribution, i would advice that you still hold on with both your marriage and MS.c for now, so that you can make more money.

If you start your MS.c, you will still need money, so don't rush on MS.c now, or else you have somebody who wants to sponsor you, and beside, even with MS.c somebody still has to pray for God's favor to get job.

I had my introduction 1st of this month, and preparing my wedding very soon, and i am earning 6 figures, but i am still not content, because of the high cost of Lagos.

If you can get a better job with a better pay, you can go ahead with your plan, but with that 50k, bros, please be patience.

Please if any position that requires a fresh graduate comes out in your organization, I would appreciate if you consider me

Emytea:
this is the BLACK MAN WITH A BLACK MENTALITY AM TALKING ABOUT,
so you're telling me now that only men above 30 are mature to be a husband material and are u teaching this guys how to go to school and after finishing become a slave to other people company or u are teaching him how to make money but being creative

Bleep BLACK MAN THINKING FACULTY

man i will advise u to to and read a story book namely "RICH DAD POOR DAD

Have heard so much about the book, I will get it and read when next am opportune... thanks bro

Goddyss:
Please if any position that requires a fresh graduate comes out in your organization, I would appreciate if you consider me

Ok

Pipedreams:
No truer words. Experience will teach him. Instead of him to make money. I earn 350k and am scared cis i feel its never enuf

Hope you are saving at least 50%

thegentleman:
I'm a of dude of about 28 years, I just finished my NYSC program and I secured a job that pays me about 50k, my girlfriend who is about 25 years too just acquired a job that pays her about 60k per month too.

Is it advisable I go for M.Sc. program or just settle down for marriage with my girlfriend and then follow my career later.

We both stay at Ibadan, the city is averagely okay.

What's your take ?

Since you live in Ibadan, you should be able to live fine with the two salaries. I will advise that you get married and continue to grow together as a family your children inclusive. One very important thing though is never to be satisfied with the low income you have to try to improve on it because responsibilities will continue to grow and if care is not taken they will swallow your income.

TodyEnts:
Hello Mr.

If you will be candid with yourself and be manly. I will ask you to talk to your wife to be and allow her have a say in your decision. Master's money, certificate is not in anyway equal to your life. Your life starts properly when you start to face challenges that require manly thinking. Master's can't even promise you a better life for your family. You will leave the certificate in 15 years time when you have 5 things to do all at the same time and the salary is not even close to it and you both cant leave your work to attend to the major things in your life.

Don't try to win this argue with your madam ooo. That's my advice to you.

I got your message clearly, I will discuss this with her next time we meet, most likely this weekend.

This a very critical period in a man's life,this is where most young dude missed the mark that lead to everlasting regret.Marriage is the union with the greatest responsibilities on mother earth,by the time you jumped into it,you will start seeing things you didn't bargain for.In marriage,spoons today can become forks tomorrow.
Young dude,your future is of paramount importance above any other thing right now.
Start saving now,for the future and jettison marriage from your mind right now.it can drain you financially,emotionallyphysically and spiritually.

CriticMaestro:
Have u even proposed to the girl? How sure are u she will marry u?

OP, answer this question.





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Gabriel99:
I'll advice you to get married if only you are ready. You can be running your MS.c while you're married. It's called proper planning.
In the other hand if you go for masters, you'll release later, that while the program is running you would have actually started developing a young family and building your career. Kill a bird with two stones. Time waits for no man.
God will direct you in the right steps to take.

Amen. Thank You very much!

Gabriel99:
I'll advice you to get married if only you are ready. You can be running your MS.c while you're married. It's called proper planning.
In the other hand if you go for masters, you'll release later, that while the program is running you would have actually started developing a young family and building your career. Kill a bird with two stones. Time waits for no man.
God will direct you in the right steps to take.

Amen. Thank You very much!0

Hopebringer:
I never said this is definite, but in men it applies to a very large extent

The older a man gets he slows down, sees things differently, sees his mates all settled down, he starts to think about fatherhood frequently...

While.age won't make a drunkard suddenly seek rehabilitation, but it sure will make shim start to think in that direction as his body starts to tick slower.

For men a minimum of age 30 before marriage , that way you will have less likelihood of wizzkid episodes in your life

"" While.age won't make a drunkard suddenly seek rehabilitation, but it sure will make shim start to think in that direction as his body starts to tick slower.""

Have u ever been a drunk?




"" For men a minimum of age 30 before marriage , that way you will have less likelihood of wizzkid episodes in your life ""

Wizkid is just a silly useless boy. Age won't make him less senseless.

akdjr:
I advise you settle down right away! You can acquire skills and forget that shit called masters. Tom Vendetta earn far more than what Master degree holders earn just with his skills and yet he's not a master degree holder. If you are a good observant of the current world jobs now, you will realize that college is loosing its value gradually. A good skill you acquire within 6months can put you on an enviable career position rather than spending 4-6 in uni and still thinking about masters.

That's so true, thanks man, someone here even told me it's better to go for Professional courses and learn some skills in it than go for Masters which will even give one downtime at ones work because of timing... Better to work for a while and start doing my own thing!

PrecisionFx:
"" While.age won't make a drunkard suddenly seek rehabilitation, but it sure will make shim start to think in that direction as his body starts to tick slower.""

Have u ever been a drunk?




"" For men a minimum of age 30 before marriage , that way you will have less likelihood of wizzkid episodes in your life ""

Wizkid is just a silly useless boy. Age won't make him less senseless.

