Jiang:


Oga you have no interest in marriage, set the girl free, I can't date for 12 months if i have no interest in marriage, but I applaud ur attitude on the sex approach, that is cool

Bro i love ur comment just that u didn't tell d guy to drop her number for guys that are ready to marry yhis yeal. Labozz pls drop d babe number here

Jamariwolff:
Arrant nonsense!

I don't know why you guys think ladies are fools.
You've been fûcking here like constant K for the past 1 year, what is holding u from proposing?
Or you're waiting till u enlarge the whole area abi?!

My own is 3 months max, if you ain't talking marriage then bye boy!
I won't even allow you fûck me much in these 3 months.

hahahaha, u go marry urself with all these shakara


and u didn't see when the op later said he hasn't had sex

LaBozz:


That is what I have been preaching for the past 2 months now. She is giving me deadline till December and I hope to call it quit before then since she isn't listening to me anymore.

if u ain't ready, don't let her rush you into it. This her "many guys are asking me to marry them" talk makes me wonder if she really loves you or she just wants the "Mrs" title... Let her go... Let it not seem like you are "hindering" her dreams. Glad you're part of the "team no sex till marriage" crew... At least she won't say "you used and dumped" her when u've had you fill... Wish you the very best brov.

milemimi93:


He is not just a 'He' but a gay..

He saw one of my comments i made that I that i am done with women.. The idiot and is fellow idiot on this forum sent me pm. At first they started off like they are good pals little did i know that they are gays.. This Jamariwolff be sending me gay nudes making advances. I turned him down hence his bitterness.


A lot of dude on this forum are gays..

Ive encountered three..

To be honest sir, you don't love her enough to marry her. If you do, you'd at least get her engaged and set a time. It could be 2 years from now, that's enough time to save up.

LivingFree:
Thread derailed, and the promised land disappears

milemimi93:
Jamariwolff don't let me create a thread about you.. You won't like it..

Keep your dirty gay self outta my mentions..


Ass fvcker

create jare

WOW, it's good to be here. like seriously I've learnt a lot while reading comments. I was thinking about something like this too. but somehow I've been able to reach a conclusion.

milemimi93:


He is not just a 'He' but a gay..

He saw one of my comments i made that I that i am done with women.. The idiot and is fellow idiot on this forum sent me pm. At first they started off like they are good pals little did i know that they are gays.. This Jamariwolff be sending me gay nudes making advances. I turned him down hence his bitterness.


A lot of dude on this forum are gays..

Ive encountered three..

tell me something

Guy let ur source of income solid enough before u get married o actually there's blessing in marriage but heaven help those who help themselves.. my own gf even chop belle for me when I refused to dance to her tone...but we saw hell bcoz my source of income was weak and I even loss my job imagine..follow ur mind o.

Jamariwolff:

Bruhahaha what a good laugh.

This is 2018 dude, evidence speak louder than claims.
I sent you nudes? Then post some screenshots as evidence nigga.

Yeah, they're lotta gays on this forum and you're def one of them, faqqot.
I can smell your deceit from the screen of my phone.

yes yes yes

obviously u are not yet ready! plus the girl is having a toaster she is secretly considering but that she loves u is the only reason she is forewarning you.
cozz if she was into you alone, she will spend her time helping you grow instead of pushing u into what you both cannot sustain financially....
take it or leave it.

Jamariwolff:
like for real this time?
You sure you won't have those homosexual desires in a minute time and start pouring your frustration on me?

I didn't make you gay, man.
Go argue with your bipolar bitch of a mother.
Her dysfunctional pûssy made you a faq.

pocohantas:
The only thing I see wrong here is her excessive desperation to get married. That is a very wrong reason to start off with.

1yr isn't too short to define where a relationship is headed. Truth is, OP doesn't want to marry that girl. When a man meets the woman he wants to settle down with, he knows and she will know too. He doesn't need years to figure this out.

The lady knows OP doesn't want to, so she is trying to use emotional blackmail. Don't fall for that. You guys can part ways. If she is so desperate to marry, a young guy like you shouldn't be her target. Because few years from now, you people will likely breakup and you come online to talk about evening newspapers.

So u can give good advice like this...??

I feel most comments here are from guys and we are not seeing it from her ( a young lady's) perspective. We would all agree that these days, many guys are only out to waste a girl's time which they don't have, psychologically.
She may not be convinced that you would end up marrying her after so much wait, and for her to be willing to settle down at her age is commendable, her contemporaries would rather be jumping from a relationship to another.
About finances, it's very important to be financially sustainable before marriage, however money or wealth is not determined by being single or married - you can be married and still hustle. Plan your family- you can marry and have kids later, after all that's your fear - that you are not ready to bring up kids, but you want to have the sex without commitment- " after all girls full town".
On her approach, I think she didn't address the matter well, especially with the threats of other guys asking her for marriage but her goal of marrying at a certain age is intact for her reasons.
Finally, if you really love her, talk with her, and give her assurance, a timeline. You cannot make all your money before you get married and you may still lose all your money after marriage, otherwise let her go.
The only requirement for marriage is, the right partner, a mutual plan for the future and commitment. My opinion.

