WetinConsignMe:
Another confused soul

Tollzara:
Is that your name?

WetinConsignMe:

Ok, good effort. Just felt like saying something saucy

Tollzara:
Okay. Sorry for being too serious.

MariaLavina:
Lemme park here .



I'm coming

highqueen:

Only you get two parking spaces.

MariaLavina:
Don't mind me, na my engine dey hip coup

highqueen:
Loool. Thought as much.

Did you know that in America and Britain, if a woman rapes you and gets pregnant afterwards, you'll be forced to pay child support to your rapist? It is an obligation on your part, you see. You have no say in the matter. It doesn't matter that you never consented to the sex that has made you a father by providential accident. Heck, there have been cases where even underage boys are made to pay child support to their rapists.

MariaLavina:

Let's go before we derail this thread

highqueen:
You know, if i had wanted to derail it, it won't take me anything.
Make i deh observe sha.

MariaLavina:
I know you nah

I will mention you on a thread worth derailing soon

MariaLavina:
Lemme park here .



I'm coming

EsteemHook:
This is very disturbing. But I'd like you to give instances or reasons for this assertion.

Thanks.

Offpoint:

CAPSLOCKED:
NICE POST, ZARA.
I'M JUST GONNA WAIT FOR THE REST TO TYPE CUS YOU KNOW, BETWEEN ME AND YOU, THERE'S VERY LITTLE OR NOTHING WE CAN DO ABOUT THIS SUBJECT.
IT'S AN ADVANTAGE FOR WOMEN AND IT LOOKS LIKE IT'LL ALWAYS BE.

GrammarNazi1:
You're coming?

MariaLavina:
You Perv!



How have you been?

GrammarNazi1:
You know I'm no pervert.
Fine.

Tollzara:
You and your sweetheart are derailing my thread, sir.

MissWrite:
Nice article.

Of course, we should be outraged when men are raped by women. The dirty thing about rape is not necessarily the physical assault, but the fact that one is dehumanized by stripping them of the right to their own bodies. Even if it takes only a few minutes, it can wreck a person’s self-esteem beyond repair. And both men and women are capable of feeling this abuse equally. So, when men are raped by women, it should never seen as a less serious crime.

Unfortunately (for men; or for humanity), women have a head start in being taken seriously for a series unfortunate reason. A victim is identified by damages; and long before we took even the woman’s emotional and psychological damages into account, the damage as a result of rape was “the ruin” of a woman. That’s a damage defined by patriarchal values (stipulating that a woman should be pure). A man would never be ruined. He is instead, the ‘ruiner’. And that is his position of strength: that he can engage in the same act (with a woman) and not be stained by it. Would the woman ever be the offender?

Since offense is to be taken, I doubt it.

Men don’t want to be seen as victims. That’s why they would not recognize the scenario you painted on that thread. To accept that a woman has the power to shatter a man’s integrity in any way (to take something that isn’t given, and thereby reduce his self-worth) would be daunting; some men would rather live the lie and pretend that it does not matter. And if they believe that it doesn’t matter (since, in a patriarchal culture, a man’s opinion is all that ultimately counts) it really won’t matter. Women can’t pretend that they have not been shattered by rape; the repercussions for the ‘ruined woman’ were not decided by women. Because of this, women are way more likely than men are to embrace their other traumas (psychological and emotional; which are regardless real) in order to own the indignation (rather than let it be derived). Men might refuse to focus on the fact that they have been violated; and therefore, they would suffer no indignation. This does not apply to children. They have a less robust psyche that denial won’t cure. Because even though they are boys, they accept their vulnerability to adults in general.

For some men, giving into the fact that they can be raped by women would be synonymous to relinquishing power – the claim to indestructibility. So while they may joke about it when women try to get steeper punishment for rapists, they don’t want to be lumped in a category of equal vulnerability. I foresee the House of Men to be divided on this issue for a while longer.

Where proof is concerned, the physical evidence will always be less than solid. For both sexes really. Because we assume that a woman is never aroused when raped and always aroused when she says “yes”. And that is not always the case. Evidence of violence on other parts of the body is usually a dead giveaway; so are traces of rohypnol or even certain levels of alcohol. With such fragile markers, rape is best reported as soon as possible. And, yes; men who become fathers through rape should not be forced to pay child support. They should be given the opportunity to decide whether or not to keep the pregnancy. And if they decide not to, they should relinquish all paternal rights. If they do accept the pregnancy, the act should not mitigate the punishment of the rapist.

Tollzara:
Always be like that? Never, bro. It must be fought against. What kind of evil and tyranny is that? You raped me and went ahead and give birth to a baby without my consent? And you want to impose it on me? And the useless state is backing you? What a worthless legal system. Crazy Laws. Stupid, in fact.

If a lady rapes me and gets pregnant, she must abort it regardless of her will or Interest. I don't care about her rights to her body or whatever. Abortion is compulsory. I don't want to have a child when I'm not ready or didn't plan for it, and I don't want to have a child with my DNA somewhere out there, without me looking out for it.

The only way I can accept it is if she has already given birth to the child. In which case I will have no choice, not because she is not an evil witch, but because I don't have the mind to reject my own child. I can't live with it. It's not possible.

This is ridiculous rubbish that can fück with a man's psyche, and I find it very offensive. Beats me how people can take it for granted. Are American men moröns?