If you are a man think back on every mistake you ever made, trust me you usually made them again and again right ? Now at some point your perspective changed and it was due to age


The older you got your mind matured gained wisdom through repeated experience and self teachings

Age makes men more mature but it's not the same.with women

sandra50:
You can do any other thing you want to do aside settling down now..it's not something you can handle with that income and your wife is going to disrespect you when the time comes.you are just 28..give yourselves 5 years more then you will be 33 so you can save up money and start something good and also have better understanding about marriage.

Thanks for the input.

omoharry:
One of the most brilliant ideas ever from this thread...seriously they still have enough time to plan their lives..so if the woman is mature and understanding in terms of being ready to be a 50/50 partner in the marriage or step in even when oga money nor show on time without making the mans life a living hell..I think they can give it a shot...She might be a good girl he wouln't want to pass him bye

Am in a similar situation, I just secured a FG job. My salary a bit higher than his and i intend settling down. I don't have plans of getting kids in the first 2yrs. Bae is still a student ,she's good. don't know if she's gonna buy my idea

talk2saintify:
Exactly....

That bolded word really got me.

OP, I don't think getting married with a 50k pay and as a new graduate is a wise thing to do, I will suggest you go for a Master Degree or preferably go for professional certifiction in your chosen field, in the next lets say 3-5yrs you will have been grounded in your chosen field, hopingly with a better job and a better pay, and you must have gain more years of experience, physically more mature, then you can think of getting married. I don't think 3-5yrs from now is too long for you to prepare yourself. Let me give you some reasons why I think you should wait for few more yrs.


1. 50k as your monthly earning is too low to settle down with & live an average life.
2. After marriage kids might start coming in, trust me catering for kid(s) is a lot of responsibilities, financially, emotionally, and physically. (this is from experience, I have been married for over 9yrs and my wife and I earn above 300k monthly, but trust me, its still not easy)

3. You need to be sure of you/your partner's emotional, mental and physical maturity, marriage require alot of emotional and mental maturity. (we don't want our society to thrive on fail marriages/homes).
4. 3-5yrs from now you will be more experienced in your chosen career or possibly hold a Masters Degree, hopingly you will also be earning reasonable pay, with the experience you have garner even if you lose your job, you can easily get another job, but right now with a 50k monthly pay and less than 3yrs experience, it might be difficult for you to get another job incase you lose the present job and that will affect your marriage/ life negatively.

Kindly think over all these and more before making your final decision, marriage is a very serious commitment, take alot of time to think over it, it will save you alot of regrets in the future.


You can send me a pm, if you need someone to talk to on this

I wish you luck.

tintingz:
You know what is best for you.

As for me, marriage is not a thing I'm thinking of now, money or good earning is the koko, it boost your personality that girls will be rushing you.

But he has a girl he wants to marry

Adiwana:
Enough time??Going by your assertion,dude should just build a career first cause he still has ENOUGH time before getting a family

Many Nigerians live in a fantasy land.They think life is all about 1+1.Thats why we pray and hope without doing jack shiit.Always hoping everything will be ok.This is Nigeria where 100k cannot even settle bills talk more of starting a family with it.And theres nothing like Time in marriage.We are not Americans who can get married and decide not to have kids.Once you get married,Kids are the next thing.Even if he doesn't want them due to his pockets,pressure from family and soceity must come in.And he must succumb to the pressure.What then happens when the wife starts popping out kids??You will train 2-3kids or even 1 kid with monthly income of 100k??

Op you know why men die before women and our life expetancy is very low in this country??Because when they start making small money,they feel they are ready to marry.By the time responsibilities start bitting them hard,stress and all those headaches will knock you off.peace

Sighs.... thanks

thegentleman:
I'm a of dude of about 28 years, I just finished my NYSC program and I secured a job that pays me about 50k, my girlfriend who is about 25 years too just acquired a job that pays her about 60k per month too.

Is it advisable I go for M.Sc. program or just settle down for marriage with my girlfriend and then follow my career later.

We both stay at Ibadan, the city is averagely okay.

What's your take ?

if you trust her 100% and you know she's not a party feel you better marry her




But if she's a money hungry hoe you better face your life

Hopebringer:
If you are a man think back on every mistake you ever made, trust me you usually made them again and again right ? Now at some point your perspective changed and it was due to age


The older you got your mind matured gained wisdom through repeated experience and self teachings

Age makes men more mature but it's not the same.with women

"" If you are a man think back on every mistake you ever made, trust me you usually made them again and again right ? Now at some point your perspective changed and it was due to age ""

Story.
A silly man will keep making those mistakes for life n won't even regard it as a mistake.


"" The older you got your mind matured gained wisdom through repeated experience and self teachings
""

This is just a generalization n not not fact for men. Some Men want wisdom, Some Men dont. Some Men keep living the same dangerous lifestyle till whichever day it will kill dem. In fact even as their lungs de fail n dem dey for hospital admission bed,dem go still go hospital toilet go smoke.

Men don't get matured @ 30 or at any older age for that matter. Maturity is connected with many factors.

Gabriel99:
I'll advice you to get married if only you are ready. You can be running your MS.c while you're married. It's called proper planning.
In the other hand if you go for masters, you'll release later, that while the program is running you would have actually started developing a young family and building your career. Kill a bird with two stones. Time waits for no man.
God will direct you in the right steps to take.

I tap into this advice. Am really impressed with some advices on this thread. Am same age with OP with a FG job but Bae is a student.

Gabriel99:
I'll advice you to get married if only you are ready. You can be running your MS.c while you're married. It's called proper planning.
In the other hand if you go for masters, you'll release later, that while the program is running you would have actually started developing a young family and building your career. Kill a bird with two stones. Time waits for no man.
God will direct you in the right steps to take.

If God will direct him on the right steps to take, then why are u advising him