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daben1:
at 24, I bet you this girl is not psychologically, mentally and emotionally fit for marriage, one if these girls that you'll marry and in the middle of the night they'll start crying, when you ask them what happened? they'll tell you nothing and in the morning they'll start crying again that when she's was crying in the night, you didn't pet her, you continued sleeping...

hahahahaha, hohohohohohoho, baddest

bibicici:
To be honest sir, you don't love her enough to marry her. If you do, you'd at least get her engaged and set a time. It could be 2 years from now, that's enough time to save up.

You are talking of love, is she behaving like someone that loves the man either..??
You don't threaten a man just so that he can do what u want.. and then say if he didn't do it means he doesn't love u...what kind of wayo love is that?...this kinda lady will use sex, and other bargaining means even in marriage to make the man do things he won't do...or haven't u heard of ladies say stuff like " chose between me and your mother, or your brother, family etc....is marriage by December a life /death situation for her.?
That's not how to cajole marriage out of a man....there are better and loving ways to do it..

Oga,

People set life targets for themselves, and this is one of hers. She wants marriage and you cannot delay her.

You are a business man, and making reasonable income while she's also working with reasonable income.
The only way I would have advised you otherwise is if you found something bad about her.

If you are clinically compatible, please start marriage preparations, it may take you one year but you will be glad you did.

If you aren't ready, free her.

I love her sincerity,

UncleNnamdi:
Mr Man. There's nothing to discuss about.

She's ready and want to get married as a woman she is, that's her major priority and goal in that relationship for now, and I believe you have yours aswell.

Path ways if you aren't ready to marry her yet so that she'll settle down with someone else, while you get busy with your hustling priority until you are ready to settle down.

-Don't delay her and end up not marrying her.
-Also, don't let her drag and emotionally blackmail you into what you are not ready for.

It's a simple stuff. No time for Yama Yama.

Izza zimple azzat

LaBozz:


Make she follow go Malaysia naaa... As I be small African boy. But then again she knows am the type that can't be oppressed. Am not rich neither am I a show guy, but if Malaysia big boys pop 20 Hennessey, I go fit pop with legit money. If Malaysia big boy buy am Brazilian hair 500k, I go fit buy 20k and e go fine pass the 500k lol

I like this!

lefulefu:

deadline?
hmm its like one malaysian big boy is already proposing to her and she"s already giving u one last chance

LOL

LaBozz:
I have been dating this girl for almost a year now and things have been going smooth with us until recently. I just don't know were the desperation for marriage came from. Now we barely have a normal conversation without the marriage issue coming up.

Though I don't have a steady job per say, I am a business man and am able to make myself a good some of money every week which isn't so bad. She is also working and makes around 60k every month. I have been telling her to relax a little bit so we can plan properly and get ourselves ready for the life time journey together, but she won't listen.

Her own is that in her place once a girl has graduated from school everyone is expecting her to get married. She will even bring up issues of the young girls getting married in her church and she is the only single were she works even though she is actually the youngest in her office.

She is just 24 years of age and almost 25 so she keeps saying she set a deadline for herself to get married before 25. The worse part is that sometimes she tries to threaten me that so many guys are asking for her hand in marriage but she doesn't want them, its me she wants.

This whole desperation is getting on my nerve and I really don't want to rush into marriage because her people want her to get married. So am thinking of calling the relationship off so that she can go and marry one of those men she said is asking her hand in marriage and I will wish her all the best.

Just so you know, am not trying to be tribalistic here, she is Yoruba and said that's how things are done in their culture so I don't know if that's true or she is just making all that up.

It's not so it's done in Yoruba
It may be the pressure she's having from home or the fear of you telling her it's over etc.

You just need to sit her down and talk
And if she's still insisting I think it would be better for you to let her go.

Marriage is like a woman who is planning to carry pregnancy

She must have considered somany things before embarking on the journey and hope to get to a successful delivery

She is ready for marriage but you are not yet

Don't let her rush you into what you are not fully prepared for

Marriage is the only school that the certificate(marriage certificate) will be giving to you before commencing lectures

If you are not really really ready for marriage, you might rush out or get depressed

Her tribe shouldn't be an issue if you love her

From the look of things she is going into marriage because her friends are there, even she doesn't have idea of what marriage is

She is very young to seek else where if she thinks it's an easy journey

I will advice you seat her down, tell her that you love her but you are not really prepared for marriage now

Be specific that it will take you another 5yrs or more to talk and plan marriage

And you would not want to hold her down incase she finds a suitor.

She might be unhappy with this but is the best approach

Women are wise and smartter when it comes to issues of marriage because its their domain

Sir

you're making enough money weekly; You're comfortable

she's earning 60k enough to make y'all comfy

y'all are young and still there's prospect lurking


so wetin u dey wait for?? millions?? lol...you go wait tire. Go find out marriages that last, how they started, you'll find out that they started with little or nothing and they stand the test of time. Oya read the story of Olu and Joke Silva. Now the ones that waited for money hitherto married late or they end in divorce.

there's nothing in ur story except ure not ready to marry, then free her and find someone who isn't ready.

LaBozz:
I have been dating this girl for almost a year now and things have been going smooth with us until recently. I just don't know were the desperation for marriage came from. Now we barely have a normal conversation without the marriage issue coming up.

Though I don't have a steady job per say, I am a business man and am able to make myself a good some of money every week which isn't so bad. She is also working and makes around 60k every month. I have been telling her to relax a little bit so we can plan properly and get ourselves ready for the life time journey together, but she won't listen.

Her own is that in her place once a girl has graduated from school everyone is expecting her to get married. She will even bring up issues of the young girls getting married in her church and she is the only single were she works even though she is actually the youngest in her office.

She is just 24 years of age and almost 25 so she keeps saying she set a deadline for herself to get married before 25. The worse part is that sometimes she tries to threaten me that so many guys are asking for her hand in marriage but she doesn't want them, its me she wants.

This whole desperation is getting on my nerve and I really don't want to rush into marriage because her people want her to get married. So am thinking of calling the relationship off so that she can go and marry one of those men she said is asking her hand in marriage and I will wish her all the best.

Just so you know, am not trying to be tribalistic here, she is Yoruba and said that's how things are done in their culture so I don't know if that's true or she is just making all that up.

oga go for ur size that can wait.. 18 ish

me sef that is 5 years older than u cant date 25 now. cos i am not ready

Jamariwolff:
Arrant nonsense!

I don't know why you guys think ladies are fools.
You've been fûcking here like constant K for the past 1 year, what is holding u from proposing?
Or you're waiting till u enlarge the whole area abi?!

My own is 3 months max, if you ain't talking marriage then bye boy!
I won't even allow you fûck me much in these 3 months.

Everything fûck fûck fûck... Did u read when the OP said they have never fûcked b4? You girls always based everything on fûcking...
Okay now as OP no dey fûck her for the one year nkor where u want pass argue the matter now!

LaBozz:


Make she follow go Malaysia naaa... As I be small African boy. But then again she knows am the type that can't be oppressed. Am not rich neither am I a show guy, but if Malaysia big boys pop 20 Hennessey, I go fit pop with legit money. If Malaysia big boy buy am Brazilian hair 500k, I go fit buy 20k and e go fine pass the 500k lol

Then break up with her naw.
You no want, other people want, let her go please.
Tell am say you no do again, simple sturvs!

I experienced something similar years back. She was 23 and wanted to settle down while i needed 3 years to run a program to make our standard of living better than what she was seeing. I told her to wait that she was still young but she refused and broke up with me and got married to a guy in a space of 7 month. Now We do chat ones in while but she as not for ones chat with me without saying she wished she was still single. While attending to some of my client in the lab, her mother brought one of their family member to the lab for diagnosis. Her mother was shocked to see me there because i was working outside the region before being transfered down. We exchanged greetings, she ended up saying i've been unfair that i could have been coming to their place ones in a while just to say hello. In a nut shell, my ex is now 27 married with a son (3 years) and am also married with a son (3 month+). You know whats best for you and your happiness is in your own hands, so make the choice you would always be happy you made.

I am passing thru this same shit....abi na me even post am?? Op what is the girls name ...dm me make e no be wetin i dey think...
Siggy on point

1StopRudeness:


Sense will not kill you jare..
.that's how this babe wanted to push another man's bele on me last year.she just came out with this march deadline saying she wants to marry on her next birthday..
.my mind was like mayb she's ogbanje. Which one is deadline.....I decided to wait it out only for her to come and tell me she was pregnant around end of february....holup holup iholup holup!!!!!!!..I'm not understanding.
.what saved me was the 3months fasting an prayer in church..we had sex a couple of time in 2016..but sex at all in December in fact from the last few weeks of November cos I travelled.and January, the start of the year fasting started.. she tried to use family blackmail, went to my folks...only for belle to start showing the subsequent weeks...long story short she just vanish like smoke....na me and God now oo...I don born again sharp sharp..

lol..born twice for real..joke apart it is ridiculous, how would she cope with such li knowing the child isn't yours hmmm woman devil na real oo..My born twice bae